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backwardpossom · 04/07/2012 09:47

Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

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pebspop · 06/08/2012 13:00

quick hopefully yours won't be retained products like mine. my 'product' was a piece of placenta left behind after my 20 week mc. i has a retained placenta after giving birth and had to have an op to remove it (this is common in late mc) they must have left a bit behind without realising. i wasn't spotting at all after that mc.

the spotting started as soon as i got pg the next time. i spotted everyday from beginging on feb until end of june. it does get you down.

i had two scans during this time and they couldn't see any retained products. it was only found when i had the hysteroscopy and they got a camera in there.

pebspop · 06/08/2012 13:01

p.s it was almost a year between the 2nd mc and the hysteroscopy - makes me feel a bit sick thinking that was in there all the time. yuck!

Quicksie · 06/08/2012 13:30

Pebs it is a bit scary isn't it! They keep telling me that I would be really ill now if I had retained products, and that I would have had bleeding from the beginning....my bleeding didn't start until after the first period post MC. I am really hoping the hospital will do the scan. I think they will, as when I was in for the medical management, an orderly threw away at least one of the bedpans, so actually they had no idea whether I had passed everything, and just guessed rather than re-scanning! I actually passed the placenta at home later on, which was not a very pleasant experience, so it is quite possible that there is stuff left over. The GP did comment this morning that my uterus slopes backwards and that sometimes this causes things to get missed...I just hope they can sort it out, I feel like I have been miscarrying for 4 months! But like a tit, I was apologising to the GP for crying.

farfallarocks · 06/08/2012 13:42

pebs top heparin/cleane tips:

I found I bruise a lot less in the area above the belly button than below it
Take a good pinch of skin, if the the needle does not go in easily just stop and find another spot. I found that where there was resistance it was muscle and if I perservered I got a massive bruise
Go in at exactly 90 degrees
I am right handed and am just better at doing them on the right hand side than the left, although I do rotate it, I tend to do more on the right
Don;t rub or press the area afterwards
I stayed still for about 5 mins afterwards and I now no longer get bruises
In every pack there is a rogue needle which is a bit blunt and that one gives you a bruise. Depending on how many you have been prescribed, ditch the blunt one and use another
Try and get the larger, retractable needle types rather than the ones that require a sharps box, not only more convenient but the needles are not as good and cause bruising

good luck!

pebspop · 06/08/2012 14:10

thanks far i am off to hospital tomorrow so i might get started on the injections. i think it depends what they can see on a scan.

wilderumpus · 06/08/2012 14:14

quicksie glad you have been to the drs. They said that retained products would have made you ill - but isn't that only if it had become infected? glad you are having scan though, is an odd one.

I did go and see the bubba in the end, and am delighted I did. Took a flask of tea, a cake and some curry I had in the freezer for their tea. The baby was tres cute and I had a wee cuddle and ah, was lovely. we got actually chat too as her toddler was out with his Dad and mine is with his dad. A miracle! It wasn't bad at all; I think someone on here said that actually I don't want that baby, I want MY baby. And i awnt it when I am free to give it all the attention and cuddles I can... so in order for that to happen I ought to get back to work Wink

StateofConfusion · 06/08/2012 15:55

Great news moomin :)

I'm sure its a boy woody i stand to be corrected friday though.

Really glad things are in motion to get you on the road to ttc quicksie

wilde I'm yet to deal with a new born, and I doubt it helps that sil is such a cow bag, but I'm dreading a family wedding in a few weeks when I have to deal with her and her p2ndb. Glad it went ok, well done!

JoyfulJoyful · 06/08/2012 15:55

Hello ladies
Can I please join? I was on this thread briefly in Feb when I had a MMC at 8 weeks. I'm now 11+5 days

Congratulations to all those who who've had BFPs.
I'm sorry to hear about all the MCs that have occured and good luck to those TTC.

Last week, I woke up with intense pain which made me go to the hospital and was told that I'm funnelling at 11+2 days and the Dr couldn't say if I would miscarry. This upset me to no end and when I asked about putting a stitch in he said it wouldn't make a difference and I had to wait till I got to 17 or so weeks.

I have been googling non stop but can find anyone who had funnelling this early.

Moomin and Mrs Pear, I've read that you've had stitches in. May I ask at what stage and how they discovered you needed them. I go back to St Thomas's next week for a followup scan.

Any advice will be most welcome

wilderumpus · 06/08/2012 19:48

welcome back joyful! I wasn't on this thread in Feb so am pleased to meet you. Congrats on your pregnancy!

Sorry I can't be of any help, I have never heard of funnelling... All i can say is that I hope you are ok and if you need to talk, we are all here x

Jollyb · 07/08/2012 09:00

Hello all and welcome to the newcomers.
Lots of luck to the people having scans today.

Well I finally plucked up the courage to book a GP appointment so I can be referred on and guess what - they've a new appointments system and the earliest I could get an appointment is 2 weeks time. Not really happy with that as wanted to discuss option of early scans etc and so asked to speak to the triaging GP . She phoned me back and was quite dismissive 'well you're only 5 1/2 weeks you've got plenty of time'. This was the same dr that saw me in floods of tears with my last miscarriage. In the end it turns out that I can self refer to the midwives anyhow. Arghh not the best start to my antenatal care.

pebspop · 07/08/2012 09:46

jolly gp's are a pain in the ass - i don;t think i have ever met a good one! not that i ever had much need to see them before ttc.

ring the midwife and see if they can get you in for an early scan. i take it you can't self refer to epu?

can't remember if it was you who had the bad experience at the private scanning place but is that an option?

