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Rainbow babies- for all of us holding, pregnant with and trying for our rainbows. While remembering all our darling angels

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Moominsarescary · 06/08/2012 19:48

Hoping the thread brings us luck and that soon we will all be holding our rainbows xx

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Bluetinkerbell · 17/09/2012 13:55

had midwife appointment this morning, wasn't my usual midwife as she was on holiday. Bump measured 29 cms, which means it only grew 1 cms since 28 weeks when I measured 28 cms. Is that an excuse to start scoffing yummie things? Wink Baby is apparently head down, I couldn't figure it out myself and pushing nicely on my bladder (noticed that). Blood results were fine and urine this time as well! :)
Seeing them again in 3 weeks. I asked about the home birth and midwife said shouldn't be a problem Grin as long as consultant signs me over to them after next check up!

I hope everyone else is ok! x

blizy · 17/09/2012 14:04

Elly- I hope everything is ok?

Mecha- thinking of you, I hope you get though the appointment ok.

Blue- glad all is well.

fanjodisfunction · 17/09/2012 14:20

lurking to see if there is any news from elly.

blue thats great news about the home birth, hope the consultant lets you. Also great news all round, and yes I think you could scoff a few cakes and choccies, think you deserve it.

mecha hope your ok?

blizy hows it going? Have you heard anymore from your doctors about getting pg?

blizy · 17/09/2012 14:28

Fan, if I'm honest things are a bit shit. I am trying to get an appointment with GP (gold dust comes to mind), i think I am going to start on AD's.
Dh has his sperm analysis next tues, so we will await the results before taking things further.
How are you doing?

Bluetinkerbell · 17/09/2012 14:35

blizy hugs! if you'd like to talk, you know where I am x

fan DH made us eggy bread for lunch Wink I eat mine with sugar (it's a Belgian thing) yum!

fanjodisfunction · 17/09/2012 14:37

blizy I know exactly where you are at. It sucks! Im just waiting for my scan on monday, keep thinking its going to tell me the worst and I might have to look into adoption. It scares me a bit to be honest. I think if it comes back to say everything is fine I will still see the consultant and maybe he can help out. After DH saying last week that he would give up alcohol, he went to the pub yesterday and had a cider. I dont want to have a go at him just yet, I want him to realise himself, Ive tried in the past to tell him that Alcohol effects sperm but he thinks Im nagging and because we conceived Fi while he was drinking then its all fine.
Its not like he drinks loads though, but I feel Im doing so much to get pg and all he has to do is stop drinking is that too much to ask? Sometimes it feels like I am battling my body, Dh and the whole world to get pregnant, that cant be healthy.
I hope you get your doc appointment soon and he can help out with your depression, I was put on AD's once when my Grandad was taken ill and I took them for a week and then flushed them down the loo. Smile But I know they can really work, my BBF is on them and is much better. Hope it works out for you too.

Bluetinkerbell · 17/09/2012 15:42

Need some advice.. DD1 will be 4 on 31st October, during half term... when I will be 38 weeks pregnant, so I would like to do a soft play party, which means not a lot to organise on the day for me (unlike last year when I did it all myself in the parish centre) Do I hold the party on her actual birthday? which is Wednesday, or the weekend before or weekend after? Will people forget it is on during half term?

blizy · 17/09/2012 15:48

Thanks blue and fan. I have the same problem with Dh drinking. He thinks because alot of babies are conceived when people are drunk it doesn't affect spermHmm! I told him last night he will have to stay away from alcohol next weekend as his sa is on Tuesday.

KleinePoppet · 17/09/2012 16:05

elly still thinking of you x

blizy this will make you laugh: I remembered a few days ago that you'd said your DH's SA was mid Sept, and I was about to ask when it was, when I thought you might think I was a real weirdo for remembering about his, ahem, appointment with a cup, so I didn't say anything Blush Confused Grin
I'm so sorry you're struggling. Lots of love and hugs from me. Hope your gold-dust GP appt materialises soon. Please do everything you can to help yourself out. ADs really DO help if you need them. (Long and boring story, but I had M.E. for eight years in the past, and obviously my life was very limited, and equally obviously I suffered from depression at various points. Looking back now, I wish I'd taken the ADs when they were offered to me. I probably would have been able to get myself together a lot faster, and looked at treatment options in a far more positive frame of mind, and probably got better sooner. Not at ALL the same - but still, I do wish I'd taken them for a bit.)

fan hugs for you too xxx

I have just made my first solo trip to the cemetery. It's a half-hour drive away, and we tend to go once a week together, which is all we usually want to do. But today I just wanted to go by myself... it was really nice, insofar as 'nice' describes sitting at my daughter's grave with tears pouring down my face. Glad I went.

