TTC after recent MC

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Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

Hi ladies, can I join in? I had my 2nd MC 2 weeks ago, I also have 2 DSs so am hoping for a DC3. Would love it if anyone can shed any light on what my rubbish body is doing now... I had medical management of MC, scan 3 days later showed MC was complete, but preg test a week after that still positive so now having HCG blood tests to see why levels not dropped. yesterday and today I have ov signs, but surely I can't be ov'ing a few days after my body still thinks I'm pregnant? would love to TTC but think better not until I've had a negative test and know everything is reset, so to speak. I know after my last MC my cycles were completely screwy for months and it was so frustrating when I was desperate to be pregnant again.
Wishing you all luck and very sticky rainbow babies in the months to come.

Woody I'm so very sorry to read your awful news. It must be so heartbreaking after having joy earlier in week. But you are sounding very positive and fx you will get your bfp real soon.

Lovely poem panda.

Welcome messtins, sorry to hear about your mc but there are lovely ladies here to talk to.

So so sorry to hear that woody [ hugs aplenty] x

Hi all

To be honest, I feel pretty devastated but am trying to be positive about what's happened. I do think that this time it wasn't right from the start - the spotting for a while before the +ve that never really stopped, the faint lines on the tests... Last time, I had terrible nausea almost constantly from the start and sore boobs that went very firm, having to get up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet - this time I had one sore boob and that was about it. The test had already gone -ve by yesterday lunchtime, shortly after the bleeding started. I kind of expected it from the start and not because of my previous mc, it just didn't feel right.

I am frightened that I am never going to even get to 12 weeks.
I am worried that having a second mc means I'm going to have more.

I think that I am going to try not and to test so early next time - maybe wait until at least a week past when I think af is due.

Both mcs are on my record so if I do have a 3rd, I will be referred for tests.

Hopefully it'll be third time lucky.

So it's back to ttc, hopefully I will be very fertile again!

Woody so sorry to hear your news. Twice in a row is just crap. Have a glass of wine and try and look after yourself. You will get there and we will all be here to hold your hand!

Welcome mess, sorry you find yourself here. I havent experienced exactly what you have had but would say that my post mc cycle was just weird and all over the place. I had early ovulation signs but with hindsight I didnt ov until CD30 which was a couple of weeks after negative pg tests!! I would just write this cycle off and not try to second guess it. I have found it easier to have an AF and start again from there but I know for others on here they have found it emotionally easier to just start TTC straight away.

Where are u on cycle almond? I know I asked before but keep forgetting
How many after mc?
I am on my second one and thought was going back to being regular but I'm late now and bfn. So frustrating!

Hi Lol, this is my 2nd cycle post MC. I am on CD14 but I havent ov yet (well no positive on the OPKs yet)! I have had a few cramps but other though. I think I will be on a long one too at this rate. I am away with work next week so sods law it will be then wont it!! What CD are you on? Did you/are you DTD EOD? We have been trying but it has been more like every 3 days !

I'm on cd 33. I DTD 3 times over 6 days then went on hol with friend so no more sex. Had positive opk sat two weeks ago but who knows if I did ov?
I used to have 31 day cycles. My first one after mc was 34. I'm very frustrated and grumpy right now

Lol its crap isnt it. I feel your pain after my 44 day cycle last 'month'!! I am setting myself up for another long one so I am not totally disheartened if it is. I am not very laid back though so I find it hard to 'wait' and if anyone tells me to relax one more time I may just scream! I have instead opted for distraction...but that doesnt work all the time.

How long were your cycles before mc?
I'm the most impatient person in the world! Hate waiting for anything.
Was your mc your first pg or do u have children already?

lol it might just be too early to get a +ve? Maybe try testing again in a few days? I know how frustrating the wait is.

Almond I keep getting told to "relax" - "just relax and it'll happen", "just relax about it and it'll all be ok". I even felt like someone was telling me that if I relaxed about being pg, I wouldn't mc. Makes me want to scream!

