Gather up your fertility spells and sign in for the lentil-weaving BESH woo hippy thread!

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Greetings sisters [puts flowers in hair]

Bring your very best woo & let's see if we can magick up a few baybees (insta-differs not allowed).

New recruits are required to locate the BESH spell aka the BESHtionnaire and submit for further scrutiny.

[dances round bare foot]

By the way FTW, when you're feeling brave enough or preggers enough! the pregnant ESH hang out here lately we've mostly been talking about poo

Not nearly preggers enough, but gawd, do I love a good poo talk!

I spoke too soon . Last night got a diffedness-email and I cried. For about an hour. And then some more in bed. Worked today, just got feedback that I don't know what to do about. So I cried. For only half an hour obviously work is less important than diffedness or not. And I just want to hide under the duvet and wait for the pain to go away.

Then why don't you drizz? You don't have to be a hero and carry on you know. You can sign yourself off work for a week and if you're still not ready after that, I'm sure any GP with an ounce of sympathy would sign you off. You should follow norf's convalescence regime of baking and period dramas.

Well, the issue is, I haven't told New Work I had a MC, and I don't really want to. I returned to work today and did okay, I think. Sadly the feedback is sideline related, but important to me and needs to be dealt with by Thursday at the latest. So I mainly want to hide from evil differs (lovely company excluded, although I'll hate you when the EDD nears, I fear) and sideline-work. But the latter has a hard deadline. Oh, I don't know. SB thinks I should pass it on to someone else to deal with... But that is easier said than done.

Just want to cry. Thankfully SB has arrived home to burn dinner, so that is an excuse for crying

Baking and period dramas do appeal, I'll admit!

But the other thing is, I get lonely when I am home and dwell on things, which makes me weepier... Difficult!

I fully understand the difficulty as EDD comes around and will respect that. Obviously it's up to you and if there's things you need to resolve that will help you feel better. Can you book some annual leave to have a break to aim for when the tough stuff is over? And book some nice things to do?

You know faif, I don't really "know" you, but I think you are wonderful. You have been so supportive and helpful to me (and other beshes). So even with your due date 2 days before mine, I think you can have your baybee. but I am feeling quite scared about dealing with that point in time if we haven't gotten a successful diffage by then You really deserve him or her. I do hope things with MSB will be resolved further in the meantime, but it does feel like you're on the right track...

As to good things planned, we're doing okay. We have another two weekends away (one local with friends, one to Paris to drink and be merry) as well as two weeks leave in November. I think I have to battle through...

I am doing sideline work stuff now, will try and get most of it done tonight. I just had to get passed the insensitive comments (from someone who only knows I was suddenly ill last week, and doesn't have a clue about all the ensuing shite I've been through).

SB is cooking and it does not look too bad.

Aw you'll make me blub! 'specially wiv the feeling poorly and the hormones! I do hope you'll be diffed again soon. I'm glad you have nice things planned. Dinner sounds good. MSB is feeling....I want to say lazy but that's unkind. His back is sore and we're both shattered. We also really need to do food shopping so I think it'll be bacon butties for
tea in our house!

Yes things with MSB and I are getting there slowly. It took a long time to get to where we reached. Being diffed has certainly brought us closer together and given us joy but it's no magical cure! I do feel confident we'll get there now where I wasn't sure at one point

If you want to blub, you should read the text my BF sent me when I to,d her I was feeling crappy about my colleague announcing her diffage:

"I'm sure you dealt with that with grace and humility. stupid pregnant people, and I include myself in that. I know you feel really crappy but remember you're not the only one finding it difficult, but that doesn't matter, you're going to get pregnant when it's time for you I promise. Stay strong and let the stupid pregnant people have their moment because you'll you will have yours."

I cried, she cried!

:) :(

Blimey, what a day for you bugs! That's fantastic news about Mr Consultant man! I'm so glad it's justified on the NHS. Worth the layout for the private consultation to get things moving though hey?

Poor doggie! Ouch! Glad he's come through alright but I guess he'll be sore for a bit! Thank goodness for insurance :)

Better to have one month of investigations and getting everything prepped so the next bean sticks, though yes? Cos you never really had any investigations did you?

lem, you are putting up with so much at the moment. I'm just in awe of your courage and humour. It's just shit that as soon as you are on the up, you get your feet knocked from beneath you by something else. Can't the universe fuck of and leave you alone for five minutes? I feel really bad that I am off work while you have to struggle on, when you need it just as much as I do.

bugs, you sound really upbeat - did the consultant provide the full... umm... service you were hoping for? He sounds ace though. Hurrah for a good fertility appointment for a change :)

Oh. Well you sounded quite upbeat before you just cried a bit... It's all so up and down...

It's ok to cry bugs. You must be overwhelmed by emotions. Sadness for the babies you've lost but hope for the future? But also frustration about how long it has taken to get to this point?!

I want to get wankered! I am on an alcohol and sechs ban till December 10th. Christmas is going to be epic.

I kill fred with my dissolute ways.

Who cares? I'm coming to chez Norfy for Xmas.