Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

[WhyAlwaysBoris]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Just dropping in to say that I'm thinking of you today mumtum

mumtum thinking of you today xx

TWW symptom spotting...

I have a funny taste in my mouth, feel a bit hungover and have an upset tummy . I has this with DD and my MC. Coupled with constant peeing, I have convinced myself I'm PG. Hope has taken over from sense. Please can someone give me a reality check? I'm planning on waiting until the weekend before I test.

Urgh I feel rough.

X post with you martha double breakfast offerings!! And huge at you being 5+2!

beat you blue although we now have a fantastic array of breakfast delights!

how are you blue you are next on the thread lady got your bag packed? all ready to rumble??

blue we are like grannies at the WI cake sale fighting for the breakfast glory

confused am i correct that you are in the WTF cycle? this could be good as your hormones are still raging and many ladies on this thread have conceived in that time - good luck for the weekend although IC's are the work of the devil, mine all said negative until about 5 weeks

Bags all packed martha and was really wondering if things were starting yesterday but now back to nil, nada, nothing in terms of braxtons or period type crampy pains...which did mean I got some sleep last night but is a tad frustrating as I'd quite like to just get on with it all now...but at 39+1 there's still plenty of time...and at least I feel a bit more human today rather than the grumpy zombie I was yesterday

Hi Martha waves. Yes I'm the the aptly named WTF cycle. I feel terrible today and am trying not to get too excited. It may well turn out to be a bug! I know people in RL who got PG in a WTF cycle, and I think I had pink cm around the time I jumped spent some quality time with my DH. My plan is to wait until the weekend, then try and wait some more. It's too distracting though.

Hello all, aw man I am freaking out big style! Had a mmc back in Feb (13wks baby had died at 6/7) Was the worst time of my life and completely shocked me to the core....had the sweet naievity and excitement of a first time mum and didn't think for one second that 'this would happen to me'. then a few weeks ago tested positive again!! I just feel as though i am walking through quicksand and that every day is lasting FOREVER....just want to rush forward to a time when my pregnancy is well along in its journey and I can relax and breathe (if that ever does really happen!!) We paid for a private scan on Monday to try and calm me down...was amazing, they dated me to be 7 weeks and there was a strong heartbeat and I swear it was the best blob I have ever seen but this is the thing....now I have seen it, Im so scared of getting my hopes up, I feel guilty for not being excited about it, but I think I just have major barriers up...I want this sooo much that Im just 'waiting' for it to all go wrong again. Im having pretty severe sickness and Im shattered....so i guess I should find comfort in these symptoms....so sorry to moan but Im guessing you all know what this feels like!!? Next scan is on the 20th June....don't know if I can wait that long!!

allchik welcome to the crazy world of pg after mc. everything you are feeling is normal. i know it's hard not to worry.

can you get scans at your local epu? since i had my first mc i can go for scans every couple of weeks to try and put my mind at ease or at least spot a mmc before i get to the usual scans.

mumtum thinking of you today.

strange things are going on today (again!)- what i thought was af has now stopped wtf? i might book in with my gp to have a chat about it all. i only had a week between spotting ending after last af and this weird bleed yesterday. i might start temping again to try and get a grip on whats happening. my cheap acu sessions have finished now so i might go back to my old guy but it gets quite expensive.

Thinking of mumtum, hope everything goes well.

BTW, would anyone who is still TTC and has not yet entered the mosh pit like either or both of:

• Clearblue digi ovulation test (one of the packs with 7 sticks, only one used the month I got pregnant, possibly has mystical preg juju)
• Half bottle of Solgar B50 vitamins

I can stick in the post to whoever replies first. This thread has been so helpful I feel like I should pass something on!

I hope it goes well for mumtum and everyone else is enjoying the sun. I have Real Life biscuits and flapjacks for breakfast which I'm most excited about!

So, after my horrible dream yesterday of waking up in a pool of blood, this morning before waking up I dreamed (dreamt?) that I had to have an ERPC but the first available date would be the 1st August.

I know I'm stressing out about the scan tomorrow afternoon but it's quite distracting and I can't even get away from it when I sleep. I told DH that it was on my mind and he told me to try not to think about it too much. Because of course it's that easy. Grr.

I stopped feeling sick on Sunday (11+6) which I know is normal but I'm worried about that too. Ugh. .

Welcome bug and good luck for Fridays scan

Welcome allchik - after my first loss, I felt exactly how you say. I mean, you know these things happen but they don't happen to you -surely they only happen to other people. Knocked me sideways :( congrats on your bfp :) I've had 5 scans with this pregnancy (currently 16 weeks), some NHS some private and the private ones were well worth the money for putting my mind at rest for 5 minutes

GPB good luck tomorrow. 'try not to think about it too much' is classic advice I have heard many times - useless, but I'm sure he means well and just doesn't know how to help you thru it.

mumtum I've been thinking of you today - hope you are ok. Xx

martha - hope the grunge has stopped? All seems to gave settled here although I have no symptoms other than tiredness. have started eating for two tho

boris was wondering how you got on with the bloods today? Any new numbers yet? Am keeping fx.

mumtum hope it went as well today as these dreadfully grim things can go . I have been holding you in my heart today.

GPB good luck tomorow. 'Try not to think about it too much' is like telling an iceberg in the sahara to try not to melt too much.

confusedmum that all sounds promising....fx for you.

