Just Shagging - The lazy TTCers heaven, this is Shaggers Corner, Part 11

[Kittenkatzen]

(sorry I know that's awful but seriously, can you think of anything else that rhymes with "eleven"?!)

Ladies, leave your OPKs at the door, and settle in for part 11 of JSing!

Fred rules;

1. Thou shalt shag as much as humanly possible in order to get upduffed.
2. Thou shalt not partake of OPKs, temping, or charting.
3. Thou shalt keep symptom spotting to a minimum.
4. Thou shalt share and [tea] with your fredmates where needed.

JSing lingo;

ERTD = Evil Red Tide of Dooooooommmmmmm. Or AF to most others.
Pant snot = Egg white cervical mucus.
Doing a kitten = Getting upduffed soon after joining (warning: may induce in other posters).
Viroid = This is you, dear poster. The reason for this is a closely guarded secret, known only to....er....well, nobody as far as we can tell!
POAS = Pee On A Stick (of the pregnancy detecting kind, not from a tree). Also known as PIAR (Pee In A Ramekin - cos we're posh birds innit).
Shagging like something = JSing like a teenage nymphomaniac.
Giving a hooya = Giving a much needed slap to a fellow poster in danger of slipping into ttc obsession.

The link to Part 10 is here.

The link to the latest grads thread is here.

So don those shag capes, we have standards to maintain - Part 10 saw an amazing 9 BFPs, including one set of twins! So - what are you still doing here? GET SHAGGING!!

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Oh no bear - hugs. I'm absolutely dreading it. We're only on cycle 1 for goodness sake & I thought I didn't care but now it's coming up to the ERTD make or break time I just know I'll be gutted if/when it arrives. That said, I don't really deserve a bfp this month, not been JS anywhere near enough.

Stay strong...& keep shagging

Hi bear I totally sympathise.

Our whole approach to this was to make it all fun and shagging and no tears or anything but when my last ERTD arrived on holiday I cried and then was in the most terrible mood, wasting part of our holiday. I know that the reason we're going at it like mad is so that I feel in control of it which is nonsense really as you can't be.

It is absolutely gutting but there's another cycle around the corner and all the science suggests you'll get your month soon xx

Doom :( bleeding has started this morning though v v slight. I suppose looking at dates it could be implantation spotting but v unlikely - am def feeling menstrual now think my monthly mood swing may be particularly bad this week...thank goodness I'm away with work for a few days! Weekend hugs to all, hope others have more luck if testing!

Really sorry to hear ERTD came boy . In wish you best of luck to next cycle, fingers crossed.

I just wanted to update you all on my test - it is a BFP . DH and I are really really happy. I know it's early days yet and all, so hope you ladies don't mind if I keep hanging around? I have found the support wonderful. You all def keep a smile on my face thru the weeks.

Fingers crossed and hoping for BFPs for you all, happy JSing!

Hoooooray!!! Congrats pineapple - now that's good weekend news

[waves and sticks head round corner]

I haven't been active on the thread for about 6 weeks as I decided that even though we were doing the JS approach I needed to chill out as I was getting upset with every ERTD that turned up. But in spirit I've felt that this thread has been home!

Congrats for the BFP's that have been announced - and well there's another one to report for the JS thread! I resisted testing till I was a week late, and now I'm back from hols I've checked the calculator and I'm nearly 7 weeks along... We started JS back at the end of March so about 6-7 months of TTC have finally paid off

Lots of hugs for all still waiting for the BFP - I know how weird it feels when someone else announces the BFP, and I hope it happens for everyone sooner or later...

Thank you boy . And a big congrats to stuck! I also waited till I was a week late to test, it is hard waiting but great news on the end. We need to start a "Just Pregnant" thread, but hasn't got the same ring (or sound quite as right!) as JSing does it!

Have a good weekend all

Congrats stuck too! Pineapple, I think you should start a JP thread, to keep us all together when we 'graduate' from here!

stuck and pineapple woooooohooooo congratulations. Such great news and very heartening too as it makes me think it WILL happen sooner or later.

boy bugger it. Sorry.

Woohoo massive congrats to stuck and pineapple what a lovely start to the weekend

There is already a grads thread for the upduffed shaggers - the link is at the top of the thread fx we all join you over there soon!

boy sorry the witch got you, what a bugger. Make sure you treat yourself to and chocolate today

Congrats Pineapple & stuck!!!! A successful week & bit for the JS thread!

for boy

Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

Congrats to Pineapple and Stuck...see you in the grads thread! :-)

Eee! Pineapple! Stuck! I am so happy to see all the bfp news - hope next month is the ticket for more of us. This is a lucky place to be

Last night of vacation. Sigh. Back to reality soon but squeezing in one last nature hike and brewery tomorrow.

Woop de woop Stuck and Pineapple!! brilliant news!

Boy big hairy bollocks to ERTD

Red hope you have a brilliant last day!

