Assisted Conception (and the bits in between) Volume 10

[MoJangled]

Our new home, hope you all find me soon...

[Pocket1]

Hi girlies
How is everyone?
I almost posted earlier to have a negative whinge as my symptoms and positivity have run out the door. But i stopped myself as i thought that wasnt' helpful for any of us.

So a few hours later i've just logged on again and Mo i have to thank you for the hugest kick up the bottom! You've inspired me to not moan and whinge and certainly not to give up hope yet! You've been so brave about this. And you know what, it may or may not pop out of the box at an inopportune time but for now you sould like youre dealing with it. So give yourself a huge pat on the back. And have another glass of wine .

Italian am keen to hear how the soup turns out!

xx

[Scrummybump]

mo sending big, big ((((hugs))))) your way. I have no knowledge of what other tests you could run to see what else could be done. And maybe, just maybe, it has just been one of those cases. Very, very sad still. But I am glad for you that you still have your frosties, so there is hope.

pocket that was so sweet of you. But I totally get it - I used to get like that about other people's news. It's a wonderful thing - empathy. Will be looking out for your news....

chicken I really feel for you. I hope you get it all sorted out soon

lucy thankfully yes, they have now changed my meds so one less jab a day and reducing steroids in the next couple of weeks. We'll see next week what my NK profile looks like. I have my fingers crossed, but I very much expect that I will need IVIG long into my pregnancy.

maple i started getting really nervous about my scan a few days before and then on the day I felt physically sick with nerves walking to the clinic - it was like the day of the pregnancy test all over again. And afterwards I started crying - out of pure relief.

Thanks to all of your for your kind messages

[Lexie1970]

Hello all - so sorry to hear that things have not turned out as we would have hoped :(

Sunny - when I had MMC a couple of years ago (was picked up at 12 week scan) I was given the option of natural mscarriage or have ERPC - I am very surprised it s not being given as an option at all and would push for it IF that is what you want. My view at the time was that I couldn't just wait around for the inevitable when it could all be dealt with in a procedure and then put it behind me but I stress that is my view.

Mo - again so sorry to hear your news was not better

Maple good luck with your scan next week.

AFM - my periods seem to be more regular, temping and CBFM show i am ovulating so we are going with the 'just shagging' approach. Each month that passes I look at my fantastic little boy and think although 2 would be nice, 1 is ok :)

Hugs to all xx

[MoJangled]

Pocket you're a honey. And well done for picking the bright side. But remember we're here for the whinges and scared moments too!

Italian I've got 2 1/2 of your list (run out of money, fed up of drugs amd needles, and DH fatigue starting). Expecting to see your DD Masterchef soon

Scrummy ouch, iVIG's really expensive, isn't it? But as long as it keeps working... I hope the next 6 months are less stressful for you than the last 3 have been and you can relax and enjoy being a preggy lady.

Lexie great attitude!

[Italiangreyhound]

Pocket the 'soup' was so revolting I did not even taste it! I expect Heston Blumenthal's mum felt the same!

Hugs all.

[Pocket1]

Bugsy Sunny Mo how are you all doing? Been thinking of you a lot and really hope you're okay

[lucylookout]

pocket thinking of you for tomorrow

[BadgerFace]

Ditto - good luck pocket!!

[sunnyg]

mo my dear I am so sorry. Sometimes you just feel like shouting from the rooftops 'it's not fair people!'. And you have been so strong, so positive, so I really really wish it had been better news for you. I'm glad you have the 3 fro sties, although I don't think for a second you are toxic. Quite the opposite lady? Will you take a break before you go back for the frosties?

scrummy yay about 12 week scan. What a milestone. Must have been so exciting telling family and friends.

Badger just 2 weeks to go for your milestone scan. I know you must be counting down the days?

lucy hope you are feeling better after your fall.

chicken sorry to hear about hospital stuff up. What a nightmare for you.

maple i loved your raunchy story about how the bump was conceived. Made me giggle and reminded me that once this is all past, I must grab DH and get back to some good ol' fashioned shagging!

pocket this is to wish you good luck for tomorrow! Tomorrow is my bday so let's take that as a good sign. I don't want much this bday (seems less important the older you get!) but a BFP for you would be outstanding! So here's to me for being 35 tomorrow and here's to you for all the good luck a girl can have for test day tomorrow.

mini I'm excitied to hear about your move to ARGC. Was it simply the results that tipped it?

AFM well saw gp on Friday, who unfortunately also gave me a flat no to a D & C on the NHS. Seems the NHS postcode lottery has struck again. She said if it doesn't happen in a month to come back. A month just seems like a very long time, for what has already been a very long process. I remember putting my forms in for egg-sharing on January 1st! The bit I don't get, is if I don't have a D&C and they are going to give me a scan after I hopefully naturally miscarry, is how will they know it's all come away properly (sorry if TMI) ? ?
I did look into having it done at private clinics, but was quoted in the range of a ridiculous 1500 - 2000 pounds. Money we just don't have right this second and to be honest money I think I'd prefer to put towards the next cycle. Whenever that may be. Was told will need to wait to have at least 2 cycles after I miscarry before we can start again. I guess if cycles return quickly to normal that might mean a start of September at the earliest. But don't want to set up timeframes this time, so I'm not disappointed if we can't start then.

Anyway ladies, enough moaning from me. that's the way it is. The way the cookie crumbles. Onwards and upwards I say.