Pebs AF brief apearance must be very frustrating.

allchick i'm so sorry for you. I found out my baby had died at the 20 week scan, blissfully unaware, practically skipped into the scan room was so excited. That loss of innocence about it all is for me one of the worst things. Hang in there.

My HCG was shit, falling not rising, no hope that a baby could survive and at some some point i will miscarry. As i had a mmc last time they have said if i don't start naturally i might have to have another erpc.

Am not surprised, somehow i knew from the start, yet i'm still incredibly upset, which seems completely illogical, but there you go.

Had to take the call in the middle of the office and then front it out for the rest of the afternoon like there was nothing wrong.

Not the best day i've ever had.

I'm so grateful for this thread to come to xx

PS meant to tell you all about my great achievement:

When i went into the hospital today for the blood tests saw that they had changed the epu signs so they aren't wrong anymore. :) :) :)

Two years after they moved the department without changing them, it only took two days of me moaning on MN to shame them into doing it!!

I feel very proud that no-one else in my position will ever have to spend an hour wandering around trying to find the epu again.

Sorry Boris that's really sad :(
But well done on the sign changing - that is an achievement :)

Oh Boris, I am so very sorry for you my love. What sad news. You are braver than me to tough it out at work - I would have gone home. I know this is the rubbish hospital, but did they give you a timescale for when they might consider giving you the erpc?
It is a very hard thing to live through. Sadly,I think we share a more than a few things in common with our mc history. I too had the late mc shocker scan, and it took me ages to even believe them. I found this the complete opposite, like a slow walk to a sad end. You are sort if pregnant but not. You certainly can't take up ttc again. And you are waiting for the mc to strike. When it came, I was oddly relieved. It wasn't terribly painful, like a painful period, probably because things were not developed well :( It is a huge headfuck though and you are in my thoughts.

Also, I read your hospital thread. What a mess! I am so sorry you had to go through that.

I am a bit concerned that they haven't given you a timescale for reviewing your mc, for your mental health as much as anything. My hospital gave me 2 weeks, then I was back in for medical management on the cards if nothing had changed. 2 weeks felt like an eternity, but at least it was finite if you see what I mean.

mumtum, I hope you are recovering well. I have been thinking about you a lot today.

GPB, hope all goes well for you tomorrow. Scans are so hard.

leedy congrats on your NT score. I guess my experience has scared a few people (and we seem to be in a big group of Nov ahem Valentines babies), and I am do relieved you are have been soared that.

Well, tomorrow is a big day for me. I got so worked up about the scan that I did not think the MW appointment thing through. Heartbeat or no heartbeat. Quite a big one, and one that makes the scan a bit less significant. So DH is having the pm off work and coming with me. I was getting in a terrible state about it. I would have to go with just my DD for company otherwise so not ideal.

I had a bit of good news. My good friend who knows I am pregnant said I have got bigger since she saw me 2 weeks ago so I am going to cling to this, and try to use it to fend of the ensuing mental attack tonight.

Big hugs to all I have not namechecked.

Hi all,

Anybody mind if I hoover up the breakfast leftovers, as am on Canadian time and am still getting snack attacks hourly!

boris I'm so sorry to hear about your blood results. I was really hoping that your bad feeling was wrong. Take the time to be heartbroken, the only way out is through. The only thought I found comforting in my MCs was that if this one wasn't developing well, it was ultimately better to have lost it. Easier said at 6 weeks, as mine were, than 20 weeks. Are there any commonalities between your losses?

leedy congrats on your NT results! I'm of a worrisome age (38) and have my NT scan next week (yes, am shitting it) but it's reassuring to hear that such good results are possible!

mumtum I hope the ERPC and hospital time gives you closure and some peace, as state said.

so pleased you are 5+2 martha!

I am now 12+1 and should be a little (just a little) relieved to be over the 12 week mark, but the Slapped Cheek business means my risk of miscarriage is back up again (11%, I think, if you are exposed between 9 and 20 weeks) and if the babe hangs in there, I'll be scanned weekly from 24 weeks watching for anemia and something called hydrops. I am quite sure i had the virus on the weekend, so am wandering around the Mosh Pit with a continual low-grade metal going on. :-)

Also, just reread my post. Stupid iPhone, clumsy finger typing. Talking about you being spared not soared Leedy.and although there are other mistakes, I hope they make some sense in context?

Oh Boris, I'm so sorry about your blood results. Are you being called back in to review your options? I sometimes think staying at work is better than going home, you have people around you and aren't staring at the same four walls blankly, with the same thoughts on repeat. I hope you're getting some hugs from your DP tonight.

Boris I'm so sorry , I was so hoping things would look up for you today.

Thinking of you Mumtum.

Hi everyone,

Oh dear, no they seem not to be on the ball as usual.

The hospital said, if you haven't started bleeding in a week do a home preganacy test and call us to tell us the result.

That was it in terms of a plan of attack.

Due date for our son was 1st June so thought of having the MC then is dreadful.

We are also due to be away that weekend at a conference up north, the thought of which, frankly, is the only thing that has kept me going for the last three months and i'm desperate not to miss it.

Does anyone know, do you MC when your HCG gets low enough or does it not work like that? Mine was 32 on monday and 7 today, so has dropped a lot. Don't know if this is promising or not?