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TTC 10 plus months, Part 7

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lisacn · 09/05/2012 18:27

A friendly, supportive thread for those of us who are taking a bloody long little longer time than average to conceive.

OP posts:
sarlat · 20/05/2012 12:56

Hi

Mrs Tolis - gosh that is a busy week, HSG and dental treatment. Good luck with it all and get some days off work where poss. These things are manageble but tiring. Wish I could sneak you some of the lorazapam stuff. Wink.

Princess - good luck with the viewings. I totally get your dads "life is sometimes shit" phrase . That is a phrase I have used myself quite a bit over the last few months and somehow it seems to take a bit of sting out of awful situations. Your dad has some wise words!

Joyce - sorry for freaking you out about the sedation and waking up stories. I found it to be quite fun and when you are in that state (which is lovely and painless to get in to) your normal anxieties just don't exist. However, I can understand that a bad past anasthetic experience would put you off. This field of medicine has moved on loads though so don't worry too much. I am more scared of smears than egg collection. You will be fine if you ever do need to have such procedures.

Nelly and Euro - sorry you are both feeling down / worried about the future. I have certainly felt that way many many times. I know I had a major wobble last weekend but so far this cycle of IVF has given me more positive feedback than I have had in 2 years. That alone has boosted my confidence. I am under no illusions that this cycle will definatly work out with a BFP. But as so many things have gone well so far, I feel I would have the energy and confidence to do IVF again if needed. I no longer see IVF as the 'last chance saloon' (although I'm aware my emotions and views could change at any point). I see it as another option open to me. Before, when I wasn't willing or ready to try IVF (even with 2 years of TTC behind me), that did feel like 'last chance saloon' territory. Hope that makes sense? I'm not trying to say IVF or other interventions is what you should do, just that you have still got options and hope. Sometimes options and new ways forward come in to our lives and hearts when we least expect it and not when we are looking for it. Thinking of you both.

Wine - ouchy. You moan away love and get thee a serious block of dairy milk!

Buzz - really hope you are doing ok. I'm so sorry you have had a crappy weekend. I bet you are exhuasted. Be very kind to yourself - you are a special lady ad you will be happy again.

Well had hospital visit this morning. My monitor scans for OHSS and blood flow, womb lining etc were all good. Then we had a brief meeting with the Embyologist. She sent us away for blato transfer on Tuesday instead - very pleased / relieved.

Of the 9 embryos, all 9 are still going. We were Shock

However, 2 are looking a bit dodgy, one with slow growth and one with excellerated growth. They will be monitored for longer but don't expect these two to necissarily make (but technically they still could). The other 7 are high quality we have been told. Tommorow is day 4 and the enbryologist said this is the point when the embryo's undergo a huge change and so there may be some that we lose from this point on. But she was positive about how well things were going so far.

We are very grateful and relieved. We are trying to enjoy this little bit of positivity but not taking a thing for granted and know we still have a long way to go after ET.

Thank you for all the good luck vibes - I feel very luck to have you all behind me. x

eurochick · 20/05/2012 13:06

What great news, sarlat. Good luck for Tuesday!

MrsTolis · 20/05/2012 13:12

Will be thinking of you on Tuesday Sarlat. How exciting!

whereismywine · 20/05/2012 13:17

So glad to hear your egglets are still going strong sarlet. Its interesting to hear of how the eggs get on. Makes me think that eggs could fertilise inside of us and not get past the 4 day mark so easily. Id love to get a printout each month.
Eg sperm didn't make it
Egg got to 8 cells then withered
Implantation petered out
Sperm made it but egg not fertilisable etc

It would be so useful! And it would spur me on more I think.

I still have no waist and a purple balloon tummy. It's quite impressive!

sarlat · 20/05/2012 16:36

Wine - that print out you mention sounds brill. I think you should patent that idea for when technology catches up. Grin

Sorry about the purple tummy. x

eurochick · 20/05/2012 19:14

That print out would be brilliant! I've often wanted a little camera to be able to see what is going on in there.