i am off to hospital today for my first appointment at the rmc since being pg. i am really nervous. i haven't had any spotting since once the day after i did pg test. i think that was implantation. so that gives me hope as when i haven't spotted in the past i have got to the dating scan stage at least. no bleeding doen't mean no mc for me though as i didn't have a drop with the 20 week one - not even implantation.

dh is at work and i am picking him up on the way. i asked him this morning if we can try again straight away of it's gone wrong again and he said yes so that is helpful as he wanted to wait after the second one and i hate waiting.

you know a bad thing for my mc's is that they never just happen naturally. it always involves a horrible scan followed by surgery. i don;t know if this is better or worse but it seems worse to me. i hate the not knowing and going to appointments not knowing if i will be happy or devastated when i leave. i literally don;t have a clue how things will go at any appointment. even when i feel very pg and not bleeding i have had the bad news.

everytime i go to a scan it's panic stations as i don't know what they will say. i don;t even know if it's too early to scan today. i might have to go back next week.

i am not sure whether to let them scan today as if it is too early to see heartbeat i will be worrying like crazy till the next scan. i will try to get guidance from the consultant.

aaarrrggghhh sorry for the me me me but the 'don't worry until there is something to worry about' attitude has left the building this morning.

Jollyb · 07/08/2012 10:12

Pebs - I really hope everything goes well for you today. It's such a scary time.

JaffaSnaffle · 07/08/2012 10:20

pebs, I'm thinking of you. I don't know if this helps, but I feel totally the same. I don't trust my body to tell me what is going on, I actually feel like I was a complete idiot with my mmc. I went to nearly 18 weeks, without knowing my baby had died at 13-14 weeks. Since then, I just cannot switch my mind into 'no news is good news', even now at 27 weeks. I think all the rubbish in this pregnancy (dodgy nuchal screen, measuring small etc), has compounded it, particularly given than that they hit at milestones, (13 weeks and 24 weeks). I have started seeing a counsellor, and she didn't dismiss the paranoia. She said it was a normal reaction to what has happened over the last year. I guess what I am trying to say to you, is you have been through a lot, and your uncertainty is normal. When I am feeling most sane, I tell myself that although it's not surprising my history is making me scared, it does not mean that it is going to repeat itself, that this is new chance, and it is still ok so far. And sometimes I manage it best by head in the sand tactics, just clocking off the weeks. I look at the blister pack that my pregnacare vitamins come in when I finish them, and think two more weeks down... This far in, the kicks help, and viability helps, but I keep imagining things will go wrong at birth.

Good luck today, I you are in my thoughts. I hope this first step is a good one xxx

For me, this is a horrible week. On the 8/8 last year the mmc was found and on 11/8 our DS was born. I keep thinking about what would have been. He would be 7 months old now. I still miss him very much.

wilderumpus · 07/08/2012 10:32

thinking of you pebs! I think any of us who have had mmc feel like idiots for not knowing, i also feel quite resentful of my body not knowing and carrying on making me feel pregnant even when I knew I wasn't hoped desperately I was.

jaffa and pebs I just can't imagine how you must have felt so far down the line.

hugs for your anniversary jaffa x

pebspop · 07/08/2012 10:48

thanks wilde and jaffa, i am setting off soon - the house has never been so tidy. i am usually a slob but i have been tidying and messing around all morning. my cleaner comes this afternoon - i don't think she will know what has hit her - the kitchen is a good as she leaves it!

i try to think to myself that to get my baby i am going to have to suffer through nine months of this kind of thing. today is the first stage of the journey, hope i make to it to the destination this time.

woody17 · 07/08/2012 10:50

pebs hope everything goes well today. It is such a worrying time - I never realised that pg could be so uncertain. I hope you can get some reassurance from consultant.

jollyb it's frustrating how blasé some people can be about early pg etc. Some just seem to be wait and see, which doesn't help at all.

Congratulations on your pg joyful I'm sorry but I haven't heard of funnelling before either but I hope that everything is ok.

What has made you think it's a boy state?

Glad you felt more positive after drs quicksie

farfallarocks · 07/08/2012 11:38

Thinking of you pebs, you are so brave

MiggleMoo · 07/08/2012 11:39

Can I come in.... 2 MCs in a row and now appears I'm pregnant again just 3 1/2 weeks after last early MC. Bit scared....

woody17 · 07/08/2012 11:44

Sorry to hear about your mcs migglemoo but congratulations on your new pg.

How are you feeling?

I had a mc about 3 wks ago but it took a long time to get a -ve test. Think I'm ov or about to but really hoping I can get pg before af arrives.

MiggleMoo · 07/08/2012 11:48

Thanks Woody - just nervous. My HGC returned to normal really quickly and checked with 2 -ve tests. Was sort of expecting this +ve test this morn as normally a really good sleeper and had a terrible night and very prominent veins on breasts (sorry if TMI just how my body works!). Ok but very nervous and not sure I am emotionally ready to tackle again - though should have probably considered that before I kept insisting my husband came to bed!!! ;-)

Good luck on getting a +ve Woody!!

woody17 · 07/08/2012 11:51

Supposedly you are very fertile after a mc or so I've been told!

backwardpossom · 07/08/2012 12:17

So I met my baby this morning! Everything is looking as it should, one cashew nut-sized bean in the right place with one strong heartbeat. So chuffed, could cry with the relief. She's dated me at 9+1 and that makes me due on the 11th of March :)

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woody17 · 07/08/2012 12:25

Congratulations backwardpossom that's fantastic! Really happy for you!

wilderumpus · 07/08/2012 12:33

congrats backward! what fabulous news! Will you be able to relax a bit now do you think?

sorry to hear about your mcs miggle - were they both early? And congrats on your new pg! hope this one sits tight for you :)

backwardpossom · 07/08/2012 12:38

I feel more relaxed already! I don't know if I'll ever be able to relax completely though!

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