TTC for the first time

[bluefreckles]

Hello ladies

I would like to start a thread/bus/merry-go-round to meet, get support and share with ladies in the same boat as me:

TTC baby no 1!

Will you join me and see it through to the BFP?!

A bit about me - I'm 29, DP is 35. This will be our first child.

Hi Definitelysometime - lovely to meet someone else in the same situation as me!

I can't watch programmes like one born, I just start weeping uncontrollably.

Just had an office social and lots of Chinese was ordered. May have eaten squid (cooked). Not too good really for TTC is it?

How are you ladies doing at the mo? Much DTD to TTC? I hope so. Sometimes we just have to surprise our DH with affection so that they don't feel too pressurised when the 'peak' time arrives.

Not just for them! It's good for us to keep things fun as well.

Hello, I'm a bit new to this so please be gentle.... I'm 29 and hubby is 34, we are just in to month 2 of TTC and I'm a lot more obsessed with this whole thing than I ever thought I'd be! Wanted to check what everyone else is doing vitamin wise? I took Seven Seas Trying For A Baby for the first month and felt shocking - I genuinely thought I was pregnant as had never felt like that before - mid month cramps and back pain and loads of bloating / abdominal pain. Now started Pregnacare Conception as have taken other vits by that company before and been ok so figure it's worth a shot. Also got the hubby on the man version too which he is reluctantly taking although I think he secretly sees the stress starting to show with me so he's just going along with whatever I tell him to do... I do realise that month 2 is early days so apologies to anyone who has been going much longer and not had the result they want. Not told anyone in real life about TTC as don't want any additional pressure so its nice to have found a forum to vent all the stress on!! Good luck to everyone else! X

Hi cooper! I'm taking pregnacare and solgar, not both at the same time obviously. Never tried seven seas. So you think it was that that was giving you all those symptoms?

I'm on cd30 now and no AF yet so I POAS and a definite BFN. I'm just going to wait a week for AF to come. It's annoying, I hope my cycle isn't all messed up, I just want to know where I am!

Sorry to hear about your BFN blueamber it's horrible when your cycles are messed up mine have varied from 28 to 43 days. I think I'm on for a BFN again this month too I'm on CD 27 and had a bit of spotting today. I was convinced this month would be the one - although that's no change lol. I'm not going to POAS until Sat though, although I'm sure AF will be here before then.

Hey blueamber sorry to hear about your bfn this month. My AF is due tomorrow and I daren't test. Far too scared. Will wait until the weekend. I'm such a scaredy cat, I have to admit. Need DH's support.

Sorry about the BFN blueamber. I can't be sure that the symptoms were down to the Seven Seas vits but I'm not sure what else to put it all down to as I didn't change anything else last month. Perhaps it is just the TTC craziness making an early appearance and it was all in my head! Good luck for next month.

Hello ladies
I'm new here, TTC#1 and on our 3rd cycle, so hopefully forum will be a good outlet for the obsessing! I'm 31 & DH is 29, just married, and totally thought we'd be pregnant straight away, but doesn't seem to be that easy! Two of my good friends fell pregnant on their first month trying (rude!), so I think they used all the baby karma On day 11 and trying to DTD every other day as no idea when I OV. Been using a tracking app for period, but think from EWCM it may be out by 3-4 days so we've been missing the magic window. Not dabbled with OPKs or temp tracking, not sure if it's too much too soon? Is anyone else using & finding them useful?
Any who, I'll stop babbling, good luck to all this time around

hi nessalina. If you think the app is out by a few days, but you recognise your ewcm, do you know if it shows around the same time in your cycle? Then maybe just continue dtd regularly around that time. I use clear blue fertility monitor, but not very helpful at the moment. Only first cycle and I'm not making any sense of it.

I'm having a bad time . Completely freaking out, said goodbye to the relaxed approach. I'm waiting for AF and have googled too much, now I'm petrified I'll be waiting for many months to get my first AF after stopping the pill and I'm scared I'm not ovulating. I'm trying to not think about it, but I just can't stop thinking the worst. Argh!

Poor you Blue Who knew how frustrated you could get by your own body til you start TTC!!
If its any help, one of my best friends came off the pill after a good 6-7yrs on it and got pregnant first cycle round. She was overdue AF and took a test, got a BFN and then went away thinking definitely not, didn't get a BFP til another week had gone by!
Yeah, I think I've spotted EWCM but it's not been at the same time in my last 2 cycles.
I used to be a regular as clockwork 28 day cycle, but I was due my AF on my wedding day, so asked the doc about delaying it and he prescribed Noresthiserone which you take from a week before until you are ok to come on. So after the wedding I stopped, but it was a whole week til I came on. So I'm happily honeymooning and DTD (and not just when I should be OV! ) but was surprised to spot EWCM a good week after I expected (when back at work & v.little action) but seemed so off cycle that assumed I was imagining it. I was 8 days late on my AF and was SO excited, practically picking out names despite BFN on tests. Guess the drug knocked my cycle out for a week. Then next cycle was only 23 days and didn't see any EWCM, so think we were probably going too late maybe?
Aaanyway. This month it's been all go from C6 to make sure we at least hit OV whenever the heck it is this month!!
Anyway, sorry for the whole life story there, I guess I'm just totally with you in sharing the frustration of the great unknown Hope you get clarity soon!!

