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TTC 10+ months Part 13

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buzzybee123 · 04/02/2013 11:56

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

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rabbitonthemoon · 03/03/2013 18:55

Or maybe I didn't even ov? Confused will now push this thought to back of head.

buzzybee123 · 03/03/2013 19:14

3% is better than 0% :)

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rabbitonthemoon · 03/03/2013 19:43

Smile true. People win the lottery. Stats don't mean a lot do they really.

ThatWayMadnessLies · 03/03/2013 21:38

Happy Sunday evening all,

Falling into bed soon and in trouble for spending evenings glued to the iPad Blush so just in for a quick wave.

I hope you did get out and enjoy the day sar. We walked for about 4 hours and made it to a height of 817 metres. Quite proud of us Grin.

Well done on the sewing rabbit. When you have the wee ones you'll be able to sew flabby costumes too!! As for tea, we ended up with nachos as a snack in the pub post walk (negating weight loss benefits of walk of course) so just had cereal for tea. Pork belly and treble tart sounds amazing...

Here's to a positive start to a new week. Happy Mondays everyone xx

ThatWayMadnessLies · 03/03/2013 21:39

Shoot. Fabby not flabby - unless said costume requires there to be flab of course Hmm

sweetgrouch · 04/03/2013 02:18

madness- the walk sounds wonderfull.
buzzy- that is really sad about your neighbour.
sar- sorry about the slow influx of news.
freedom - goodluck tomorrow.
rabbit - the crafting sounds nice.
A quick hello to everyone else. I am tired after working today.
Sweet- me 27, dh 33. TTC 15 months. Waiting for our appointment with the specialist in 3 weeks. So far the ultrasound tech told me both ovaries are polycystic.

CritterPants · 04/03/2013 15:35

Hello all

Quiet on here today! Adding to the list, back for proper post in a mo:

Madness 34, MrM 37. TTC 2 years 9 months. Currently on downregging drugs to control endometriosis before starting first round of ivf in April. Next clinic appointment in just a week and a half

doll pregnant after second round IVF. First scan at 6+5 on Monday. Peace made with a TTC-free future regardless of pregnancy outcome

Sarlat - 32, DH 48. ttc for 3 years, 1 mc first attempt. Waiting for FET this month (also 3rd atempt of IVF). Diagnosis is ? mild multifactoral including very mild endo, miscarriage causing inflamation of right fallopian tube causing it to stick to the bowel (since been treated at lap), difficut embryo transfers heart shaped womb and occasionally boarder line mf.

buzzy 39 and holding, Barry 39 TTC 23 months, two miscarriages, diagnosed with high NK cells, SO and IUI, good FSH and LH, very low AHM. DE IVF in May in Brno, Czech Republic, about to start the adoption process, plan to have a child sometime in 2014

Rabbit - ttc 2 years, unexplained, waiting around trying to figure out what to do next clomid/iui/ivf/adoption or none of the above.

freedom2011 - 35, DH 39, ttc 4 years next month. IUI done x 5, on 2ww. First IVF consultation, appointment tomorrow.

Critter - 33, MrC 33. TTC 23 months also, PCOS, one natural ovulation and one clomid-induced since stopping Pill. No periods. 5 or 6 rounds clomid (poor response) one round injectible gonal F (cancelled due to overstimming). Baseline scan at end of March, will then start taking Pill for 3 weeks in preparation for long protocol IVF in April/May.

EuroShaggleton · 04/03/2013 15:45

Hi critter and grouch.

