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TTC for the first time

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bluefreckles · 17/01/2013 18:50

Hello ladies

I would like to start a thread/bus/merry-go-round to meet, get support and share with ladies in the same boat as me:

TTC baby no 1!

Will you join me and see it through to the BFP?!

A bit about me - I'm 29, DP is 35. This will be our first child.

OP posts:
DisneyDiva87 · 23/04/2013 14:00

You forgot me CJP :o(

I mustn't have shouted loud enough waves frantically can you see me now?

I have told 1 friend who is also TTC I wanted one of my close friends to know in case things don't go to plan. Hubby seems to be telling everyone I've had to tell him to stop telling people and defining that friends are still people.

I'm so excited! For myself and you guys!

CJP350 · 24/04/2013 19:22

DD87, I abbreviated you...sorry! I also just accidently hit 'report' on a post, sorry again. Not having a good day here!! My hubby's the total opposite. He wants it all top secret and I'm struggling to keep it that way!!

Thisisfreakingmeout · 25/04/2013 00:43

Agreed everyone. I have had some, urn, impertinent comments from MIL over the last two years. At that time it was her son that wasn't ready to go. Now he is, her nagging is still hurtful at times. I'm sure if and when we get our BFP she'll just move on to so etching else! Still over a week to wait to test. A g o n i s i n g . . .

DisneyDiva87 · 25/04/2013 10:19

Ah ok :o) I didn't recognise myself, I now know that DD87 is me! Sorry!

I'm finding it easy enough to keep quiet about TTC but once I find out I'm pregnant I'll be wanting to tell everyone as soon as I know.

Percypiglet · 25/04/2013 19:13

Hi thisisfreakingmeout, my bane of my life is my own mother, not mil... but i agree the nagging is really hurtful. I think she'd be upset if she realised that she was puttng her foot in it all of the time. Keep hanging on!

TheSlug · 01/05/2013 09:21

Hi Ladies... haven't been on here for a while, been a bit busy (shagging Grin) but AF was due Friday and still no sign... am I allowed to be scared??? we've agreed to not test until Friday (one week late), if it were up to DH, we would wait a little longer to test but my birthday's Monday so need to see if I can have a big one or not. eeeek... x

DisneyDiva87 · 01/05/2013 09:29

What about a wee sneaky test Slug? DH doesn't have to know about it...

Although Friday is only 2 days away so at least it's not too long a wait if you do decide to.

TheSlug · 01/05/2013 10:15

I am tempted to be honest,Disney but I don't think I'd be able to keep it to myself for a couple of days, and I wouldn't be able to show a real reaction when we do test on Friday! Eeeek, hope these 2 days fly past... c

DisneyDiva87 · 01/05/2013 10:25

Keep yourself busy on here and they will! We'll keep you distracted.

ImaginaryHat · 01/05/2013 11:49

Hi all. I'd like to join you too if that's OK? DH and I are currently TTC dc#1 and don't want to tell anyone in real life (it almost feels like we'd be jinxing it!) so would be great to be able to chat with others in the same situation! Having been married for about a year now we are getting questioned by what feels like everyone about baby plans, just trying to be vague at the mo!

Sounds promising for you Slug, very impressive with the will power to resist testing, think I'd be poas the first day after AF due!

TheSlug · 01/05/2013 12:18

I don't know how I'm doing it to be honest, last month I wanted to test 4 days before AF was due!! (she then came that day, and I was gutted, but it was only our first month!) I did want to wait until my birthday but then if it's a BFN we'll be gutted, and will have restricted my party plans for no reason!

TheSlug · 01/05/2013 12:20

I'm the same Imaginary, I didn't want to tell anyone, I didn't want everyone constantly asking me 'how's TTC going?' how long have you been trying? xx

ImaginaryHat · 01/05/2013 13:00

I think you've probably got the right approach Slug, and I admire your patience! I'd definitely test a couple of days before your birthday though if you'll be a week past AF due date - if its a BFP you'll be so excited and won't mind reining in the party celebrations!