I am going to leave the OPKs this month and just dtd as regularly as I can. I've used the ov calculator on Mumsnet and both months I've fallen, I've definitely dtd a few times within the days that that says I am most fertile. So going to try that again!

Hello messins I am sorry that you've had to experience a mc and that you are now part of this strand but I've found everyone on here to be really supportive. When I had a mc in July (around 8/9weeks), it took me another 2 weeks or so to get a -ve test even though a scan around the time of the actual mc showed that absolutely everything had gone. I hated waiting for that -ve as I was so desperate to get pg again. I hope that you get your -ve soon.

Hi woody just wanted to say sorry for your experience and hopefully give you some hope with mine. I had a mc in december at 7 ish weeks then an earlier mc my next cycle in feb. Like you i worried what this would mean for me. I thought back to the hospitals original advice try again when you are ready physically and emotionaly. I had a couple of months off and felt better for it when we went back to trying. I am now nearing 6 months and have had a good experience with this pregnancy so far.

Anyway just wanted to say there is hope after 2 mc in a row.

Look after yourself, all the best for the futurex

Thank you goldie - unfortunately, it does seem that a lot of women experience several mcs. I really really really hope that it's 3rd time lucky for me. I don't know if this makes sense but for some reason I feel better that they've both happened at different points and as I said, I definitely felt that this one wasn't right from the start.

Congratulations with your pg and I hope you have a very smooth 3 months. Thank you.

I am not 100% sure on my pre-mc cycles as I had the coil for 10 years and managed to get pg 1st cycle after having it out (annoying I know!). I seemed to remember before that I was pretty regular so I am working on a 29 ish cycle. It's hard to know what is 'normal'!

Oh yes, no children yet so this is all very new to me!

Hi woody. Just wanted to say I am so sorry, I really hope the next one works out. Welcome to mess really sorry you are in this position.

Well my GP has referred me to a gynocologist, my bloods and ultrasound came back normal, which was good news but it doesn't give me any idea why I am having the chem pregs.

One thing she said terrified me. She said it would be a good idea to check for chromosomal abnormalities. I have one dd and I am now worried they there is somehow something wrong with her. She is very healthy and I don't have any real reason to worry but I can't help getting a bit paranoid.

What an awful thing for her to saywhenshewasbad!
She was probably brainstorming out loud. You would have noticed any difficulties with your dd, you are her mum. Don't fretxx

When- I'm fairly certain she means just where it hasn't worked in the current cases, chromosomal problems can be anything from downs to something as simple as a birth mark, donr worry about your dd, if she had a problem you'd know!

Woody just returned from a weekend away and am gutted to hear your news I hope you're feeling a little more positive today - it is heartbreaking that you've had to deal with this again but on the positive side, it is good to know you can definitely get pregnant - the odds are that one day soon you will get your take-home baby. I know that's prob not much comfort now though.

Thinking of you xxx

Woody hope it is third time lucky for you. Even after several miscarriages in a row the odds of you having a healthy pregnancy next time are still pretty good. One of my best friends IRL had 2 consecutive MMC at 12 weeks and thought she'd never get her take-home baby. She now has two beautiful children.
whenshewasbad most chromosone problems happen as the egg or sperm are formed, rather than being carried in your cells. Your daughter obviously came from a "good egg" (and sperm) and I'm sure she's fine. It's probably not something that you or DH are "carrying" just bad luck that those particular cells or the way they combined didn't work out.
Nice to have some people on here to chat to - haven't told many people about the MC this time, easier to cope without their sympathy in many ways, though I have 2 friends also in the 2MC club who have been great. We did DTD over the weekend to celebrate finally feeling physically better, so whilst we are not officially 'trying' if it happened quickly I'd be pleased. Seeing the GP tomorrow re latest HCG bloods from the end of last week so hoping I might be signed off for the moment, though no doubt will have to see her again re the swabs I'm still waiting for. I know last time I found having screwy cycles for a few months post MC was really hard to deal with. It took me 6m to get pregnant after MC1 and the pregnancy I've just lost took 12m, so I'm not too hopeful of a BFP, but you never know.

