Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part ?

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Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

Great news leedy!

I'm looking for tips on how to deal with almost 3 year old DS while feeling constantly nauseous and exhausted... I'm reassured that I'm feeling like this, but it's so draining...

Hi ladies. I have been too nauseous to post for a few days! possom I feel your pain although it must be harder with DS to look after.

leedy What lovely news!

I keep having the most stupid mood swings. My parents visited at the weekend and just before they left I freaked out and burst out crying over something really trivial. It does get better, right?

Backward, I was struggling earlier on- still am a bit with tiredness and demanding toddlers! Some things that were good:

-reading, tv, sticker books, drawing
-going out for lunch or cake, just for the sit down
-blowing bubbles in garden- you sit, they chase
-sandpit
-visiting friends(unless they are more difficult than your own dc!)
-walking round garden centres

Trying to pace yourself and make the most of good days or hours you have, and muddle through the rest. And don't be hard on yourself at all.

I am metalling in a big way. Went to hospital on Sat, thinking I was leaking fluid. I wasn't thank god. They measured me then, and made me 22cm not 20cm, so still small but not off the chart. Have my scan tomorrow night, absolutely terrified. This time, I feel it is not just mine and DH hearts on the line, but my DD. Every night, before bed, she comes to stroke my bump and says 'I love you baby sister', unpromted. I just cry a little bit inside, because I am so scared things are going wrong.

jaffa

i hope everything goes ok at the scan tomorrow. it's so terrifying when you think things are going wrong. in the rest of the world everyone would be saying it will be fine but in here we know things can and do go wrong so it makes it hard for us.

the new measurement sounds promising - surely not everyone can be exactly the same measurement.

Just wanted to fly in and give Jaffa a huge hug. I could have typed your post - everytime I get DD to bond with the bump and the thought of a sibling I wonder what I have done and what could happen if things go wrong.

Good luck for tomorrow. DD had IUGR. She was totally tiny. But perfect in every other way. Hold on to positive thoughts or you will drive yourself demented and we've all been there and back again

Leedy Great news on the scan - enjoy a period of relaxation and non metalling.

Shell I burst into tears at home and at work last week but err it does get better

posy welcome.... Sorry you are here but glad you found us, if you ser what I mean!

leedy great news on the scan.
Good luck woody we are trying this month too. I am not using ov tests either but might consider it after another cycle... Fingers crossed won't have to!
backward you have got a lot to cope with! Sounds like good advice from jaffa ... I would enjoy most of those myself!
sheldonella if it isn't normal then I am strange too! Odd things set me off, not the things I expect... Free baby bottle through the post caused lip tremble, dvd player not working caused emotional breakdown!

Thanks jaffa I survived the day with Cbeebies and Toy Story! I'm sure your scan will go well tomorrow xx

Good luck with the scan today Jaffa - bloody tape measures.
leedy fantastic news

Am 9DPO (I think!). Last week I was convinced I was pregnant but this week am sure it's not my month. I must admit I stupidly did a test the day I got back from holiday -7DPO!! I had to laugh it was a pound store cheapy and when I read the packaging after it said 90% accurate from the day AFTER your period is due.

Roll on the weekend

Morning (offers cereals and toast) good luck with your scan jaffa and congrats on a great one leedy
Good luck to the 2ww'ers!
I am sorry that we have some new ladies; sorry you find yourselfs here but welcome.
In the Pear household the latest news is that i am having the cervical stitch on Thursday. The bad news is that no one seems to know anything about it. No idea what stitch, no idea whether it will be spinal or GA, no idea about monitoring or future check ups and no idea if i will stay overnight! I think i may ring labour ward and see if there is anyone i can talk too.

Hello mrspear have been thinking about you, glad you have a date now but what a pita that they haven't told you anything about it.

I'm still waiting for the 12 week scan appointment to come through. I will be seeing the consultant at the same time and making the appointment for the stitch then.

Do you know which consultant you have? You could phone their secretary and ask them what happens.

hey everyone, just a quickie to pop in.

Good luck for your scan jaffa chuck.

congrats leedy, how lovely for you.

Sorry you feeling rough sheldon but so glad you are feeling all pg :)

glad you have your appt mrspear though how annoying not knowing anything about it. I hoep you get some info so you can start to mentally prepare for it.

Am 9dpo too jolly and have never felt less pg! my trip away was a total tonic and I forgot I was meant to be in the 2ww which was amazing for my mental state not tested once this month yet which is a record, but largely because I am 90% sure it isn't my month. Have no symptoms to speak of and started pmt yesterday, bit crampy and sicky and getting so bloated! bit sad about it really and don't want to test at all tomorrow and see a bfn!

i am on cd 26 today so will know if it's bfn or bfp by weekend. i am really hoping for bfp but i never really feel pg anyway so i don't know whats going to happen. af stay away!

