Just Shagging - The lazy TTCers heaven, this is Shaggers Corner, Part 11

[Kittenkatzen]

(sorry I know that's awful but seriously, can you think of anything else that rhymes with "eleven"?!)

Ladies, leave your OPKs at the door, and settle in for part 11 of JSing!

Fred rules;

1. Thou shalt shag as much as humanly possible in order to get upduffed.
2. Thou shalt not partake of OPKs, temping, or charting.
3. Thou shalt keep symptom spotting to a minimum.
4. Thou shalt share and [tea] with your fredmates where needed.

JSing lingo;

ERTD = Evil Red Tide of Dooooooommmmmmm. Or AF to most others.
Pant snot = Egg white cervical mucus.
Doing a kitten = Getting upduffed soon after joining (warning: may induce in other posters).
Viroid = This is you, dear poster. The reason for this is a closely guarded secret, known only to....er....well, nobody as far as we can tell!
POAS = Pee On A Stick (of the pregnancy detecting kind, not from a tree). Also known as PIAR (Pee In A Ramekin - cos we're posh birds innit).
Shagging like something = JSing like a teenage nymphomaniac.
Giving a hooya = Giving a much needed slap to a fellow poster in danger of slipping into ttc obsession.

The link to Part 10 is here.

The link to the latest grads thread is here.

So don those shag capes, we have standards to maintain - Part 10 saw an amazing 9 BFPs, including one set of twins! So - what are you still doing here? GET SHAGGING!!

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Oh Boy that's made me feel so much more normal!!! I'm right with you on being a complete failure. Lol. If I manage to find something, anything that does the trick Ill be sure to let u in on it! Crossed fingers for now ,

Morning shaggers!

CD8 here, nothing to report. Just came on to say hi and wish you all a happy Monday :)

Hello everyone. Well, I had a rather annoying birthday present yesterday. That damn witch arrived! At least she stayed away until we had finished our lovely weekend in London.

So, on to the second cycle of JSing...

waves That damn witch! Did you enjoy your weekend away?

Happy Monday all.

Officially in the 2ww now.

Andie I had a fab weekend away thanks. Although the comedy store was a bit of a let down. DH and I were v tired after being up super early and travelling over. We saw a fab concert first then went to the late show there. I didn't find it particularly funny and DH was so uninterested he managed to fall asleep!!!

Other than that, was super. Managed to restrain myself DH took custody of my credit card from spending too much on clothes, and we saw some great live music.

Good luck with the 2ww for all those there

advise please ladies... Cycle 3. CD16. Only JS'd twice this month and one of those was day ERTD arrived and one last night CD15. No idea if/when I ovulate as don't test or temp. Reckon i'm in with a chance? Should I try again. H2B not so up for weekday shags :(
He needs to realise that doing it more often (and shock horror!) during the week too! BFP due Nov 4th (hopefully)

33pink how long is your cycle? CD15 could be a very good time to have DTD!! Regarding the mid-week JSing, can you pounce earlier in the evening? I know I'm usually too tired by bedtime, so we quite often do it on the couch while I'm cooking tea

They say ov takes place between CD10 and 16 but all cycles are different so yes, there is a chance you got there in time. I'm in the same boat as DP is working away. FX

Thanks Ladies. Hopefully we've caught it this month. rock that's what we did last night (mid way through cooking a roast chicken dinner!) You could say there was some 'stuffing' happening. Trouble is, I was on Gravy duty so didn't get to lay around with legs in the air for more than 5 mins...

you should have made DH do it - tell him you were on baby-gravy duty :)

This has made me chuckle..which is most welcome after a crap day at work. Visions of people waving their legs around sniffing roast chicken burning, lol! Also made me blush a little as I don't think I've ever dtd whilst cooking the tea. I've just put ours in the oven, but DP isn't even home yet. Bad planning. We are having fish though, lets not even go there!

Hello All!

Hope you all had a lovely weekend.

Pineapple and Stuck - huge congratualtions!

Boy - drats, eh! Sorry - I know how you feel - we're in the same boat. Hopefully, next time, it'll be us. xx I had a big cry on Friday but feel okay now.

Thanks to everyone who posted about crying over BFPs too. I wasn't trying to make you feel bad BTW - I just wasn't sure if I was going loopy by being overly sensitive, so thanks for all the support. x

Did my big 10k hill run everyone! Very proud. Was a bit of a killer and it rained loads, but got round in bang on one hour, which is an improvement on my last one. Hurrah! Bit achey now though. Wonder how long I can go on using the race as an excuse to eat cake?

Boy and Frog - I'm with you on the tribulations of initiating thing. I ahve found though that the best remedy is to get ready for bed first and while DH is in the bathroom I 'forget' to put my pjs on - ha ha! I would never sleep in the nuddy (you never know what might get caught up or squashed if I did) so then DH can jump on me without fear. He has adopted this method too. We also initiate in other ways and places, but this one is subtley unsubtle if you see what I mean!