Ellypoo · 17/09/2012 16:13

Well, they couldn't see anything really on the main scan, so did an internal - could see a pregnancy sack & yolk sack but no heartbeat or baby, they think it's just too early (although I'm 7 weeks by dates, I ovulated late so I think I'm about 6 weeks, which is in line with this scan), so they have made me another appointment for 2 weeks when hopefully the foetus will have developed. It's not all over yet - they are pretty sure that it's just too early, but we'll see in 2 weeks I suppose.

mech, I hope your consultant appointment went ok and that they were able to give you some answers.

I'm on ADs blizy - I didn't want them, but I was really struggling to cope, and they have lifted my moods a bit, and the idea is that they will give me the strength to start counselling, and then as my counselling progresses (I haven't even had 1 session yet), I will reduce the AD's.

My DH didn't give up drinking at all, but I did make him cut down!! I pointed out that if we were to conceive, that I would be giving it up completely for 9 months +, so surely it's only fair for him to cut it out for a couple of months or so to at least give us the best shot. Men have still got the easiest part of TTC though ;)

wtw, what a horrible thing for that lady to say, who really ought to know better. I would be really p*d off too, not fair.

blue, I would probably do it the weekend before DD1's bday.

Hope you're ok Amy, I'm pleased your consultant is looking after you, and I hope that you settle in well to your new job, really exciting!!

fanjodisfunction · 17/09/2012 16:38

elly that is a mixed bag, how are you feeling about? Could they tell you what the bleeding was about? Fx for your next scan that you get to see that little bean.

Ellypoo · 17/09/2012 16:46

They think that the bleeding is most likely implantation bleeding, or maybe coming from somewhere else (in short, they have no idea!). Feel really mixed to be honest, and I just know these next couple of weeks are going to be really hard. The nurse that we saw after the scan said that they couldn't see the foetal pole (I think that's what they called it?) which could be either because it's too early, or that it's not going to develop. Just have to wait & see & keep hoping really. At least it's in the right place though, that's something I suppose.

fanjodisfunction · 17/09/2012 17:41

elly we will be here to hold your hand. Clutching to the positives is all you can do.

blizy · 17/09/2012 17:44

Ah elly- that must be like torture, like fan I am here to hold your hand. We will get you through the next 2 weeks. X

Ellypoo · 17/09/2012 17:53

Thanks lovely ladies - I'm so glad to have 'met' such supportive friends (can I call you that? It seems weird when we haven't met, but in a lot of ways I can talk to you all so much more than i can in RL).
Flowers to you all xxx

fanjodisfunction · 17/09/2012 18:14

We are your friends elly that's not weird at all!

Whatevertheweather · 17/09/2012 18:26

Oh Elly fan summed it up perfectly - a mixed bag for sure. Also here for hand holding over the next 2 weeks. Has the spotting stopped altogether now? Sending sticky growing vibes your way xx

Mecha how did you get on this avo? xx

((hugs)) Blizy perhaps give the ad's a try and see if they help? You've been through so much my friend. How long will you have to wait for the results of dh's SA once he's done it?

Hope you and dh can work out the alcohol thing fan it must be hard feeling like you are doing all you can and he's not xx

Yay for good m/w appt blue and that homebirth plans are taking shape. Re ds's party I'd do the weekend before or after as the wednesday is Halloween so people may have plans or that might just be me as I love Halloween and might have some of Katie's friends for party tea and trick or treating!

