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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Hoping for a July BFP?

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winkle2 · 09/06/2012 13:13

Come join me :)

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KFFOREVER · 10/06/2012 14:42

Hi wishful, yes we are testing buddies. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I remember the stress before the wedding I turned into a proper bridezilla.

I stopped my pill end of January but used withdrawal method until end of March. I didnt want to TTC at that time because I had to wait a bit to benefit from the maternity package as Id just become permanent in March. (Theres me thinking it would happen so quick). In May had bad abdominal pain so no baby making. :( Thinking back it may have been ovulation pains. So this month I am being more proactive about TTC. Im very grateful my periods have returned to a 25- 27 cycle. Lets see how I am this month. Of course I am wishing I dont have any AF and have a bfp instead!

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 10/06/2012 18:41

Hi guys, may I join you? I'll be testing around about July 4th (up to possibly July 8th). I've forgotten to look when others are testing so will have a quick look back now!

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 10/06/2012 18:42

Oh! Just found that I already joined! Blush. (sits queitly far back in the corner).

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 10/06/2012 18:46

KFFOREVER TTC#1 BFP due 1st July
wishfulthinking- cycle 2 ttc #1 BFP due July 1st
Tedmundo cycle 3 ttc #3 BFP due July 2
Onemoreforgoodmeasure Blush TTC#4 (1 mc) BFP due July 4th
AmayaBuzzzbee cycle 2 ttc #2 BFP due 6 July
lollypopsicle cycle 5 TTC #2 BFP due July 10th
winkle2 TTC #1 BFP due 11th July

winkle2 · 10/06/2012 18:49

Welcome again onemore :)

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OpenMindedSceptic · 10/06/2012 19:47

Hello ladies,

Too many familiar names! but hey, good luck to all of us for July BFP.

winkle2 · 10/06/2012 22:10

Hello openminded!

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AmayaBuzzbee · 11/06/2012 09:22

Morning all!

So, AF over and CD 5. This means I can start POAS on those CB smiley face sticks tomorrow. I am quite excited as I haven't tried them before! Grin

I have a small dilemma though -it says in the package you should use your morning wee. I'd rather use a later one as then I could POAS in peace whilst DH is at work (I'm on maternity leave). Morning wee would mean rushing and hiding stuff. Have any of you managed to get smiley faces other times of the day?

All DH knows, is that I dropped the pills. He thinks we are doing the laid back thing "it happens when it happens". To my knowledge he is not aware of the details of the female fertility timings during the cycle etc, and he doesn't know of my "baby project" (period diary app, OV sticks etc)! I prefer to keep it this way, as I reckon it would create more pressure if we both knew. I wouldn't only feel crap for myself if I get another BFN, but I would feel bad for him too as he'd have his hopes up and then crushed (though I am not planning to get another BFN!). And he'd probably feel a bit of a failure (though he shouldn't) -which wouldn't bode well for the next cycles!

Do your other halves know of the "baby project", or are you too keeping it to yourselves (letting him think your are doing the 'laid back' approach together or similar)?

tedmundo · 11/06/2012 15:00

Hi amaya, DH knows about the OV sticks and he actually approves. last month I got swept up in the EOD frenzy and we felt so much pressure to DTD when not in the mood that we felt very sad about it all.

I get very good results from the OV sticks, clearly see surge go up, peak then back down, so we can DTD once the surge starts and for the 3/4 days afterwards. Most people OV 48hrs after the surge starts. Some can be later but that is v unusual I think.

But I use plain old piddle sticks, not the smiley ones, and the piddle sticks are better later in the day. not sure about the ones you are using?

wishfulthinking1 · 11/06/2012 18:01

amaya-hello, it's tricky isn't it! We only started ttc in may and decided to have a relaxed attitude at least until after the wedding but as soon as we decided to go for it I turned into a woman obsessed!! I've not done any charting or ov predicting but I'm using a period diary app and trying to swi at the correct times. We're only of our second cycle of trying (had mc with the first) so I've not experienced the low of a bfn- though in reality I'd be ridiculously lucky to conceive in this cycle- don't know when, or even if, I'll ov. My df knows about this though- and has since admitted that expecting me to be relaxed and cool about things was never going to happen!