Madness that sounds like quite a walk!

rabbit if anyone deserves a lottery win, it's someone on this thread!

doll I hope the scan brought good news. :)

CritterPants · 04/03/2013 16:02

free hope your appointment goes well today. Looking forward to hearing how it went!

doll if you have a scan coming up, good luck. Thinking of you. It still makes me so happy that cowboy IVF has done the trick for you. Gives me hope.

rabbit the pork belly and treacle tart sound heavenly, and it's awesome that you're sewing so much and so well. What have you made recently? Any nice clothes? I always wish I could sew, I did do a course once and loved it but have never bought a sewing machine. My mum used to make clothes when she was in her twenties and early thirties and I still wear some of the lovely 70s maxi dresses that she made. I totally identify with what you said about finding something that absorbs you. That's totally how I feel about my little poetry-writing hobby - infertility is really crap but at least it's forced me to try to creatively enrich my life in other ways that perhaps if I'd had a baby I would have put on the back-burner. I am grateful for that.

buzzy I'm sorry about the poor woman in your flats, what a horrible shock. She must have felt so desperate to do something like that. Hope you are ok - those moments really do stick with us, as rabbit said. Hope your hormones have continued to settle and you're feeling sunnier today after a nice weekend with barry. It'll be so nice to cycle with you.

sar a nurse once told me I had a heart-shaped womb, but I've never heard anything else about it. I think the time leading up to your FET is just always going to be really stressful, and that's ok. You've been amazingly strong at dealing with all the curveballs you've been thrown over the past years but it's natural to find this incredibly hard. We are all rooting for you and your frostie. There is every chance that this will work, and I so hope that it does - but it is not the last chance saloon. I truly believe that you are going to be a mum. Incidentally - I found out today that a friend who has two gorgeous children had them both from IVF on the third and fourth attempt. She said she was beside herself when the first two rounds didn't work. You've had crappy luck in the past but this is not the end of the road, far from it.

euro I am thinking of you and hoping with every bone in my body that you get good news this week. Be gentle to yourself, let MrEuro look after you, and rest. We are here for you if you feel like talking.

joy I'm thinking of you too and willing on your little fighter. Hang in there.

madness the walk sounds gorgeous. It always makes me feel better to be out in the fresh air. Grin at the flabby baby clothes! Nachos are one of my favourite treats. I love the crispy ones at the edges of the plate best.

teu lovely to see you and hope all's well on t'other side!

pout how's the stabbing going? Are you nearing EC?

sweet PCOS is really common and as far as I know, the vast majority of PCOSers conceive with a little help. You may be prescribed a few rounds of clomid. If you are, make sure that you get proper monitoring, with regular ultrasound scans. It's great news that you're ovulating already - are your cycles regular?

Waves to nelly, lemon, gin, princess, sea, mrsd, and everyone I've missed. Sunny here but bitingly cold. I did have a lovely low key weekend, clearing away dead leaves from the garden, cleaning the house, and reading more of my Jilly Cooper novel. On Saturday night MrC went to bed early and left me to stay up on the sofa with Jilly, Sade on the stereo, and a little candle, all wrapped up in a blanket Grin it was heaven!

buzzybee123 · 04/03/2013 16:48

it is very quiet indeed,

doll hope all went well

critter thank you, yes I went and cleaned up a bit of the broken glass in the hallway as my neighbour has small children, your weekend does sound heavenly :)

joy and euro thinking of you both

well I have emailed the clinic, I was a bit worried about it yesterday but I feel ok today.
MIL came round on Sunday and we had a nice chat, she listened and even asked some sensible questions, today she sent me a lovely email :) I hope all this lasts

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akuabadoll · 04/03/2013 18:09

hello ladies, I'm having a hellish busy day and the scan was squeezed in between a thousand other things. No measurements or heartbeat rates but I'm not surprised by that. Right place, right size, right shape with a heartbeat was the verdict. Dr seemed pleased in his own funny quiet way. I have to crack on but wanted to check in. loves to all.

EuroShaggleton · 04/03/2013 18:14

Smile Smile Smile

GinSoaked · 04/03/2013 18:23

Hi all! It is quiet today but lots of chat over le weekend to catch up on.