Ewww, Frog! Made me laugh though!

I get you bearface although he'd know I was up o something if I went to bed wearing less, as I'm always moaning I'm cold. Lol. I think he generally gets the just that I'm in the mood if I go to sleep (or attempt to ;)) facing him......as I generally sleep with my back to him. Yes yes, this is the extent of my initiation. Lame I know. Back me up, Boy and bearface!!! Lol

I get you bearface although he'd know I was up o something if I went to bed wearing less, as I'm always moaning I'm cold. Lol. I think he generally gets the just that I'm in the mood if I go to sleep (or attempt to ;)) facing him......as I generally sleep with my back to him. Yes yes, this is the extent of my initiation. Lame I know. Back me up, Boy and bearface!!! Lol

Sorry - I may have missed something, but Frog don't you just want him to know that you are up to something? Or are you trying to intitiate without initiating? (Confusing myself here! (easily done))

I do, but as its not 'me' to initiate these things, I don't want him to start suggesting I'm only starting to initiate, because of the ttc thing. ESP when he's all for 'seeing what happens' SWIM?? No?

Ohhhhhh, right. Sorry - I'm slow on the uptake.

Most men I think would be really grateful if you jumped on them (even if they secretly suspected you were doing it because of TTC) - I know mine wouldn't care - he's just grateful for the chance with whatever strings might be attached, so to speak, ahem.

So, if you're just 'seeing what happens', I don't think there's anything wrong with changing the way you do things - you beginning to initiate and doing it more often if you want to. You could argue that 'seeing what happens' makes you a bit more up for it and has given you some newfound confidence - it doesn't have to mean that it's all about TTC. It can just be about having fun and being a bit more proactive. Personally, I think even if you have been together for a very long time and you've always done certain things, it doesn't mean to say, you can't try something different. I've been with my DH for 11 years and we're still changing things. That's just my take on it, anyhow. You might disagree, but I hope it helps somehow.

Oh blimey - I've just counted on my fingers (which are more accurate than my own head) and I've actually been with DH for 14 years!!! I've lost 3 years somewhere!

I don't disagree, and yes u make perfect sense.... I'm just not good at this. We've been together 5.5 years, and I'd love to be proactive at initiating all of this, but I just don't, and never have had the confidence

frog I'm not very confident AT ALL, (honestly, I think people can seem so much more confident online) but I just try to forget myself and take the focus away from me and think about what DH would like. If I let myself, I would just always be thinking about how he looks at me and which bits are wobbling next, and how terrible I look and how ridiculous I sound etc. etc., but I don't let myself, and I try to think of myself as a well sexy woman whose OH wants to shag. It took me a while to get past feeling ridiculous and not wanting to - but it's so much more fun when you do. Maybe just start with little things like Boy suggested earlier and work up to initiating? Good luck - I'll be back tomorrow - got to go and wash up. Remember, he really does love you and he wants you!

Strangely have had a discussion with DP about this tonight. In Tesco. Yes Tesco. Will let u know how it all went when I'm back tomorrow. My head is spinning at the mo. But yes bear I think you're right.

Bear, congrats on the run!

Frog, hope the chat went well and that you find your confidence. Sometimes our inner goddesses are hiding really well, aren't they? Like, behind intestines and such. Pull her out!

33, laughing about "stuffing" and chicken dinner antics. Good luck!

Ladies, the universe punished me today for breaking JS rules, namely for partaking of OPKs - though in my defense, I've already admitted to my sins here. I really am trying to figure out what's going on with my short cycles.

So I have been taking these tests at 2 pm and that worked out great during vacation but not so great now that I'm back at work. I take my little paper cup into the one-seater bathroom (small office), do my business, and balance it on the trash can while digging the stupid test stick out of my purse. I am rushing, so as not to arouse suspicion over my long bathroom break (again, small office).

You can probably see where this is going.

Crash! Splash! The cup is on the floor - right side up, amazing enough. (Is it sad that my first thought is "Great, I didn't waste perfectly good pee"?) Still, enough has found the floor, and my leg, to mortify me. I stand up, flush, and go to grab paper towels. Suddenly, I realize the toilet is clogged - I blame the men in IT - and is a centimeter away from overflowing on the already-violated floor. Total panic, but I manage to find a plunger, clean the mess and sit in my car in the parking lot in fear of what would happen next.

Oh, and naturally, the test was negative.

To all you JSers tempted to break the rules, don't do it

Hi ladies! I have a dark dirty secret - I also used OPKs but never mentioned them on here . I used the clearblue digital ones and for 2 months did not seem to give me any positives. It was only last month that it did for me those smiley faces did I JS like mad and get my BFP. I personally found them helpful. I advise to use them morning and. Evening though, I got the LH surge in the evening... Hope that helps!