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Rainbow Babies. Making it through the storm, missing our Angels, loving and hoping for Rainbows.

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RainboxFX · 11/10/2012 09:22

A shiny new thread in memory of our angels. To bring us all BFPs, sticky beans and healthy happy Rainbows.

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greengoose · 12/11/2012 12:00

Hi KLEINE, glad you have your appt sorted, well done!

The bit I had in my first post, the most important bit for me that, for some unconscious reason, I didn't re-write in my repost, is that today Merryn would have been seven months. I cant begin to believe it has been that long since she was born. It's far too long and time has made a mistake.

Love you Merryn, my little girl who wouldn't be so little anymore. I am the only one who remembered this month, maybe as it should be now. Xx

KleinePoppet · 12/11/2012 12:50

I'll be thinking of Merryn today. I often think of her lovely little face. I wish you had been able to watch her grow - she would have been such a beauty. Much love xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 12/11/2012 13:59

Hi there. All your lovely thoughts towards me and my little rainbow are just lovely - thank you.

Green remembering gorgeous Merryn, and her heart-shaped stones of love... I think it's ok to remind family that this is an important day every month. I do. Maybe by not 'officially' thinking about ttc, it might feel normal. After all, it is an enjoyable activity, but somehow, that can get lost when there are so many emotions and expectations around it all. Hmm. That sounds a little callous like that, as feeling normal is the last thing you are probably able to do after these last tumultuous months, but I hope you get what I mean...

Kleine yay for an appointment. Little steps.

fan hugs to you, you truly are my wonderwoman with your courage! Not that this really helps you, but know that you are loved and supported by your MN friends here.

blizy how are you feeling today after your brother's farewell?

angel personally, I would be adopting a friend / local gym in your situation!! Just makes me shiver. Yet for some bizarre reason, we are doing nothing about our own boiler, even though it is on its last legs and I have already said to MrMia I cannot think of anything worse than a cold house with a new baby and a houseful of family here for Christmas!!

amyboo what a scary week, but glad baby is ok, and that you can now be monitored on the discoveries which turned up. Hope it hasn't been too emotionally tough - or if so, that you are taking things easy this week.

blue on the countdown with you, sounds like you are well and truly ready for this baby to make an appearance!! I'd like baby to appear on cue, but wondering if it might want to choose its own birthday.

whatever loving all the photos of little H, she is so cute!! 12 weeks already...

elly hope your break away was what you needed, and that an offer for an alternative Christmas location has transpired. I have avoided baby clothes for almost a year, it is totally normal, I think. Online is definitely the way to go.

babyH loved your colours of autumn flowers. Made me smile. Thank you.

rainbox we are here for you, lovely. Just write when you can. Sometimes I find writing does feel overwhelming, other time it helps so much to clear my head and figure out why I am feeling the way I do.

I went through the year's worth of paperwork for Mia on Friday night, as it has been sitting on the floor of the study all this time, and we really do need to sort it out. MrMia came home to find me sobbing my heart out. I found a picture drawn by one of Mia's cousins of a rainbow, with MrMia and I holding hands with a little curly-topped red-head... and then I found the little packet of Mia's curls we have kept.

Today I have just done a joint interview with the local paper about working with two other bereaved mothers whose children also died in the same hospital. The hospital has approached us about becoming more involved, and as we have some very clear goals about what we want to achieve in terms of 1/ paediatric care 2/ communications with bereaved parents, we are really hoping that this time, the hospital is ready to listen and act.

fanjodisfunction · 12/11/2012 14:45

Just a quick post to say thanks for all the making me feel nice posts, you are all fantastic women!

I will catch up later when I'm at home on the laptop.

fanjodisfunction · 12/11/2012 18:47

Thanks to rainbox for reminding me of the great Flight of the Conchords. Please ladies if you need a laugh watch the following link!

miasmum Mia's Legacy, the wood, the work you are going to do at the hospital and the love you show for her every day, its amazing. Your children are very lucky to have you. So excited for you, only a few weeks to go!

blue thinking of you constinitly, have you had any twinges? Did E go to full term?

green Im so glad your body has stopped the bleeding. Are you going to continue OV testing this week just in case its the miscarriage making it positive? Not sure how likly that is but I know that OPKS can be used as early warning signs of pregnancy so.

wtw thankyou for hot chocolate on sunday was lovely to see you and K and H again.

poppet thank you for you kind words, it is a hard journey and Im sure it has no end untill the day I die. We just get used to carrying this loss with us.

everyone else have a hug from me, I think we all deserve it.

right back to the crochet hook I think, have a few christmas pressies to be getting on with.

