Hi girls. Lots happens on this thread in a couple of days! 
Jolly, I know exactly what you mean about being terrified every time you go for your appointment. I have only had one mc, but it was a mmc and we found out at the dating scan - which I had delayed a week as we were on holiday the week before (thank God I didn't start bleeding on holiday) so I thought I was 14 weeks. I had a bump, and felt very pregnant - I even had morning sickness, which I never had with ds. So I breezed into the scan already mentally composing my text announcing the pregnancy, to be told there was no heartbeat and the baby had died at 9 weeks. I can't imagine ever going into a scan without feeling sick and terrified now.
backwardpossum - fantastic news on your scan! Did you think you were 9 weeks? What happens now, will you still get a 12 week scan?
Stateofconfusion I feel the same as you, weirdly. Although it is way too early for me to be thinking of these things, I feel strongly that this bean is a boy. When I found out I was pregnant with ds I had a conviction straight away that he was a boy - we chose not to find out at the 20 week scan but I felt it all the way through the pregnancy and wasn't surprised when that's what he was! When I fell preg last time my immediate conviction was that it was a girl. Now we'll never know, of course, but that was my hunch. And my gut feeling now I'm pregnant again is that it's another boy. I really don't mind - last time round I have to admit I was really hoping for a girl as I've always wanted one of each, but this time round I am really hoping for just one thing and that is a baby!
My update - I did a CB digi yesterday which said pg 1-2, which fits in with my guess that I'm about 4 weeks, not 6 weeks as dates would suggest - I think I've just had a stupidly long WTF cycle. I phoned the EPU and they were very unhelpful and just said I had to see the GP if I wanted to be referred to them but there were no guarantees...so I went to the dr today and he was really sympathetic - as soon as I mentioned I had had some spotting he said he would refer me straightaway for an early scan, but then I said I thought I was only 4 weeks and he agreed that there's no point having a scan this early (and I have to say I don't fancy dildocam all that much...). So he took blood instead to check my hcg levels, and I'm going back on Mon for a repeat test. If the levels go up as they should then hopefully I can have a scan, and he told me if they go up to book in with the mw - that feels like a big step I'm not ready for yet though...
DH and I have decided not to tell anyone I'm pregnant yet - both the previous times we have told our families more or less straight away. It will be tricky though as my main pg symptom is bloat, and I've already got a stomach like a football! I'm going to need some baggy shirts! I did tell my best friend, who tried to be nice but ended up being ignorant - saying things like "take it really easy this time" and "make sure you don't lift ds up" etc etc. I know she means well but she doesn't realise that saying those things implies I wasn't careful enough last time - as if picking ds up caused the mc...in the end I told her what the consultant told me, that 90% of first-trimester mcs are due to chromasomal abnormalities that mean the pregnancy was always destined to fail, and that women have car crashes and don't lose their babies. I was a bit snappy with her but it shut her up, but I felt mean afterwards 
The truth is, she probably said things that I would have said, pre-mc. It's only now that I can see how potentially hurtful they are.
Anyway, that's enough of me being maudlin. One day at a time, and today (fingers crossed) I am pregnant 