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Gather up your fertility spells and sign in for the lentil-weaving BESH woo hippy thread!

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FrankelSaysRelax · 27/08/2012 07:29

Greetings sisters [puts flowers in hair]

Bring your very best woo & let's see if we can magick up a few baybees (insta-differs not allowed).

New recruits are required to locate the BESH spell aka the BESHtionnaire and submit for further scrutiny.

[dances round bare foot]

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sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 14:58

Hey Rie, was it the Jaffa cakes, faifes cake or the gin infused tea that pulled you back?

Has anyone spoken to you norf? What's the delay? Result can take hours, but, really?! Don't leave just yet, but have you started making a fuss?

Northey · 09/09/2012 15:03

They said they were sending it as urgent and expected it back by 1pm.

It's just that I spent three hours here yesterday waiting for a ten minute discussion with a doctor that we could have done by phone.

And now even when I get the results they could make me stay to discuss them. I just don't see why they couldn't have given them to me by phone and told me if I needed to come back. I know it's my fault for not asking if I could do that in the first place. And now I've waited so long I keep feeling they must almost be here...

HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 15:06

I guess it's becaus they might have to act on the results why they won't just tell you over the phone....it'll depend on how busy the lab is. Not that it helps, but that's the reality.

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FrankelSaysRelax · 09/09/2012 15:16

Oh Norf that's not fair. Is there anyone you can stop and ask how much longer they expect it to take. 2 hours extra is an unreasonable amount of time to be hanging around.

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Northey · 09/09/2012 15:20

Oh. HCG has gone up again. From 1200ish to 1300ish. Not enough for my ideal miracle scenario of a new pregnancy, clearly. So probably some leftover placenta, or a dying twin. What joy. Have bawled my eyes out in the bogs and am now waiting patiently and despairingly for the doctor to discuss what to do.

HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 15:21

Oh b*llocks to that!

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FrankelSaysRelax · 09/09/2012 15:22

[throws arms round Norf] You poor thing. Are you there alone? Can anyone come to sit with you/pick you up?

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HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 15:22

Sorry didn't meant to post so soon. So not rising enough for twin scenario to be anything but bad? :( will they scan you to work out which it is?

Northey · 09/09/2012 15:34

If it is a twin or a new pregnancy, it will either be dying or ectopic (again) or both.

Yes, all alone. AMNH is back in Wales.

sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 15:37

Oh norf. Can any of us help? I know this seems a bit empty, but honestly, if you were anywhere around Manchester I'd be happy to come and hand hold (the pygmy goats in no way influence this offer)

HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 15:39

Can AMNH come down? It's lose/lose isn't it? :(

FriendofDorothy · 09/09/2012 15:47

Oh norf :(

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FrankelSaysRelax · 09/09/2012 15:52

Where are you? If you are near me I'll be there in a flash.

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HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 15:54

Are in a Larndan town hospital?

Northey · 09/09/2012 16:07

Anyone in Berkshire? (we have lots of horses here )

I will be ok. Nothing visible on scan. A conflab is taking place over what they want to do with me.

Northey · 09/09/2012 16:08

On a happier note, is this the sort of thing tha might make a GP willing to extend my sick note? Because of, like, distress and shit?

HaveALittleFaith · 09/09/2012 16:10

Absolutely. You take as long as you need, physically and emotionally before you go back to work.

sinkyroselee · 09/09/2012 16:28

Yes. But maybe don't put it to them in terms of "like, distress and shit"..

Is the shitty methotrexate possibility going to rear its head?

Northey · 09/09/2012 17:51

Ugh. Well. So.

Lovely, lovely doctors spent ages talking to me (one even asked if I was a medical professional - hurrah for two nights immersed in journal articles!) and doing pointless scans to please me. I agreed to let them take blood and do the body mass calculations for preparing me a dose of methotrexate overnight. I will sleep on it and call them at 9am to say if I want to take it. Although I feel really resistant to the idea, I sort of acknowledge it is the right decision. I just need to come to terms with it. If I refuse, then it's 48-hourly hcg tests and probably just putting off the inevitable.

Northey · 09/09/2012 17:55

Also, if it continues to rise, they will have to operate instead, and my system is already knackered from last month. It would be insane for them to go hunting around for something so tiny they missed it the first time.

There really is no hope that it is a secret and viable baby, is there?

FizzyFeet · 09/09/2012 18:09

Shit north, I'm sorry Sad

I think it's a good idea to sleep on it. There are pros and cons either way - the drugs will bring things to a conclusive end, but you can't ttc again for 3 months minimum as I understand it. Similarly with the surgery. Is there an option to let a mc happen "naturally"?

((((hugs))))

FizzyFeet · 09/09/2012 18:11

Forgot to say, I'm glad the doctors were nice. And definitely get them to extend your sick note.

Northey · 09/09/2012 18:15

Hugs? What kind of a BESH are you, ferret? Slap me with a mackerel or bugger me with a langoustine or something. Not that I didn't secretly appreciate it very very much

Yes, it would be three months off ttc. But I am coming round to the idea that that might not be a bad thing. My tube could probably do with the recovery time. And, to be honest, so could my head. I've always been a bit confused when people say they need to take a break from ttc, but actually I am almost there myself after all this.

eurochick · 09/09/2012 18:20

Oh crikey, norf, that all sounds rather trying. An enforced three months off to deal with the emotional fall out of all this might not be the worst thing in the world, you know. But I really, really feel for you.

Have an affectionate slap with a trout, my lovely.

Northey · 09/09/2012 18:21

Have got an extra two weeks off as well. Silver lining :)