TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Bobbynog at the doctor. Although I'm not that surprised, that's what some of them can be like. No bedside manner whatsoever.

I would lie if I were in your situation and say I had had some bleeding. Maybe not very ethical, but hey-ho.

I have just been on the phone to the hospital and they cannot do anything without my doctors referral, so i am back to square one. I was coping so well but now i just seem to be going to pieces, and it is so hard not having anyone to talk to in rl. Sorry to go on - i know this isn't the right thread!

No no no, that is wrong! You should not be made to feel like that. It isn't good for the baby or you.
Go back in a couple of days, see a locum, and say you have had some spotting & get yourself a referral. You aren't tempting fate by doing that - please do it.

agree with rubles, bobbynog - do whatever it takes to get an early scan. Can't believe the doc's attitude to you. Threaten to complain, or can you change doctor? either way, force his hand. all you want is a bit of empathy and help - I for one know that my doctor would do anything for me if I was pg, but then she is fab. I'm lucky.

If they won't scan you soon, when do you have to wait until?

I'm horrified at your doctors attitude babynog. You should be able to get a scan. I agree with rubles - tell them you're spotting.

Well I had my blood test results today and nothing is wrong. There is no reason that they can see for the m/c's, although he did say the tests weren't infallible and I could take half an aspirin a day. Referred back to gp.
I feel a bit abandoned.

Bobbynog - [Angry] at your Doctor. Do you have an Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit in your area? You can self refer to them and get your scan that way. I had some spotting early in my last pg and they were lovely at the unit, no trouble getting a scan. When the bleeding startedvagain at 12 weeks I stayed with the unit 'til I was transferred at 16 weeks and had weekly scans. I've also been told that I will be 'fast-tracked' next time I am pg because of what happened last time and will be 'entitled' to a reassurance scan at 6-7 weeks. I know different areas have different pressures on resources but that is not your problem and you shouldn't be made to feel guilty. You are NOT wasting NHS resources. You need to know for your emotional wellbeing. (((hugs)))

My GP called me today and said he had received my histology report from. I was expecting a call but got a little upset when I started thinking about what they had done to my beanie.

Hello all,

Bobbynog, you poor thing, can you really not even go private without a GP's referral? Do you not have another doctor at your practice, who you could try seeing? I think it is shocking that they won't offer you an early scan, especially if you are offering to pay for it.

Oinker, I'm so sorry. I'm sure they treated your little bean with the respect it deserved.

Smole, don't feel abandoned, we are all here for you, but it must be really frustrating that they haven't found a reason for the mcs. Can they offer any other diagnoses?

So to all 3 of you and everyone else on the thread {{{{{[BIG HUG}}}}}}}

As for me, well AF definitely here, but to be honest, I'm more relieved that at least I know now one way or the other. There are many reasons why being pg while DH is away would not be easy, especially with DD around, so I'm trying to focus on that and not be too disappointed that we won't have an option to try again while DH is away until November (also scary to think that it is only just over 4 months until November!! what has happened to this year). Also we may be incredibly lucky that it will be ovulation time when he gets his week off at some point in Aug/Sept, so fingers-crossed. Especially as this last cycle was just over 5 weeks, maybe they were right at my scan prior to my 2nd ERCP which showed my PCOS had cleared up. Maybe I'll have a more regular cycle now.

Anyway, you are all right, this isn't goodbye - I'll pop in from time to time to check up on you all, but I really hope that you have all migrated to pg threads by the time I come back properly in November

Can I just say thank you to all for your support over the last few months? As we can all appreciate it is a really horrible time mc and then recovering the courage to start TTC again, that it was great to have all you for support and encouragement, when I got a bit low, so thankyou! It is also made me feel really humble and made me doubly realise quite how lucky we are to have DD, when there are so many women who haven't even had the chance to have one child yet. To all of you, I give you extra special luck, babydust and hugs!

Right, made myself a little tearful, so I might leave it here. But I will pop back to say hello, if that's ok with everyone.

Take care, x

babyfettle......

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Very quick as at work - but Bobbynog, but have you considered contacting your local midwifery service?

I believe they are able to offer advice to women from pre-conception through to birth, so you are entitled to speak to them now and it was a midwife who referred me both times to the EPU when I had bleeding with DD and before the MC. i'm sure they would be more sympathetic to your cause. At least try to speak to them on the phone?

take care

Hi everyone. Can I join this thread?
My first pregnancy ended in mc & ERPC nearly 3 wks ago. We were told to wait til after 1st AF to ttc again, but, er, seem to have 'accidentally' started ttc last night ! Don't suppose there's much chance I'd be ovulating so soon after mc.....is there??

Welcome littlepolly and yes you can be ovulating so I hope your stay with us is very short .

