TTC 10+ months Part 13

[buzzybee123]

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

Excuse the phone errors. Hopefully you get the gist!

joy our posts reflect our circumstances, yours have been ever changing and hugely difficult; why would your posts not show it? Please post and let us know how things are going as often as you can. I'm no expert but it does sound positive now. One day at a time. euro I do think you should take heart too. It seems things can and do change.

welcome back bunny
gin any update on the missing period?
sar exciting to hear the run up to the FET.

Do you think we could do a round up with the current IUIs and FETs and IVFs on the horizon? It would be nice to see were everyone is headed. To break with tradition maybe a forward looking one?

Nice idea, doll. Good luck for your scan on Monday - I'm sure you won't need it. It can't go wrong for both of us!

If this cycle ends up as we expect, we plan to go again as soon as possible, possibly with mild rather than natural, so we can do day 5 ET and eliminate dud embies earlier and save ourselves this heartache. I suspect the clinic will make us wait a couple of months, so maybe May? (Sorry Nelly - this would mean no freebie drugs going spare!)

Massive hug euro. Thinking of you.

Good luck doll.

And WOW just WOW joy. Keeping stuff crossed and please, please feel free to off-load on here whenever you want. No feeling guilty

Doll - will be thinking of you on monday

Euro -I understand wanting to get going again, big hugs.

Joy - how are you today?

Buzz - hope you are feeking ok today?

Warning, selfish post coming up. Tried to be positive today and have really enjoyed being out in our jungle/garden, pulling out the crazy and ugly bushes we have and soaking up some vitamin d. it seems when I try to be relaxed something comes to slap me around the chops. In the post today I got another lap report from the clinic, it tells me I also have a arcuate womb which is a mild form of septate uterus. Am a bit gutted about this new discovary. I realise its not the worst thing but another little chip in the picture to add to the other little chips. To top it all off I have to go to a family party tonight where there will be looks and questions and one relative (very close) has offered me a lift as she "wont be drinking".(confused)

Sorry for the selfish post again, slaps self,

Oh sar it sounds like you should brace yourself for an A+ announcement...

How come the clinic is drip feeding you info? That's unhelpful to say the least. As you say, it is just a little chip and one that Dr Google tells me might well have no effect at all. Grrrr.

Evening ladies.

joy and euro I think that this sums up why doctors don't normally pay attention to pregnancies until they get to 12 weeks (when they happen without AC). I bet lots of people have hormone fluctuations, slow growers and random growth spurts but just have no idea. Sometimes all this monitoring gives us too much information. My fingers are crossed and my hopes will be with you both in the days and weeks to come. And please come here to talk about anything and everything. We all understand that there will be contradictions and big highs and lows. This thread is all about supporting you through them.

sar I don't get the drip feeding of feedback either. I'm sure that this won't be a major stumbling block for your fet but I appreciate that it's never nice to be surprised when it concerns your health . I hope that the family party goes well and that potential announcements are bearable xx

Good idea for a round up doll. I will pop my info at the bottom. Will be good to look forward rather than going through the negatives again . Will be thinking of you too and hoping for some good news.

I hope that you all had as sunny a day as we did today. Got out to do some shopping and general wandering. Tomorrow we're heading out to the countryside to do some serious walking with friends. I have lost 4 lbs and about 8 more to go so must keep moving!!! Apple strudel this afternoon was not part of the healthy eating plan......

Madness 34, MrM 37. TTC 2 years 9 months. Currently on downregging drugs to control endometriosis before starting first round of ivf in April. Next clinic appointment in just a week and a half!

doll pregnant after second round IVF. First scan at 6+5 on Monday. Peace made with a TTC-free future regardless of pregnancy outcome

Sorry about the drip feed letter sar I hope tonight goes ok for you.

sar how did you get on last night? Hope it wasn't too painful for you.

joy One day at a time. Sounds like you may have a fighter there. The very best of wishes.
euro hand hold. It's the best I can do, I so want this to work for you.
buzzy sorry you are feeling crap.
sarlat drip fed info sucks.

Hugs for those that need it, and waves to everyone. You are all amazing women.

The party was fine - no annoucements (at least not yet) and no awkward conversations. I did drink a glass of cheap wine very quickly when I arrived (as you do) and ate some bread crumbed coated buffet offerings which made me feel sicky. I also got randomly attacked by a 4 year old but I can cope with all of the above.

Madness -well done you, in fact you have inspired me to find a hill to walk on today, it looks like it will be a nice day..

Bit more drama here at Chez Sarlat. I have been testing for ovulation to enable us to choose the right day for fet transfer. I got a smiley face on the digital OPK Friday at 10 am. Fine, this puts ovulation as Saturday and transfer day as Thursday (5 dpo). I tested postitve all day Friday and Saturday morning and then went negative Saturday afternoon - tidy.