I hope you start feeling better soon wine.

whereismywine · 20/05/2012 20:14

Thanks euro. This has been very hard, a c section scar and all of its after effects without the baby seems a bit of a bummer. That said, it has had a dramatic and helpful effect on my previous fear of vaginal birth! I'd not do this again in a hurry. I'm ok though and relatively upbeat. Makes me realise that most of my utter lows with ttc are connected to period hormones.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 20/05/2012 20:25

Well done on the growing embies sarlat and fingers crossed lots of them pass well through the 4-day stage.

I totally agree that I would pay good money for the wine print-out. Or the euro camera for that matter.

So sorry you are still feeling badly, physically, wine. Although much impressed you are actually okay psychologically. Well done you (although it is okay not too feel so good in a while).

Welcome newbies, I am often here, just a little less at the mo: Sorry I've not reacted here for age. I kept reading along the fred, but not writing. Partially because I've been busy, and partially because I had a bit of a why is this happening? what should we do? break-down last week. Feeling a little better now, thanks to the wonders of exercise and wine...

Loved the offer of drizzle cake recently though, and am demanding my fair share, even if I got in late Wink

How are you feeling pout? Any news on the viewings princess? Hope life is looking up a little nelly and euro. Waves to all the other lovely ladies!

whereismywine · 20/05/2012 21:59

Hey lemon, hope you're ok. I think I'm just not letting myself think about what just happened to me and that maybe I'm in a bit of shock? I hope it doesn't all come spilling out at some point soon. Also, I'm officially not ttc at the moment and rudely awakened as to what hospitals and abdominal surgery entails. It's shoved a big wedge between my baby plans! I can't imagine being pregnant and stretching my tummy or ever wanting sex again. But I'm sure it will pass. How's your iui going?

TeuchterWahine · 21/05/2012 02:22

Busy, busy thread.
sarlat Woo hoo! Well done you! Will be thinking of you Tuesday.
wine If I could plump your pillows and deliver meals I would. This is the best I can do from here Brew I'm a shocking patient too. Have you photographed your purple tummy for posterity? Dad would snap all our good injuries for the album, I've kind of taken up the mantel.
MrsT Remember to get out in the fresh air and greenery, even if you are feeling totally down. Been there and not totally out the otherside (2years this time).
princess I knew someone who bought got a peace lily after losing someone close. It did nothing for a year then flowered on the anniversary Smile
joycep hope the wedding was good. Hope you didn't have to answer awkward questions.
lemon Wine and hugs. Hope you are feeling better.
buzzy how are you doing?
Lots of comforting, supportive thoughts for everyone.
We've been shaking in sympathy for Italy this weekend. Most unimpressed. Lots of serious talk with MrTeu and unhelpful chat with ladies younger than me who are pg or mums [humff].

poutintrout · 21/05/2012 11:05

Morning ladies

buzzy I'm so sorry that you are having such a low time of it. I can't possibly understand how it must feel for you so just want you to know that I am thining of you and send you hugs.

Sarlat Good news on the embies. I hope that they continue to grow big and strong!

wine You have so been through the mill and can totally understand why you can't face the thought of boarding the TTC train just yet! Put your feet up, rest up and I'm sure you'll get the baby bug again soon!

lemons I'm sorry that you had a TTC breakdown. It is so tough to maintain all this energy & optimism for such a long period of time and inevitably there will be times that it gets too much. What stage are you at with your treatment? I am with you on the having a TTC meh period.

princess any news on your Greek royalty buyers?

joycep did you survive the wedding?

nelly It's good that your HSG has been done. Another thing to tick off the checklist. I am a bit shocked that your next appointment is so far away.

euro Grin at your busy chuff!!! How's your treatment going? You must be coming to the end of the 2ww??

Hello to MrsTolis and Rach

I had my fertility appointment on Friday. The good news is that my firbroid is only 3cm (they think, though she will do an ultrasound next time to check it's exact proportions) and unlikely to be causing TTC issues and so doesn't have to come out. Hearing wine's experience I am very relieved at that! I am going to have cycle monitoring and some ovulation pee sticks and more bloods including the AMH (bricking myself at the thought of that) and a blood test for microscopic endo which is a new one on me! She may also try me on Clomid while waiting for IVF which is a 6-8 month wait. I am a bit Hmm at going straight for IVF rather than trying some IUI but was so shellshocked at the the short waiting time for IVF that I didn't ask her about it. I will do at my next appointment in 6 weeks time. So now just waiting for my AF to start so I can crack on with the cycle monitoring. Not looking forward to the many, many appointments this will involve but hey!

