Emmsy's ladies - 4 years of weebling - still going strong!

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Here's to us ladies! Proud to be part of this - onwards and upwards..

Glad to hear it went well mrskate. Where is that mobile ultrasound machine you have at work???!

cupcake ds has 6 teeth. The top 4 came through in one night three weeks ago, poor boy.

Glad scan went well Mrskate. Stick it head in the sand and your body in cotton wool for the next few weeks.

You're turn next Moon

Neeko!!!!!!! I'm not normally one to be pedantic but

Heeheehee

Must concentrate

For shame neeko this reckless use of the english language is getting to be a habit well spotted mls and ouch for your poor ds

I'm so glad we had good news today. Not too long now moon. My hand is yours.

Just one tooth here 8 months in cupcake. It's making up for the rest in sharpness though

Big hugs to Sabs and waves to everyone lurking. Im trying not to think about tomorrow so any distraction is good xxx

Big hugs to you too Curly so sorry to hear about your friend. Will be thinking of you tomorrow

mrskate good to hear all is well

Thanks to everyone for your kind words. My nan, who Saara is named after, has been given only days to live. As you may remember, I lost my beloved grandad nearly 2 years ago, so so this is quite hard for us all. Just playing the waiting game now :(

Thinking of you today Curly

Sabs I'm really sorry to hear that Wishing you strength for the difficult time ahead. Take care.

Sabs so sorry to hear such sad news... Can only echo Neeko and hope you find some inner strength to somehow get through this.. My thoughts are with you and your family at such a sad time... x

Curly my thoughts are with you today too.. x

Late night lurk & in tears watching OBEM as per usual, little fella dancing a jig inside me, hoping & praying its to say 'don't worry mummy' like his lovely big sis does when I'm huffing or puffing out of a chair or something bless her

However I'm weebling lots about my anomaly scan next thursday, lots & lots.... Love MN but their weekly pregnancy calendar for 20wks lists all the bad things they are looking for... Am trying not to freak out but can't help it.. Keep trying to reassure myself by thinking anything like the bowel outside the body (as was just on OBEM ) would of been spotted as nuchal scan was coming up 14wk, then another at 15wk (just cos Dvd was redone though, so not particularly looking for anything then), but at 17wk scan I'm sure anything really untoward would of been spotted?! Or would it? I know the real indepth investigations only really happen at the anomaly scan? But surely anything glaringly obviously bad would show? Of course re the bowel thing our scan pics and dvd would show that even and all looks ok...

I just need this scan to hurry up and be here! Will be such a major hurdle, praying very hard we get past it with all being well, then to please god get past 24wks, and I can hopefully relax a bit again!

Id been ok, daring to be a bit confident, as I got past my nuchal & started feeling flutters around 16wks, then not had any hospital apts for about 3wks, just felt I was getting on with it, but this scan looming has really set off the weebles... I've a check up at the thrombosis clinic tomorrow as well, its a thrombosis consultant & 2 specialist midwives so hopefully they'll make me feel a bit better..

Sorry for the weebly waffle! Not slept that well last few nights, quite possibly not helping!

Sending huge hugs to Curly & Sabs.

Hello Weebly 4ever. I think you need a huge hug too. My sister in law is 19 weeks pregnant with her 2nd child and being one of those lucky people who have only good experiences of pregnancy, she's massively excited about getting a look at her bouncing baby next week. It's such a shame that for those of us on here, that blissful innocence has gone, never to return. 4ever I hope the time flies quickly by. Yes I would imagine that most stuff would have been picked up at a 17 week scan.

MrsKate, I'm sure you need a big hug too, and Moon not many sleeps to go now till your scan.

Any one else need a hug whilst I'm here?

Hi lovelies

Hugs to the weebles 4ever, mrskate and moon and hugs to sabs and curly too, sorry about your sad news

Ds2 update

We got a diagnosis yesterday, he is autistic. Not a shock as such but feel so numb at the moment and overwhelmed. I have two children and both have autism. There I've said it.

Still doesn't feel real though, and I really need to cry I feel the emotion there but still can't bloody cry. I'm seeing the mental health nurse today so hopefully she can help me.
On a plus note, my boys are so happy and blissfully unaware of how I'm feeling .
We told ds1 that ds2 is autistic like him and he said ' we're the autism brothers' which made me and dh

I'm ok, just rambling.

Oh and neeko was at your post, the mistakes!!!!

Morning Rumours, here's your hug. How lovely that your DS 1 feels he's not the only one now. A lot for you to take in now though. I hope your mental health nurse offers lots of support.

Barbie, I'm leaving you a hug here for you to pick up in case you pop in.

Rumours how lucky is your DS2, he has a mummy so read up and prepared and practicised to meet his needs. All the years of helping DS1 thrive through the challenges he has faced can only mean DS2 will benefit from you wisdom, love, reassurance, humour and never ever ending support. You are a mum in a million.

