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Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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Thundercatsarego · 06/02/2013 21:32

I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

OP posts:
JanieLovesCake · 28/02/2013 09:43

hey girls, been a bit awol recently, been mega busy job searching / applying etc. been dtd everyday, DH is getting a bit bored of it! i get the impression it's becoming a bit of a chore for him! lots of ewcm yesterday so not sure if tonight should be the last chance? help?! i'm guessing poas should be 14/15 march.

baking i also have everything crossed for you. not sure what i can say that hasn't been said already, just take it easy. if it's any consolation, my mum had a mini period every month with each of her pregnancies and me and my bro are big lumps now :)

fod i'm thinking about you this morning. i had a d&c and i'm glad i went down that route. everyone at the hospital was so lovely and caring, unfortunately it's an extremely routine operation so the risks are miniscule. i remember waking up after it and just the tears rolled down my cheeks, getting a bit weepy thinking of it, but it was a new start from that day forth. xx

and spanish woohoo!! congrats!! fx everything goes smoothly! (sorry i'm a bit late with the congrats!)

hi thunder shell pink jmf flower diy camo ark and all the other ladies - sorry on phone and memory is rubbish this morning! xx

SpanishLady · 28/02/2013 09:44

A quick thank you to kind posts since I last thanked the ladies on here. Booty - I second the call for bfps!

Fod - I am so very sorry and hope you are really well looked after today and your recovery is very quick. Am thinking of you.

Mummytotheark - you are not a bad friend you put her first and gave her the support and congrats she deserves - I think your reaction is entirely understandable and I think few of us would in a private moment not weep just because of your own sorrow - it takes nothing away from your friend.

Camomile - I think throwing yourself into something does help - does the lady sitting next to you know about your situation in which case I would be very distressed to - but now having had a MC I dont think I wil ever complain about morning sickness or getting big again- those days of innocence are sadly gone.

Chocolate - thats sucks hope you feel better soon - my son is ill at the moment and its a bit miserable poor soul

Baking - I have everything I own crossed in hope that this is just the ok spotting some women get - I want to say please stay calm & positive but that is nonsense isnt it - you will feel as you feel but hope the replies of support here help a little.

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 10:15

Setbacks here! Sad I've just been scanned at EPAU, and they think they can see traces of an ectopic on my ovary. HCG levels has stalled at 140, and I've got to come back to be scanned again in a week. They aren't going to do anything, just wait. I'm so sick of this. I've had enough and I just want it over! I have never been so desperate to see AF in my life! Sad

shellshock7 · 28/02/2013 10:58

In phone so only a mini post, will catch up with everyone proper later...but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you tins I know exactly how you must be feeling and no amt of it can be totally normal will reassure you BUT distract yourself, do something fun tonight and hope for the best, I am hoping for you Smile

fod I wish I had gone your route rather than natural, I'm sure you will be fine, best of luck x

SpanishLady · 28/02/2013 11:29

saggy - what reason did they give for the week long wait?! it seems odd they wont do anything surely = is the expectation that in the week it might resolve itself?

sorry for all the questions but I can just imagine how upsetting this must be and hope you are getting proper support from the hospital

WillSantaComeAgain · 28/02/2013 12:07

Hello everyone,

baking - sorry to hear about the spotting, that's a massive worry for you. M&s there really no way of getting to the EPU next week so you can at least put your mind at rest one way or t'other?

Hello Alyant - sorry you're here but welcome anyway. They're a lovely bunch here. I too had an ERPC - only last week but it was my second as i also had the same experience as you in the summer. It's shit in every way, isn't it.

fod I hope you're not still too worried about the ERPC. I'm sure the risks are very very low as its it's such a routine operation (sadly). As operations go, it's virtually painless (the evil anithestist was the worst bit for me) and physically I've recovered really quickly after both.

Sorry I've been really quiet though you probably didn't notice - I've been (and still am) in a really dark place at the mo and didn't want to drag you all down. Xx

WillSantaComeAgain · 28/02/2013 12:09

Oh no, saggy just seen your post- sorry, that's horrific. Big hugs.

Bakingtins · 28/02/2013 12:12

Thanks everyone. I did phone EPU hoping they'd let me self refer since I'm a frequent flyer and already on their system, but no, I need another GP referral. They don't open at the weekend and I couldn't get there until DH is back as I have school run to do. If you are not on the doorstep when they open then forget it. It won't change anything anyway, either it's ok or it's not. Will get a scan one way or the other next week unless it's obviously all over because I don't want to struggle on and find at 12 weeks its a MMC.

Saggy that sucks. I'm not sure what 'traces of an ectopic' actually means, but being left in limbo is rubbish. Did they say what your options are if there is no change in a week?

shellshock7 · 28/02/2013 13:24

Welcome aly sorry you find yourself here and good luck TTC Smile

All those feeling ill, hope you get better soon...I'm sure a BFP would improve things Grin

booty well done for fitting in DTD, good luck!

saggy that sounds awful, being left in limbo...no advice sorry, but hope it gets resolves soon.