Wave and hugs to everyone I've missed.

MrsTolis · 21/05/2012 11:26

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the advice Teu. You have made me determined to pop down the high street today for a short stroll. I will let you know how I get on.

Wine ooh purple tummy sounds really painful. Rest up sweetie. You are such a trouper.

Hi Pout! It so frustrating waiting for AF to get going on the next batch of tests. Hang in there sounds like you are getting lots of support via the hospital.

Lemon lovely to meet you and sorry to hear you have been through a tough time recently but I am really glad you are feeling better.

Yesterday was the tenth anniversary of my DH's uncles death. So we met his family at the cemetry and let off balloons before going to the pub. It was very moving and nice to get out of the house and pay my respects. But it all went a bit down hill when my parents in law started to ask how things were going babywise and my brother in law only wanted to talk about his two year old and ten month old. I find it so hard when they talk about that! I am sure you ladies have been in the same situations. Does anyone have any good coping techniques other than popping off to the loo for a quiet cry which is what I did?

eurochick · 21/05/2012 11:34

MrsT we have told our parents and close friends what we are going through - that stops 99% of the insensitive comments.

pout I'm about 8dpo today, so have a few more days to go. I had a huge temp spike yesterday morning which got my hopes up a bit, but it is back to normal this morning. It must just have been due to late waking (but that doesn't normally have much of an effect on me). I'm pretty sure that this is not our month.

www.fertilityfriend.com/home/343af6

joycep · 21/05/2012 13:04

Hi lovely ladies,

wine - you have had such ahorrible time and it has all sounded very unpleasant. I just hope that every day is making you stronger. It sucks about your caesarean scar. How bloody unfair.

sarlat - that?s amazing you have got so many good embies. May they keep getting stronger. What is a blasto transfer? Oh and don?t worry I get freaked out pretty easily. I think it just scares me being out of it although i should be used to it considering alcohol has done that me on many an occasion!

lemon - i?m sorry you have been having a rough time lately. I think it all just gets too much sometimes and i find that when i try different treatments and nothing comes of it, all hope gets dashed until the next lot of treatment. Anyway i hope you are feeling a little better this week.

pout -so they won?t be removing your broid then? A 6-8 month wait is pretty good and very surprising. Anyway you can join me on the monitoring cycle. I had my second scan today and have to go back in on Thursday. I also had my bloods taken last week and the dreaded AMH blood test which was low 2 years ago. Urgh i feel very nervous about all that. Although I will say that some clinics like the ARGC have no interest in AMH levels and think it has no bearing on ivf success. That?s interesting they are going to put you on clomid as well. I think it?s good to try a few of these things just to see if it does the trick.

mrstolls - sorry about the awful questioning and family just wanting to talk about their little ones. When people know about our problems i find it quite hard to understand why they continue to chat to us about how wonderful it is to have kids . I?m overly sensitive I know but I totally understand how painful it is to hear people go on about it.

I was totally knocked for six this weekend when I woke up on Saturday morning to a birth announcement by text message. I didn?t know this friend was pregnant. I spoke to her last year and like me she had had a miscarriage and had been trying for a year since so I was quite honest with her how I was struggling and was finding it very difficult with all the birth announcements. I was dreading her xmas card because i was convinced she was going to write to me that she was pregnant. Anyway it would seem that she was pregnant but didn?t mention it. Now bar one girl, every girl from my school year has had a baby and as far as I can work out every boy who has married has had a baby as well. It?s such a shit feeling ? i just got in the shower on Saturday and cried like a baby. I spent the day feeling very sorry for myself. I can?t believe it has affected me this much as i only see her every year or so but I think it?s just a reminder how a baby seems to be utterly unattainable for us right now.
Oh and the wedding was lovely although i was very snappy with DH after the above ? we were asked several times if we had kids but the champagne dulled the questions.

