Hoping for a July BFP Part Two

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Hoping the luck continues here.....

I agree with ted that it does seem to happen for people on the whole.

I know it sounds trite to trot out these stories but two lovely close friends of ours had two rounds of ivf, miscarried on the one time it was successful, decided to stop trying because it was becoming too stressful and conceived naturally during this break. They're not just anecdotes, these things do happen.

And like kittykats says, you don't really know how long others have been trying, even if it seems like everyone gets pregnant really quickly.

Looking back, we always say we feel lucky I fell pregnant with dd so quickly... but when I really think about it, I actually stopped taking the pill in June and didn't get bfp 'til December. I think because I was very relaxed about it and wasn't too bothered about when it happened that it felt quicker than this time when I'm analysing and obsessing all the time.

Nicola - snap!

This has been a very strange cycle. Had cramps all week, and have also been feeling shattered (though this could be because it's almost the end of term and I am a very tired teacher who is desperate for summer break!).

I too have backache, which doesn't usually start until AF arrives.

Are you going to test, or just wait for AF to turn up? It's difficult not to read too much into things when your cycle is odd!

I really don't know, Chimp...now I've found out my cycle was 28 days, not 29, as I previously thought (thanks to an informative thread on here) I'm due AF on Weds. So I'm now considering a test tomorrow.

I've had such a weird cycle, including ovulation bleeding, then further spotting at the potential implantation time. And now cramping and back ache, with heavy boobs / itchy nipples and mild nausea.

But I am seriously trying to read NOTHING into the oddness, as it could be anything, bearing in mind it's all hormone-related!

It is very odd for me, though. I just don't do physical AF symptom build up. Never have!

I'm not that tired though (no more than usual, anyway, but I'm always running at slightly tired thanks to early starts and busy days). Apart from today, that is...no energy at all at the moment. H2B even cooked our roast (under instruction!).

Oh, and I've had cramps all week too! Really strong cramping today though, much stronger than the rest of the week.

chimp & nic got my fingers crossed for you both.

Not had the best day today, tried to find the COD but fell into the pit of despair instead. Anyway feeling a lot better now as af has properly started so feel like I am out of limbo.

Am going to stick around here and straddle the pregnant in 2012 thread and the august thread.

As long as you're also straddling your DP too, When ;-p

I really will be keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you. Will you go to your GP, do you think?

Whenshe - I'm so sorry that AF got you :(

Chimp and nic - good luck, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Hubby and I had a talk about the docs over dinner. We're both scared but think its silly to be scared because we don't know the outcome! Hubby's worried about the drinking he's done over the past few years - is this likely to affect fertility does anyone know?

Oh Nicola it sounds good, if you poas tomorrow post early!!!
I may have just triped into the pit of disparity momentarily with whenshewas one of my best friends just phoned to tell me she's pregnant! Oh and how I should relax! ( as if I don't know) she has told everyone and she's only 6 wks! Obviously I hope it all goes well but at the same time it's like she thought she's immune to mc as when I told her about mine she was like why did that happen, as though it's something I had done! Ahh just moaning

Winkle, alcohol and affect swimmers but it's like smoking from what I gather, stop for a month and they increase by half etc etc, my sis did say she watched embarrassing bodies on it and they tested a rugby team then got them to stop drinking for a month and testing again and aparently the tests were massively different!!

I get up before 6, so I'll be about early!

Scared to test in case it's BFN again. And also petrified about pregnancy and getting to full term.

Just a big bunch of nerves right now!

kitty a close friend getting PG is going to send you into a spin.

One of my friends asked me what happened to make me MC. I was a bit stunned- she has an 18 month old!