Such a brilliant weekend of lazing and JSing here! So weird wondering how long this cycle is going to last...

Definitely big hairy bollocks to ERTD!! Am feeling utterly hormonal. On a plus, however, I can now work out more accurate ovulation as this is the first proper one since coil removed.

Ahh thanks ladies!

Hope you're all enjoying the weekend.

Well, I apologise if anyone has seen me on other threads moaning.
I'm wondering if the fact that my oh is scared to say 'trying' and probably won't be arsed with doing anything out of the ordinary with regards to dates, or anything else to help bfp to come along, puts me in the category of just shagging??? He will be happy enough if it just happens, but I don't think I'm gonna get him to commit to anything more!!

Whoop whoop congrats to Pineapple and Stuck!!!

Frog my DH doesn't like to think about "trying" which is part of the reason we are JSing and that I'm too lazy to faff about with temping and OPK's however I do have an app on my phone where I input my periods as they happen and it tells me when I'm most fertile. Just means I can initiate more sex at the right times that way :)

Might have to have a look for this app! But then.....the other thing is.... Big blush is that I'm never the one to initiate sex. Like, ever. It's always him. I suppose I've always been bothered about him not wanting it or something ( prob also a bit of 'scared of rejection' still left in me from a previous vile relationship, but that's all under the bridge blah blah blah)
So....if I did start initiating it, he'd be very suspicious as to this being my reason rather than actually wanting it. Cue, misunderstandings and possible arguments and lets not go there! Maybe I have to just hope this happens at the right times??...flipping eck this is never go a happen!

Hello frog welcome to just shagging!

How rubbish that a previous relationship has had some impact on your current one - I would be very tempted to get around all that and just have a proper conversation with OH. Just like "I'd like to have more sex but am a bit scared to initiate it, can we chat about that?". I'm a firm believer that communication solves many issues and I can't keep my gob shut and you might be surprised at the result, these conversations are always worse in our heads than in real life I think

Just booked a trip for mine and DP's anniversary (it's a big anniversary) - excited though worried about cycles and poorly timed ERTD - so annoying not being able to plan as I don't know what MC will have done to my cycle...

Frog I completely agree with Hooya both my DP and I were previously with abusive partners who used affection and intimacy as a weapon so we sat down and talked about our insecurities and now either if us can feel safe today we do or don't want sex without it being an issue. My DP just gets a bit if I'm going "but we haven't ha sex for four days, we HAVE to have it NOW!" Lol.

So pleased about this weekend's BFPs. Hope everyone's well. I've downloaded one if those fertility apps Rockchick apparently I'm ovulating today so hope the JSing this weekend did the trick in time.lol

Frog there's ways to make him initiate sex rather than you having to do it if that makes you feel more comfortable - go for a shower before bed and "happen" to have forgotten something from the lounge or wherever he is, so just walk in naked; or wear a sexy matching underwear set and make sure he sees you getting ready for bed etc. I've found that if I make an effort to feel sexy before getting into bed (while getting undressed etc) that DH seems to pick up on it and he initiates sex which is fab as he thinks it was his idea

The app I've got is called Pink Pad Lite or something - they do a free one and one you buy but I just got the free one and it's fab. Can also input symptoms to try and pick up if you feel different one month (eg may be upduffed) but I don't use that bit.

Fingers crossed for Andie with the weekend's JSing, and Hooya that ERTD doesn't show up while you are away :)

Oh, and one of my friends has just had a baby, FB is flooded with photos and messages etc - I burst into tears when I saw I knew she was pregnant (obviously) but didn't know I'd feel so strongly about it - utter jealousy mixed with remembering when DS was born, and gutted that it's not going to be me yet. Luckily DH was out, but I just can't talk to anyone about how I feel, I doubt anyone IRL would understand

Thanks for the advice Rock, Andie and Hooya, he's a very patient, understanding partner and we've talked about the whole initiation thing before so the 'conversation' has happened several times about previous insecurities..He's even said he'd quite like it if I initiated it every now and then, but it just doesn't come natural to me and feels very awkward. He's ok with it though, we've been happy now for 51/2 yrs. don't want try the whole starting to initiate it now though cos like I've said, he'll be very suspicious, lol.
I like your idea though Rock about getting him to initiate....will let you know how that goes!
Am expecting to be out of action this week with what I assume is a withdrawal bleed, so god knows when my best days for doing this will be

Oh gosh I empathise frogchops - I am an absolute failure at initiating. Even when everything's screaming in my head that I'm erm..."in the mood" I don't do anything unless DH starts it. The most I ever manage is sending subtle signs like extra cuddles & kisses or...at a push...sleeping with less clothing on!! I've got no excuse though really, have had a fair few head-screwy rtshps in past but always been like this. Actually, reading about other peoples sex lives always makes me feel a bit of a failure wife but thank goodness DH loves me.

How is everybody this eve? Am alone in a hotel room bawling at surprise surprise (damn ERTD hormones!) & missing DH. Any more BFPs?