MuddyWellyNelly · 21/05/2012 14:10

Just a quick hello. Sounds like some of you are really down just now. TTC can take it out of you enough as it is, without life in general adding to it. General hugs and Brew and Thanks to everyone. In my part of the world at least the sun is shining, which helps me a lot. Roll on holidays on Friday. I cannot wait Grin.

Will try to catch up properly later. No sign of OV yet as far as I can tell. Which is good as we're far too tired for sex. Temping hasn't been great so far. I take my temp but it's dark so I don't read it. Then when I turn it on later it always gives me the same 36.5 reading, which I've tested and isn't right. Any idea how to work this complex one-button technological marvel? It's the baby mad one and supposed to store the reading?Confused

eurochick · 21/05/2012 14:12

Nelly you need to hold the button down for a few secs. Once you take your finger off, it reverts to 36.5.

MuddyWellyNelly · 21/05/2012 14:21

Thanks euro I bought it about a year ago, have never used it so lost the instructions. Will try the holding it down.

To all the lovely posters, I think my post sounded very inadequate and dismissive of your worriesBlush. I have had 2 very late nights, feel shattered and also a bit hungover unwell today, which I will blame for my rudeness.

mrsden · 21/05/2012 14:39

I'm at work so I can't post properly, but I wanted to give big hugs to joycep i think im the only non pregnant or mother amongst my friends if I discount single ones. It's not nice realizing you're being left behind. We will get there though.

Amazing news on the embies Sarlat. Over here blasto isn't allowed, they have to be transferred at 2 days so that no embryos are destroyed. At 2 days they are technically not classed as embryos. It seems like a stupid policy and I know people are campaigning to change it. I hope it doesn't put us at too much of a disadvantage.

Wine, I hope you're doing ok, it sounds like youve had an awful time of it. I think your womb must be nice and ready for baby now. Surely being in the wrong position must have been hindering things.

My break is over now so I'll have to go back to work, hello to everyone else.

MrsTolis · 21/05/2012 14:44

Nelly Your post was not rude in the slightest! I really appreciated it!

Also I went for a little walk today and put up a blackboard in my kitchen. So feel quite pleased with myself!

princesschick · 21/05/2012 18:55

Evening ladies,

Well looks like I've managed to get myself behind on here. V.busy weekend!! We had an epic night of getting the floor in on Friday - we didn't leave until 10.30pm and there were several accidents along the way. FIL got lime in his eye and had 2 trips to A&E on Fri afternoon. OH got lime in his glove and had a trip to A&E on Saturday morning when the burn started to go green and bubbly. I have small lime burns on several fingers but have got by with hydrocolloid plasters and urtical cream. It was a very pleasant change to be going to the hospital on a non TTC related trip. And there was a very amusing moment, when a lady swung one of the doors open (we have a walk in doctors at our hospital for minor accidents and injuries) and shouted "FUCK A YOU" Both OH and I thought that that was an unfortunate name and smirked at each other until said lady continued with, "YOU'RE ALL EFFING C*NTS, ALL OF YOU, C*NTS THE LOT OF YOU". Charming. It makes me realise why doctors / nurses are so thick skinned and emotionless. We also had a bit of a chat about being in this game so long whilst we were there. OH admitted that, yes he is keen to be a dad, but he is not in a rush and that with all the other non TTC stuff going on at the moment, he would be a bit freaked out / feel the pressure if I announced a BFP. Oddly, this made me feel quite relieved. I had an internal "calm down dear" moment. I'm not sure how long this will last tho. We didn't do much on Saturday apart from lick our wounds and watch TV and it was nice to hang out like we used to. We had the big lime clear up yesterday as we left the house (and neighbours drive / car) in a bit of a state following the incidences. But the floor is in and it's all ready for the underfloor heating, final skim layer and then tiles to go in next weekend.

In other news, we have had an offer on the flat, subject to survey. Yes, yes and YES! So, all going well and being realistic we should be in our new house and out of the flat at the end of July / August. We now have to get our skates on to get the new place finished. Pronto!