I'd told myself we'd go for a every third day approach, so we don't wear ourselves out on a cycle when ttc would be unlikely anyway (have read conflicting things, some people say I'm super fertile, others say I'm unlikely to ov in wtf cycle). But on reflection I ought to try for eod shouldn't I for best chance?

I'm on cd9, so far we've done it on cd8. I think I ov-ed on cd 19 in may (based on my comprehensive notes! How's ridiculous! I might have had ov pain on cd16 and I had a bit of Ewcm on cd19 (Dtd both days)) i really want to be sure that if I do ov this cycle then I catch the egg but with a wtf cycle I understand that it could be a really long cycle and I don't want to wear the poor man out,

Sorry, this is a really waffly message.

1 question though: some websites suggest I'll be super fertile in my wtf cycle. What does that mean? I'll still only release 1 egg, what will make it more super?

Sorry amaya back the point! I think do all the poas business but keep dp informed- I've found it really reassuring to talk to df about it. Also, he knows that there's only 12 eggs a year and we only get one chance a month so he's got to step up to the plate ooh er-- when I tell him to!

winkle2 · 11/06/2012 21:33

Amaya I used the sticks around half 2 in the afternoon after not drinking or weeing for 4 hours. Always get a smiley.

My hubby knows about 'the baby project'. In fact he was the one who told me to get the CBFM! He's as desperate as me to have a baby.

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winkle2 · 11/06/2012 21:38

Amaya I used the sticks around half 2 in the afternoon after not drinking or weeing for 4 hours. Always get a smiley.

My hubby knows about 'the baby project'. In fact he was the one who told me to get the CBFM! He's as desperate as me to have a baby.

Wishful - I think you're more fertile because of all the hormones running around?

CD3 here and my monitor arrived today. Going to switch it on in the morning. Other plans are to have sex more often and evening primrose oil up to OV to encourage EWCM!

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fatasbutter · 11/06/2012 23:24

Hello! May I join? I'm currently on cd6 but AF often lasts for 7 days (bitch) and I haven't even considered the ov stick thingys - will try and be less stressy this month about trying as was so disappointed last month.

I think because I got a bfp on first attempt in Feb (which ended in mmc) I hoped it would be that easy this time, but no!!Blush

Anyway, I am keeping fx and tx for all ladies trying this month!! Had a huge amount of yummy pate this evening and hopefully soon won't be allowed to eat that and Brie etc any more!! x

Lisamol · 12/06/2012 04:26

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Christelle2207 · 12/06/2012 08:19

On the subject of which, what is everyone's view on the not drinking thing. We have both cut down, but given how long this is taking (8 months so far) its unrealistic to continue to be tee total. I read that baby's blood supply is not connected to yours until 4 weeks pregnancy so a little before then shouldn't affect things. Incidentally I drink v little anyway so i'm basically enjoying my couple of glasses a week.

More of a concern is caffeine which can DEFINITELY affect fertility on both sides. So have bought posh decaff coffee and also decaf tea which I was sceptical about but both dh and me are now used to it. So we just have normal caff drinks in the morning to keep us going then go onto decaf for the rest of the day, we reeckon we've cut our caffeine intake by about 2 thirds.

2nd point of discussion - has anyone got experience using b6 to increase LP? Mine is 10-11 i think days so borderline too short. Have been taking agnus castus since feb and don't think it has worked so trying that instead - poss along the AC if I can find some more on offer! I think both can take a while to work. if LP really is too short then this TTC is a waste of time unless I can sort it out.

Am waiting for my appt at fertility clinic so clearly will bring that up then, go fairly clueless, reckons that everyone OVs about day 14- I am rarely before day 17.

Can someone add me to the stats because I don't have access to a desktop this week - ttc#1, will be testing around 7th July. I try to find a good reason to get a BFP in the following month one I get AF. July is good because it's our 1st year anniversary late that month.

Welcome Lisamol and have good days all! lisamol am impressed that you have held off on the going down the obsessed route thus far, I only manged half a cycle of that!!!!

purplecorduroy · 12/06/2012 08:32

Hello, I've added myself and christelle to the list!

KFFOREVER TTC#1 BFP due 1st July
wishfulthinking- cycle 2 ttc #1 BFP due July 1st
Tedmundo cycle 3 ttc #3 BFP due July 2
Onemoreforgoodmeasure blush TTC#4 (1 mc) BFP due July 4th
purplecorduroy ttc#1 BFP due July 5th
AmayaBuzzzbee cycle 2 ttc #2 BFP due 6 July
christelle2207 ttc#1 BFP due July 7th
lollypopsicle cycle 5 TTC #2 BFP due July 10th
winkle2 TTC #1 BFP due 11th July

winkle2 · 12/06/2012 08:57

Welcome everyone!

