Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

wilde come on and pull yourself together girl! of course it was unlikely they would come and stay with you for a weekend when you are pg. i think any of us can remember what it's like to have a pregnant friend when you have just mc'd. it's bloody awful. you said yourself that you haven't seen one of your pg friends since mc.

my dh wanted me to go for a weekend away with friends and their baby just before i got pg this time. there was no way i would have done it and i didn't.

i try to be normal as i can with pg people soon after mc but it's bloody hard. i can only see them in small doses and on my own terms eg go to their house so i can leave when i want to, just pop in for a quick brew so i am not stuck there for ages etc.

you did the right thing by telling them. imagine if you have tried to keep it secret it would have been much worse.

hope you are feeling better about it today.

Very quick post - mini jaffa is here! She was born this morning by c-sec. She's fine, so am I. Was a bit of a drama but all is well. Proper post later.

Yay! Congratulations, Jaffa! Sorry to hear it was a bit of a drama but the main thing is she's here safe and you're ok too. Such lovely news to come on to the thread to read! [hgrin]

Congratulations - so glad she is here!

This AF was completely back to normal for me, all the ones since have been different to before my mc so I am feeling more positive - will be interesting to see if my cbfm thinks the same! Bad news is that DH is in the states for two weeks (weel except thurs night to sun) so not here during the window!

Brilliant news jaffa!

Great news Jaffa xx

Fab news Jaffa, many congratulations!

wheeee! congrats jaffa how amazing for you sorry about drama tho.

yeah was being a hormonal twat yesterday pebs and jolly. much more with it today. i think it was that they cancellled after saying yes upset me but whatevs, course they can't see me.

yay jaffa!

bugger about dh being away over your dtd window mrsh. glad AF treated you kindly.

Congratulations jaffa and welcome mini Jaffa. Enjoy each other and rest whilst you have the chance.

No I'm being the hormonal twat wilde - I nearly defriended one of my best friends from Facebook yesterday!!

glad you are feeling better today wilde. these emotions are hard to deal with.

remember your friends accepted your invitation when they thought they were spending a weekend with friends in the same boat. once you told them your situtation it would have been very difficult for them to come.

like i said i really try to not be the crazy mc woman who won't see a pg friend but it's really hard even popping in for a cuppa sometimes.

try not to take it personally. we all just have to get through the best way we can.

you will probably find they get pg again soon and everything will be back to normal.

i am feeling scarily positive since my scan on saturday. it's a new thing for me! still can't tell anyone though!!

no jolly, please don't be hard on yourself. Am so sorry you had a hard time with your friend :( is the weirdest, hardest and strangest thing dealing with friends' pregnancies after miscarriage. I have wracked my brains but I don't think there is actually a word for the feeling in the English language. I never felt bitter, or jealous, or envious - I was happy for them. I just felt so sad for what I didn't have, which could be called jealousy or envy but it just wasn't.

I don't know anyone who has mc'ed that hasn't felt like this, especially when every fucker aroundabout is getting up the stick.

I have hidden the status updates of loads of people in hormonal fits over the past few months, can't stand their pregnancy and baby bullshit. My SIL was almost a victim and couple of months ago when she posted about how having a baby and being a mum is the best thing in the world. And I really love my SIL! but yes, I wanted to tell her to fuck the fuck off

ANd even though I am apparently 11 weeks pg and have two healthy scans I just can't buy into even my own pregnancy yet so... the feelings haven't really gone.

we understand :)

so happy you are feeling positive pebs!

well we told them our news and they came back to us a couple of days later saying they would still like to come (we were excited and pleased) then cancelled late the night before. I am oversensitive about it, I know, they can't help how they feel. It is a completely rational reaction on their part :)

i didn't know they had said they were coming then cancelled last minute. sorry about that.

just hide people who bug you on facebook jolly they will never know and you can still have a nosey if you feel like it.

lot's of baby bores are hidden on mine!

Huzzah for the safe (if dramatic) arrival of miniJaffa Lovely, lovely news. Congrats ChezJaffa - enjoy getting to know your newest, snuggliest member xx

Congratulations to Jaffa!!! lovely news, so glad your DD is here safely - when you have time (!) let us know her name.

wilderumpus I'm not convinced of my own pregnancy either, despite 2 scans - it just doesn't seem real. Terrified of another mmc......