I'm still feeling itchy that the appointment with the consultant isn't for another 3 weeks - seems so far! Although I'm feeling pretty chilled about not having a baby until well into next year now (see above). And I'm off for another blood test tomorrow, as I realised this weekend that I didn't have the rubella jab as a teen (my mum was v.anti-jabs when we were small) and that I should get this sorted on the NHS if we decide to go private at any time.

A month off so far is infuriating but seems to be doing the trick with actually wanting the baby and not just the BFP. I have had loads of dreams about being pregnant or having a baby over the last few nights. Not that that means anything as I have been having loads of bizarre dreams and nightmares too - like finding a live squirrel in the fridge, that spoke and was actually our pet Confused or going on a tour of a theatre, which turned out to be a torture chamber and I only just managed to escape in a blue convertible sports car that I couldn't drive properly (woke up at that point) and having a shower in a hotel with all of my dad's family in the bathroom, who saw my boobs Shock and were really embarrassed...Freud go figure! Anyway, I spoke to my GP today and she wants to test my immunology (for rubella). She said that it was funny I should call as she was talking to the other GP just this morning to say that they should do more in the way of preconception care and testing for things such as rubella immunity. She really does deserve a gold star that lady.

The brown diet is still going strong, although as a treat for being booze free for 9 weeks and dairy free for a month, and because I have ouchy burns everywhere on my hands I allowed myself one scoop of coconut sorbet (dairy free but not sugar free) last night. I actually couldn't believe it was dairy free after the first spoon and had to ask the waitress if it was definitely, definitely, definitely dairy free. She confirmed, to my absolute delight that it was safe and, well, oh my, it was possibly the tastiest little ball of sugary goodness my tastebuds have ever experienced. OH was a little embarrassed and so were the people next to me as I was a bit 'animal' about devouring the sweet treat and OH said I made a couple of sex faces... whoops! Shock finished off by "God, that was just so amaazzzziing" when I put the spoon down. Blush

Oh and some bastard stole my credit card details and tried to set up a new Ocado account with them. Whoever stole my card has very middle class tastes. It was the 64p transaction to a weird company through Google that caught them out. All sorted but scarey none-the-less as I'm super careful about using my cards on-line.

I'm sorry to hear so many are feeling down or going through rubbish times at the moment. TTC is not nice at the best of times and it sounds like there are some really big storms being weathered. Big hugs all round.

wine sorry to hear about the purple belly, scar and pain. I hope you are feeling much better today. Glad Mr wine is looking after you well. You are sounding very upbeat, which is very admirable. Well done for being so brave. I loved your idea of a print out. I would so pay good money for that service. Just a thought though, where would it print out of? Wink I am truly sorry about the c-section scar. It isn't fair but you will be back to TTC before you know it.

Buzzy still thinking of you. Hope you are feeling better after the weekend. BIG HUGS.

Joycep sorry about the birth announcement and wedding interrogation. Sometimes it all comes at once. I haven't had a pregnancy or birth announcement for a while, they always seem to come on good days with me and they always ruin everything. Champagne was my favourite anesthetic as well. I just have tissues and homous to comfort me now. Hope your week is better and doesn't hold any nasty surprises. Big hugs for you too. Are you off to see your DH soon or have I got completely confused?

Lemons sorry to hear of your week last week. Where are you now? Have you got another IUI sesh or are you in the 2ww? Sorry if I'm being a dunce, so much going on here at the moment. Hope you are feeling more positive after the weekend. And you, you get a big hug too.

Sarlat loads and loads of lucky charm vibes (not in the cereal way!) for tomorrow. I hope the embie blast (sounds like a space mission!) is successful. I've got everything crossed for you. I've been reading your posts with awe and fascination. You are being very brave about all of this. Hats off to you. And a big hug.

Teu hope you are ok after the chats and not feeling too sore after listening to the smug others. Hugs for you too lady.

Pout good news that things are moving forward for you and you're now fully underway with clomid and a place on the IVF waiting list. Hope the cycle monitoring goes ok - do they ask you to temp or use OPKs? Or do they do scans? Just wondering as I'm trying to preempt what might happen at my appointment. I would like to offer you an advance series of hugs, for all the annoying appointments.

