Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

[WhyAlwaysBoris]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Glad your boss was understanding mumtum and hope you can keep yourself distracted til the scan.

Meanwhile, I am hooked up to my Own Personal BP Machine. I am working from home (ok, to a certain extent "working") because damn, the thing is noisy and it goes off every half an hour. Poxy blood pressure. Also must avoid looking up the mother and baby endangering effects of uncontrolled high blood pressure.

high fiiive to mumtums boss

can i just say i am on my lunch and was eating a sandwich during the explicit instructions of public knicker checking

why-did i ever ask

Well if you want to eat your lunch whilst reading a thread primarily about mucus and AF and unexplained gushes and tinges and fluids and gunge-related items ;)

Glad your boos was nice mumtum hang in there.

How many weeks are you now tits I would say don't doppler metal but I am a proper doppler metaller which is why I haven't had one this time.

I'm 13+4 I know it's early but I have found it twice before, although after my last post I had realised that again it was 24 hrs since I ate or drunk anything which I know I'd really not good at all.
I'm not metalling so much as feeling really low and down; proper sobbing because I just feel so unhappy, I don't know why or anything, I seem
To be in the depths of depression for some reason and all I am managing to do is lay in bed and zone out.

Glad your boss is understanding mumtum

missC

Tits, I'm sorry you are down. Try and nibble few things and have a nice sugary drink. I hope you are feeling better soon x

Afternoon all! I have been at the public knicker checking antics you ladies have been up to!! at you eating your lunch whilst reading the thread marthas how are you doing?!? Hope all's well!!

manda hope you made it through Thriller last night and DD doing ok...and how's bump? Any movement yet? Do I remember correctly that you might be induced in the next few days might be losing the plot and remembering this totally wrong

Now that my DM has arrived I am really hoping that LO decides to make a move v soon as I'm feeling rather uncomfortable now! Also can't really believe that I've been on this thread for almost a year and that it's only 10 days until the anniversary of my 12 week scan when the MMC was found last year! What a learning curve and crazy year this last one has been!

tits hope the food and activity get LO moving around so you can find the HB and put your mind at rest.

mumtum so sorry you are still waiting. So glad your boss was understanding. My body fooled me for quite some weeks last year with ongoing preg symptoms after everything had stopped growing (at 5-6 weeks but MMC not found until 12wk scan and at '14 weeks' I had to have a pessary before they could even do the erpc as my body hadn't realised anything was wrong at all!!). Really hope you get some answers v soon!!!

Right...think I may need an afternoon nap!

Thanks bluecrane your mmc experience sounds really tough but I will take comfort that still within the year you are where you are now I'd not heard about the pessary thing hoping that I maybe won't have to have that but saying that if the scan shows no change then I've already set my mind that the sooner I can have an erpc the sooner I can try and get my body back and ready to ttc again

Tits do you feel any better this afternoon ?

tits sorry you are feeling so blue.
blue you've come a long way baby.

No public knicker checking here today in Spanish Spain. But some laying around and sunbathing and I may even have a small cheeky glass of Rioja later.

Yes, Thriller was... ok. We were in middle the second row of stalls and unbeknownst to us there are elements of the show that are a leeeetle bit like being at Butlins: that is, audience participation. Standing up, shouting, waving arms, clapping, 'dancing' (inverted commas as no movements I can make these days are akin to dancing...) and we were directly under tha gaze of the cast as they encouraged aforementioned participation. Now, my irritable uterus tends to go hard with the slightest physical exertion... cue me holding a hard stomach for some of the show thinking 'don't let this be it, don't let this be it...'. Kinda distracting. But the actual show was pretty good - the cast are talented bar one guy who I could not STAND Is it mean to link and point him out? TOUGH! THis is him - he had a scary face that seemed to have had some 'work' done and a voice that was sometimes great but mostly 'stage school' sounding and occasionally tone was all wrong. Me? Fussy?

Conversely, though, the kid who played young Michael Here, is clearly naturally talented although frighteningly thin. I worry he's being affected by the Business of Show

DD is still very ill - I actually have a thread in chat about her so won't repeat here...

blue there is talk of me being induced. It's what I want, or at least before all this measles business has blown up in my face... now I want him to stay in until I can be sure DS1 and 2 aren't going to get ill too.If they get past early next wek without showijng symptoms we're probably in the clear... but I can't see this baby hanging on that long.

I, too, am incredulous at all this PKC. It's given me many a smile over these last few days

tits I've spent much of this pregnancy feeling, shall we say, less than happy? I'm really no good at seeking support/help and so this is kinda 'do as I say, not as I do' advice, but do speak to your gp (not the rubbish one who wants to ration anti-sickness meds... what happened with that in the end?) or midwife (maybe midwife will be better. They have teams that recognise how important it is to address antenatal depression (and for us to suffer it is no surprise - the mental torture of pregnancy after a loss is a lot to deal with for the average person - just being pregnant again isn't the cure-all we sometimes get caught up in imagining it is...). So, yeah. Oh, and it IS early to be pickig up the baby's HB. Tht early sometimes I could get it, sometimes I couldn't. If they're hanging out 'nearer the back' or... something, you just won't get it. So try not to metal too much and as jaffa says at least get a drink into you woman!