Thanks, nessalina. It does help to hear other people's experiences. I shouldn't panic, it's only 5 weeks ago when I stopped the pill, so it's early days. It's just that I don't handle the unknown well.

I can imagine you didn't want AF on your wedding day! I didn't know you could take something other than the pill to regulate your cycle. I suppose it might have changed that and the next cycle a bit, but hopefully you'll be back to normal this cycle. I think dtd every other day for the next few weeks is really the way forward

blue it was about 5 weeks after coming off the pill (the dreaded cerazette!) before I got my first AF - still not sure if it was withdrawal or AF proper. Keep thinking positive thoughts. I know what you mean about stressing, I really want to buy the fertility monitor but keep telling myself that it's too soon and should wait till cycle 6 before investing. I'm trying to be relaxed about it but TTC is driving me crazy!

Blueamber - just to give you an idea what happened when I stopped taking the pill... I was told by Dr to come off it on 1 Nov 2012 for medical reasons. I had no intention of conceiving straight away but knew it would be on the cards in the coming months so declined any further hormonal contraception (which the doc seemed horrified at!). It took 5 weeks for AF to come despite having finished at the end of a pill pack so was expecting the usual breakthrough bleed at least. Cycles have since been 30/54/31/28/30 so a little bit messed up but settling now. The 54 day cycle freaked me out!! I had been on Yasmin for quite a few years as well as several others over time so my body hasn't really had a break or a chance to find its natural rhythm for around 15 years or so (almost since puberty to be honest). I'm sure your body will settle down in time. Probably not massively helpful but I just thought I'd share my experience. Keep your chin up!

Definitely helpful! 54 days to wait for AF must have been really difficult...
I was taking the lightest Loestrin and had a withdrawal bleed a few days after stopping, but nothing since. I just have to be patient and distract myself I suppose, but I can't help thinking about it and trying to figure it out.

Another thing that is making me more anxious is that two weeks after stopping the pill I started getting pains around my right ovary. At first I thought it was ovulation, but the OPK said no. The pain has been there on and off since. I read it can be a side effect from stopping the pill, but obviously it's just making me think there might be something wrong.

Anyway, time to distract myself! Just wish I had something good to distract myself with instead of this awful PhD I'm trying to finish.

I had a lot of night time nausea when I stopped the pill which had me very confused and worried. I was convinced there must be something wrong. Since cycles have been more normal I'm trying to pick up on the usual monthly changes and record everything on my phone app but its difficult to always record things without feeling like a complete hypochondriac! Every twinge / pain / slight change MUST mean something! Very frustrating to say the least! I guess it just takes time for things to readjust to non-hormonal intervention. I'm now CD8 so according to my app should be getting to the important stage in the next few days - then it's just the awful wait again for AF to decide whether to show up! Good luck with the PhD - you're braver than me!

Hey ladies, AF was due on tuesday just gone. Waited util this morning to test, and got a BFP, just before church. Wishing you all lots of happy thoughts and baby dust. Take care x Teaaddict235

That's fantastic news Tea! Congratulations!

Hi All, I'm the same, TTC atm, I'm 26 and husband is 28, married in 2011, and like alot of others, we naively thought we'd be able to conceive pretty quickly... 2yrs later and nothing yet! It's a little disheartening, particularly when very young extended-family members of ours have recently got pregnant/had children "by accident" - You know how it goes, and yet we're happily married and secure, and actively trying, but nothings happening!

I too am confused with all of the abbreviations, my sister is a regular on here and everytime I speak to her it's more slang and abbreviations, and it just put me off joining the forums as it was a little intimidating tbh!

But hoping to find some like-minded people now to help keep me motivated to try! :)

Hi Eskimo! I'm confused by all the abbreviations too, and we're trying to conceive our 1st as well. It sounds like we're going through the same things - everyone around me seems to be pregnant or have just had a baby! We got married in Jan and it doesn't help that since then I'm asked at least once a day when we're going to have a baby!!

Hi Fox! I know! My parents aren't too bad, but my in-laws are a nightmare! everytime we see them their making comments about when we're going to give them grandchildren! I wouldn't mind so much, but they already have two from hubby's sister, whereas my parents don't have any!
And it seems that the worlds mocking you by letting everyone else around you fall pregnant seemingly easily! Haha

It's a nightmare isn't it! Tends to be friends and work colleagues with me rather than family. People were even asking us on the actual wedding day! Lol!

tea addict congratulations! Hope all goes well with your pregnancy and PhD!