MrsT as with Euro, we've told our families about what's going on. They knew about the MCs and that we were taking a long time and now they know that I'm having tests done, so they have been fairly good about everything especially at big gatherings. They know that it upsets me so it's generally avoided as a topic of conversation. These are the ways I deal with it though: I usually (depending on mood) go for the big honesty thing and tell whoever is asking all about our trials and tribulations in great detail (they usually get bored or embarrassed and drop the subject altogether) or if in a bad place, I usually end up crying and have to be taken away from the gathering. Most people are pretty understanding and if we have to leave we send a text / email to apologise afterwards. OH is very good at just removing me from situations and bribing me with tasty snacks and the prospect of crap TV and a magazine when we get home. I don't really think there is a good way of dealing with announcements or questioning as it depends where you are in the cycle or TTC or what discussions / thoughts are going on behind closed doors or if you have appts coming up etc My family have always viewed me to be volatile and highly strung - so sulking or being upset is just seen as part of my personality - that can take the pressure off if I'm feeling down. I find the best thing is not to wind myself up after these events by thinking that I've failed at TTC and failed to be sociable and that people must hate me and that I'm a big fat failure. Because most of the time family, friends and even strangers have been very caring and understanding and feel wretched if they speak out of turn and cause upset. Sorry hugs that you had nosy relatives that made you feel sad.

Nelly hope you are feeling well hangover has disappeared this afternoon. A hug for you and your confusing temperature. I really must start doing all of that again. Especially after reading the bible so recently.

Is artemis out there? And lady and purple and mrsD? Hope everyone else I've missed is ok. And if not, there's a big hug for all of you.

I can't wait to meet some of you next Tuesday, can't believe how quickly that's come 'round!

Well, I'm all hugged out. The sun is right in my eye, which is annoying but also nice to see the sun too. It would seem that summer has at last landed. OH is not back from the doctors / DIY store yet and he left 2.5 hours ago. I better check that he is ok!! Love to you all xxxxx

buzzybee123 · 21/05/2012 19:55

pout can you ask for a few rounds of iui first, is the clomid for super ovulation??

wine I can't believe they haven't sent a DN round to check your wound site Shock

sarlat thank you for you support, good luck for ET tomorrow :)

mrs t sorry about insensitive questions, I think euro is right, if you tell them it usually shuts them up, I always wish I could come up with something sharp and witty, or just give some of them a good slap

joyce by text really ??? I can sadly relate to the crying and feeling low

euro the big fingers is pointing at you :)

nelly I keep pen and paper next to me to write down my temp, otherwise I forget Hmm

princess oh the delights of A&E, well done on selling the flat

teu sorry about all the unhelpful chats, i'm hoping the earthquake doesn't affect my trip to Italy next week.

Well I cried from Wednesday to Friday, felt ok on Saturday until I got a text from my colleague to say she and her baby were now home, taht coupled with my 1 day AF made me hit rock bottom, cried all day Saturday, slept and cried all day Sunday. I felt totally devastated by it all. Poor Mr B was great but he was fed up with it all by Sunday night, we had a bit of a fight, something we never did until the first miscarriage. I hate it when we fight. So I have made banana loaf as a peace offering. We have decided I should go back and see Shehata and see about having the hysteroscopy. I'm seeing him on Wednesday. Now I just feel exhausted by it all and still feel tearful

I would like to say a big thank you to you all for your support. Thanks

Frannieannie · 21/05/2012 21:03

Hello all,
Hope you are all keeping well- sorry that lots of you are having a rubbish time. Have been reading every day or so but have not had much time to post- sorry about that.