Congratulations jaffa so happy for you!

Oh jolly and wilde I feel your pain, its really hard and you never know how your emotions will react, I've realised that I'm ok when the friend who's pregnant is someone who's been thru pregnancy shit like mc or ectopic, I'm not proud of feeling like this and know I'm jealous of people who who have an easy ride.

Hercule how frustrating, tho maybe a month off will help strengthen things for next time!

I got my blood tests back, all ok. So just dp to have his sperm test next...doc's advice was just get down to it 2 or 3 times a week

Hello everyone else!

sounds like a plan dorita

I am feeling really crap today. I am having the day off work. I had my tea last night and it just didn't settle right. I was up all night with my stomach churning and I was sick. still feel bad now. trying to get back to sleep but I am struggling.

any suggestions to make me feel better? wad thinking of some peppermint tea but need to go out to get it.

Gaviscon - the chewable tablets used to help me...

oh pebs was it indigestion? Def time to get the gaviscon in if so. I can't eat after about 6pm or will feel like my food is churning and sitting right at the bottom of my windpipe, like I might gag. does that sound similar? Def gaviscon if so. Gave in nda got some for me today even tho I haven't had my 12 week scan yet and am going to feel really miserable putting stuff like gaviscon away if I find out the pg has gone tits up.

am emotional today, think I've cried about three times already about daft stuff.

good news dorita! good luck with DP and dtd :)

be well ladies x

Damn it AF just arrived, had got my hopes up a bit having felt really nauseous last week but it had stopped on Friday. Then accidentally trapped ds's hand in the door as he came to visit me as I sat on the loo. Getting so fed up of doing all this shagging. This month a weekend away with friends that I'd booked to take my mind off it falls just about when I think I'll ov, although never actually sure when this happens for me anyway.

On the subject of pregnancy jealousy I'm ok with people on their first pregnancy but when I hear of friends who had a dc same time as me on their second I can't help feeling "why not us!" Got very upset when an NCT friend announced her preg just after my mc thankfully by text so only dh was witness to my tears. The next day met up with a friend from work who had an ectopic pregnancy, her 3rd mc, but had still rung to congratulate me when she'd heard I was pg with ds a few weeks later. Felt a bit ashamed of myself then.

Sorry me, me, me. Congratulations jaffa. Hope you're feeling better pebs.

maybe it was indigestion. I have never had it before!

just woken up now and feel very tired still but need to get something to eat.

sorry to hear af got you busy

Buzzy bee - sorry to hear that it's not your month.

Pebs - hope you feel better soon. Sounds like either reflux or a virus. Lots around at the moment.

Jaffa - hope you're doing ok and that mini Jaffa is feeding/sleeping well for you. A whole new set of worries!

CD8 here so I suppose I'd better psych myself up for some bedroom action soon!

Hi! I'm much much better than I was yesterday! Mini jaffa is sleeping next to me in the hospital, and she is wonderful! After all the many metalling sessions, she is finally here and I can see she is well, kiss her and hold her. I can't tell you how blessed I feel!

Yesterday was a tough day, and I don't have fond memories of her birth, but in my mind I am consigning it to the end of a difficult pregnancy. I got to the hospital, dilating rapidly, (have history of fast labour), and they could not give me the Caesarian because the theatres were full of emergencies. So I spent the whole labour trying not to progress, and very anxious I was going to end up having a vaginal breech delivery despite my wishes. The stats are 1 in 100 babies suffer permanent disability from a vaginal breech delivery, which are not acceptable odds for me, (or any other metaller I suspect). I was 10 cm and trying not to push when they got me into the theatre. So I had most of labour and a c-sec yesterday. Was knackered! But much much better today, and by whatever means, she is here, forever.
Thank you for all your lovely wishes. I will be back here soon. Much love to you all, especially those got by AF. X

Thanks pebs! Sorry you go AF buzzy I manage to convince myself each month as I'm sure I'm feeling sick, have funny twinges...have finally realised these things must always have happened but I've never been obsessed with my body in this way before!!

Jaffa I can see your smile through your message, can just imagine how happy you must be (despite yesterday's fun!)

Get to it jolly no time like the present! Ditto in our house