I hope the mental health nurse (and primacy care services in general) are there for you 100% in giving you and your family the support you deserve.

We remain here, always here, to listen and lurk and post when you need to offload, laugh, cry or just get fronked xx

4ever as remindme says us ladies have lost forever the innocent wonder and joy of pregnancy and I totally understand how wobbly you feel. My relief was palpable when I came out of my 20 weeks scan. I remember putting it back a week as I had been on holiday the week before and I'd had terrible news the year before the same week I'd been on holiday. Just couldn't risk anything jinxing it.

Sabs and Curly hope you both are bearing up

moon not long now!

mrskate great that your scan showed growth. Keeping everything crossed.

Sun is shining here

Oh rumours I can't even begin to imagine what you are feeling right now :( Do you feel like talking about it? Can they tell at this stage where ds2 is on the autism spectrum. Do you think there is adequate support where you are? Big hugs missus. I hope ds2 turns out just as wonderful as his big brother. My heart melts sometimes when you repeat what he's been saying :)

Thanks for the lovely posts. I'm so sad but I am keeping her picture up on the wall and every time I lose it I see her looking at me with a wry smile and telling me to get on with it. My heart is breaking for Sabs :( Will you get to see her hon? You have had such a tough few years. Big hugs lovely xxxx

Big hugs to our weebly pregnant ladies. 4ever the anomaly scan can be done between 18 and 22 weeks so I'm sure anything bad would be picked up at 17 weeks. Think of it as one week till you get reassured of how healthy this baby is. Your little fella doesn't need a scan honest. Hang in there and share your fears with us rather than doing the 3am worrying by yourself xxxx

mrskate are you okay? Have you the 12 week scan booked? Any chance of a cheeky private scan at 8 weeks?

Neeko hope the spelling and grammar are improving so we don't have to report you to the headmistress

It's nearly March moon how are you doing sweetie?

Waves to blue lbm mls barbie Remindme cupcake and all of you lovelies.

Curlyboy has slept for 1.5 hours woohoo

blue you really have a lovely way of saying things, and the right things :)

rumours big hugs for you, the girls have already said how brilliant you are, although I think you said it all in your post - your boys are happy - that is the main thing and they are a testament to your strength and hard work with them. It was also lovely to hear ds1 being protective over his brother, aww thats such a beautiful thing to say. Hope you will get some good support from your mental health nurse, and of course, we're all here to help in any way we can. Keep smiling.

4ever hugs for you too, we all totally understand and are desperately hoping with you that all will be ok.

More hugs for curly and sabs wishing you strength to get through difficult times.

to blue and remindme and more hugs for anyone that needs them.

I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow and its 11 days til the scan. Dh told a few more family members yesterday and I was a bit upset, although he did tell me he was going to tell them, because I feel under pressure to provide the so longed for baby, and I dont want to let anyone down I have no idea whats happening in my belly, all seems to be ok but that doesnt mean anything does it? I desperately need some reassurance, why couldnt the stupid midwife arrange me an early scan it would have worked wonders for my silly brain that works on overtime.

Rumors sending some huge squeezy hugs up there. I'm sorry you are having to go through it again but if anyone can deal with this then it's you. Bless your ds1, it's little things like his comment that will get you through it.

4ever you are bound to be a big weebly mess right now. I agree that anything major would have been picked up in your last scan. Try & have 10 mins each day alone to focus & breathe, breathe, breathe...

Same goes to you moon, those early days are so hard when you can't feel for movement or listen out for a heartbeat. Just keep telling yourself that no news is good news.

Hugs to both sabs & curly. Blue now you've mentioned it I could do with a right fronking session!!

errmm all I have is some cooking red wine, several-years-old schnapps and Xmas pudding flavoured vodka.. any takers?? you can tell we don't get fronked much in this house.. we need some cocktails, virgin for our pregnant ladies of course

4ever watching obem when I was pregnant always made me think everything on there would happen to me. But I won't tell you to stop watching as I know you love it! Just try not to worry..surely you've had your fair share of crap!

moon that is SO lovely your dh is telling more people, I know it makes it hard for you but it also means he's excited, & more importantly that he BELIEVES! didn't realise you were already 11 weeks that's amazing!! Wish they could've got u a dating scan sooner! I had mine at 11 weeks, hmph.. but still..not long! Hope u don't mind me asking but at how many weeks did you lose your los? Cos if it was before 11 weeks then you've already passed a hurdle!