I continued testing just to be on the safe side and boy am I glad I did. I got a smiley face again this morning along with a load of ewcm. I am a bit . I don't know where this places ovulation. If I was going on body signs alone (which I do normally) I would say I will ovulate today. But this throws in to confusion my transfer date which was set to next Thursday (5 days post what was expected to be ovulation). But even if they clinic set a new date, they will say ovulation is the day after the positive OPK. Which is confusing as I worry I am ovulating today - actually I don't know any more. I am waiting for a nurse to arrive at clinic at 9 am so I can discuss this. I am hoping they will scan me today so we can see if the follie has popped or not. I wonder if I released 2 eggs. Not sure what is going on.

I am going to talk to the clinic about sending out different letters at different times by different people about the same event. It isn't helpful and makes me feel a bit anxious because when these letters come, they are always uncomfortable reading but I read them, process them and then put them to bed and forget about them. An extra report is not helpful - however due to the FET worries of the day I won't be bringing this up today. Bloody heart shaped womb.

I hope everyone is having a more relaxed weekend than me . It might be a lovely day today - time for some vitamin D.

Sarlat - 32, DH 48. ttc for 3 years, 1 mc first attempt. Waiting for FET this month (also 3rd atempt of IVF). Diagnosis is ? mild multifactoral including very mild endo, miscarriage causing inflamation of right fallopian tube causing it to stick to the bowel (since been treated at lap), difficut embryo transfers heart shaped womb and occasionally boarder line mf.

Morning campers. I'm away on a crafty weekend (the sewing is getting hardcore) and have had no wifi til now which has been good actually but just doing a hasty catch up. Joy I'm overwhelmed by your amazing news and hoping beyond hope this all starts to become less uncertain very soon and that your baby keeps on fighting. I'm sorry about the one twin - so much for you to process.

Euro how are you doing?

Sar - you ok? The uneasy sense that an announcement is coming is grim, thinking of you.

Sea - that is tough. Hope you're alright.

Buzzy how you doing?

Another hurried post, I feel like a bad 10 plusser at the moment. But sewing calls!
I dreamt last night that nellys tale of collective bfps came true

Rabbit - ttc 2 years, unexplained, waiting around trying to figure out what to do next clomid/iui/ivf/adoption or none of the above.

morning ladies

well I have woken up to find all the noise and commotion outside, is no in fact my neighbours but the police as some woman has jumped 9 floors just outside my flat :( very sad.

MIL is on her way round I do now have a nice new bathroom sink, and have been trying out paint colours to go with the stupid fish tiles I don't like the 4 I have chosen so far but will be glad for a newer looking bathroom by easter hopefully, I have also done a bit of gardening (on the balcony)

euro how are you holding up, big hand squeeze

rabbit oooh jealous of your crafty weekend, my new crochet book has arrived, clearly I am deluded about my crocheting skills as this book is way beyond me

sar I did wonder id maybe this person couldn't drink as they might be on some medication, glad there was no announcement. It is very confusing about the ovulation, hope yuo have been able to speak to the nurse to sort out FET

teu lovely to see you on here, how are things with you, I have friends over in your part of the world, all the photos on FB make me a little homesick

madness enjoy the walk and well done on the weight :)

lazy Sunday waves to everyone else

Madness 34, MrM 37. TTC 2 years 9 months. Currently on downregging drugs to control endometriosis before starting first round of ivf in April. Next clinic appointment in just a week and a half

doll pregnant after second round IVF. First scan at 6+5 on Monday. Peace made with a TTC-free future regardless of pregnancy outcome

Sarlat - 32, DH 48. ttc for 3 years, 1 mc first attempt. Waiting for FET this month (also 3rd atempt of IVF). Diagnosis is ? mild multifactoral including very mild endo, miscarriage causing inflamation of right fallopian tube causing it to stick to the bowel (since been treated at lap), difficut embryo transfers heart shaped womb and occasionally boarder line mf.

buzzy 39 and holding, Barry 39 TTC 23 months, two miscarriages, diagnosed with high NK cells, SO and IUI, good FSH and LH, very low AHM. DE IVF in May in Brno, Czech Republic, about to start the adoption process, plan to have a child sometime in 2014 :)

rabbit my mood is more stable now, think the hormones have settled down now, thanks for asking

Madness 34, MrM 37. TTC 2 years 9 months. Currently on downregging drugs to control endometriosis before starting first round of ivf in April. Next clinic appointment in just a week and a half

doll pregnant after second round IVF. First scan at 6+5 on Monday. Peace made with a TTC-free future regardless of pregnancy outcome