Firstly joy, OMG! I am so pleased your little bean is growing in leaps and bounds. I hope that there's now no indication that this might not work out. I'm so very sorry about the other twin though. Please please do continue to post. Hopefully it's useful for you to vent, but it's also incredibly useful for those of us who may end up in a similar position. Also you are far more than a random Internet poster and have offered us all so much support that you really mustn't worry about posting on here x

euro hope you are doing ok and that recent events with joy gives you some hope. Can I ask who scanned you? There was one dr there who was v pessimistic about everything - Dr Doom & Gloom. Tbh he was prob just giving us all the facts, but in a way that made bad stuff seen inevitable. Anyway hope you and Mr E are doing ok.

doll yay for good scan news! That's ace Grin Was thinking of you today.

buzz how horrible about your neighbour. A close familiar member has bipolar and such things are a big fear of mine (that they will do something similar) I think it's amazing that you have your ET date already. So exciting. And yay for mil being nice.

rabbit your crafts weekend sounds ace. You guys have all really inspired me. I may see if I can find a creative type weekend class. It'd be something to look forward to. Hmmm.. Maybe something with plants or food. I is crap at sewing.

pout how's the stabbing going? Hope you are feeling ok. When's your 1st scan?

critter I too am partial to a bit of jilly cooper. Are you reading a new one?! btw I love stories of ivf working for people on the 3/4 go. Gives me some hope and makes me feel less of a freak. Keep em coming.

sar you are doing great, lovely. Slightly concerning about the opk. I was only planning to test twice a day! I did wonder if they scanned after the surge to check the egg had popped. I can't see that womb shape would cause any issues for implantation. I was shown a weird 3 d pic of my womb at one scan, which didnt mean much to me. Anyway hang in there lady. Not long to go now.

sea so so sorry about your friend. See my comment above to buzz... I hope you are doing ok and managing to process things. Deaths of friends are just so hard, as it seems so wrong. Well done on the iui

free how was your appointment?

madness the thing I love about walking is the fact I'm then entitled to be a greedy bastard afterwards and stuff myself with cake :)

No news here. Still no period . If the ewcm was a sign of ov (rather than the +ive opk the week before), then it should be due any day. This is the longest cycle I've had since ttc. I know I'm not preggers (I may have consumed several cheapy hobnobs, ahem

EuroShaggleton · 04/03/2013 18:27

Gin your AF is just staying away to mess with your head!

It was the Greek chap who scanned me. I can't remember his name but he does a lot of the scans at Harley St I think. Is he the one you mean?

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 04/03/2013 18:56

Just popping in to say HURRAH for minidoll. Congrats!

Sorry your period is AWOL gin. The flu seems to have done weird shit to my cycle too, I was convinced it has been and gone last Thursday but I am now revisited by EWCM. However, my boobs don't tend to lie and they say Thursday. Oh well, I am sure I'll find out in due course.

buzzybee123 · 04/03/2013 19:13

euro I saw him and yes he is 'dr doom and gloom'

gin sorry about the missing AF, its frustrating, I don't think GP's do much unless you are 2 weeks late Hmm

doll yay to good news about babydoll :)

lemon Grin at your boobs not lying

The jumper wasn't a neighbour, she didn't didn't live in the building Confused still very sad though, MIL has already worked out what day I should be testing after ET Grin

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GinSoaked · 04/03/2013 19:22

euro yes the Greek chap, with dark, straight hair and no glasses aka dr doom & gloom! Left me convinced I had ohss, cysts etc etc and in tears in the waiting room... Not wanting to build up your hopes too much, but I'd take what he said/implied with a healthy dose of salt and optimism. As Dave pointed out to me, everything he said was right, but somehow he made me feel like the worse case scenario was actually happening, rather than might happen. Dave put it down to poor bedside manner/me being hormonal and over reacting.

lemons sorry your cycle is playing silly buggers too. But it does give me a bit of comfort that I may not be broken and that it's a normal reaction to being poorly. Bloody typical it's what was meant to be an AC cycle for us both.

buzzybee123 · 04/03/2013 19:47

gin that is how I felt when I met with 'dr doom and gloom' I left feeling there was no hope and it wasn't until I started to cry did he change tack Hmm

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sarlat · 04/03/2013 19:48

Doll -what fantastic news about the scan. Congratulations

Critter - thank you for your very comforting words - means a lot. Your weekend sounds heavenly. The dr told me yesterday that 1 in 5 women have a heart shaped womb and not to worry about it. I am trying to imagine it as very nice womb to implant in to.

