Hoping for a July BFP Part Two

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Hoping the luck continues here.....

Ah ok. I am not scared of any of that.

I am scared of losing the baby. I am scared that my diabetes hurts my baby and it's born with congenital defects.

I am scared that I WON'T fall pregnant.

Sorry, I wasn't clear enough...I meant that I'm scared of losing it (didn't read before pressing send).

And at 35, there are increased risks. Though so many women are older mothers now, that I know I should stay calm.

Are you 35? Why did I think you were younger? You LOOK much younger than 35 if you are.

I actually read the other day that there are just as many (few?) risks to women at 35 than younger. The only thing is reduced fertility as one gets older (peak is 20 - 24) but apparently, the risks aren't that much higher.

Have a read - the hype seems to have died down. My doctors said that they are helping a 53 year old woman through pregnancy...

I think it's normal to be scared anyway, whatever stage you are at. It is a living changing thing, you can't ever know how it will go and its normal to be scared of the unknown. We will all experience it differently but I think we will all be scared of something in this process.

That's really nice of you to say, kick, but I'm heading rapidly towards 36 (less than 4 months to go)!

And that's really interesting to know. That's what's so good about this place; the sharing of knowledge / information. :-)

Not sure I'd fancy being a new mum at 53...I have a feeling it will be tough enough as is!

Thanks whenshewas I feel a little warm glow in my heart, does that make me really sad
Aparently she could do my tarot aswell but it might depress me if it didn't show I was to get pregnant- very thoughtful of her to say wasn't it !!!
Winkle come on in, you have to leave it in 12 hrs and we are very nice!!
Kick- well done on the run, your obviously a real fighter!
Nicola- I think everyone has there own fears about pregnancy, will they get pg, if they do will they get to 12wks, if they do will they cope with labour and be ok, the list is endless but there will always be someone on here thinking the same ready to hold your hand I'm sure

Oh wow. I love how young we all look!

No, I wouldn't want to be 53 either. But google the over-35 thing. I think they say the risks have been elevated to 40 - 45 and up from then. But even then, provided you take vitamins and live cleanly, you can probably still get away with a completely healthy baby... :)

winkle, I'm no expert but I've read that limiting caffeine and alcohol intake, both in man and women, can help fertility. As far as I know, it's nothing irreversible so starting to limit it now might help.

I've been taking folic acid since last October as I read it could be beneficial in older women. I now take zinc too on top of this.

I have a mostly very good diet, and I've never particularly smoked. And I lost 2 stone last year and am in better shape than I have been for about a decade. Hopefully all this will help.

I'll go onto Google after Wallander, as that info is very encouraging.

Everyone I know fell pregnant while drunk :)

I think those theories pale in comparison to other health or fertility issues. The amount of alcohol and/or caffeine that you have to take in is fairly large to have an impact on fertility.

The thing is that small unknown, undiagnosed medical problems could ultimately be the root cause. And they could be easily resolved.

Nicola

You may have to increase your folic acid according to your age. I am currently on the 5000mg tablets as prescribed by the doctor (the risk of diabetes means I get the stupidly high one). But normal is 400mg and I think that it's either over 35 or 40 that you can take up to 600mg (check though!)

If you do up it, try to get the Vitamin B12 as though (like Pregnacare). I read today that you can only take too much Folic Acid if you aren't talking some b12 with it...

That's also interesting...I do get some in my Weetabix too, as it is fortified, but I'll look at that.

good point guru.

Nice work Nicola, 2 stone, that's what I wish I'd lost last year!

I haven't said hello to niggle yet, where are my manners. Sorry niggle am in the pit of despair with kitty (winkle may be joining us soon) and have forgotten to say hello.
Too wrapped up in my own despair. And I had to find my mooncup

kitty that warm glow in your heart is probably just acid from the dirty burger and chips we've been eating to soak up all the booze

worried about pregnancy sorry to break this to you but when you are ttc you worry about not getting pregnant. When you get pregnant you worry about mc and abnormalities. When they are born you worry about cot death and various illnesses.

At the moment I am worried that dd will run under a truck when I blink for 2 seconds. Pull something heavy onto herself and be crushed. Oh the main one I worry about is when dh is away for work I will fall down the stairs, break my neck and dc will be on her own in the house for days crying by my broken body.

That was actually meant to be a lighthearted way to say, you will always worry whether you are trying to become a mum or if you have kids. It came out a bit more doom and gloom than planned.

Kick - I'm scared I won't ever get pregnant too :( I can picture me starting the 'Hoping for a BFP, year 2078'...

Mumma - thanks for tip. Hubby and I switched to decaf months ago. The alcohol thing - well for me it's less than once a week I drink. Hubby has cut back to a few cans once a week but he does like his drinking and his friends are big drinkers so this is always a hard one in our house.

Well girls I just had a complete breakdown to hubby, full on tears and fears, etc. Sorry it's all me me me but I just need to feel sorry for myself today cause I'm so scared. Happy to go in the cave if I'm bringing negativity to the thread!

I'm really sorry whenshewasbad but your fear about your little girl sitting next to your broken body just made me LOL! Is that twisted?! It's just the way you described it! Thanks for making me laugh for the first time today! Hubby just asked me what I'm laughing at - what can I say?!?!

Nope winkle. Have a breakdown. Moan as much as you need. It's a shit time and that's what we are all here for.

No cave threats. No worries about being negative.

I wish it didn't have to be so shit though. It should be the best time of our lives

Or laugh!!

I think I've finally gone mad!!!!

If it was only "slightly mad", you could dance around the kitchen with a tea cosy on your head singing Queen?

Wow, switching to decaf, I have thought of it but I really don't think I could manage it, would probably fall asleep on my keyboard at work! Well done for managing that winkle. But I am down to one cup of coffee per day, plus maybe one of tea, trying to cut down a bit more still.

Oh thank goodness that made you laugh. I had a horrible feeling it would drive you into a deeper depression. Don't worry she won't end up crying over my lifeless body - she can't open the stairgate

I am glad you burst into tears with your dh. I don't believe in bottling things up. Far better to scream and yell and release some of the stress. Hope you feel better for it.

Mummimamma - you def get used to decaf - try it! I have about 3-4 cups a day, more often 3 cups rather than 4.

I feel better for opening up to hubby. We started arguing about it then I confessed it's cause I was scared. He's scared too and worried and just wants a baby. At least I know we're on the same page.

winkle we are in a similar boat here - men just won't talk about these things til women go mad!!

Well I'm out for the month: ended up getting cross with DH last night and have decided I can't be bothered to try this month. It's cd16 and no swi likely this week due to grumpiness and tiredness and fed upness with the whole TTC thing. I'm going to migrate to the other thread sulkily and hope next month it's not such a battle! Got a smiley on Friday so will def have missed ov by now - good luck to all remaining here tho! xx

That's good, winkle...at least you have an understanding now.

BFN for me today...it must just be post-pill hormones raging round!