Just marking my place as I lost you ladies.

whispers 8 weeks today. Yikes.

jaffa how did you get on today?

Lays out ice creams

Advice please!

I've just found out that one of my work colleagues is 8 weeks preggers. I hadn't told her about my MC as I wanted to keep it private and haven't worked together very long. We work quite closely though and share an office. I found out yesterday from our manager as she has been off sick this week and I've needed to cover her work.

I feel for my own preservation that I need to tell her as I think she'll be fairly sensitive about it but I don't want to make her think she can't talk about it as that's not fair and shewill be super excited. I'm also not supposedto know yet so I can't just come out with it. I'm also a bit worried that I won't be able to get through the conversation without crying as it was only 6 weeks ago that it happened.

I really hate being so upset about it and feel like such a cow for being jealous which if I'm honest is what it all comes down to.

Help!

thinking would it be better if your manager had a word with her, rather than you having to deal with it?! Or would that make it hideous... Depends if you work for david brent like I do.
just a quick message ladies before I fall asleep in my dinner, hope everyone is enjoying the paint blistering heat. Nottingham has melted.

Hi thinkingpositivethoughts I think that you should tell her and you are definitely not being a cow! I think that the way you are feeling is only natural.

I have a question for everyone - I did a pg test since my recent mc - it is positive. It would be too early to be positive for a new pg but does this mean that there is no chance of me getting pg until it goes negative? Or could I still get pg?

And you are not a cow for feeling jealous, this situation is like salt in the wound, even though it isn't intentionally sprinkled in! Jealousy doesn't really cover half if the emotion does it....

Thinking you are not a cow. A work colleague of mine announced her pg the week I returned from compassionate leave. I was so shocked by my reaction - bursting into tears in front of her - but she totally understood. Once I stopped crying I even managed to feel happy for her. It's ok to feel how you do, totally normal. You never know, but your colleague may have had mcs before this pg, mine had and I never knew until I cried.

Oh and woody it can take ages for pg hormones to leave your body or they can be gone very quickly. Everyone is different, especially in the WTF cycle, which I think you are in. If it was me I'd test again in a few days, then maybe see my GP if still positive.

Fingers crossed though.

Thinking it's a really tough situation to be in but it will get easier. Two of my NCT friends are pregnant - one has been very sensitive about the situation. The other actually said ' OMG I've been dying to see you I've got such exciting news to tell you' knowing full well that I have 2 miscarriages in the past 6 months. However as the weeks have passed I have found it progressively easier to talk to her about her pregnancy.

I think it may be best to be honest with her - and probably sooner rather than later otherwise your feelings may intensify.

BTW - you mentioned that she's been off work with her pregnancy - is there a chance that all may not be well with her pregnancy?

Good luck x

Thank you confused I was hoping to get a bfp after this WTF cycle! I will test again later in the week and see what it says. I think I was just assuming everything would go quickly as scan last week showed that everything had gone naturally!

woody i have my fingers crossed for you but I wouldn't get your hopes up just in case.

Thank you ladies, as ever I feel so much better having got your second opinion. confused and quicksie i do feel like such a cow as I used to be so excited for other people and now I'm thinking about me!

In one way its been good its happened as I think I've been trying to pretend I was never pregnant in the first place and as a result of being forced to think about it. I've told a couple of close friends who didn't know and I feel a sense of relief about it - I hadn't realised I was holding it in.

quicksie my manager is a bit indiscreet but she isn't too Brent-ish. I might try myself and if I chicken out might ask her. I'd quite like to try as I really want to get across that I am pleased for her. I've got the impression from my manager that she has just got really bad morning sickness and had her first midwife appt today. I think that's all that it is.

Hi guys, I had my scan this evening. Baby measuring 25 weeks, which is what I am! Hurray.
They found that one of the arteries to my placenta was under a bit if pressure, but the other one was fine and compensated for it. I will NOT metal because the consultant was not worried. So I should not be right?
Scan room was empty apart from us. Very weird having a private scan, but nice.

thinking, there is no way you are being a cow.it's a sort of self preservation thing. It does get easier, but I found pg announcements hard for about 6 months after my first mc. It got easier with time, and then I was pg which helped a lot.

Thank you for being so lovely to me. I am going to sleep better tonight. This thread has been, and still is such a huge support to me x

jaffa fab news! So great and you definitely don't need to be metalling if the experts are giving you the thumbs up!