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The BESH Fillies Are Under Starters Orders

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CaveMum · 22/06/2012 18:57

Welcome to the 2.30 from Mumsnet Towers. The fillies have been groomed to within an inch of their lives and are raring to go.

Late entries for the race are required to locate and fill in the BESHtionnaire so that their form can be assessed.

Bring on the stallions!

OP posts:
lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 20/07/2012 15:38

Never too early for whisky (you're not doing a resposible job as we speak, I hope, KAG). I would join you but am going to a yoga class this evening and will struggle enough without the additional challenge of uncoordinated limbs. Oh and I am still working, clearly Wink

And I really would love twins, such a wonderful thought to be over and done with this TTC-lark in one go. I think over 2 years is plenty of that. And that is a real possibility now as I am attempting a few stimulated IUI cycles next (with gonal-f, I think, but I need to get hold of the clinic, which has only crazy phone in times which clash with lunch important meetings).

All of you, have good weekends! I intend to spend lots of it outside as the sun is coming :)

PS cake thanks for the uplifting diffage story, although very sorry for the MC. Pleased it happened for you eventually again and now for real!

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 15:48

Fingers crossed for twins then

Nope, I am currently at home moping on my own being all sad and mopy. I am hitting the whiskey after a nice bubble bath.

eurochick · 20/07/2012 16:00

Kick I guess so. My mum was expecting twins after me but lost them. My paternal grandmother is a non-id twin. I think the risk of multiples goes up as you get older too.

It would be cool to get it all out the way in one go, but having seen a close friend go through a twin pregnancy, it looks tough! She was huge and very uncomfortable, and then her waters went at 31 weeks and she was on bedrest until they got the babies out at 35 weeks.

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 16:02

Yeh we had twins on both grandparents sides. I think if you have enough kids, you increase the chance of multiples.

I heard some horrors as well - bedridden from 30 odd weeks!

A baby will do actually. I am not too picky :)

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 20/07/2012 16:10

A baby will do, hear hear. So with you KAG.

I heard plenty of twin traumas as well, euro. So I don't think I would have more than one embie transferred if I went for IVF... But one can simply dream of twin perfection!

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 16:13

I think we could all do with simplicity and something easy and nice.

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 16:46

My sister's friend has twins -IVF just before they changed to one egg transfer only. They are gorgeous boys, very different! I think she would describe it as double the joy but very hard work! For her, she didn't know if she'd ever get diffed - she has severe endo - so for her it was bonus because she knew she'd never be able to have any more. I always wanted two kids but to honest I thought I'd be going for #2 by this point. We said we'd see how long it took to win a baybee after MSB's ishoos were fixed but of course we didn't figure in needing the dynorod. I honesty don't think we'll be able to put ourselves through TTC again....twins would be great but I recognise it's not easy! :)

What a day :( virtually everyone in tears. One ward closed. Everyone being asked about their preferencs. My 1:1 was very much in theory if you go back as a staff nurse but a possible opportunity to expand something I'm currently doing within my role is in the pipeline so we'll see. Add in PMS and I've now collapsed on the sofa with a Cuppa! Oof!

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 17:00

Oh wow have the changed it now so that they limit the risk of multiple births? I didn't know that. Does that not reduce the chance of one egg being fertilised?

Wow that sounds rubbish :(
I like nurses. They saved my life :) And my mum is a nurse :D

Northey · 20/07/2012 17:05

:o dynorod

I love nurses. They have so much empathy and give the impression of having so much time, even though they are probably rushed off their feet. Though I suppose I have had some dragony ones as well.

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 17:08

And it's not like on ER (the program) when you come in and they all flap and it's yelling and chaotic. I didn't even really figure anything was serious even 3 days later when I was in the High Dependency Unit. They just walked around and did what needed to be done.

I was also the annoying little bastard who just wanted to get up and go for a slow walk to the toilet (not the commode!) and they unstrapped me all nicely and unhooked me and put all my wires into easier places and took me for a short walk. No problems.

