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Any older mums ttc (late 30s)?

359 replies

sideways · 27/02/2006 15:57

I was just wondering how many of the ttc people were in their late 30s or 40s.

I am 38 and started ttc this year. It would be nice if we could support each other.

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posyparker · 27/02/2006 17:04

Hi sideways
I am 39 and ttc! I am new to mn, have lurked and read messages of encouragement etc for about a week, summoning up the courage to join. I have 2 dd's, one 9 and one 6 (today!) - have been ttc-ing for about 6 months. How about you?

P0SSUM · 27/02/2006 17:05

yep me. i'm 37 yesterday with dd aged 5 months. i'm a late starter so thought i'd get number 2 in quick.

Steppy1 · 27/02/2006 17:29

...had my ds (now 5) when I was 37 then dd at 39.... left high flying career and never looked back.... would like a bit more sleep sometimes but wouldn't change it for the world.......

Steppy1 · 27/02/2006 17:32

... should add not trying ttc (DH had vasectomy !) but secretly would love to have had another baby about now....I am a birth doula so get my "fix" that way... it's wonderful !

TuttiFrutti · 27/02/2006 18:50

I'm 38 and am not yet TTC but will be in a couple of months time (would be now if dh would let me!!!). I have one ds, 10 months.

Respect to Possum for trying again so quickly. I don't think I could have faced it when ds was 5 months, but life has got easier since then and I keep thinking how nice it would be to be pg again...

TuttiFrutti · 27/02/2006 18:51

Steppy, how did you train to be a doula?

angelp · 27/02/2006 18:54

Me too! I'm 38 with DD of 2.5. TTC asap so support thread is great idea. Well done!

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sideways · 27/02/2006 19:06

Hi everyone. I have a 2.9 yr old and would love another. I got pregnant really quickly last time and sort of assumed it would be the same this time. Must remember that I'm older now and definitely not as fit.

I am starting to panic about the age gap, as I don't want them to be too far apart. Does anyone else worry about that?

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posyparker · 27/02/2006 19:14

Yes, I was the same, got pg at drop of a hat with both my two and just assumed it would happen straight away again - especially as my doc said I was back to full fertility as soon as I had my Mirena out and implied that the next time she saw me I'd be pg!! Not worried about the age gap at all, my dd's have nearly 4 years between them and it's been no problem. I haven't really thought about the age gap if I have another - perhaps I should though, my eldest will be 10 (at least) by the time next one is born!

nulnulcat · 27/02/2006 20:03

im 35 with 2 year old got new partner will be trying for baby no 2 next year and want one more after but i wouldnt class myself as an older mum

RedRidingHood · 27/02/2006 20:05

My dd is 2.4 and took 3 yrs to conceive. I am now 37 and have been trying for a year - unwilling to put any pressure on by seeking medical intervention as dd was such a bonus but still hoping.

trace2 · 28/02/2006 12:50

i am 39 40 in april and ttc, for 14months now,come and join us on our feb thread

meowmix · 28/02/2006 12:52

me - 36 been trying since Jan so early days, esp as it took 5 years (and booking a massively expensive holiday, new sofa and sports car) to get pg last time. This year feels a bit last chance saloon for me if I'm honest.

trace2 · 28/02/2006 12:57

meowmix, dont matter waether its two days or two years, hun we all feel the same

notasheep · 28/02/2006 13:00

ds took 2 yrs to conceive and i had him at 41.

I suddenly conceived after stopping being obsessive about it-to such an extent that we dont actually know when he was conceived!

Good luck to everyone-surprises do happen

posyparker · 28/02/2006 13:17

I had an ultrasound in early Jan (had been having pain during bd) - my doc said everything looks great, they could see an ovary with 2 follicles about to release an egg. Does anyone know whether 2 follicles is good or bad? How many are you supposed to have?

Jan and Feb have been a bit odd - really horrible heavy af mid-Jan (think liver - tmi?) then just one day really light bleed on Feb 13 (thought it might be implantation), then nothing since. Am currently cd 47 (!!) if you don't count the light bleed but got 3 BFNs last week and one more at docs yesterday.

Any ideas about the follicle thing anyone?

meowmix · 28/02/2006 13:26

sorry posyp I'm no good with the medical details. Does anyone know how long on average it takes for cycles to settle down after you come off the pill?

skerriesmum · 28/02/2006 18:40

I'm 35 too with a 3 year old ds. This is month 4 of ttc we'll see how things go! I guess I'm not THAT old but this is the age when they start talking about genetic testing. In fact the system where I live (Canada) calls the prenatal care the Advanced Maternal Age Program!
Good luck everyone!

skerriesmum · 28/02/2006 18:41

nulnulcat I'm the same as you, I'd like to have 3 eventually... and ttc the last one at 37 or 38...!

nulnulcat · 28/02/2006 20:41

skerriesmum i dont feel old and i get dont know about you but i get offended being referred to as an older mum! someone i know found out i would be planning baby no 3 to arrive sometime when i was 38ish and she accused me of being selfish! and i would embarress my children when i picked them up from school!!!she was only 20 something though! best thing is i dont look anywhere near my age and no one believes me when i tell them in in my 30's

Piffle · 28/02/2006 20:42

I'm 35.5 and had ds at 22, dd at 32
Both easily conceived
Now I am one tube lost (ectopic rupture) and god knows how many early miscarriages
But am continuing nevertheless....

angelp · 28/02/2006 20:44

sideways I feel exactly the same about age gap. Keep thinking they will have nothing in common even now let alone if it gets any bigger. But then can't plan these things - unfortunately. Will keep trying but I giess at some point will have to admit defeat if it doesn't happen

skerriesmum · 01/03/2006 13:48

Nulnul that is so rude! She can't be a very good friend in fact she sounds a b*ch! I too look and feel much younger than I am.
I really feel I have been planning my parenting in a responsible way and this time is right for us. I just hope nature will cooperate and we'll eventually have the family we want. I couldn't think about ttc #2 before now because we just had an international move anyway. Next time you get any comments, mention Susan Sarandon, who is gorgeous, intelligent and so accomplished. She has 3 kids, the FIRST of whom was born when she was 39!
Sorry for the long rambling post...

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