Rabbit - the sewing weekend sounds fab. When do you start the blood tests for hormones?

Gin -sorry for awol af. It must be due to being ill and I am certain that it will snap back very soon. I advise testing about 9, 4 and 10 ish for the fet cycle.

Buzz -it is great that your mil is taking such an interest.

Euro - hope you are ok. Maybe the doom and gloom dr was being overly pessamistic. One of my drs was like this with my initial ivf cycle and I seemed to prove him wrong many a time. I really hope this little bean hangs on.

Lemon - how are you? Hope that crazy cycle settles down soon.

Joy -how are things? Please feel free to give updates, moan, sing, cry, laugh, whatever.

rabbitonthemoon · 04/03/2013 20:03

doll Grin that is ace.

gin and lemon I had swine flu the year before ttc, man I was ill with high fever. It was 6 weeks til my period came. I was relying on condoms at this point with no clue about ttc really. I realised my period was AWOL after 5 weeks and a few days later sat down with hare and told him I thought I was pregnant and we did a test. I was hoping for a negative but when it was, I was actually disappointed. So we got married and started ttc within 6 months! But it was def the flu that made things go off. I'm so sorry this is happening to you at this point, not what you need!

euro I so hope you just got a miserable, pessimistic scanner.

critter lovely post. How are you feeing about the upcoming cycle?

madness Grin at flabby clothes. Especially as the first dress I made was very wide!

joy loves. Do update us when you can.

buzzy Sad about cleaning up the glass. But good you're feeling better.

CritterPants · 04/03/2013 20:17

Whoop whoop for minidoll - yippee! Grin Tail feather victory dance. Grin Lovely news.

euro I'm hoping Dr Doom n' Gloom has just given you worst case scenario and that you get reassurance at the end of the week. You're being an absolute champ and we have everything crossed for you and little euro.

rabbit I'm excited for the IVF cycle - I know it's going to be hard if it doesn't work, but I'm just looking forward to having a chance at conception. In a way, the fact that I don't ovulate makes it easier for me, because I can forget about ttc more easily without my body going, hey you, yeah you, I'm fertile, whatcha gonna do about it? eh? eh? and prodding me in the ribs with a hopeful expectant look. Instead it sort of lies there comatose and I can get on with things Grin Grin. I'm sure it's going to be harder when my hormones start cranking into action again.

sar a heartshaped womb does indeed sound nice to implant into for a little mini sar frostie and is particularly apt for you, with your open, faithful heart. Smile Hand squeeze.

gin are you charting? How irritating about the missing period, if mine were regular I'd be fretting like crazy. Could just be the flu affecting things, as you suggest? Bloody annoying though.

lemon equally irritating that your body is sending you conflicting signals. Hope it all settles down post-illness and hope you're feeling much better than you were!

buzz sweet that your MIL is so excited! Sounds like you two have a lovely relationship, kudos to your life coaching skills. Smile

Waves to all I've missed. Better crack on with work!