Babyfettle - no other diagnosis. They've done all they are prepared to do. So we'll see what happens next time.

hello all

Little Polly - we are all sorry for what happened, and great ladies are here with support. Welcome.

Bobbynog - what a scandalous GP. Can you change GPs? I'd really recommend it. I've recommended my GP to a friend in the same situation as us (the one now 6 months pg). A good GP makes such a difference. If no joy, then maybe there is a local Community Health Council that can advise you on other options. I am a big believer in complaining - not just for us, but for other poor souls receiving rubbish care who aren't up to complaining themselves. I see (after quick look on web) there are no NICE guidelines about care post-miscarriage. There bloody should be.... I will send in a suggestion form.
GGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRR. I am furious on your behalf. I have had such good support from my EPU (Homerton in Hackney) it has made such a difference to how I have dealt with all this.

OK rant over.

babyfettle - thanks for the lovely message - enjoy the next few months ))))hugs((((

oinker )))))also hugs(((((( I read somewhere (Miscarriage Association leaflet?) that the babies are treated very respectfully. take care - it's a sad thought for us all.

time4tea, we must be fairly local - my EPU is the Royal London. I seemed to be on speaking terms with all the nurses there after my m/c. Some even remembered me from when I had bleeding with dd, so should I conceive again I be getting my own reserved seat in the waiting room.

littlepolly - yes you could ovulate and hopefully you won't be on here long. However, if you get AF, the impression I get from myself and MN is that the disappointment seems to hit women harder post-m/c.

I am now 9 days post ovulation, so I am lining up social engagements and getting stuck into a new book to try and take my mind off it.

Thanks for all the advice - i went to see another doc today, and got my referral, but i am going to change doctors. My surgery is so impersonal - i don't go very often, but when i go i would like to be made to feel welcome.
Welcome litle polly - this is a great thread - everyone is so supportive and always listens whether you are sobbing ranting or bragging!

I will let you all know how the scan goes, but i feel i should maybe join the other thread now - hope to see you all soon.
Thanks for all your support and care - i couldn't have got through it without you!
xxx

Just popping on briefly but see threads been busy so I'll be quick and hope I don't miss anyone...
wanted to say 'Excellent news Bobbynog'. yippee! so pleased for you
little polly - welcome, also hope your stay here will be short
Rubles, Good luck, everything crossed for you
Babyfettle, do keep in touch and let's hope your dh's leave will be timed just right
Oinker - hope the others postings have given you some reassurance, I'm sure they're right. From my experience, most people who work in the 'caring profession' are doing so because they care and do have respect for life no matter how tiny. ((((hugs))))

Bobbynog - glad you got your referral. Too right. Flipping doctors . My EPU (also at the Royal London - so we must be near-neighbours Rubles!) told me I should just ask my doc for an early scan too, so why your doc wouldn't refer you is beyond me.

Babyfettle - know what it's like fitting ttc into DH being around. DH is on a 5 week shift pattern and only here 3 out of 5 weeks, which isn't always the right time, altough I don't have to wait as long as you - keep your chin up and hopefully his next leave will be perfect timing

And as for me...presently BF'ing every 2 days in hope

that would be "although"!!!

morning girls...

hope everyone's ok today..

I'm on to get you all to STOP ME TESTING!!!!

On cd28, temps STILL high - this day last month had a big dip and af came next day. Was so expecting it to be low this morning. However, really don't think I could be pg, we last did the bd 3 days pre-ov, thought i had a month off this month! I have no symptons other than being so tired yesterday I had to go back to bed after dropping ds at creche! Feel fine today. Funny feelings in my tummy, quite crampy.

Anyway - I will not test till tomorrow! Please help me hold off!! Trying so hard not to get my hopes up....

www - I thought about you this morning, thought you might be lying low at this time.

Right. Don't test. Leave the house and be far from tests for as long in the day as you can. Socialise and talk about other things. Make little deals with yourself....like 'just make it through till lunchtime'....then 'just make it through until dp home'...then 'just wait until morning because urine will be more concentrated'. Go out tonight if possible. Just try to keep your mind occupied and try to keep away from the bathroom.

thanks rubles! I was getting very close there.... I'll do the making a deal thing. The only thing is, my dh is going to Iraq tomorrow for a few days, and I'd like to know before he goes...he leaves first thing in the morning... I suppose I can wait until tomorrow at 6am to test!

DO IT!!!!

DO IT!!!!

DO IT!!!!!

In the morning though B4 DH goes!!!

Sorry WWW...

Not sure what came over me

I am a bit stressed and confussed at mo. A/F is here and cramping has started...BITCH!!!

I did it.

BFP.

Oh. My. God.

:o:o:o:o:o:o:o CONGRATULATIONS WWW!!!!!

Blimey, that has put a smile on my face and brought tears of joy to my eyes - and we've never even spoken! Well done - and thanks for a much-needed cheering up!