Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part ?

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Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

So sorry pixie I've never been offered tablets but had an erpc the first time and it had all happened naturally by the time I had the scan the first time.

Congrats jolly

pebs fx for you

mrspear hope everything went well with the stitch

Well 11 weeks today, still waiting for scan date

congrats jolly super news for you!

pixie I am so very sorry to hear your news.

I had a blighted ovum and my body had absolutely NO idea, even had a little bump because it is the placenta that chucks out the pg hormones, not the baby :( Finally had tablets at 10 weeks. I dreaded it and would have done anything to have my mc naturally, at home, but had already had 3 weeks off work waiting to confirm there was no baby (they had to wait for the gest sac to get to 20mm to confirm non viable). SO on drs advice and pressure from work (self-imposed) I went for the tabs as it was clear my body wasn't going to stop thinking it was pg any time soon, and I might have had to have an ERPC which I would not do. Too medical for moi.

SO long story, sorry, I went for the tablets, was in hosp at 9.30am, tabs at 11am, out and off home at 7pm. Took my own painkillers, snacks (I did want them though I was surprised about this and was nice not to be able to ignore the lunch trolley lady) a newspaper/trashy mag, phone and just got on with it. I was in a ward too, but had curtains round and they purposely put people having this procedure in on a day that is quiet which I thought was very thoughtful.

I am so very sorry this is happening to you. I hope you are ok. PM me if you have any questions.

sorry to ramble. You will be a mum, just to healthy babies. These babies were not healthy - that they wouldn't/couldn't grow is nature working at its best, is YOU working at your best. You would not ever want to give birth to a child that could not ever survive. Going through this is all, in its own way, a form of mothering.

take care lovey x

pixie.. so very sorry
Words aren't enough at a time like this...
Thinking of you & sending you a massive hug full of strength, courage & peace.

Just dropped in here and wanted to send hugs to pixie, so sorry to hear what has happened.

Also sorry to hear it didn't work out wilde also sending hugs.

:(

Just caught up wilde...so sorry things didn't work out for you
I've said it once & no doubt will continue to say it...this ttc malarky is stressful! I didnt realise how emotional it would be after my MMC...but it is so bad at times.
wilde...let's drown the AF in wine & start a fresh ttc cycle! We will get there..we all will.

Am I two late to join this thread? I've had two mcs, one at 12 weeks in November and one at 9 weeks in May. Tried in earnest this week during ovulation for the first proper time since May mc so crossing fingers we will be out out of our misery sooner than later! we are very lucky to have one DD (nearly 2) so I do count my blessings every day. Best friend and several other friends pg at the mo so hard not to think about what was lost though

Pixie I have not read the whole thread but have read your news and I'm so very sorry, sending a big long hug. My first mc was a blighted ovum & I had bump, sickness, smell sensitivity, wee needing and all- so hard to feel so pregnant and sadly not to be. Sending lots of healing thoughts your way.

Too late, even. Sorry you must think I'm illiterate!

Thanks ladies - I don't think it has quite sunk in yet - yesterday morning I was pg and today I'm not but physically nothing has changed :(

Mother nature can be a bitch at times - surely she must have been a man in disguise a women wouldn't be so cruel?!?

I'm 42 next week and really feel this is not meant to be OH is gutted and said we will try again if that's what I want if not he wil have the snip!

Think I have made up my mind and wil contact the EPU for the pessaries next week helping nature along to give my body a chance to recover really don't want to be in a small village in southern Spain and need medical help!

Thank you for all your kind words and good luck all!

Just caught up with everything gosh there is a lot going on!

So sorry pixie I hope things go smoothly (well as smoothly as they can given its such an awful situation) and you can use your holiday to get over all of this and figure out where things are going for you.

jolly congrats

Hi to state confused moonins midget and all those counting down the weeks (and days and hours!). 13+2 here and we told our families / friends earlier in the week. Didn't want to tell my DHs little nieces in case things went wrong but they now know, and are now drawing pictures of baby and coming up with shortlists of names.....the responsibility is awful isn't it, when just me and DH knew there was a sense of damage limitation if it went wrong but now I feel so much responsibility for other people's happiness too....

