Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

Thanks bump that's very encouraging.
Unfortunately I'm going on an overseas conference for a week about a week after my erpc. Will probably miss ovulation whether its early or "normal" so a bit pissed off about that. Oh well nice to know there could be hope if we can manage to dtd before I go.

I never used to be so obsessed about getting knocked up before this happened. Anyone else out there also feel like they've had a personality transplant?

Hi everyone, I've been lurking and nervous to comment. In denial a bit I think. I had an early mc in January and I'm trying not to get obsessed about TTC again and failing miserably!

Just found out that my 20 year old, unemplyed, still living at home cousin accidentally got pregnant, wat wud hav been about the same time as me. Whereas I lost my much loved baby my lil cousin's baby is absolutely fine! Sorry I'm starting to sound a bit bitter, she's a lovely girl really and will make a great mum, and now she has got her head round it she is excited!

Anyway I see I am in good company with hopeful TTC-ers and slightly nervous bfp-ers. Hope we can all keep each other sane!

Hey sunshine, hope you're doing ok, and rant away, we've all got that sad thing in common so know exactly where you're coming from x

Depressing rant alert...

I've had quite a strange day beginning with crying in the shower and feeling a bit blue. Today is a friends due date, she was 6 weeks ahead of me so it's made me realise that I would've been due soon. It's not something I ever marked in the calendar so I was quite shocked at how upset I felt. Also with every other person on Facebook posting Mother's Day pics with their little babies, made me feel so jealous and sad :( also not feeling very pregnant and worried that AF is on her way (I always get shivery when it's due and I've been shivery all day). Ra ra ra ra raaaaant over.

aly good luck tomorrow xx

Hey Janie my poas partner - I don't feel pregnant either (well obviously apart from all the symptoms crazy made up 'feelings' that I don't think it would even be physically possible to have!). If its any consolation I had none at all with my DC.

Oh and randomly on the alcohol front I went on a hen wkd at 6 wks with my DC (before I knew - please don't call the social) and it had no ill effects ;o)

Hey sunshine I know exactly where your coming from, I've had two healthy children prior to mc however I've convinced myself that it'll be a real struggle to concieve again....crazy right?

My sister (who was adopted by my mother) had a baby 6 months ago...she drank, smoked and took drugs throughout her pregnancy! She chose to inform me of this the day I found out I had mc, apparently get intention was to make me realise that there is no rhyme or reason, my intention was to reach into the phone and rip her head off!!!

He has since had her child taken off her by social services (and rightly so) she was given a opportunity to get him back via attending contact, taking courses, etc. she failed to do this, went AWOL and has now lost any hope of being reunited with her son

Obviously the family are furious! None more so than me! I would crawl through broken glass to have the opportunity to see my lost child and my sister would rather party!

My 50 year old mother now is in the position of cutting off my sister and adopting her son

This is a crazy world and there are so many injustices is untrue, I swear I should be a guest on Jeremy kyle hahaaa if my life was a novel you would swear it was fiction...

Posifrickintivity will get us through!
As Chandler from friends once said "she's already a mother....she's just waiting for a baby"

So all you mums ...wether you be hopeful, awaiting, ttc again, or just adding to your brood I hope you had a lovely mothers day zxxx

I need a dose of posifrickintivity today. The big back cloud is back. However far I get from it, it always catches up.

Morning all and welcome sunshine. Sorry your feeling down today saggy. I'm feeling a bit pants too. Was due to test today but am not sure to even bother. At cycle 6 since last mc am loosing hope. Had son AF symptoms too. No where's my share of 'positivinfrigity' gone. Can someone throw me some! Anyways I know I ovulated later this month but seem to have lutual phase of around 11 days which is today. I had a bfn last week. Sorry for the me me me post. Am loosing the plot. Anyone else testing this morning? I'm a bit afraid to waste the test then wipe and find I'm bleeding!

Hey all - Janie you are not alone, I'm having the same feelings as you today already a bit crampy so reckon AF will get me long before Friday. Arse

I've really been trying not to symptom spot not very hard and have been a bit gaggy but that could be jetlag. I didn't think this month would be it anyways as only managed to pin hubby down and have my way once the day before ovulation. Actually, does anyone know if AF is usually delayed if your ov is late? Mine is usually spot on CD14, however chose to be a bitch this month and worry me until CD16? So does that mean that AF which is due tomoz might actually be a few days late? I thought it was adjusted to 14 days after ov however have jetlag brain so could be making that up.... if it is going to be late and I have to wait longer that will just about take the biscuit!!

Hi sun - you are in good company as the others will say, these girls are lovely

Aly know EXACTLY what you mean! I wish I could just know whether or not I'll actually get pregnant - then I can either wait for it or move on from the fact that I won't. It's the endless anticaption and bloody long time in between 2ww that is doing my head in! I'm even dreaming about it now!

