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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive thread Number 2

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dejags · 16/12/2003 09:09

Hi Girls,

I thought I'd start a new thread the old one was getting a bit long.

I am feeling a lot more relaxed this month. We have been BD'ing but more for the fun of it than for babymaking. DH (bless him) has bought me a separate present for each the 12 days of Xmas - one a day. He has bought me some lovely things - which are very useful in "getting us in the mood"...

I am such a lucky girl!

Here's hoping Santa is kind to us all...

OP posts:
BeckiF · 12/01/2004 16:02

It's all part of the investigations over the years! You spend your teenage years being told NOT to get pregnant and take precautions, and yet when you WANT to have a fmily no-one has ever told you it just might not be possible!

Quackers · 12/01/2004 16:20

Big bird, lovely to hear from you!!! I'm ok thanks, ticking along!
That sounds promising though! They sound like they know what they're doing!! Hope all goes well with your appointment in March too!
Bunny, could that perhaps have been ov when you had spotting? It can happen then too. Did you have any ov symptoms this cycle??

BigBird · 12/01/2004 16:46

Hi BeckiF - thanks for the info. I heard you could be out of work for 2/3 days after and a bit sore.....were u ?
No point worrying about it till I find out if it's definite !

I hope I don't even make it to the appt in March IYKWIM !!!

The hardest thing for me at the min is that dd is getting older and older ... we had hoped for an 18mth-2yr gap and at this stage it will be pushing 3yrs or more.....that is making me panic more han anything. I want company for her NOW ! Anyone else feel like this.

(and I'm constantly reminding myself I am so lucky to have one in the first place....)

BeckiF · 12/01/2004 18:10

Bigbird - After the lap op to check for endometritis, I went home the next day which was a Friday and stupidly (but I was young) i WALKED to work on the Monday!! Hence I was taken quite poorly but was only off for a eek after that! The dye episode was a-ok. A tad sore for a few days I spose, but I went to work the next day! For me it was the not knowing! Now I have had it done I can say to people to just relax, it's over so soon!!

hana · 12/01/2004 18:32

Big bird - I wanted a smaller gap too - would have been 2 years but lost that one, and then would have been 2 and a half, lost that one too.........so it will be at least 3 years, well more than that as I'm not pregnant now. Nothing you can do about that though, I still get upset when I think about friends that have the gap that I wanted, but as I said, really nothing that I (or you) can really do. Best of luck this month

eyelash · 12/01/2004 19:31

Bunny2 and hana - my miscarriage clinic nurse told me she was always surprised when people stopped ttc when having investigations. As my clinic also has a pregnancy clinic for anybody newly pregnant (from 4 weeks) she thought by not trying you were missing out on more opportunities to be pregnant. That theory seems to be supported by the Lesley Regan book as well. But who knows. Good luck to everybody!

bunny2 · 12/01/2004 20:20

Cheers Eyelash . I know odds-wise my chances are excellent so yep, shagging it is. Dh is very happy.

Quacks, this is the first time I have tried keeping a chart and monitoring my cycle. I have had no EWCM despite looking for it many times a day . So I dont think it is ovulation spotting, there again it might be. ~I am trying to establish the position of my cervix, not really sure what to compare it to. How low is low??

BigBird · 13/01/2004 14:41

thanks hana....you are right - nothing we can do only hope that this is the month...! You know how you get some days though ?
I hope it happens for you sometime very soon and that it happens for me too.
And everyone here....an explosion of good luck is whats needed !!

bluestar · 13/01/2004 15:13

I wanted a smaller gap too and someone once said to me that you can never plan for these things (said before I had ds and you always think that you will be fine and everything will go to your plan). Now I tell my friends thinking of #2 to be prepared to go the distance! Now at the bd/ttc time of my cycle and have managed the last 2 nights. At least this is the time you can actively do something constructive before you get to the 2ww which is the hardest part of all I think. Good luck everyone.

BeckiF · 13/01/2004 19:29

Euurrgghhh .... day 95 of my cycle, still no AF after the slight 'smudge' at the weekend. Now got migrainey type head and nausea. -pg on Sunday, so I can only attribute it to hormones as I've upped the Metformin I'm on .... how is everyone else doing?

bunny2 · 13/01/2004 21:27

BeckiF, that sounds very frustrating. My cycles can be long and irregular too, just adds to the ttc stress.

Hana, have you looked into vitamin E as a supplement for treating antiphospholipid antibody disorders? It has been used instead of heparin to help prevent miscarriage. I only discovered this today and am trying to find out more. Apparently women treated with aspirin AND vitamin E had more success than those treated with aspirin and heparin. Might be worth some investigation.

Quackers · 14/01/2004 11:18

I have no idea Bunny about cervical position, not one I've tried!