Wave to everyone I've missed and welcome birdofthenorth fingers crossed for a bfp soon for you

hi bird of course you are more than welcome :) Happily we are BFPing away on this thread so is always room for more!

I have to say that after this cycle's shenanigans I am going to bow out for a bit and concentrate on finishing Uni, getting healthy and just having a ttc break! Got AF today and is very painful as expected but am actually just so relieved it is here and on time too. TTC is distracting me too much from work and making me feeel a bit shit... and I have a Uni submission deadline I am buggering up while staring at various different lines on sticks!

Will still pop in if ok and see how you all are?! Am pretty addicted :) then shall be back with gusto and hopefully a bucketload of optimism in a couple of months (and maybe a BFP?!)

Happy saturdays, big love to you pixie and wifey and congrats on coming out squeaky!

x

Oh pixie SO sorry to hear what you've been going through - I mc at a similar time to you and had the tablets - I did have a lot of bleeding but after the initial 24h it was just like a heavy and then light period for about 10 or so days, so I would opt for that so that you can relax and recover on your holiday.
It's so hard I know especially when u have no symptoms as you find it hard to get your head around it all happening without your body telling you.

Welcome bird try not to worry too much about 'timings' the one month I said to dp I just could not be bothered we dtd twice not even sure when and I got my bfp! Still can't believe it.

19 weeks and I am still pregnant

Welcome bird. Hope the 2ww isn't too painful for you and that you get some good news soon.

Well I've been pregnant for 24 hours now and I'm going crazy already. I've done about 4 tests - 2 didn't work which I swear is due to the heat.

I felt really angry this morning and shouted at DP. Have convinced myself that it is PMT and my pregnancy bubble is going to be burst anytime. One of the cruelest things about MC is how it takes away the excitement of pregnancy. With my first pregnancy (with DD) I just assumed pregnancy =baby. Funny how a couple of miscarriages changes that.

Any tips for coping with the very early days gladly received.

Just a quickie from me tonight, sorry not to name check everyone.

Hi bird sorry you find yourself here, good luck with the TWW.

JollyB - I went into denial that I was pg and managed to ignore it for two weeks. I only allowed myself to know my EDD once I'd had my scan at 7+2. Head in the sand is going to get me to my 12 week scan. Hang in there, it does seem to speed up as each week goes past.

pixie I hope you are doing ok. ((hugs))

wilde - here's a chilled bottle of rosé and a giant bar of dairy milk to get you through AF.

waves at everyone else.

As for me, not much to report....

DH has bern offered a promotion at work - Hoorah . It means moving to America - . So I'm going to have to speak with my boss on Monday to discuss my possible move to the US and whether they can arrange a secondment or something for me as I don't want to lose my maternity benefits, especially as my work policy is very generous (provided you return). I also can't ask him to arrange the secondment without letting him know I'm pg as I think it is best to be upfront about these things. So I'll be letting work know I'm pg 4 weeks earlier than planned. Not ideal. Although I'm sure they have guessed as my tummy really pops out by the end of the day!

Hi everyone,

pixie so sorry... For what its worth, I took the tablets and was glad that I did in the end. I couldn't bear the waiting and didn't want general anaesthetic. Tablets were fine, wish someone had told me to take a change of clothes though. Take lots to read as the day went quite slowly for me. I was 12 weeks pg and it took just two days for the heavier bleeding to stop we went to an isolated bit of scotland a few weeks after and my gp have me a course of antibiotics to take with me just in case... That made me feel alot better and we enjoyed our holiday.

