The femmes fatales of the BESH are lying back and thinking of England

[maamalady]

As witches and pumpkins become old hat, the BESH are scrubbing up well in salute to James Bond in general and Skyfall in particular. Put on your slinky cocktail dresses and stiletto heels, grab a Martini, and start schmoozing with well-dressed secret agents.

Insta-diffs will be shot with a quip but without a qualm. Anyone else wanting to join can dodge a few bullets post the BESHtionnaire.

Damn them all, rie.

I've got a letter from the doctor telling me to come in to discuss scan results. I've got an appointment in half an hour, and I am shitting myself. They never tell you to come in for good news, do they?

Fingers crossed for you draf

Draf I hope the appt goes well.

Damn her Rie. My friend who started trying for her second the same time as started ttc (she had a win the second month and the baby is about to turn 1...) has mentioned she plans to go for a third next year. What's the betting she gets there before I do?

"Maybe"????????????????????? Clearly that was meant to be baybee. Phone thinks it knows better than me. Cunt.

Good luck, draf. Letters from doctors are always dead scary

MrA and I have to have blood taken to check if we have HIV or hepatitis. I hope we don't! The other thing which has crossed my mind is my allergies. Could my body be rejecting spermz before they even get around to fertilising the eggs? I will ask at our appt on the 29th.

euro its incredibly frustrating. I can't really relax and enjoy sex for the sake of.it when I know we're wasting another month. I think, though he denies, its got a lot to do with his porn use. He's too used to getting himself off so either isn't up.for sex or can't finish. I don't know what to do.

rie damn your sister. I was visiting my friend's new baby and got a text to say another friend had gone into labour.

Well, in practical terms, nothing has changed - still waiting 6-8 weeks for a follow-up scan. However, I now know that:
*my uterus is normal
*my left ovary is enlarged because it has another 3cm cyst (like it did six months ago)
*my right ovary has multiple small follicles - ie is polycystic

Although this may not necessarily mean I have polycystic ovary syndrome, it will be haing an effect on my fertility. Yippee. At least I know my uterus is normal, so with any luck I may have a decent chance of holding on to an embryo, if the rest of me can be forced to play ball up to that point.

Well I wouldn't say "damn her". Steady on. It's not her fault I'm barren and she's not

PS winkly I'm not over-exaggerating when I say that porn is the scourge of modern manhood and it's having a terrible, terrible effect on men and boys, and for all his faults, I thank heavens that MrA doesn't get off on porn. I think it would make me incredibly sad and insecure. I don't have any advice really, but something needs to be done about that if it's affecting your relationship to that extent. Perhaps some therapy, and admission of the problem and some cold turkey.

draf I suppose that isn't brilliant news, but its not the very worst? Have they given any indication about where they'll go from her?

rie we're in the early stages of therapy. It seems to have unleashed a wave of anger that I didn't realise I felt towards him. He claims not to be using that much porn but I simply don't believe him. I even considered downloading a tracker onto his iPad - half like someone who thinks their other half is having an affair - but I've never been jealous in relationships and I don't want to start.

So difficult for you :(.

But good for you for tackling the issue with some therapy. I guess the first thing to happen would be for him to admit it, and to do that I guess he needs to feel that no one will judge him for it. But on the other hand you are, rightly, angry and hurt about it.

Have a sneaky hug as well as the blue shark.

Thanks rie

I suppose it's possible that I'm wrong about the porn but am just looking for a simple reason behind his our issues. But I don't think I am wrong.

You're right, of course, that your sister hasn't stolen all your fertility. Hope you get to enjoy your new niece/nephew.

Oh rie. I think I took part in that wager. Frustrating for you. (can't think of a better emotion)

Anyone seen the thread in iabu - poobaby? I know euro has, but I'm so glad it seems the lady is not pregnant. I'm not sure I could deal with the anger at ease of diffedness!

Oh, I'll damn anyone Rie! (I meant it in a kind of a way. )

winkly controversial suggestion I know, but would viewing p0rn together during dtd help? It's obviously not a long term solution, but if the short term priority is getting swimmers to cervix, it might help? I do think p0rn has had some bad effects (in particular, normalising some pretty abnormal behaviours) but personally I think it can have a place. It's just people having the sechs after all (provided no one is getting hurt, etc). Obviously, only if you are comfortable with it.

We did, back in the day euro but nowadays I reckon it would simply confirm my suspicions that I'm just not enough for him.

I read the poobaby fred. If she had been diffed I think I, well, I don't know what would have happened but I would have been cross. I do get pissed off with a lot of the POAS freds.

Winkly, it's understandable because most POAS threads (or rather those asking should I...) are written by imbeciles or cunts. Or imbecile cunts.

Loving your rage sinky

It's not rage winkly, it's fact.

Imbeciles or cunts. Love it!

Show me the thread. Let me feel the rage.

Whenever anyone tries to post a "POAS?" Or "Could I be...?" thread, a message should flash up on screen saying "Has an erect penis been anywhere near your foof in the last month? If yes, then yes you might be pregnant."

I've just posted on the "TTC for 6 months" thread. I am proud of the fact I maintained my composure and didn't turn into a screaming banshee.

Baby was very cute. I held him for ages and she let me feed him. Sadly his time in neo-natal has meant he's refusing the boob, so she's having to bottle feed.

Ooh, going off to look. I nearly posted bitterly on that thread earlier. 6 months? HOw about nearly three fucking years love?

rie, that was exactly my thought...

wink have PM'd you.

rie how crap :( knew it was coming somehow. Grr

tipps I guess at least it's positive you're moving forward?

I just worked for 14 hours so I'm a bit tired but I luff you all.

This thread is irritating me.

I started reading it. I stopped!