Fantastic 40+ Thread - Part Eight.

[goldengirl71]

"Come on ovaries! Let's get this party started, yeah?"

golden soooo excited for you!! Bet you never expected such fantastic news. Know what you mean about being " looked after" . It means you are not carrying all the burden yourself and that reduces the stress dramatically which can only help. The fact also that she was so positive about the future is fantastic. It couldn't happen to a better person. Don't worry DP will do the necessary and shoot his sperm exactly where and when you tell. He knows better than not to...!

Lots of fertile cm today. Didn't get a smiley til day 17 last cycle(29 day cycle) .Im cd 11 today so would imagine I'd ovulate before cd 17??? Planning on Dtd every other day from yesterday with Viagra enhanced DP! Nothing more I can do.

remnant Im not sure about the bfing.. I bf ds until 12 mths but didn't even get a period for a couple of month after. You can definitely get pregnant while bfing - threads on it here. But as you say,maybe age and bfing together may delay your chances of conceiving. However I'm no expert. Quite sure that the rest of the ladies here will be able to offer some help and advise. Good luck

Blimey, Pink, your kind words have warmed me cockles! Thank you so much x

Golden how utterly exciting!! That's just such positive news!! Am imagining your juicy eggs ready to burst from your ovaries! Hope you & DH are able to be at it like rabbits & the Viagra does the trick.

Was really sorry to see you've had AF, Calibee I know how much it meant to you for things to happen before your DP goes away for training.

Tina how are you doing? Any symptoms yet? Mine are still few & far between, if that's any consolation.

Have recovered from my day of metalling yesterday - was really struggling. Today has been better as had work to distract me. Less than 48 hours to the next scan...

Oooh Golden good luck for tonight, hope it's twins!

Diege why not, go for it!

Welcome remnant ! I never started having periods until a few months after I finished breast feeding my three,so I would presume it must affect your fertility, though midwives always seem to drum it into you not to consider breastfeeding a form of contraceptive so some people must still get pregnant.

pink I've not been charting temps that long but the cycle where I was charting and went on to conceive I know I ovulated on d14 but dtd on d13 and d15 so not on the actual day of ovulation.
If you are going to dtd every other day you're in with a good chance.

Even though the statistics of us conceiving may be about 1% every month, someone has to be that 1% so why not us!
If you look at the odds of me at 44 conceiving three times in a 6 mth period it would be extremely unlikely.
Sadly it works the other way too, the likelihood of miscarrying after a heartbeat at 8 weeks is supposed to be 1% but that happened me too.
I think we just have to keep strong and keep hoping and not worry too much about numbers and statistics!

Not that I'm feeling very strong tonight, it would have been my due date so I'm feeling a bit weepy. I've been to church today and lit a candle for all our little lost babies. x

Thanx all for comments

remnant the web site kellymom is the best place for breastfeeding science. Certain habits 'ethological breastfeeding' makes it less likely for you to start cycling whist feeding eg feeding at night, on demand, certain things may bring on cycles eg suddenly dropping a feed. I have only just stopped feeding DS (2 and 3 months) after v gradual babyled reduction and I've only had 6 cycles so far.

There is a friendly ttc whilst bfing thread in conception. I feel I can't visit now!

Oh Irish I'm sorry it's a sad day for you. The due dates are truly awful, especially when you're not pregnant & desperately want to be. Big hugs x

I agree statistics are a strange thing. Personally, I'm a statistical blip: molar pregnancy (1:1000) HELLP syndrome (

cheese, thanks for saying that about stats. Although I know I've beaten the odds by getting pregnant twice at age 44 and once at age 45 (sadly all miscarriages), and also the damned stat of not miscarrying after a heartbeat at 8 weeks (also happened to me twice), I still feel a little stab of pain when I hear that my chance is about 1%. It's like being 25 and on the pill. I am always saying we shouldn't listen to stats, but when feeling hopeless on this terribly difficult road to conception, it's hard not to.The only good thing about the shitty stats is that my DH is happy to have sex during O time because he thinks there's no chance of conceiving

Deige, you must know how I feel about you ttc. SO EXCITED. Don't wait,lovely,I wish with all my heart that I hadn't. Like cat and remnant I breastfed for ages (and really loved it),but in hindsite I wish I'd weaned him earlier, it may have given me a better chance of conceiving back when I was 42 or 43.

My temperature took a nose dive, so not feeling very positive anymore about having conceived this cycle, or that I ever will. Now, I think,PMS is settling in which just makes it all the worse.I'm due AF in the next few days, should feel better then.

Golden, great news about your juicy eggs. I hope they are getting fertilized as I type.

Let's just ignore statistics, shall we?! With all that effort going on here to get knocked up, they can't apply (she tells herself in semi-delusional attitude...)

Good news about your consultant, golden, it's brilliant that you've got someone who understands and is willing to act on it! Good luck and go for it!

My temp appears to stay up, little blip yesterday, but on the upwards slope again today - I think I am spending far too much time on FertilityFriend, starting at this flippin' chart! On 7 DPO now, and starting to cross every finger/toe/whatever for good luck. Can't believe how desperate I'm getting , and we've only been trying since June - ttc really is becoming the outlet for my bad work situation. Not sure that's a good thing, but hey-ho...

hopeful - sounds as if you're at the same stage in your cycle, good luck! Maybe it'll work out...