Well done on your solo trip Kleine xx I like going to see Erin on my own - I can chat to her more freely and take my time making it look nice again

KleinePoppet · 17/09/2012 18:37

elly I'm glad you can see the positives from your scan. Hang on tight to them when you're feeling terrified... I imagine that 'wait and see' are such stressful words for you to hear... but if you are only just 6 weeks now then I suppose you have to wait a little bit. Two weeks is an awfully long time though! Will also be here for hand-holding (&cyber-cake).

KleinePoppet · 17/09/2012 18:39

Posted too soon. Wanted to say that I am so hopeful for you that all will be well xx

mecha how are you doing?

spilttheteaagain · 17/09/2012 20:13

Checking in again finally! The child is miraculously asleep before I am which is a marked improvement on recent history. More typically we lie down in bed and I feed her and bf hormones send me to sleep and she is still tweaking my nose/giggling/playing with my hair Grin But tonight, fast akip after 10 min feed, must have timed it right for once. Bless her, she is so very very beautiful and peaceful lying there

elly I do feel for you, the uncertainty is very stressful. Here's hoping xx

kleine your little E is just utterly beautiful, that perfect baby skin! I looked a long time at the picture of her snuggled up to your heart. Such warmth and peace in that image. I can't imagine a more perfect place for her to be as you let her go xx

blizy so sorry you are in such a bad place. You have endured so much, you bloody deserve to get that BFP, I'm gutted for you that it is taking so long.

blue that is great that all the MW checks are showing great results and woohoo for the homebirth approval! Are you planning on using a pool? I used one, and v much enjoyed the weightlessness and ability to writhe in pain move freely. I would do Ella's party the week before as you will be marginally less pregnant so hopefully less huge and tired and less likely to go into labour mid party!!

I am really feeling the build up to Bobbie's anniversaries this year. I suspect last year having Freya as a newborn to find my feet with took up nearly all of my energy and cushioned me a bit. This year I feel very raw all over again. More and more insular and just sad as the days go by, especially in the evenings. I want people to know the dates are looming, that I miss my baby and I hurt, but I don't know how to say it. It's like being struck a bit dumb.

fanjodisfunction · 17/09/2012 20:26

blue I would do it the weekend before, everyone will expect a party at the weekend and as spilt says you will be a bit less big!

spilt my lovely, this year you truly have known what you have missed with Bobbie. You have seen Freya grow and that has got to hurt that Bobbie is not there to see it also, that she never got the chance to it all. Hugs to you, anniversaires are hard.

Babyh200 · 17/09/2012 22:55

Evening ladies.

Sorry I've fell behind since yesterday so will catch up properly tomorrow.
Just a quick post to say that I am thinking of you all.

ELLY: Willing your pregnancy to develop so much........Take care xxx

Mech: Hope you appointment went ok was thinking of you today its so exhausting at these meetings.

Nite Nite xx

Babyh200 · 17/09/2012 23:17

Blue: My DD's birthday is 20th November.....not long to go now for you : ).......I would suggest an earlier party for your DD's birthday.....you need to take it easy as well. I know these places do most of the work but its important that you try and rest xxxxxxxxxxx

blizy · 18/09/2012 07:06

Babyh- that my birthday too Smile.

Blue- my wee did is due on the 16th nov, it has flew in so far! I agree with everyone re: E's party.

Hope you are all well . X

Babyh200 · 18/09/2012 07:42

Morning Everyone.

Blizy: Hope you have wrote you birthday list, you deserve to be pampered. Sorry your AF got you....life so unfair at times xxx

WTW: That woman from your SANDS group was very unkind.....even worse was the comment about you getting pregnant so soon. She should realise more than most that all our angel babies can NEVER be replaced. Just wanted to say that we all started on the initial journey seeking a much wanted baby......so why shouldn't you have continued to pursue that dream.......If I had been blessed I would have been pregnant already. Sending you big hugs and wishing you wonderful times with your beautiful girls.xxxxx

Split: Sorry your missing you Bobbie.....thinking of you.

Angel: Your so organised....my DH is like that and he organises me. We normally start packing 6 weeks before. Bet you can wait to get some sun : )

Had a low day yesterday........its so awful at times. Went on FB and seen one of my dear friends photos of her three children her little boy looks so like the others and was in the middle of his older siblings......started to think about what my beautiful DS would look like now : (

Back later school run calling xxxx

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