Hope you're ok santa, feel free to share on here, no need to stay away unless you just want to be left alone for a while.

tins that really sucks, all we can all do is keep thinking positive and hoping for the best Smile

chocolate my symptom spotting is ridiculous...I felt faint before and I fainted lots last PG (had low BP) so have taken that as a sure signit went away after I ate that I am defo PG!

thunder POAS a week today, can't wait...when are you due to start?

SpanishLady · 28/02/2013 14:02

aly - I could of course be wrong but I wouldnt have thought you would ovulate if you still test positive for pregnancy as surely your body thinks you are still pregnant so woudlnt release an egg?

I am in no position to counsel anyone to wait until after their first AF to start ttc but I would say getting a BFN and then looking to chart or do OPK testing or just dtd would give you some comfort that a new BFP is a new pregnancy.

that said this is precisely my situation and I am not 100% sure tbh and wont be until a medical professional or a scan proves it to me!

Bootyboo · 28/02/2013 14:56

Oh Saggy I'm so sorry to hear that & that you have to wait to find out what's going on Sad What a shite week some of the ladies are having on here - here's hoping it gets better

I really hope you feel better soon too Santa please don't feel that you will drag us down, I'm only a newbie here but it does feel as though you can share both the good & the bad bits on this thread Smile

Janie & Choccremeeggs I think we all roughly the same timing - around or just after ovulation?

JanieLovesCake · 28/02/2013 15:08

Hey booty yes, I ran out of cb opks before I got a smiley ffs, bloody waste of 20 quid! But Internet cheapies say Ov around now and I had ewcm yesterday. Had plenty lovin, everyday for the last week so fx!! Still not sure if I should dtd tonight?

SpanishLady · 28/02/2013 15:32

yes Janie - tonight and maybe even tomorrow to give best chance! I have always thought dtd BEFORE Ov was the best way to go as nice spermies waiting for the egg - still think that is true but this time round I am 99% sure I had already ovulated so still worth I think dtd at least day of and day after OV!

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 15:47

Traces is just that. I've definitely miscarried, it's just lingering I suppose. HCG is only 140 so it's mostly gone, just got to wait it out. I think miscarrying an ectopic was probably a very lucky escape, but I just want it over now. I've just come round from a general for an unrelated minor surgery and my defences are down. Sobbing to myself and the nurses keep asking I need pain relief! Confused

GardenWorm · 28/02/2013 16:10

Oh Saggy what a load of doggy do. I think generals make you feel a bit emotional too so I am hoping that things will soon seem a bit more positive for you. Big hug x

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 16:17

I just want it to go away now. Sad

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 16:54

Had to explain why the routine pg test they do pre surgery might well say positive, but... Sad

Bootyboo · 28/02/2013 17:01

Sad huge hugs Saggy that really is horrible Sad try to stay strong & look after yourself xxx

alyant79 · 28/02/2013 17:17

Oh dear Saggy... nothing to say that could make you feel any better I suppose. big virtual hugs.

spanish - that's a good point. but maybe if the hcg levels are going down rapidly ovulation might happen anyway? And spotting is very very very slight. Think I'm going to tell dh that it's stopped completely ;)
I've never tested for Ov before, and I dont' want to start now - I'd rather leave something to chance I think. Don't want to get performance anxiety!

I've never been so nervous about potentially getting pregnant before. Or nervous about not getting pg. or staying pg

fod27 · 28/02/2013 17:31

Well that was horrific! They told me at the EPU that it's simply a vaccuum process....surgeon walks in a hour before I was meant to go down a d I asked about the procedure - she told me that the do scrape! I got really upset and told her that that wasn't what I was told and I didn't want to put my body in a worse position that could cause recurrent miscarriages, she was so blunt it was horrible!

The nurse went over the risks of infection if it was left etc etc, so silly me signed the consent form, the had to get my fiancé as I was hysterical then upon coming round I was told that I had lost 700ml of blood! So again I asked was there complications? Has she perforated my uterus?! No way my reply, however after being back on the ward for ten minutes blood started gushing from me! It was awful, I turned to the nurse and doctor and said "this isn't normal is it? There is so egging very wrong" their reply? "yea this isn't normal" I actually though I was going to die!

I've been put on a drip, had injections, suppositories, more bloods taken ( not sure if there's any left) and now they are talking about sending me back down to theatre! I swear if that surgeon comes anywhere near me there will be hell to pay!
Saggy - I really hope your ok
Tins - stay positive please xxxxx

DIYandEatCake · 28/02/2013 17:49

Oh crap fod that is miserable. Sorry for saggy and bakingtins too, what a rubbish day for some.

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 17:51

Ignore me. It's a drug enduced funk! Confused

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 17:54

Fod that's crap. Sending you all my love and a big {{hug}}

Mummytothearkbuilder · 28/02/2013 18:19

Oh fod and saggy and everyone else who has had a rubbish day I'm so sorry you are all having such an awful time. Hmm

I'm thinking of you all and sending huge hugs. Feel free to rant, moan, swear (if we are allowed!) on here - anything that might help - we are all in this together and here to support each other xxxx

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 28/02/2013 18:25

FUCKING FUCKING CUNTING FUCKING FUCK!