Hi posy hope you had a nice weekend away.

When I think maybe she was taking about your recent pregnancies? It is a stupid thing to say though.

I am feeling ok. I think it has helped that I kind of knew this was going to happen from the start. It just didn't feel right, lines on tests weren't dark and weren't getting any darker. I wasn't having the same symptoms as last time. I was spotting a lot.

I've got to look at the positives - I can get pg so now I've just got to work out how to get them to stick! Also, in some ways it makes me feel better that the two mcs have happened at different points - it's not like I have got to the same point twice and then it's gone wrong. I think that there was something wrong with this one from the start. And if I'd waited til af was a week overdue, I probably would have never even known I'd been pg. The nurse who took my blood today said that she does think the early testing and sensitivity of pg tests today causes a lot of heartache. I'm hoping that the blood test today will show that hcg has gone back to 0.

I think I'm going to try baby aspirin next time. Having a drs appointment tomorrow to see if they can give me any advice and I'm going to check the aspirin thing with them then. It's frustrating that you can't get referred for tests or anything until you've had 3 mcs but I suppose that does show how common they are. I was also thinking that when I had the early scans last time , they took swabs, looking closely at ovaries, fallopian tubes, uturus etc so if there was something there, they probably would have seen it then?

I am hoping that the claims that you are super fertile after a mc are true and that I can get pg again this cycle!

How is everyone else?

Hi ladies. How are we all doing?

Woody great to see you being so positive even though your hopes have been dashed. Fx for next cycle.

When I'm sure your dd is perfect. Bloody doctors should think twice before speaking.

Well I was shocked and got a smiley opk on Sunday. We had managed to dtd on sat but that's been it. Poor dh is stressed about work etc and as much as I tried to keep smiley a secret he guessed and the pressure of that actually got to him. It never has before. So prob we have missed our chance this month. But look if it means my cycles are getting back to normal then it's still all good.

Woody you sound so positive, which is really good. I've read a bit about the baby aspirin thing, and I think if this current pg (4 weeks today) doesn't work out I will try it .

Munchin I think if you DTD the day before Smiley, then you have a really good chance!

So yes, 4 weeks pg here, and I'm so petrified. Running to the loo every chance I get to examine ever bit of CM and obsess over spotting. Sigh... would love this one to stick, but who knows.. Getting cramps on and off which worry me, but the only good thing is I've been doing tests every 48 hours and they have gotten much much darker, so Hcg is doubling which is good I guess. Fx!

Hi all. Welcome Messtins

Its Day 38 for me of WTF cycle. Some cramping and sore boobs so prob AF on her way am hoping that they mean something else though

Munchin my DH got "Stage Fright" this month too! As Mrs said I think the one before the smiley is perfect timing and it only takes once!
whenshewasbad [shocked] at Dr.

Mrs relaxing is much easier said than done, but try! Very good that the tests are getting darker. A good sign.
Big hug for you woody Make sure you look after yourself and take time out if you need it. I found it was a few weeks later that I properly grieved.
Sorry if missed anyone

hi everyone, Can I ask a daft question?

Am doing Clearblue OPKs and surprisingly got a smiley face yesterday (Sunday) afternoon even though wasn't expecting to ovulate til Wed/Thursday... (wtf?! oh well!) but just to check, the smiley face indicates a surge in the LH which occurs 24-36 hours BEFORE the egg is released... so if I got a smiley face yesterday afternoon then I could be ovulating tonight or tomorrow? And ostensibly if egg is released tonight or tomorrow then egg itself can stick around for around 24-36 hours (what I understand is the usual lifespan) so that means egg could be ready for fertilization anytime between now (Monday pm) and possibly Wed am? Oui?

So embarassed I am doing 'ovulation 101' but just wanted to check this! Thanks all..