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Gather up your fertility spells and sign in for the lentil-weaving BESH woo hippy thread!

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FrankelSaysRelax · 27/08/2012 07:29

Greetings sisters [puts flowers in hair]

Bring your very best woo & let's see if we can magick up a few baybees (insta-differs not allowed).

New recruits are required to locate the BESH spell aka the BESHtionnaire and submit for further scrutiny.

[dances round bare foot]

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FizzyFeet · 09/09/2012 18:29

Good news about the extra two weeks. Yes, a break might be what you need. But you will have to stick to it and not be tempted.

When is AMNH back? Have you filled him in with what's going on?

HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 18:45

I'm glad they've to scan you. I'd want that too. Have a good think about the options. Maybe in some ways the enforced TTC ban would give you the recovery time you really need?

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 18:48

Norf, you poor cah. How much shit be thrown at you? I'm so so sorry :(

Take as much time as you can and also the three months off thing is probably a good idea. xxxxxx

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FrankelSaysRelax · 09/09/2012 18:49

Sorry, I had to go out. Norf, if it would help I'd happily jump on my trusty steed and gallop the 150 or so miles from here to Berkshire Smile

I'm sorry you have this to contend with. Has AMNH followed his previous instructions to look after you and not accept it when you say you are ok? His mum was pretty good last time, can you give her a call and ask her to talk to him?

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ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 18:56

By the way, Norf, Virginia Woolf is shit.

I have also just seen lemony's sad news. Very sorry, flower :(

Northey · 09/09/2012 19:28

Virginia Woolf is shit, isn't she? I struggled on, basically because it was that or incontinence leaflets. But I'd have given my right arm for something more readable and rewarding.

AMNH is in Wales still, taking me at my word that he needn't come. I haven't the oomph to bear it if I asked him to come and he resisted. So I am avoiding examining too closely how much I actually want him to come.

rierie, was your mad mad time an entertaining one, by any chance? I could do with a laugh.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 19:40

No not really It was work related and things went wrong. I won't go into it here but it cost us thousands :(

I almost got to the end of To The Lighthouse before leaping up and shouting "Reading should be FUN!" as though it was a massive revelation and flinging the stupid book across the room. Stupid thing.

Northey · 09/09/2012 19:45

I should have done that in Ward 20! Possibly decapitating that annoying old lady in the process. I can take a different book tomorrow though (where despite all the prep work today I fully expect to spend hours waiting again).

Thousands? Oh my God. Covered by insurance?

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 20:04

No

Tell you what's a good Ill Book, norf. Coming Home by Rosamunde Pilcher.

Northey · 09/09/2012 20:21

Shit. Massive commiserations. How awful. Doe it have to be paid now, or can it be put off a bit?

That sounds like the kind of thing I can easily pick up in a charity shop. I shall add it to my mental list of Books To Buy.

sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 20:22

Norf...

After a promising start, this is actually the fred of doom. Did one of the oldies not warn us that nothing good came of the woo fred last time?

Sigh.

And also not good Rie. Is this something you have to account for, or just company badness?

Never read Virginia Wolfe, but Sylvia Plaths The Bell Jar had the same reaction in me. I struggled on because I always finish a book until I realised I was descending into the pits of despair. It has since been binned (I will not inflict it on some unassuming charity shopper)

Northey · 09/09/2012 20:30

We have mocked the gods of woo, and they are having their revenge.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 20:32

No, it wasn't that so much as lost income if you see what I mean? Income we should have taken but didn't/couldn't. On top of the lousy summer, it's a shitter.

No Good Can Ever Come Of A Woo Thread (henceforth known as NGCECOAWT)

sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 20:39

Mmmm. Catchy

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 20:43

Well I think so

fertilityFTW · 09/09/2012 20:53
Northey · 09/09/2012 20:54

Can I have five more minutes of mememememeness and then I will politely retreat. Am I being unreasonable about this? Just spoken to AMNH and asked him if he had any sort of late duty tomorrow (so I would know if he would be waiting with soothing cuddles etc or if loving reunion would have to be postponed till the end of work). He said he had no lates, but that he would be going for a run for an hour.

Now. I know I am tired and overemotional, so I might be overreacting. Is it unreasonable of me to think he might keep the evening free to welcome me home and just talk things through and stuff.

This is just like the first ectopic, where he didn't come, because he didn't think it would be worth asking for time off work to do so. It was fine for him to be around and supportive last month, because it was holidays an he had nothing better to do. But now it's like I am just something to be fitted round all his other stuff. And am expected to be grateful for it.

Frankly, if I had somewhere else to go, I'd go there.

So. Am I overreacting about nothing? Be honest. I can take it.

Northey · 09/09/2012 20:55
sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 20:56
ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/09/2012 21:00

YANBU.

sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 21:00

X post. I'm the master of those at the mo.

Norf. You know how I said all desicions had to be vetoed by the BESH first? Well now I'm telling you to ring/grab AMNH by the coller and tell him to sort his fecking head out.

Really. I'm not one for emotional shizzle, but for the love of god. You've had the shittiest time recently. You are not over reacting. You need attention, a cuddle and to be waited on hand and foot.

AMNH better hope I never meet him. He's made me write cuddle in a BESH fred.

Northey · 09/09/2012 21:03

Oh God. I wrote it too. I'd better drink some knicker lentil broth as penance.

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FrankelSaysRelax · 09/09/2012 21:05

YADefinitelyNBU Norf, you need to tell him that it is time (and I usually dislike this phrase) to man up. He can't leave you to deal with this on your own. If you can't bring yourself to tell him, call a good friend/family member and ask them to knock talk some sense into him. [stern face]

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HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 21:12

Yadnbu norf. I would expect MSB to drop everything to be with me if were in your/similar circumstances. Ok, when I was in hospital he went to work but only because a. I was sat waiting for tests and b. it was outside visiting anyway. But he came up to see me every day. I agree with rosiemary you need to be firm. The BESH has spoken. He should be with you!

alwyn · 09/09/2012 21:25

YANBU norf, you are going through possibly the shittest time I could ever imagine a TTCer going through. He should definitely be there to give you all the attention you need.

And hi everyone again - school has started now so I have a lot less time to post and stuff! No news yet about contract stuff but I will know everything in 6 weeks!