AngelGeorgie · 12/11/2012 19:17

Green glad your bleeding had stopped. Sometimes life hurts too much doesn t it? I find I want to stop thinking & quite often I can't... Xxx much love xx
Miasmum do sort your boiler out ... It's horrible... Ours went in Jan for 4 days when I was on mat leave & Phebs was 3 months old.. That was scarey ... We are members of a gym but of course, we ve currently suspended our membership as was costing us £80 a month to visit twice a month!!! Friends have offered the loan if their shower but its a lot of hassle with Phebs etc... So we re showering at my work in the am... !!!!
Kleine well done on the appt.. Xxx
Love to all , got to rush off for the world's smallest bath before it gets cold (= 11 kettles of water!!!) 4 days to boiler day GrinGrin come on Friday .... Xxx

blizy · 12/11/2012 20:37

Fan I Grin at the video!

Angel, nightmare with the boiler, roll on Friday.

Green, thinking of Merryn today, hope you are ok?

Oh man, I have just forgotten everything I have read, sorryBlush. I must try harder! Hope you are all doing ok, thinking of you and all of our angels. X

Well that's my baby bro away, he had a fab party with family and friends on sat night. Poor boy was sobbing his heart out, he will miss the birth of my sis's baby and is gutted about it. I seen him last night for more hugs. He will be gone for 7 weeks, home for 4 days then away again for 7 weeks. After that comes the scary partSad.

Dh is working away in Birmingham until Thursday, we travel to Manchester on fri and fly out to Vegas in Fri! I can't wait.Grin

fanjodisfunction · 12/11/2012 20:55

blizy ahh bless your bro, its hard when they leave, but harder for you I'm sure with him in the armed forces.
Glad you liked the video! Enjoy vegas, I love that town, make sure you see the bellagio fountains, and the mirage volcano and the tresure island battle! Enjoy all the food, I'm envious used to spend my summers in the states working, I really miss it.

Bluetinkerbell · 12/11/2012 21:48

I'm still lurking trying to get as much rest as I can before baby arrives! 39+1 today, midwife came and said head is engaged, been having some Braxton Hicks since Saturday, I'm just hoping it happens soon as I start to get a bit anxious. Last night I started prodding my belly as I different feel her during the night, she tends to get very quiet at night. She's been moving fine today.

greengoose · 13/11/2012 00:12

BLUE... Nearly there now!! Have you that attractive 'head engaged waddle' going on?! It should be soon then! I know you will be anxious, but you are sooo close to holding your little one, Im so excited for you!

BLIZY, you sound like you have such a lovely brother, and he had a wonderful send off, full of love!
Vegas! I am a little green here... It sounds soo much fun. It is unfortunately a town I shall never visit, too close to where my sister lives, and I would feel obliged to visit! ( we really don't get on, she didn't even phone me after Merryn was born, but that's another story)!

ANGEL... hoping you are all snug and warm in bed, and not too cold in your house. Roll on Friday....

FAN.... What are you crocheting?? Home made presents are lovely! (I had plans this year, but they probably won't be done in time).
Re what you said about ov sticks, I know it was a 'real' poss because I was checking that I got a genuine negative on the preg test (and ov test) before I trusted the poss ov test, this was at advice of epu. Also all the other signs are there, and I know my body quite well now. The consultant said it was fine to try before a period, guidance on this has changed I think, not sure why.

MIASMUMMY.... You have been doing such difficult things. I am in awe at the bravery you have in working with the hospital, so worthwhile. Mia's sibling is so lucky to have you as parents.
You didn't sound callous, but I don't think I can 'not think' about ttc, any pretence I give of being in control of this is a sham... I am beginning to roll with it a little though!

Well, DP is off to London. ( I can't wait until this changes after Christmas). We, unusually for us, had a row before he left. Nothing much, I had thought he was taking afternoon off and getting later train, he had thought he was working. I just miss him. He knows that, and was patient on the whole with my ranting, and has sent me a lovely email, but I wish he was here. I think I'm a bit of a wreck today, hopefully the morning will be better. I'm going to an auction with a lovely friend to look for a new sink. (I broke ours in a freak accident with a toothbrush holder last week, don't ask)!

AngelGeorgie · 13/11/2012 06:39

Green enjoy your auction xxx
Blizy wow Vegas baby!!! U jammy bugger ... Never been to the USA planning to in a few years time... How fab? Love to u re brother, as I said, my bro was in Iraq for 6 months; very scarey..., xxx was warm in bed now freezing again Sad
Fan hi xxx
Blue yippee ...Grin nearly there xxxx
Crap night again Phebs coughing +++ woke up about, a million times.... Thinking of ways to leave work early today...Wink xxx

blizy · 13/11/2012 07:53

Thanks girls!
Angel, hope Phebs is better soon. A cheeky early finish from work sounds fab.