freedom2011 · 04/03/2013 21:09

Yay minidoll. Good news! Smile

The summary of my first IVF consultation appointment today: overall it was a good meeting. I knew most of it thanks to the information on this thread. And it was done by my usual doctor who has been doing my IUIs so very comfortable. He explained that I would inject myself with drugs for the first part of my cycle to stimulate eggs. I'd be monitored for overstimulation. I would get a bit of a bloated feeling from producing many eggs. The diagrams looked a bit frightening, ovaries like a sack of conkers. Then I'd get the eggs removed (not clear if they put me right under). He acknowledged that in UK natural v. ICSI is about 50/50 but here in Forrinlands, most couples go for ICSI as we get 3 cycles 50% paid for by insurance and this is seen as surer of success. The rest of the cost, we have to cover. But, if we get a lot of eggs, and can freeze some embryos, this does not count as a 'go' and cycle can be completed with a frozen embryo. Only egg retrieval counts as a cycle for insurance purposes. Consultant says that when it's possible to grow the fertilized eggs past morula to blastocyst for a few days in the lab to be able to pick the strongest looking one he gets 41% success rate of pregnancy. Freezing fertilized eggs is a possibility and brings down the cost of future cycles if the 3 part funded ones don't work. DH is convinced IUI 5 has worked and that we won't need this. Based on my woo doctor feeling my pulse last week and saying, yep, good chances - stay warm, and drink your herbs.

Joy - please keep posting. I know it's unbelievable ups and downs but I like to hear how you are getting on.

Euro - thinking of you. sar good luck, glad you feel comforted by scan. we will get there.

EuroShaggleton · 04/03/2013 21:13

Thanks ladies. TBH, he wasn't overly pessimistic to my face. He said the sac should have been 18mm and it was 8mm, which is at the low end but not completely off the scale. However, there was only a yolk sac - no feotal pole or heartbeat. On the written report I got there are two lines - one for the sac and one for the embryo. The one for the sac is like this: ¦o--¦ The one for the embryo is like this: o ¦----¦ so I think it's safe to say it was way below what was expected. The verdict at the end of the report is "pregnancy of uncertain viability".

The pessimism is mainly coming from the fact that the day after the scan the symptoms started disappearing and the cramping started. It had ramped up a bit this evening too.

The time is passing very slowly until Thursday's scan.

Gin I have a question about mild. What drugs did you take? Gonal F for stimming? Do you have to take something alongside it to stop ovulation pre-trigger shot? I liked natural and felt in control of the process, but I can't help thinking that if emBarryo had had to make it to day 5 in the lab, he might not have made the grade, so perhaps doing mild and hopefully getting enough embies to try to go to day 5 might save us this heartache in future.

buzzy that's absolutely awful about the jumper. :(

Critter the image of your comatose body made me laugh!

freedom2011 · 04/03/2013 21:16

Joy - only if helpful to you of course, I don't mean please post for my benefit. Even though I am following your progress. Hope you know what I mean.

Also, I turned 35 yesterday and buying your own presents to make sure you get all the treats you hope for = way more fun birthday.

sweetgrouch · 05/03/2013 02:18

Critter - the last blood tests showed ovulation but of course it was on a very nice cycle for me. Judging by my cycle lengths (29-55 days) and normal symptoms (+OPK, ewcm..etc), I ovulate about 3/4 of the time. The doctor is looking into other horomone levels and potential issues, but I won't know much more until my appointment. Whatever course of action he chooses, it will be strictly monitored because the government has strict guidelines for AC (the meds, first 6 iuis and first 3 rounds of IVF are covered by tax dollars).

  • The description as your body as comatose is quite funny and reflects my status at least 25% of the time.

Joy- Not sure how I missed you in the last post, but congratulations on the bean still being there. I'm still hoping it will pull through. I think doll may have said it better than me, but I agree that posts reflect where you are. I think you have been on a crazy rollercoaster and it is simply reflected in your posts. If posting helps, as free pointed out, I think you should.

Euro - good luck! I hope the bean grows between now and then.

Free - Happy late birthday. Your consult sounds like it was good. I am with your dh and hope you won't need it because Dr. Woo said you were warm.

Doll - Glad the scan looked normal. Smile

Gin - Sorry your period is still nowhere to be found, wonky cycles are always frustrating.

Sar - the heart shaped womb should be just fine. A lovely place for your frostie to stay for 9 months.

Lemon - Lolled at boobs don't lie.

Buzzy - Your MIL sounds very nice. It is great she is so supportive.

Waves to everyone I've missed.