Bigbird, My DD will be almost 4 when this next baby comes along. I used to worry myself about age gap and I have found it is something that really doesn't matter. I will have all my days with the new baby as DD will be starting school, it will be much easier I think. My friend seemed to have an obsession about only having 2 yrs between her kids. I said WHY? She could not answer me. She had answered her own problem! I was almost 7 when my sisiter was born and I don't think I suffered for it. In fact I was able to help and enjoyed playing and didn't squabble too much with her.

bunny2 · 14/01/2004 13:10

Ds is 4 in May, so the youngest he wil be if I manage a successful pregnancy, is nearly 5 when a sibling comes along. I have worried about the gap but looking on the bright side, I have had 4 years to concentrate on my ds and we do tons of stuff that friends with more children cant do. When/if No2 comes along, ds will be in school and I will have lots of time to concentrate on the younger one. A big gap can be a positive thing, I really believe that.

BigBird · 14/01/2004 15:06

Thanks guys...you are stars. Once again you've made me feel better.

I guess I should think about all the things I can do with dd now and just do them....

I must make a list

Quackers · 14/01/2004 15:08

That's it BB!!!!!! Think of that bigger picture and the pecious time you have got with your little one!!!! Although I do hope this is your year, you deserve it!!

bunny2 · 14/01/2004 15:17

Ds is out with grandparents so loads of time to obsess about ttc today. After a few days of spotting I appear to be getting AF today so I spoke to my consultant and he has advised me to start on clomid tomorrow - I am so scared.

Already been to Boots for wee sticks and pg tests and yesterday I bought a digital thermometer so this is it now, serious stuff. I'm on a mission!

bunny2 · 14/01/2004 15:20

BTW, is anyone else struck with fertility-related hypochondria? I insisted on a test for PCOS despite 2 doctors saying I didnt have the classic signs (it was neg), then immune disorders (still waiting for those tests). Now today I have been Googling and am convinced I have endometriosis and a luteal phase defect. It seems that everything I read is relevant to me. Dh is getting a bit bored by it all.

Mum2Ela · 14/01/2004 15:25

Bunny2 - Yes! Am having fertility hypochondria (sp!). Have only been ttc since sept but last month used opk's which said I hadn't ov'd, then came on last week. Had ewcm only 6 days before AF arrived - I think I too have a luteal phase defect!

Am off to docs 2moz to be laughed at!

Quackers · 14/01/2004 15:39

Bunny, yes I'm in recovery!!

Whatever was going, I had it!! What makes you think you have luteal phase defect?? Do you have less than 10 days luteal?? Surely you wouldn't have had a child before if you had endometriosis?? I think you are doing the right thing doing wee sticks and temp taking. There comes a time when you just feel you have to do everything you can. Fortunately we have the power of Mumsnet to help us with the technical and emotional stuff!!! Have you looked at fertility friend. You can log your temps and it will tell you when you have ov'd as sometimes it can be hard to pick up the first month when you;re not so used to it. Clomid again then - huraah!!! Watch for your ov signs and when you get your temp rise you know you have ov'd!! OOH I'm excited for you!! Good luck tommorow!!! I have every faith!!

bunny2 · 14/01/2004 21:42

Hello again - really must go and do something else!

So glad I'm not the only one with fertility hypochondria!

I have been reading a good book online, it covers lots fo fertility stuff linkwww.drmalpani.com./book/index.html\it's here{}

Good night all

bunny2 · 14/01/2004 21:43

Hello again - really must go and do something else!

So glad I'm not the only one with fertility hypochondria!

I have been reading a good book online, it covers lots fo fertility stuff it's here

Good night all

hana · 15/01/2004 16:35

me too - was convinced I had a luteal phase defect too...and everything else I've read about. Don't know if I'm pleased that I am having testing done and will know for sure about these things or not???? That was ruled out but not APS yet. I get worried when I read about anything having to do with fertility - am desperate to have a smear test done to make sure that I am healthy but have thrush right now and it would affect results----which means this month is out as is next (I'm away for 3 weeks ) DH says maybe a break is a good idea and I was really quite upset about it. Reading the posts below about bigger gaps than you would like has made me feel better........so I think a break it is. Good luck to everyone.
hana

bunny2 · 15/01/2004 18:46

Enjoy your break from ttcing Hana. It's such a stressful thing, we could all do with a break from it from time to time!

Well, spotting hasnt turned into af yet so no clomid bugger, I'm raring to go.

BigBird · 15/01/2004 21:16

good luck hana. see you again soon. have a nice time off.

steppemum · 16/01/2004 07:02

Hi everyone, I haven't been online for ages as we've had guests and I didn't want anyone reading over my shoulder. AF was due last Saturday, but can be anything up to 7 days late since ds. I did a test on saturday, negative, and again Wednesday - negative, so as i still hadn't come on this morning I half heartedly did another test, and it was POSTIVE!!!!

I can't believe it, we only started trying this month. We don't live in the UK, so the tests are the local ones, and I don't know whether to trust then (they only cost 50p, but they are made by an American company) I'm not sure whether to get excited about it or not, and I don't know whether to go out and buy a dozen more tests just to be sure. It seems a bit unreal.

I feel a bit bad coming on and saying I think I'm pregnant when so many others have been trying for ages. Good luck everyone.

PS, a friend of mine has a 6 year age gap between her kids, and she said it was so lovely, she was glad she hadn't had number 2 earlier. The older one (a boy) was so sweet and helpful with his sister, and they do play together even though she is only 1.