It doesn't help that both my NCT friends that I stayed in touch with are pregnant again - it would be soooo great if we were off on mat leave together again next year! (OK, so now I'm starting to sound really desperate!)

I am so sad that I have upset everyone with my stupid stats comment

Hugs, Irish. It was my due date on the 8th and AF arrived the next day So lovely that you remembered all our lost babies at church. Thank you

Gum, frigging bummer that you feel AF is inevitable and I totally understand that sinking gloom which says we'll never conceive. Why, oh, why do we invest so much energy and hope into these bloody temperatures? It's sickening to see them rise and then drop. I totally second your 'staring at charts all day', JBrd, especially in the final week of the 2ww.

I guess, for some of us who are on this thread every day we spend alot of time sharing our doubts and dreams only for that dream to end on the sight of a couple of days' temps. It is just shattering. It's horrid and tiring and seemingly hopeless - and then we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and try again next cycle. Gum, please don't take this the wrong way - I'm not an evangelist and I know I sound hypocritical after saying you shouldn't take it behind DH's back but do you think you may consider Clomid?

Well, DP spent two hours on the badminton court last night and came home energised and 'high'. He didn't feel he needed a Viagra and so we went ahead without it...and had wonderful horny sex! I'm so proud of my man! He was so confident...makes me wonder even more about the merits of exercise, especially the competetive stuff. When he's won a match he comes home feeling great about himself, it's so lovely to see. So, the all-important session will be tonight; I'm CD15 and should be ovulating between midnight and tomorrow morning according to my injection

...which, by-the-way, would coincide perfectly with yesterday morning's LH surge

Happy shagging golden Go girl go!!

Hey, Goth! Happy World Goth Day!!

Thanks, Pink!

Gum, I'll be around on this thread at midnight tonight for you if you need to talk - you usually come on here late at night British time. Chin up, love x

afternoon all - hope everyone is well?

Golden fantastic news about your ripe follicles and your horny sex lol, I'm well jel as my husband refuses to do it until I've had the first scan, plus it's pretty icky anyway at the moment due to the progesterone pessaries I'm still using (sorry if thats tmi!) can't wait to find out if it worked for you, sounds very promising!

Cheese not much in the way of symptoms no, I felt a bit sick and faint yesterday morning and my stomach's been a bit off this afternoon but no sore boobies this time, maybe it's because it's a boy this time I don't know! Feels weird as I don't really feel pregnant - it's only the size of a pea so maybe when it gets a bit bigger I'll have more symmptoms then I'll wish I'd kept quiet!

Gum sorry you're feeling low, wish I could wave a magic wand for you :-(

lots of hugs to Irish and lovely that you lit the candle for all of us too xx

Golden what a hero your husband is!!! I'm so glad he was able to rise to the occasion!

Tina I agree with your theory about boys & lack of symptoms - I'm sure many won't agree though! DP & I have not dtd since BFP either: my sex drive in pregnancy is non-existent - and then there's the psychological side too ( ie fear of m/c).

How are you doing Miasmummy? You've been through the mill, emotionally.

Good luck to the ladies on the 2ww - crossing everything for you.

Have another scan tomorrow afternoon - feel reasonably calm (not confident though) & trying to prepare for the worst rather than getting my hopes up.

Fucking hell, if DP doesn't get his act together soon....

Phew! The deed is done - no thanks to a Man United footie match

Good luck for your scan tomorrow, Cheese!

'My work here is done....' [chuffed that SWI is finished for another month]

Yay! You can relax now Golden !

Good luck for tomorrow cheese, will be thinking of you. x

Oof! Lower back ache and period-type cramps. Is this what ovulation feels like??

Hey ladies...just a quickie this morning.
So very excited for you Golden heres hoping both eggs get a good seeing to :)
I'm not going to stick around and moan...suffice to say my mood is as miserable as our British weather right now. My central heating is on the blink and my car needs two new tyres which I must get done before I take OH on his journey up north on Saturday.
We have our consultants appointment on Friday....something tells me it will do nothing to lift my spirits.
Take care ladies x

Swim, bad boys ,swim to goldens bursting follicles!

Just checking in with good news: I've just seen my little wriggler on a scan, at 10+2.

Such a relief, although I felt strangely calm before, which worried me as I have no grounds for complacency given my history.

Even better, the sonographer was able to point out the nasal bone, which is a big relief given my age.

So another hurdle overcome, but I still have a long way to go. Provided I get to 12 weeks, it's the cvs V. Amnio debate. Etc etc.

One step at a time, though....

Nice to be reading some good news here. Hope the luck holds out

I have been thinking a lot about stopping bfing. I was feeding on demand until last month, then cut it back to no feeds during the day. This week I'm only doing feeds between 6am and when I get up. Worth trying by the sounds of it. I'm not sure I'd like how it would feel if I did force dc1 to completely wean now and then still not get pregnant.

I've made myself an appointment at a fertility clinic. Not sure what I expect really. I'm sort of hoping they can give me a blood test or something and then tell me if there's much chance of another conception. Is it anything like that simple?

anyway, fingers crossed about for all these eggs and embryos floating about