Fod bless you, you really are having a shit time Has there been any more news re your brother? That really hit home with me as I have a younger brother the same age and when I go visit the UK next have already decided to have words with him about checking - I'm sure he would do exactly the same as your brother did. I really, really wish him and you all the very best xxx

Posted the same time as you lucky - I thought about testing today too but decided that I couldn't deal with the completely stark 1 line 'not preg' today on the FR test!!

:( bfn :(

Aww hugs lucky

Sorry for everyone feeling this morning - not a great way to start the week. Hugs esp for lucky - don't loose (or is it lose? I always get confused) hope.

For those dispairing of ever getting pg again, is there a project or event you can throw yourself into with gusto so that you can obsess focus on that instead? I signed up to do a marathon this summer (argh!) after MC1 and it really helped (plus I've lost four stone) - just trying to get myself back into the groove after MC2 now, because I know its better to put my energy into something that will happen, rather than something that might (or might not).

Having said all that, I still get thrown by days where I get irrationally and and particularly if there is someone announcing some "happy news". I know I'm feeling really bad if I'm not even happy for them, just fucked off that they and their (usually) incompetant partner have managed to get knocked up despite not actually trying to. But then I know it will pass, and as lucky said in a previous post, remember that there are not a finite number of women who can be pg at anyone time, neither is your frenemy having your baby. (Still sucks though).

I'm feeling some posifrickitivity today ladies - anyone want some??

Just had a call from EPAU. hCG levels below 5. Well Id figured that anyway! She did say however that next PG they want to see me early, so thats good. Ill get reassurance early on that its not ectopic. Which is definitely a BIG concern.
All we have to do now is get PG.
Ill take a dose of Posifrickintivity thanks WillSanta. Im trying, but a boost would be good...

Oh saggy that's fab! I'm sure you're relieved, and nice one about being monitored next time, that'll certainly out your mind at ease :)

And Santa if you've any posifrickintivity left then I'll take a dose please! Xx

I'd like some posifrickentivity too please. Just can't get my head round the idea that everything will be okay this time. Which is why I will be staying here for the foreseeable if you ladies don't mind. Moving on is just not possible until I get some sort of sign that things are going better than the last 2 times. :(

Yup. Closure.
All I need now is to get a fucking grip and get on with it.

Lucky fx you just tested too early

Booty are you holding out til Friday with garden and me?

[posifrickintivity emoticon]. There you go ladies. We can do this. Every pg is a new one. Every cycle is a new one in which our chance of conceiving is as good as the previous one. Just because we have had one or more disasters with our reproductive system it does NOT mean we're going to have more. (The statistics are pretty good even if you've had two).

We all know that its going to be really really hard and that we'll all have dark days, but having been through what we've been through, we are clearly made of stronger stuff than the rest of the population.

DTD last night and pretty sure I've got (TMI alert) the EWCM today, so I'm being pretty fricken positive that right now one of DH's little swimmers is squirming his/her way in and the chemical reaction that we need is taking place.

Oh, and saggy - excellent news. Here's a [grip] to help you on your way. (I mean that in the nicest possible way. First grip I've ever given out on MN, but you did ask for it [helpful emoticon])

Santa I am impressed. I have been feeling miserable all day, and your motivational speech just made me smile. Thank you.

Ill take that grip thanks. Ihaving serious trouble finding one of my own right now.

Hi all, am new to this thread. Had an ERPC 2 weeks ago, still bleeding a little. Have been on my emotional rollercoaster but last 3 days have felt strangely positive & am looking toward the future. The nurse after me ERPC told me to wait until I had 2 AF's before TTC but I've read studies that show getting pregnant straight away does not cause harm to a baby. What does everyone think? Wait or go for it?!!

Right girls...I am currently dancing around the room sprinkling posifrickintivity everywhere!.... It's all over my phone so reach out and grab

Boo he has been the hospital today and has been prescribed iron, steroids and chemo he has another appointment on thurs but I will keep you updated, it was his birthday on Saturday so I book us all a meal (unfortunately his partner and daughter didn't attend she is in a very dark place at the moment and shr has post natal depression too)
He seemed very upbeat until my fiancé received a MSG from him asking him to look after his partner and daughter once the inevitable happened

Right! Posifrickintivity....I have stopped bleeding but I am getting some brownish discharge....gross I knowwww....is it anything to worry about???
If not guess who's in the frickin Friday club!!!! Whooooopooooooooooooo babies here I come!!!!!

icklem Sorry to hear about your loss, it's such a rollercoaster! Be kind to yourself, it can take a while for all the raging hormones to settle.
As far as I know, you can start ttc again as soon as the bleeding stops after the mc, and you feel up for it. The only reason they usually say to wait for one cycle (that's what they told me) is that it will make dating easier, should you get pregnant. No idea why the nurse told you to wait for 2 AFs (Unless there are any other medical reasons, of course). Have you done a pg test yet? I got a BFN about 10 days after my EPRC.