Trying to conceive thread Number 2

[dejags]

Hi Girls,

I thought I'd start a new thread the old one was getting a bit long.

I am feeling a lot more relaxed this month. We have been BD'ing but more for the fun of it than for babymaking. DH (bless him) has bought me a separate present for each the 12 days of Xmas - one a day. He has bought me some lovely things - which are very useful in "getting us in the mood"...

I am such a lucky girl!

Here's hoping Santa is kind to us all...

Fingers crossed bluestar, although understand that the next 2wks are the longest.

I just wanted to come here tonight and say

I am planning to meet up with my NCT friends at half term. They will both be staggering around with huge bumps. We all started trying at the same time. I am happy for them, but I am bloody jealous. I want to moan about aching pelvis and nausea.

Thanks for letting me sound off.

I'm jealous too and I don't know them!
A good friend is expecting a second (our dd's are nearly the same age) she had a missed abortion ( think that's what it's called..baby died at 7 weeks but wasn't realised until 12 week scan) at the same time as me in June 03.....I was preg again early October and she was just a few weeks behind me... but I lost that one and she is now 19 weeks pregnant. Really happy for her - we had a lot of 'jealous of others conversations' up until we were pregnant ( I didn't find out that she was preg until I had m/c in October) but now that she's left me so to speak it's been really awkward. Am going to see her next week but it will be tough. I've rambled but hope it makes sense.
yes be jealous I think the only thing that 'fixes' it is being preg yourself.
lots of luck
hana

god, I'm a bit down myself and that sounded grim

and I've been saying DON'T CHECK THE TTC BOARD YOU'LL ONLY GET UPSET' for a while now and I still do knowing that when I read of other people's successes it will make me feel awful. I know others feel the same way and I don't want to feel awful but I can't help checking every now and then. Why do we do this to ourselves??

(yes meant to shout up there)

hana
xxxxxx

hana

I know how you feel, although your scenario is more complex than mine, but I feel shit and have only been ttc since sept! This month has been crap tho. Me and DH have argued about one thing or another for last 4 nights, hence no bd'ing which means it would have to be an immaculate conception to be pg this month!

Generally sick and tired of 'trying'. And everyone one says it will happen when I am relaxed well I CAN'T RELAX!

Spent a lot of yesterday crying and then DH had the cheek to come home and ask me what I had done today (eer, look after our 16 month DD? 3 leads of washing, shopping, cleaning etc.) and then ask me if I had been sleeping! What a twat! Needless to say we went to be bed again last night without speaking - which was day 15 of cyccle

Steppemum and Cazzybabs - many congtaulations! Hope your pregnancies are happy ad healthy ones

BeckiF - I feel for you. After coming off the
pill I had a 52 day cycle and I rememebr thinking whether it would always be like that and I would only have 6 'goes' a year of trying. I try to imagine how you are feeling . Any news on AF front?

xx

Hana, I'm sorry you are so down, sounds like you are suffering. I had real trouble dealing with pregnant women after loss. I knew it was bad but felt as though I could justify it cos I'd had losses. I would be in tears almost if I passed a woman in the street looking happy being pg. It became an obsession. Couldn't believe I wascapable of such bitterness but I was. DH just wasn't bitter even though he suffered so much. He just told me to think of it as we don't know what they went though to get pg and it helped a little. I just loath women who really have no clue what precious gift they have been given to take care of in their bodies. I was out at a kids play centre yesterday and the woman in the ticket booth was smoking one after the other. She stood up and was about 7 months gone!! My friend had to hold me back, I was raging!!
Sorry, soap box alert!!!
Be good to yourself Hana and Fisil. I hope success comes quickly for you. xxxxx

BTW, Mum2Ela, you just can't relax can you! I never did, I was more of a desperate panick! Drink helps!!

hana and fisil...I am with you on the jealousy. A friend who had her first the same time as me has had her second 5 months ago and I am 'dreading' hearing she might be pg on her third !! Also people announced pregnancies early last year and I thought - 'I won't be long behind them...maybe we can meet up on Mat leave etc' and they are all having babies now/soon and where am I .... ?
I stayed off here from time to time - depends on my mood - but it does help to see you are not the only one feeling this way.
I have my fertility doc appt for March so at least I can focus on that now.

Good luck to you all

Yes girls. Know all of those feelings well. Mum2ela, know all about that too - haven't done much this month, really couldn't be bothered and next month I'll be away when I ovulate. Well, 3 weeks of my cycle so that's shot too. We started ttc in Feb last year and I didnt' think I'd be here - not on this thread but in this situation - a year later. Don't want to keep feeling sorry for myself but this is such a good way to get rid of feelings and have others understand how I'm feeling. I'm not like this IRL. I hope I'm not anyways! I'm always the optomist and look for positives, tell others things are going to be ok. Guess if you're the strong one when you need the strength it's a lot harder to find. I don't think our dh/dp's always understand however hard they try.
Will try to be positive, but it's hard isn't it? It does come and go.

I'm off home to see my mum in a few weeks time and it will be great to have a break from here, and get a big hug from her Mums just know.

oh bigbird - me too dreading others 'announcing' - my sister and SIL are both ttc right now and although esp with them ( we're really close and neither have children yet) I'll be thrilled but it will be another stab. And they know how I feel and would hate for it to be awkward with them both.
Awwww what a moaning girl I seem to be!
Guess I haven't managed to stay away like I said......have a good w/e all and well, things can only get better
love hana

Hana - gosh that must be sooo hard with your SIL and sister ttc at mo too. It was bad enough for me with mext door neighbour - started ttc at the same time. She has just had her 20 week scan (a boy!) and I am still here.

Take care. xx

Mum2Ela - nope! No AF yet and now day 103. No syptoms that she is on her way either. Mind you I am holding GALLONS of water, have a painful (not sore) left boob and can feel a tad sicky at times. You could almost read into that that I may be pg, but I know I'm not....None the less, I'm thankful I got 60 pg tests off the net cos I'm gonna keep testing AND using the ovulation detector thingy I got until AF comes!

I also think it's sods law that you argue with your partner when you could be bd-ing! Sometimes you HAVE to put the row aside to get to the mechanics and invariably dh thinks you are apologising!! Try it!

Hello everyone. I thought this might be a good time to join in on this thread because so many of you seem to feel very much like me at the moment.

My dh and I have been trying for #2 for quite a few months now and I'm getting pretty despondent, even though I'm not surprised as it took us ages to get ds. Recently, several friends have announced that they are expecting and I feel sooo jealous, even though I'm pleased for them too. It makes me feel a bit less bad to see some of you admitting to similar feelings about pg friends.

Our ds is nearly 2 now and we were hoping for a gap of about 2 years, but now it looks like we'll be lucky to get a gap smaller than 3 years.

I must sound a bit fed up - I'm not usually like this but as hana said, this is such a good place to offload and know others will understand.

BTW, I am a fairly regular poster but I've changed my name for this because a few `real life' friends know my usual nickname on here.

Best of luck to all this month .

Oh, I'm sorry to have brought this thread down and miserable.

But then again I'm not sorry, because it seems counterproductive to get all negative at work at home - I really need to keep my head up - so it is a real release to be able to come here and sound off.

to us all and a big hug (((()))))
And I give you all permission to hate me if I ever get pg!

Hugs to you too fisil!

I thought I would take it upon myself to start a new thred (Trying to Conceive Thread . . . .3!!) with lots of positive baby dust energy!

Join me . . . . . . . . .?

x