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Deck your halls & dress your trees, the BESH are gifting BFPs

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WinklyVersusTheZombies · 16/12/2012 16:21

Doff your top hats, lean on your canes, 'tis a Victorian Christmas for the BESH. Baste those turkeys in Victoria & Albert style, and maintain a stiff upper lip when you fill in the BESHtionnaire to see if you are cynical stoic enough to win a Baybee.

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HavingALittleFaithBaby · 13/01/2013 14:17

Afternoon all. I iz awake ish. No more nights! Grin Thank goodness for that!

Re heat - it is not recommended that you put heat over your stomach when diffed (all about baybee's sensitivity to temp changes) but probably fine until diffedness is confirmed. Same with baths - baths are fine but shouldn't be too hot.

Rie how's your dad?

What a nightmare got your family Wink :( early Alzheimer's is just horrible (something I deal with all too frequently). I hope you're MIL improves soon.

Well done on triggering jeff!

Northey · 13/01/2013 16:18

Fucking, fucking cuntry buses. That is all.

SinkyMalinks · 13/01/2013 17:29

Eep norf. Stuck at bus stop? Or stuck on bus?

Have just finished lurvely Sunday lunch (with a glass or 2 of red wine).

Interview tomorrow. Really want the job, but if I get it, getting pregnant in the next few months wold be less than ideal...

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 13/01/2013 17:55

hydrosalpinx

What the chuff is that pliz?

maamalady · 13/01/2013 18:02

Hydrosalpinx is, I think, where a fallopian tube is distended and filled with embryotoxic fluid. It's what I'm hoping my "possibly dilated" tube isn't...

Northey · 13/01/2013 18:09

It didn't show up. And it was a 2 hour wait for the next one. Grim. But finally made it to station and onto train.

Good luck for interview tomorrow. Can you give a hint about what it's for?

HavingALittleFaithBaby · 13/01/2013 18:14

I do believe queenie had a hydrosalpinx...

Poor norf. Hope the train is warm.

snowqueenrollo · 13/01/2013 18:24

giraffe is right. Your tubes have fluid in them which naturally disperses out of the fimbral end once the egg has made it's journey. My fimbral end was fused to the ovary on my left side. The fluid can't escape from the top, so it bulges and causes a kind of bubble of this fluid which then becomes embryotoxic. It can't get out the top so it goes back down the tube into the womb.
Different specialists have differing views on the embryotoxic nature of this fluid. My Consultant was a tosser who discounted this theory entirely. I am convinced I had several pregnancies over the two years of unsuccesful TTC, which all ended in early m/c as those months i had the exact same type of delay and then bleed as I did the month they confirmed a 'biochemical pregnancy'.
I had my surgery, the tube was opened and flushed and I got pregnant the cycle after.
Make what you will of that.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 13/01/2013 18:35

What I make of that is.....drumroll....that your consultant was indeed a tosser. Why oh why oh why are some of them so willing to dismiss and reject anything which they don't have prior experience of?

When I got my initial info through from the fertility clinic, one bit said something like "There is no evidence to show that timing intercourse can result in a successful pregnancy. Make love* every three days throughout your cycle."

Two possibilities present themselves

  1. they don't know anything about conception
  2. (more likely) They think that everyone they see is very thick and can't be trusted to know their own cycles Angry

*Moreover there is no excuse for ever using this term AngryAngry

EuroShagmore · 13/01/2013 20:50

Heh@Drizz googling fish names!

Queenie my needles lady says the same. She has been trying to get me to wear a vest for months. It took me back to the same battle I had with my mum around age 8! I have a thermal vest for specially cold conditions, but this winter hasn't really merited it so far. And tfl have helpfully heated my local trains. Which you think would be a good thing, but it's not. You arrive at the station all bundled up, and then get so hot on the train you melt all your make up and sweat like a pig. Actually when I had my weird chem preg or whatever it was a couple of months ago I did two things - I cut out wheat because I was trying it to see if it gave me more energy and because my acu lady kept nagging me about warmth, I used loads of hot water bottles and wheat bags (including in the office - people must have thought I had a really long period....). Veh exciting that you are soon to be laying. BTW, I agree with the wise Rie about your consultant.

On the womb warming front, when we had our pre-IVF appointment this week, they told me not to use ibruprofen for period pains (fine, I know that can interfere with ov, although I sometimes take it and it doesn't seem to change a thing for me) but also not to use hot water bottles as the heat could damage things (I'm sure she said more than that, but I tuned out at the thought of my beloved hot water bottle being wrenched away from me). I did challenge her on it and she said something about things being very heat sensitive down there. I think she was confusing my bits with bollocks, tbh. It's the direct opposite of what needles lady says. I'll just figure it out myself then.