Dear dear lovely rumours my heart just aches for you. I know as you said, it was expected, but to have it confirmed is so bloody hard.. really hope the nurse will just be amazing & let you cry if you need to. Massive hugs to you x x x

curly you sound really strong, well done for getting through the funeral x x x

sabs I'm so sorry lovely, I remember how hard it was when your grandfather passed. I know you also believe in an afterlife so it is some small comfort to know she is being called to something so much bigger & better & eternal. Loads of love to all your family x x x

That's fine if you all need to bully me for some stress relief. I'm a big girl. I can take it

On phone so can't do massive posts but wanted to add my hugs to the hugfest and to post this ray of hope. My friend who lost her little girl when her twins were born way too early had a beautiful and perfectly healthy DD today! While we all know so well that one child will never replace another it's wonderful to think her DS will have a sibling to grow and play with. Miracles do happen.

cupcake we lost the first one at around 7 weeks but I had bleeding so I know I was losing it. The second was different, everything seemed to be going ok but started bleeding the weekend before the dating scan I think I was just over 12 weeks, turned out he/she had stopped growing but my body hadn't realised, so I continued feeling pregnant and I had no idea. Its this I'm most afraid of, I really can't go through that again, it scares me so much.

Lovely little miracle neeko there's hope for us all

Ahhhhh neeko that's lovely.

Moon I know EXACTLY how you feel. I remember I had a bleed with dd2 at 9 weeks when I was away at bils (remember remindmewhat you were giving me the details of local hospitals) & all I could think was I just can't CAN'T go through it all again. Of course I would have though. I would have kept going until I had my miracle baby, no matter how many losses I would have had to endure. I really believe in the power of pma, put your feet up & BELIEVE. Take time out every day for you, be kind to yourself & to that little bean inside you that's growing healthy & strong.

Wow a day full of emotions on here for our lovely emmsys weebles, and once again I'm just overcome what a wonderfully supportive lovely thread of friends we have here... All here holding each other up, for all our various reasons.. Ladies, lets toast, with some of cupcakes funky combo of drinks, to our shared strength that we pass round each other so unfalteringly.. tis a beautiful thing..

Rumours I know I've already said this by tx to you, and countless times previously, as the others have today, but I just think you are such an amazing, strong, and inspirational mum, as do your boysquite obviously, who just sound like such wonderful little characters, which again, is testament to their lovely mum.. I now keep envisioning them like mini Blues brothers in their trilbys and suits going 'we're the autism brothers' - the epitomy of cool! Of course you are going to be feeling a gut wrenching wealth of emotions, and I'm so glad you have a good support network already in place... I hope you've now found a moments space and had a quiet little cry, and just know we are all here for you whenever you need us...

Moon wow 11 weeks hon?! That's blummin brilliant! I know what an eternity it feels like til scan day but I've every faith that this just has to be your time... I know you're full of anxiety, and can understand your Dh telling people making you feel pressured, but although I've also felt that way, I've also felt like the more people that know, are more people willing it on, the power of combined positive thought and all that.. I honestly attribute that as a major factor to the success of Summers pregnancy, and to the so far success, of this one...

Sabs I've been thinking of you all day I hope you have found some inner strength from somewhere and your family is finding solace and support from each other at this sad time... totally agree with what cupcake said and hope that brings you comfort...

Curly yesterday must of been very hard, but was really touching how looking at her picture picks you up.. Dh is in a quandry, 2wks ago a friend he and his brothers grew up with, very sadly took his own life, (only a couple yrs older than me) such a tragic waste, the funeral is the day of our scan, a couple of hrs before, he's not sure if he's going to go still..

Just wanna thank you all again for picking me up, bless remindme with all the hugs, blue with the always empathic words of understanding, mls & cupcake with the positivity and reassurance, and the lovelies I've just posted to still finding words for me and others when you're weebling too... Such a special lovely lot... Do hope barbie returns soon and we iron things out

Midwives today were lovely and reassured me, as a lot of you said, anything bad would of been spotted, will still feel better once its over and I know for definite though! More sleep would def help too..

Ooop and I missed saying to neeko , that is such lovely news for your friend, I remember vividly what she went through and even shedding a tear for her and telling Dh so really lovely... Oh, and thanks for the you gave me with your very unlike you post! Tut tut! I thought it was an impostor!

Mls there you go with the positivity bless ya! Could of written your post myself, Moon you listen to her! She speaks a lot of sense

Random one for moon - was just looking on New Look website at maternity clothes, huge and fabulous selection! Really reasonable too...! hope you're not weebling too much, only 9 more sleeps

Special hugs to Sabs, our thoughts are with you and your family

Rumours a hug for you too, hope your meeting with the nurse on thursday helped and you're bearing up?

Big waves to everyone else... A zillion things to do today! Nesting kicking in bigstyle, Dh assigned to loft duty! Mostly sorting and clearing to make space, though muchneeded preg pillow coming down to stop me nicking his pillow at night! Next weekend after scan will start sorting Summers old stuff into 'keep' & 'ebay' piles!