Sarlat - 32, DH 48. ttc for 3 years, 1 mc first attempt. Waiting for FET this month (also 3rd atempt of IVF). Diagnosis is ? mild multifactoral including very mild endo, miscarriage causing inflamation of right fallopian tube causing it to stick to the bowel (since been treated at lap), difficut embryo transfers heart shaped womb and occasionally boarder line mf.

buzzy 39 and holding, Barry 39 TTC 23 months, two miscarriages, diagnosed with high NK cells, SO and IUI, good FSH and LH, very low AHM. DE IVF in May in Brno, Czech Republic, about to start the adoption process, plan to have a child sometime in 2014

Rabbit - ttc 2 years, unexplained, waiting around trying to figure out what to do next clomid/iui/ivf/adoption or none of the above.

Madness 34, MrM 37. TTC 2 years 9 months. Currently on downregging drugs to control endometriosis before starting first round of ivf in April. Next clinic appointment in just a week and a half

doll pregnant after second round IVF. First scan at 6+5 on Monday. Peace made with a TTC-free future regardless of pregnancy outcome

Sarlat - 32, DH 48. ttc for 3 years, 1 mc first attempt. Waiting for FET this month (also 3rd atempt of IVF). Diagnosis is ? mild multifactoral including very mild endo, miscarriage causing inflamation of right fallopian tube causing it to stick to the bowel (since been treated at lap), difficut embryo transfers heart shaped womb and occasionally boarder line mf.

buzzy 39 and holding, Barry 39 TTC 23 months, two miscarriages, diagnosed with high NK cells, SO and IUI, good FSH and LH, very low AHM. DE IVF in May in Brno, Czech Republic, about to start the adoption process, plan to have a child sometime in 2014

Rabbit - ttc 2 years, unexplained, waiting around trying to figure out what to do next clomid/iui/ivf/adoption or none of the above.

freedom2011 - 35, DH 39, ttc 4 years next month. IUI done x 5, on 2ww. First IVF consultation, appointment tomorrow.

Free - good luck with the appointment.

Buzz-gosh that is really trajic and so very sad. Poor lady. Hope you are ok.

Joy and euro - i hope you are both managing a gentle and stress free weekend.

My clinic have redeemed themselves to some extent today. After the earlier lh surge and transfer day confusion, they let me come in forca scan which im not really entitled to as a nhs fet patient. This scan showed a burst follicle and hazy womb which indicate ovulation has occured and that there must be progesterone in my system which makes the womb lining hazy. The dr thinks ovulation was most probably yesterday so transfer is still thursday. Apparantly some people have ewcm after ovulation too and extra lh surge ehich caused my confusion. This has put my mind at rest as getting the wrong day for transfer in a natural cycle is not an option.

Thanks for listening ladied

free good luck with the IVF appointment tomorrow, tell us all about it.

sar well I'm glad you got the scan in, my word so much for the EWCM and OPK though right? It does make you wonder about all this effort we go to on cycle tracking.

Glad you're feeling better buzzy. Awful that happened this morning though. That happened in my old flats and I looked down and saw the body. I still think about that. It's a very sad thing.

Sarlat I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I read you had not been walloped by a preg announcement. And great you had a scan. I have always doubted my own ability to ov track as I have days of ewcm and slow temp rises. A hazy womb and heart shaped uterus actually sound very snuggly I think but bad form to a) not be fully explicit about the outcome of your lap on the ward and b) to drip feed info.

freedom good luck with the appointment, do tell us how it goes.

euro joy Sunday thoughts to you.

doll are you have a scan on the doll-let tomorrow?

I am home from sewing extravaganza. It may be a hobby that only my older relatives seem to engage with and one that my friends with kids comment 'they don't have time for' but I love it. I have found something that absorbs me and I'm glad for that. And when I do have a child I will be able to make them cool clothes. Yay! Infertility is shite. But it does have some very small gifts.

Hare is making the Sunday tea. pork belly and fennel and mustard mash with treacle tart for pudding. YUM! I should go away more often! What are people having for Sunday tea?

I'm cd29 and no spotting. My statistical chance of my period coming is 97%. That sucks.

rabbit what do your temps say, we're having homemade spicy butternut squash soup and crusty bread :)

I'm not temping. I think my last period was just long and bizarre which has probably thrown things off. I haven't ov sticked or taken any notice of my body in terms of ewcm and days though I did have lots, just not sure when. I like that I've let go of it. It only occurred to me today that my last period was a month ago. Yay!

ah so you don't know either way, it could be your lucky month

A 3% chance isn't overly exciting me. I wish I didn't keep reading that number in different places. I think I just ovd late. My scan lady said she thought my period would be here in a few days and that I hadnt just ovd though on cd25. Who knows. No spotting would be exciting.