Re alcohol, hubs and I drank what we wanted for 4 months and no BFP. I cut down from Xmas and hubs kept going so still no BFP. So I've cut riiiiiiiiight back now to around 2-3 glasses a week and have told hubby to cut back too. He's allowed 5 cans a week but he's been pushing it a bit cause of the footy so I've had to give him the evil eye lol. He had 5 cans yesterday cause of the england game and he's not drinking now till Friday.

I have very light AF. Is that a problem? Its CD4 and this mornings pad was clean and dry. My period only lasts 3-4 days and days 3-4 are light spotting.

Need to buy batteries and tomorrow I'm switching on my clearblue monitor!

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purplecorduroy · 12/06/2012 09:03

Hi winkle, I have a light AF that sounds v similar to yours. I also worry about that! I'm also planning to cut down on the alcohol.

tedmundo · 12/06/2012 09:46

Hi newbies. Welcome.

I have been drinking loads is cycle as we were on holiday and then a couple of girls nights out. I feel this is OK as I am def not ovulating yet and as you say Christelle, this process could go on for a while so I think a bit of a drink is fine.

but I have also switched to decaf tea and coffee as I think that should help.

Tesco man should be bringing me EPO later. It seems to be a good one to help and it is worth a try.

Winkle .. I have light AFs usually, apart from the stinkers after the mc, and this does not seem to have affected my fertility that I know of. I have always been really grateful as BFF has endemitriosis (sp) and is bed ridden 2 days a month god love her.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 12/06/2012 10:10

KFFOREVER TTC#1 BFP due 1st July
wishfulthinking- cycle 2 ttc #1 BFP due July 1st
Tedmundo cycle 3 ttc #3 BFP due July 2
Onemoreforgoodmeasure blush TTC#4 (1 mc) BFP due July 4th
purplecorduroy ttc#1 BFP due July 5th
AmayaBuzzzbee cycle 2 ttc #2 BFP due 6 July
christelle2207 ttc#1 BFP due July 7th
lollypopsicle cycle 5 TTC #2 BFP due July 10th
winkle2 TTC #1 BFP due 11th July
WhenSheWas TTC #2 BFP due 12th July

Have just added myself on the list. Af has just arrived. Not really sure what this months af will be like as I had a chemical pregnancy this month. Af arrived today 17dpo so fingers crossed she will have left in the standard 4-5 days and we can start trying again.

winkle I always had very light periods before conceiving dd. It didn't seem to have any effect on my fertility.

Lisamol · 12/06/2012 15:57

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winkle2 · 12/06/2012 18:26

Thanks for reassurance girls.

Question: why am I analysing every twinge when I've got AF and there's absolutely no chance of me being pregnant?!

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KFFOREVER · 12/06/2012 19:10

winkle you sound like me. When I was on AF I was convinced I was pregnant but nah it was just the Evil witch.

winkle2 · 12/06/2012 19:50

What are we like hey?!

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AmayaBuzzbee · 12/06/2012 20:35

Hi to all newbies!

Winkle thank you for letting me know, I tested in the afternoon too (just got the empty face but it's only CD6!)

Wishful I have no knowledge of the super fertility after mc, but my guess would be too that you now have more hormones than usual rallying around your body, which might help...?

Fatasbutter I too am scoffing everything which will be out of the menu after BFP -they are all my favourite foods!

Re: Alcohol, caffeine and vitamins. I think I probably drink too much. I like a glass (or usually two) of wine 4-5 times a week. I am now trying to cut it to couple of days a week only (weekends). DH probably drinks a little less (and mostly sticks to one small glass). I only drink coffee in the mornings, and take Wellwoman original which has pretty much everything in it, have not looked into individual vitamins.

At the moment (ttc cycle two) I am not trying to do anything too drastic with lifestyle (just cutting wine and cake), since DD was conceived on the same diet (I then got my BFP in cycle 4 -which was also the first cycle I used OV sticks, so knew when to jump DH!) Smile

That said, I am now getting older so I am fully aware that this may not be as easy as last time.

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