Limitless patience. I still need to write a letter to say thanks.

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 17:10

They did say I was a nice patient though. And it took three doctors and about 15 tries in both wrists to get an artery for the thingie they stick in there.

The last doctor came and asked me nicely and said they were really battling to get my artery. I told him I wanted some heaven in a cup and he gave me his own Diet Coke to drink.

Then he continued to stab the crap out of me obviously... Grin

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 17:12

It's like everything, there are fab nurses and there are some absolutely terrible not so good ones. Thing is, it's a key issue because if a not so good one is looking after you or your loved one, it affects you more significantly than say, a person who is serving you in a shop or a bank. I guess it's about vulnerability.

Yes certainly in my PCT they changed it about 3 years ago (just after the friend I mentioned had her boys) - I think it's stats about risk versus successful implantation.

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 17:14

kick do write and say thank you. We really really appreciate it! Sometimes thank yous have even been known to make people cry :)

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 17:17

faith It definitely has to do vulnerability. You're literally in the worst place you could potentially ever be and the people looking after you are the ones you place the most faith in.

That said, there must be some annoying as all hell patients as well. I particularly love the ones who think the "alarm" bell is some kind of silver bell for them to call for service!! :)

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 17:18

I will definitely. I had momentarily forgotten but you've actually just reminded me. I will do it this weekend :)

eurochick · 20/07/2012 17:31

At King's they say one embryo under 35 but recommend two over that age. Having just seen what my friend went through I expressed a clear preference for one anyway!

(BTW, her twins were from a single embryo transfer - it split!)

InTheSunshine · 20/07/2012 18:00

I secretly hope that IF we're given the ok for IVF then we will have twins. I wonder whether it's 'ok' to have a child knowing there is very little chance of them of having siblings.

We finally get to see the geneticist next week. Only taken a bloody year!

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 18:06

Oh sunny I'm glad to hear that's rolled around for you :)

KickTheGuru · 20/07/2012 18:08

sunny

Have a child and love it. That's worth more than siblings. :)

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 18:10

I used to worry about it but DNephew is gawjus, I dunno if Dsis will have any more. I think as long as you teach them to be grateful for what they get it's fine.

InTheSunshine · 20/07/2012 18:13

Kick if only it was that easy!

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 20:56

Eurgh just had a big row. Seems the memories of the ishoos in the bedroom are not as far in the past as we thought. Not when I've got PMS too. I've been for a long walk since and cooled off a bit. We've apologised and recognised we both overreacted.

Lordy me these antibiotics are vile They've made my stomach ache, I feel desperately hungry but with stomach ache. I don't think I'll stick the course!

Northey · 20/07/2012 20:59

There can be such background strain in all of this :( And you've ha so much other stuff to deal with recently as well. How are things now?

HaveALittleFaith · 20/07/2012 21:33

Oof I dunno norf. There's good news and bad times.

Bad news first - work is completely upheaved with the reconfiguration. Fortunately i get on like house ln fire with the ward sister i share an office with. Even to,d her abut our TTC woes! Our day today has mostly consisted of consoling staff and handing out tissues. Ironically neither of us know what's happening to us either!

I will try to be positive :) Very good news! DDad has been told there's no traceable cancer in his bloods so the hormones seem to have helped. He was almost of the attitude he didn't need the radiotherapy but they may as well continue since he's started, making noises like he might be cancer free, yay! Grin

Generally aside from tonight and pantgate MSB and I are getting on better. The housework is certainly better. Pain is tolerable at present. I wonder if ghe exercise is helping. I'm dying of curiosity to weigh myself but have resisted so far.

So on balance, it's mostly good and the really bad stuff is getting better. It's just work really but that should settle down and it'll be better in the long run. I think about sums it up!

HaveALittleFaith · 21/07/2012 07:27

Oh honestly, droid has arrived and three days early the bugger! Never thought I was diffed but still Confused every time I think I know my body...at least it's at the weekend so I can crawl back into bed and die slowly