Rie sorry to hear they are being crap about the tests. Why does everything have to be such a battle?

Curses country buses for Norf.

Needles lady would not have approved of my day (although I was wearing a thermal vest). I was shooting. Outside. All day. Despite wearing about 26 layers including a ski base layer, ski socks and ski gloves, I was bloody freezing. Nonetheless. I rock. I got 9 bulleyes in a row (annoyingly dropped one point on my 10th shot, but that was still the best set of 10 of the day from me, KFZK or the ex-army chap we shoot with). At 600yds. When I couldn't feel my fingers. I'm really quite proud of that. Fvk with me at your peril, people. Wink And then on the way home, we called in to see the potential new kitty. She is lovely. So pretty. My only doubt it she seemed to walk a bit funny. The lady said she had a full bill of health from the vet and she might have just been cowering a bit on short legs due to strangers being there, but I want to ask some more questions about that I think. But she is flipping lovely.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 13/01/2013 21:10

No ibuprofen during droid? But why? How else are we expected to deal with it? Grrrrrr.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 13/01/2013 21:10

PS what a very long post, euro!

Northey · 13/01/2013 21:25

So should I warm my womb or not? Gah!

euro, I am very impressed with your day's shooting. I had a 45 minute walk earlier and nearly got frostbite.

jethro, how are you feeling about egg collection tomorrow?

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 13/01/2013 22:27

Evening hags, you'll be glad to know that I have written about 1800 words for my 2000 word paper due in tomorrow. I shall read it at work (course is supported by work, so they can't whinge) and submit it. It is shit, but done :)

I just wanted to pop in to say GOOD LUCK to jeff for tomorrow's EC. I really hope it goes well.

Whilst the jury is out I shall warm my womble during periods and my feet at other times (my womble is not feeling cold under all those layers, however my feet are a different story altogether.

Wow at the shooting, both temperature and bull's eye wise, euro. I ventured outside the meet the nephews and SB this afternoon and froze to death. Failed to run as well, but that is okay, if I get that bloody paper in tomorrow!

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 14/01/2013 07:09

Morning BESH.

Good luck today Jeff, sending lots of collect-y vibes your way.

Well done on the assignment writing lemon, I've got an exam at the end of Feb so I really ought to get revising!

Stay safe in the snow today people - we've got an inch or two here and it's still snowing lightly.

Northey · 14/01/2013 07:34

Morning. A mere scattering of snow here. Bloody cold though. And I have a busy busy day ahead.

Good luck jeff. Let us know how it goes. Don't forget to take the banana out first.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 14/01/2013 08:45

Good luck Jeffers

TWinklyLittleStar · 14/01/2013 08:55

Good luck Jeff!

Just a dusting of snow here but enough that HWCA has to take the car to work rather than his bike, thus effectively cancelling my planned trip to the ice rink. Might potter around Westfield instead.

His mum seemed a lot better last night, they gave her some anti nausea jabs so she even managed some food. FIL, sadly, was a different story entirely.

maamalady · 14/01/2013 09:28

Good luck jeff!

We have about an inch of snow here, DH cycled off this morning looking very hardcore with the studded snow tyres on his bike.

I managed to get to the nurse - nearly cried on the phone when receptionist said no space today, but got a cancellation, hurrah! Now the FSH/LH tests are one, just got to do chlamydia swabs now, ugh.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 14/01/2013 09:46

Why do they think that barren women are awash with STDs? Grin

TWinklyLittleStar · 14/01/2013 09:58

Because every childless woman over 30 pins down any man that can't get away and seches away his sperm with evil cougar cunning, of course Hmm

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 14/01/2013 09:59

That's right

maamalady · 14/01/2013 09:59

It's bizarre, isn't it? DH and I are both very boring, only ever done the sechs with each other - the idea that we have STDs is laughable. If we do, it's down to some other mysterious transmission method!

I'm barren, not slutty.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 14/01/2013 10:01

Oooh. Strong words from the giraffe.

Disclaimer to any lurkers: obviously none of the BESH think that having had more than a few partners is anything akin to slutty.

maamalady · 14/01/2013 10:03

No, obviously not. But the NHS seem to think the two are the same...

(not that you need to be slutty to get an STD either, mind)