Green, I am Angry and Shock at your sister. How awful for you.

Fan, thanks for the tips, we are staying at planet Hollywood which is across the road from Bellagio.

Blue, hope you are doing ok? My sis baby is due on thurs eek!

The Vegas trip is a belated honeymoon we will be there over ours order anniversary instead. AF is also due to arrive while we are awayAngry.

Hope you all have a good day, got to go before mindees arrive.

Babyh200 · 13/11/2012 10:13

Good morning ladies
Looks like we are all back on form because there has been loads of activity since my last post.
So much to say to everyone and not enough time to do it in!!

Angel: Hope poor phebs improves today.....for both of you. Going to work on no sleep is awful so hope you manage to find a way to sneak home early xxxxxx
PS can't believe I'm saying this but our heating is also on the way out :(

Fan: Business time really made me howl laughing this morning. Hope you ok....thinking of you and your angel babies.......such a strange time is the right description for your life at the moment and as usual your busy with your crochet stick thinking of others your so kind. I hope more than anything contentment is on its way to you xxxxx

Miasmum: tears rolled down my face reading about the red curls and the rainbow picture. Yet your so inspiring with your plans to change things at the hospital and make a difference to other propels lives. I'm off to counselling soon at the Alder Centre in Liverpool.......our weekly visits have really saved our sanity. Also all of the counsellors have lost children themselves so know exactly how we feel. Hugs to you, Mr Mia and bump xxxxxx

Blizy: glad your bro had a good send off. Wow I bet you can't wait to get to Vegas baby. How long are you going for.?

Green: talking of Vegas, these families of ours can be so complex for one reason or another. No excuse for your sister not phoning after Merryns loss.....I sympathise and understand after 'A' died we got a text from DH's sister saying
'Sorry for your loss' like we were an acquaintance rather than family!! Glad your bleeding has stopped and good luck with the sink!

Amy: So delighted for you that your having a beautiful boy, hope everything ok xxxxxxx

Blue: not long can't wait for your rainbow, selfishly I think it will lift us all too :) wishing these last days fly by quickly xxxxxxxx

Kliene: saved you for last on purpose!! Lots of things you have said lately have stuck with me. First your post about the upcoming baby births in RL. (Strenuously stressing not the MNers) your post just made me feel human about those mixed emotions. One of my feelings was I've done all the work....carried my baby for 9 months and now have no baby. Why has someone inflicted this hell on us ??? It just feels so unfair yet we only want the best for our friends/family who are having their babies......worrying that they will arrive safely yet sad because their is no baby on the horizon for ourselves. Such a crazy mix of emotions. Thinking of your appointment in 10 days time and wishing that you never had to go down this road to begin with because your beautiful 'E' was here. When you mentioned thinking of Merryns picture, I often picture her little face too and 'E's and the other children's pictures posted and I have been privileged to share. Xxxxxxxx PS: I so wish your dream of my BFP was true.....the last time someone said that to me was when I was pregnant with 'A' and I hadn't announced it so sometimes dreams can come true :) xxxxxxxxx

My life is running at a million miles an hour at the moment, will save it for another time because late for counselling session.

Love to all xxxxx

fanjodisfunction · 13/11/2012 13:46

green I'm crocheting some fingerless mittens for my mum and a snood scarf thing for DH. Might make something for my Nan yet. It does feel nice making things, I like the oreder and repetative stuff about it.

blizy the last time I was in Vegas was 10 years ago wow! But its such a fun city, just have fun. Becuase its all about the gambling lots of stuff are free like the things I mentioned above, they are the street entertainment outside the hotels. Its like no other place on earth. Its so over the top too, oh and watch out for the guys giving out free leaflets on the strip, they are handing out porn! Lol.

babyh waves how's it going? Good luck with the counselling. I really hope it helps.

Moominsarescary · 13/11/2012 16:12

Hello everyone,
I have some serious reading to do to catch up! Hope everyone is allright?

I will be 27 weeks tomorrow, everything seems fine, although I'm having a reaction to the progesterone so I'm considering talking to the consultant about stopping them soon.

Feeling much better about things, we've even bought the double pushchair!

fanjodisfunction · 13/11/2012 17:30

Waves to angel and moomins

angel did you manage to get away early?

moomins wow 27 weeks!