Hello to the new girls and well done to all the bfp ladies, however far along you are! It gives me hope and a sense of optimism to read about you getting on so well....if a little metal! Sounds horribly cheesy but I am proud of us.

confused how exciting! Do you know where in the states? Hope your boss is helpful.

well Dh wasn't having the wait and see approach so i tested and got bfp.

i have decided to not worry about it until i have somethin g to worry about! last time i had awful spotting which i now know was due to a chunk ok one year old placenta knocking about from my ssecond mc. i am not having anything like that now.

i have started on 75mg aspirin and pregnacare and have been taking 5mg folic acid for a year.

i have an appointment at Liverpool rmc in a couple of weeks so hopefully i will
get a scan and be able to start my heparin injections.

i think this may be the best chance i have had since far to get a baby as i have a nice fresh womb following my hysteroscopy and a treatment plan for blood clotting.

fourth time lucky eh?

Oh fantastic news Pebs. Many, many congrats. I'm just about to go to work on a beautiful Sunday and your post has cheered me right up! X

Morning

sorry to see pixie 's and wilde 's news

Sorry to all those who have af this month.

Congrats to jolly and pebs

Hope everyone else is OK

In the pear household i had my stitch on Thursday - the consultant was lovely but my god it was so undignified and the spinal was very painful. Also i am never agreeing to a catheter again - it gave me more pain than the procedure! Saw the baby before it was done and heard the heartbeat twice since. The doctor thinks the signs are good . Now i am sitting more than standing to allow body to collect itself and am not lifting! My poor little sister has moved in to help. She looks tired already! Oh and the stitch was put in at 4 o clock - so still not sure what type! I am back to seeing the consultant on Tuesday. 18 weeks today

pebs, I am so so pleased for you. So glad that you have got so much lined up already. The only good thing about all you have been through is that you already know so much, that will give you the best chance. I just want to send you a big hug, from another 'old timer' on this thread. Are you going to ring Liverpool and see if they can bring your appointment forward/ recommend anything in the mean time?

pixie, I am so sorry honey. I had the tablets with one of my mc, I think everyone has already given you good advice. Just do what ever you need to, to get through this time. I found it all quite mentally hard, especially the very first bit, taking the mifepristone. If you want to pm me, happy to chat. Xxx

Wilde, I am so sorry for you too. I don't care how early you were, you have had a loss.

jollyb, big congratulations to you! In the early bit. I kept thinking of the Tonight song in West Side Story, 'today, the minutes seem like hours, the hours go so slowly, and still the sky is light...' Completely get it. Best days were really busy days. And get into a good book or a box set or something, so you don't have lots of time for your mind to wander. I also tried to break it up into little milestones, like 6 weeks, then 8, the 12 etc, and celebrated each one... Early scans are good. X

bird, welcome to the thread. Sorry about your mc's. Good luck this month. X

Waves to everyone I've missed.

I am nearly 26 weeks. That's nearly out of 2nd trimester. Still metalling, thanks to history, but beginning to see that this might, might be ok....

X post with mrs pear. So pleased stitch has gone well. X

pebs woohoo great news, you know the score, today you are pregnant

Sorry not to name check just on way to Olympics can't wait got tickets for Monday and Tuesday which should take my mind off the 2ww

mrs pear glad your stitch is safely in place. I'm crossing my legs at the thought if it. Hope you get up and about soon

confused very exciting news on the potential move. Have you lived in the states/overseas before?

Thanks for the early day survival tips. I've hit my first mini milestone - my period is officially late!

polka enjoy the Olympics. I was due to go to volleball on Wednesday but work is gping crazy so my DP is going to take a friend instead. Must admit volleyball wasn't my first choice.

pixie and Wilde hope your weekends have been ok xx

Really sorry to hear your news pixie

Confused that sounds like an amazing opportunity!

Can anyone give me any advice? I recently had a mc and am ttc. Up until Saturday, I have still been getting +ve pg tests, although they've been incredibly faint - almost invisible. However, for the last few days I have been having quite a lot of cm - it's been very slippery and watery. Yesterday I had a tiny amount of pinky tinged cm and then a bit later when I wiped it was a bit browny. Have been having cramps and twinges. Have been DTD regularly since last Saturday. Could this be anything or am I just obsessing?