Thanks for that nic Lol (I never say lol unless it actually happened). Think I might go to the GP but I don't really think there is anything she can recommend, am going to eat a lot healthier this month, no more sugar.

winkle Thanks but I am not sorry. My idea of hell is knowing you have a bfn but no af, I feel so much better now she has arrived. I can't believe you lp is do long this month I would be tearing my hair out. Hope GP is helpful.

kitty welcome to the pit. The rules are utter hopeless despair for a maximum of 12 hours then you get evicted and have to cheer up. It's not all bad though we have wine.
Your friend is very optimistic, I hope it goes well for here but I have to admit a horrible mean hidious part of me wants her to have a small bleed (not loose it but just scare her for a day) might give her a small insight into what you went through. god I am a bitch, this is where the name comes from am 90% nice but have a mean spiteful streak

Glad to be of service, When! :D

May be useful just to talk about what's happened with your GP, see what medical opinion is. It can't hurt, anyway.

Thanks whenshewas it makes me deal like your on my side ha ha, I know what you mean aswell she was telling me how she'd done her tarot cards and got the maternal card for feb so even though it was due in march it may come early etc etc and I could tell there was just no fear there at all!! I surpose I envy that as mc takes that from you! I am the only one out of our group to have one though so I guess it doesn't feel to her like it's a likely possibility, don't know why but it makes me feel like I'm defo going to get a bfn now, see utter dispair, I hope there's dirty chips and burgers for when I'm falling down drunk in here!

Good luck Nic

Kitty and whenshewasbad - I'm on the edge of the pit of despair :(

Thanks, winkle...I'll feel a bit like a fraud if I fall quickly though. :-/

I'm so bloody scared about pregnancy. Is that normal?

winkle Think about it this way - you may showing all the signs of ovulation but you may not be dropping the egg in a nicely time fashion. So they pop you on a pill that helps you OV at a time you know. Bingo! It's not about walking in and going for IVF. There are a bunch of little pushes that they can give that are REALLY a blessing.

Even when I went to A&E with the whole Diabetes thing - they asked how long we've been trying and I said a year. They said they'd put me straight onto a fertility pill that just forces ovulation as soon as my hba1c levels are close to normal. I am thrilled!! It means that there is just an extra little hand and we get a little bit more help! Everything has an answer when it comes to this stuff. Literally. There are TONS of things that can be done. Going to a doctor means that if something is wrong, they help you instead of you sitting there trying to figure out the enigma that is your body!

Mememememe alert!

I AM NOT DEAD!!! Just went for a 4.5km run! Had one sugar drop down to 2.7 (eeep) but munched a few glucotabs and was fine! Have to set an alarm to wake up in the night (to make sure I don't die later) and check my sugars but my legs feel SOOOO much better! Have so much more energy! Weird that 6 weeks ago, I couldn't walk up stairs or breathe! Very, very excited

I can't answer that because I can't wait to be pregnant :(

nicola What scares you?

The good thing about being forced to wait is that you REALLY know you want it when you realise that that fear all but goes away (apart from the occasion worry that your DH is going to leave you to do all the picking up of socks like...forever!)

Pleased for you Kick :)

That's excellent news, kick.

The usual, I think...having a pregnancy that lasts full term and then having a healthy baby at the end of it.

I know I really want it, but I'm also a worrier.

Hi all, have been busy organising our move (and TTC as it appears I'm ovulating now) so have missed pages of posts. Really sorry to hear the BFN news... I agree with wishful's plan to think more in the long term and will be joining that group if you ladies don't mind. I've been wanting to TTC for so long now that I've worn out a lot of my patience before we even started properly so it will be good to try and get myself to think a bit more sensibly and long term.

Welcome, niggle, looks like we're on the same cycle at least for the moment (obv don't know how long yours is)!

nic Yes I think you are right my GP is a pretty understanding lady so will see what she thinks.

kitty loads of greasy chips & dirty burgers, is only chocolate and sugar that isn't allowed. Although if the tarot cards say due in feb then obviously it will happen that way [sigh]. I can't believe she is so comfortable talking about her pregnancy with you, sounds like she has had an empathy bypass.

Will always be on your side.