Wine sorry that you are still battered and bruised. You poor thing. That 'broid really was a mysterious bugger, even to the bitter end. I so hope that the squeezing, poking and prodding does the trick, when you are ready to go for it again.

euro GL with the 2nd week of the 2ww. I really hope this is your month- odds are it has to work for one of us, right? How many more iuis would you do if it isn't successful? lemons are you in 2ww too? Sorry you're having a meh phase. IUI just makes it all so much more at the forefront of your mind all month with all the scans etc- it is pretty hard to have any respite from it.

sarlat I can't believe the anguish that doc put you through- like it's not stressful enough. Hope all those embies are doing well and that the next stage of the treatment goes well.

princess glad there's movement on the house front- fingers crossed all goes well with the sale. Am so impressed with how well you are sticking to the brown diet and the not ttc- I am in awe!

joy sorry about the preggo announcement. That winded feeling from the FB/ text/ phonecall is impossible to describe to anyone. You're in good company here though as we have all had it and we all understand. The day you post your BFP on here though (along with the rest of you!) I can guarantee that I shall be beaming all day! And we will all get there!

pout 6-8 months for IVF wait seems really reasonable but also enough time to mentally adjust. Really pleased that you are having lots more monitoring. Although it is draining it does feel reassuring that they are becoming more informed about your body.

I'm having a weird time at the mo. Had shit period with loads of spotting and pain again. Scans start next week again. Don't want to out myself on here but we are making some significant changes in our homelife at the moment which are taking priority. For the first time in over 2 years I can honestly say that it would be really crap timing if I got preg this month! This is good and my mind is definitely elsewhere- I feel detached but then suddenly angry about the situation.

One of my main gripes is that the only doctor I have spoken to since the start is my GP. Otherwise it has been a registrar or a nurse, although I was referred to the clinic by a consultant I have never met! I have 6 rounds of IUI- which in theory is great- but I am not entitled to talk to the consultant until all 6 are over and I get referred for IVF. (Incidentally I have to complete all 6 cycles to be entitled to the referral for IVF). As in the meantime they have discovered that I have PCO and low progesterone I have had to go back to my GP- who is not at all happy about the situation- as I'd like to try the Metformin/ Clomid route. He's had to rerefer me back to the local hospital, which will run in conjunction with the clinic. It's soooo complicated and bloody frustrating! As my clinic is private but offers NHS IUI I am sure it is just because they know you'll get so frustrated that you'll skip all the crap and start paying!

Grr- sorry to not post for a week and then just bloody rant!

Hope everyone else is good- big waves to all, especially the newbies xxx

Frannieannie · 21/05/2012 21:07

Sorry buzzy- I went off to have dinner mid-post and then when I posted I noticed yours. You poor thing, it sounds like you are having a rotten time and it's bound to put pressure at times on your relationship. We're all here for you. Lots and lots of luck with Shehata on Weds xxxx

ArtemisTheHunter · 22/05/2012 08:53

ARGH I have just written a huge epistle, pressed 'post' and the bastard damn thing has disappeared... I've got to go to work now but will post later... in the meantime huge hugs to everyone, really sorry for those people who are having a tough time at the moment, and fx for those mid treatment... damn damn damn I have just wasted the last half hour. Oh well... I shall try again later. Love to all xx

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 22/05/2012 08:56

Oh buzzy, I am so sorry. I managed to have a full-blown argument with my DH over the phone on Friday about nothing really (and TTC in particular), while he was at work... And I spent too much of that day crying too. So I (sort of) know how you feel. Keep hanging on, but do patch stuff up with your DH. And good luck with Dr S. And you will get there.

Sorry for all the other misery mongers here. We have hit a clear slump, haven't we? :( Pg announcements always suck (except on here)...

Thankfully there is sarlat with ET today, massive good luck to you! And princess with cheery coconut ice cream stories and Shock at the A&E experience...

Frannie I know how you feel, I think. We are in the 2WWs of IUI number 3 and I am not sure I want to do this many more times. I am shocked that you don't get to see a consultant, or anyone else for that matter, until you've finished them up. We are considering how many more we would want and maybe push for a lap&dye as it is the last main stream diagnostic we haven't had. So I have the joyful job of getting us an appointment to discuss this stuff. (I always cry on the phone, so I have been putting it off!)

Wow - quick moving pout on your IVF wait-list. And good to know your broid should be no trouble. Cannot believe how much faster things are going for you at the moment... Fingers crossed it results in a lovely snake baby in a pram for you!!

Keeping everything crossed for euro. I reckon we are overdue an outsourcing win, so it could be YOU.

A bit Shock at the maximum 2-cell embryos, mrsd. What a pain...