We were 'casually trying' (not monitoring ov and not dtd every other day) for 3-4 months before Xmas, then stopped just because of our personal circumstances. We've started again this month using opk and dtd more frequently, and in my head this feels like the first month of 'properly' trying. Got to wait til around 11th May though to see if AF makes an appearance! Good luck for Friday!

Bikey86 · 01/05/2013 17:55

I find it really difficult not to tell anyone...especially my mum as we are quite close. My friend is now 5months preg with dc#3 (unexpectedly)and keeps asking me when we are going to start our family!! Pressure!!

TheSlug · 02/05/2013 09:51

Bikey I feel the same, I'm close to my mum too, and she keeps asking! We just say, 'oh, soon maybe' and hope that puts her off enough! I do wonder how long I'll be able to keep my gob shut if/ when we do get a BFP!

TheSlug · 03/05/2013 10:19

testing this evening... eeek!! anyone else this weekend?

TheSlug · 03/05/2013 16:24

does anyone feel like their OH doesn't put much emphasis on the whole POAS thing? We had agreed that we'd do it today, I said last night shall we pop to the shop and get a test so we can do it in the morning? He said no, we'll do it in the evening, after he's come home from work, done his run, had a sunbed session, then we'll go to the shops and get a test?? And now I've just got a text saying 'bbq at [his best friend's] tonight'

I know it only takes a couple of minutes, but I feel like he should care more? Or am I over thinking things? Help! X

ImaginaryHat · 03/05/2013 17:29

Ooh exciting Slug, fx for you! I have another week to wait and its doing my head in!

I think with blokes their excitement will probably kick in once you have your bfp. From my experience (and admittedly that's not much as we weve just started trying recently!) my dh isn't obsessed with ovulation dates (been tracking for a while before starting ttc), counting down the days to test etc as I have immediately become! That's a massive generalisation of course but I wouldn't over think it at this stage, it'll only stress you out!

Enjoy your BBQ and best of luck for your test x

TheSlug · 03/05/2013 18:42

Oh my god, I only got a BFP didn't I!!!

TheSlug · 03/05/2013 18:43

Imaginary, thank you for your reply, you were right he is great!!!!

ImaginaryHat · 03/05/2013 21:04

Ah fantastic news, congratulations. What a lovely early birthday present!

Tigglettchic · 04/05/2013 19:38

Can I join?? We have been married 2 weeks and we are in our second month of trying (although the first was half hearted, £9 drinks package was a big factor for the wedding!!)

Anyone else tried the conception gel you can get is Tescos?

FX everyone!

ImaginaryHat · 05/05/2013 14:02

Hi Tigglettchic. Congratulations on your wedding, its such a lovely time! I've not tried tescos conception gel, were trying preseed off Amazon to see how that goes, too early to tell yet though.

When are you due your bfp/af?

Tigglettchic · 05/05/2013 14:39

Hi,

I am due to Ov on Wednesday so AF/BFP around the 22nd.

The gel is so funny, I thought there would be more than there was!!

thank you for your kind words though, I am 28, as is DH and we are starting to feel very grown up with TTC and gardening today!

xx

notspringchicken · 05/05/2013 15:12

Can I join too?

I'm 39 and trying for No.1. I'm slightly weirded out by the fact that I'm giving it a go this late in life. It was never the plan. But I spent a lot of my younger years acting as carer for my Mum who has several serious and debilitating health conditions. So the long and the short of it was, I wasn't in the right place to be taking on more responsibilities.

Anyway, despite saying that this route simply wasn't for me for so many years, here I am obsessing about pee sticks, basal temperatures and trying not to get all mushy when I see babygros in Tesco. On the one hand I'm excited by the idea of becoming a mummy - on the other, I'm aware that the odds for me are not great. I've left it very late and it simply may not happen. Keeping my fingers crossed though.

It'd be nice to have a few buddies to share this journey. TTC is like learning a whole new language. Hopefully we can all keep each other sane.

I sincerely sincerely hope that we all get healthy happy babies at the end of this. Sending my most positive thoughts to all of you. :-)