AngelGeorgie · 13/11/2012 20:53

No Fan didn t manage to sneak off early Sad was incredibly busy. & loads if crisp to sort out ... ( like; all admin staff striking for 3 days next week so needed to alter clinics at all 3 sites & look at covering reception along with doing my clinics!!! & my boss has tendered his resignation . Which is no great shock but unsettling never the less to see wheter they ll still expect me to " act up" or they ll advertise for a new manager...)
BabyH hope u re counselling went ok? Xxx
Blizy I m so Envy of your hols. Sounds fab ... What a brill way to celebrate your anniversary... Xxx
Hope all are well ... Nothing to report ; on countdown to Friday , incredibly tired so off to bed.... Love to all xxxxx

spilttheteaagain · 14/11/2012 14:19

Hi all, I have missed you! Been reading quick snatches. Freya has been down with an AWFUL batch of D&V since last weds and is finally better I think. Weds afternoon and all through the night she was puking at 5-45 min intervals, I have never seen her looking so wretched and wrung out. No sleep for anyone. DH was madly pegging up laundry at 2am, 5am etc and flinging in the next batch of vomit soaked everything. Just hideous. So very scary, I was really panicking about dehydration and have to say thank for still breastfeeding as it was the only thing she was keeping down something of. It was Monday before she could even keep water down. Poor mite needs fattening up again. My boobs however now need popping as she's done the old upping supply trick. Ah well! Just so happy to have her running around and giggling for us again.

So what have I missed?
I see blue is really just about there! Very excited for you, can't wait to hear the news xxx

angel argh work sounds like a whole pile of hassle just now, I really hope Phebs is feeling better?

miasmummy take note from angel and get that boiler serviced!!

moomins 27 weeks, you are doing great! What's the plan, when are they taking your stitch out?

kleine I hope your appointment next week is the start of the dream becoming real, you so deserve it, good luck xxx

babyh here's hoping Kleine's dream comes true for you!

green ((())) no words, just a massive hug, you are being so brave, I wish you all the luck in the world with this next ttc mission.

blizy what an exciting holiday!

Love to everyone else x

Moominsarescary · 15/11/2012 00:49

Poor Freya ds3 was the same a few weeks ago, was awful watching him feel so poorly.

I'm not sure yet, around 35-36 weeks, I'm seeing the consultant a week on Monday so will probably discuss it then. I want to make sure I can have some gas and air when he removes it!

Babyh200 · 15/11/2012 07:50

Morning all
Just a quick check in before another busy day. Counselling went ok it's great to go and just let everything out that whirling round in your head :)

Split: Poor poor Freya.....sounds like you've had an awful time. Glad she's on the mend. My DS was once sick in every room in the house in the end we put him on the patio outside! (In my defence was summer though) hope your boobies recover soon :)

Moomins: Wow for 27 weeks.....almost in your last trimester I bet the time will fly by xxxxx

Blizy: Yay for Vegas tomorrow. I too was fortunate enough to go many moons ago the millennium year actually :) you must be so excited xxxx

Angel: not so exciting but only one more day until you get some heat....then a lie in on Saturday xxxxx

Fan hope your ok and busy with the crochet.

Rainbox: thinking of you.

Amy: hope your ok, thinking of you and your growing boy especially after all your recent stress xxxx

Thinking of all the other growing rainbows too :)

Hope the day is kind to all you lovely ladies.

Nothing to report here......my week is improving after a stressful 3 hour meeting on Monday with dh's work to find out when he will be back! Busy decorating and the car has got to go in the garage later....Don't ask lol

Waiting for the dreaded AF to arrive. Had a few pains (still praying klienes dream comes true......made me smile that did kliene we all need hope don't we!)

Love to all

Nearly forgot GREEN.....hope you got a sink :)

Babyh200 · 15/11/2012 07:55

Waves to Kliene too......sorry realised I missed you. Hope your ok? Waves to anyone else I've not mentioned. Gotta go late for the school run xxxxxx

Ellypoo · 15/11/2012 11:03

So sorry I've been AWOL - things have been pretty tough here.

Am going to start reading back and catching up, but I hope you are all doing ok.

Working from home today because stove fitters are putting our log burners in so I can spend a bit of time catching up ;)

Babyh200 · 15/11/2012 11:50

Hi Elly,
Sorry things are tough at the moment. Hope you and your little growing rainbow are ok. How's the shopping coming along? I'm another one sticking to online!
Sending big hugs xxxxx

Bluetinkerbell · 15/11/2012 18:53

Just to let you lovely ladies know I'm having contractions and midwife is on her way to come and check me out! :)

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 15/11/2012 19:02

ooooh!!