Big hugs to all and good luck Pocket!!!!!!!!

[sunnyg]

and also meant to ask weller how are things going with you?

badger how is your throat? hope you are feeling better. How is research going ?

oxox

[MoJangled]

Sunny you're incredible to be so philosophic after such an awful time. Why am i saying 'after' - it's still going on! IMHO the NHS are being v tough on you. A month seems excessive, although I can see why they'd want to avoid unneccessary interventions, but the emotional hit should be taken into account too. Big hugs. Any sign of anything starting? When did you stop the drugs? Happy Birthday for tomorrow and I hope you get properly spoilt, you deserve it.

Pocket Pocket Pocket Go Go Go! Will be crossing everything till you let us know...

I have a phone call booked with my lovely doctor for Thursday evening, so will know more about our options then.

Hugs and waves to everyone Xx

[maplecake]

Just a quickie to wish Pocket masses of luck for tomorrow and Sunny Happy Birthday. Truly hope you both have a fabulous day :)

Hugs to all. xxx

[Italiangreyhound]

Sunnyg I wonder if you GP can intervene?

Pocket hugs for tomorrow.

[Pocket1]

Lovely lovey ladies, thank you so much for all your good wishes for tomorrow ? you?re so kind and it actually made me all emotional and brought a tear to my eye. It means so much to have your support. I?m rather terrified but DP will be with me all day to hold my hand and I?ll let you know asap.

Special thank you to Sunny - you?re so sweet wanting a BFP for me for your birthday. I hope I can deliver. Re the D&C I don?t know what they look for but they will know by scanning you after your natural mc whether or not you need the op, they knew instantly with me. I?m sure I?ve read that it can take two AFs to know its all ?gone? ? and have often wondered whether I should have done that instead of having the op? Regardless I can?t believe you?re not getting more support, can you ask your GP or your EPU? ? but you know, you might not need it anyway. I know its crazy hard but please try and push it to the back of your mind just for your birthday - hope you have some nice things planned and that you will be thoroughly spoiled!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO SUNNY

xxx

[wellerbabe]

pocket good luck tomorrow hope all goes well and HAPPY BIRTHDAY SUNNY

I've been popping in and out but hard to keep up ! I am good going to see consultant next week to discuss next cycle which will prob be Sep. Hugs to all

[bugsylugs]

pocket previous cycle buddy will be thinking of you wishing you all the best and so hoping you get your bfp and hand holding when you do.

sunny happy birthday tomorrow hope there is lots of spoiling if you. DH b day today DM babysat we have just walked into town and had loveyly dinner with .

The body continues its torrent both eyes are bright red no pain, itching or watering feel slightly full. Look bad bad bad or very hungover not a good look. Then this evening left wrist (left hander) now painful cannot rest on it or lift things no injury! All minor I know but wtf

[bugsylugs]

sunny that is soo wrong where are you? Don't say if not happy. What do you want? Any ideas. Mumsnet on discussion forum are asking for opinions on bleeding and pain in early pregnancy they are being asked by NICE for feedback. Have not read it all but will as now a subject close to my heart. Apparently women will be as first line asked to wait 7-14 days from diagnosis of mc ( no longer will ERPC be first line treatment or medical management . Very wrong) before being offered surgery or medical management. On there there is the draft guidance if this is an issue for you I would print it off take to GP and say nowhere does it say waiting for 1 month but referral should occur at 7-14 days. Or try a more holistic empathic GP in practice a nurse will tell you. I am ashamed of my colleagues

[bugsylugs]

sunny that is soo wrong where are you? Don't say if not happy to divulge. What do you want? Any ideas. Mumsnet on discussion forum are asking for opinions on bleeding and pain in early pregnancy they are being asked by NICE for feedback. Have not read it all but will as now a subject close to my heart. Apparently women will be as first line asked to wait 7-14 days from diagnosis of mc ( no longer will ERPC be first line treatment or medical management . Very wrong) before being offered surgery or medical management. On there there is the draft guidance if this is an issue for you I would print it off take to GP and say nowhere does it say waiting for 1 month but referral should occur at 7-14 days. Or try a more holistic empathic GP in practice a nurse will tell you. I am ashamed of my colleagues

[bugsylugs]

Oops please excuse my phone

[BadgerFace]

Happy birthday sunny I hope that you have a good day and managed to forget about things for a while. Hard I know. Sorry to hear that your GP said it was a No for a D&C, seems ludicrous to me. Do you think it was just their opinion? Worth seeing a different GP in case they give a different answer? Either way, I really hope hat things resolve quickly for you.

bugsy, sorry to hear you're still not very well, wishing you a speedy recovery!

[lucylookout]

Happy Birthday sunny!

[Scrummybump]

Happy Birthday sunny

pocket thinking of you, hoping for great news

[Pocket1]

Happy birthday Sunny

I'm afraid it was a BFN for me. DP and I are slowly getting sozzled at home now . We need to think about what we do next...

Thansk for all of your support.... i cant put into words how much it has meant to have you there for me/us.

xxx

[maplecake]

Pocket I'm so so sorry. I wish there was something I could do or say but having been there before I know that getting quietly sozzled is pretty much the only option at times like these. Please accept a from me and know that I'll be toasting the brave, funny, positive and wonderful Pocket that we all know on here, who will get through this.

Sending you and DP love and hugs. xxx

[maplecake]

P.S. Happy Birthday Sunny!!! Hope you've been thoroughly spoilt :) xxx