Oh, midge make it a tinto, so much better for you (and baby) than straight rioja and then you can have more

mumtum glad your boss was understanding, i hope the next two more days pass as quickly as possible.

tits, I'm so sorry you are feeling so down. Please let me know if ther is anything i can do to help you.

manda, hope dd is feeling better,& glad your little one didnt make an appearance in the stalls last night. I am v impressed by your linking / writing all at once technique.

blue i'm so glad your crazy year finally has a lovely outcome in sight.

Well, i rang the consultants receptionist.

She asked what i wanted
i said i was expecting to hear from you yesterday about a new appointment time.
She said, 'why were you expecting a call from me?'
i said, 'because you said on monday you'd call'
she said, 'oh i wouldn't have said that. We send out apointments by letter. I wouldn't have said i'd ring you'.

If she'd have said, 'oh sorry i didn't have time to ring you yesterday/forgot to call you yesterday' it would have been fine, but to pretend i was just imagining it made me really cross.

This is about the fourth time this hospital has done something similar to me and i'm really really fed up with. My replacement appointment is in july, so better than august, but i think this was the final straw for me, so i've asked for my results to be sent to the gp (thanks whoever suggested that!) so that if i can sort out the money i can go privately. I might also go back to the gp and ask if they can refer me to somewhere less shit...

The happy side effect of this is that it did distract me from metalling about testing tomorrow. Don't have a good feeling about it, had a feeling today AF was on the way. Was really gutted last month so i'm not looking forward to it.

Hello folks. Your knicker-checking antics have kept me rather amused over the past few days. Bravo!
It's day 10 in the Big Brother House of my mc today, roll on the end of this blood-fest. Went for lunch with my preggo colleague today only to be told that since she's now preggo following a mc I shouldn't dwell on things and should just move on. I do wish people would keep opinions like that to themselves. I'll bloody well move on in my own good time. [rant over].
Am feeling pretty ok about things all considered, but can't wait to get cracking with "the fun bit" (dtd) again. The blood-fest keeps stopping for a few hours (at which point I cheer) only to return on my next trip to the loo. Rubbish! Ah well, more "patience is a virtue" practice needed methinks

Hello Yikes, sorry about your miscarriage & your colleagues stupide remark.

People can be very insensitive and say utterly shit things, i find.

On the other hand a few people i wouldn't have expected it of have treated me with great care/ consideration.

Am learning to just smile at the idiots while secretly imagining violent acts

lol Boris!

Thank you ladies for cheering me up no end with you PKC!!!!
Never tried it though ad I would be too chicken, I'd be the one running to the loo.

mumtum thinking of you for Friday.

yikes totally know how you feel. Is am at day 21 and still bleeding although it definitely seems to be getting less. Also finally got -hpt. Never though I'd be delighted to see one of those.

boris I can't believe the cheek of that receptionist. You were dead right to ask for your results.

Wishing all pg ladies well.

Thanks for all the kind messages. I had something to eat and drink and dragged myself out of bed and had a potter around and a shower.
I am feeling a bit better now, I think the key is sometimes to just keep going otherwise I get stuck in a gloomy place and it's hard to get out of it.
I will talk to the midwife though, she seems lovely. I never went back to the GP, the sickness has eased off a bit since the weekend so I'm ok without the meds.
Just waiting on NT results now

All your messages really helped though and I did find HB later after a cup of sweet tea, it was a bit fainter so I assume he/she is hanging out at the back.

Public knicker checking has kept me quite amused today, not something I have personally done but I am going to be watching like a hawk for other people doing it, just so I can give a knowing nod.

tits, do you mean ... KNICKERWATCHWATCH?

manda just sent you a hand holding message on your other thread, FX you are all ok x

so sorry you are feeling down tits, 13 weeks is a really emotional time and lets face it - it is a significant time. Honestly you are going to be fine, but i would urge you to speak to your MW or GP for some support

in the meantime we are all here

x posted

tits you sound a little better, pick yourself up - dust yourself off and start all over again xxxx (its my mantra)

tits sorry you're feeling so down, it's understandable - this is a very nervewracking time - I agree with maybe speaking to your midwife. Good news on the heartbeat :)

Boris asking for a referral somewhere else sounds like a good plan to me, they sound rubbish.

Right, I'm going back to work tomorrow after my mmc. I think it's time. I feel fine physically and emotionally I think I'm as good as I'll get. So, I think being at work will be good for me - give me something else to think about. I'm not looking forward to all the sympathy though... My boss sent me some flowers today, bless her.

So trying again... I did a pg test this morning and it was negative (yay - I've never done a pg test and wanted it to be negative before!), so am now looking out for ovulation symptoms. Poor DH wont know what's hit him.

tits hope you're ok x
Boris what a fecking cheek. Grrr!
Martha how are you doing?
Yikes hope the bleeding stops for you soon. I'm on day 7 since I 'properly' miscarried and I thought things had stopped yesterday, but today I am getting some spotting when I wipe. I'm hoping it's almost finished...
Hugs to everyone I've forgotten x

Thanks marff and blue for the kind words re: DD over on t'other thread.

Well, I could NOT sleep last night. BAck ache, shooting pains down from groin/inner thighs... I got up at 5 in the end which is VERY unlike me! Just feel so blah and uncomfortable that I got in a bath a 7am... and I think I've lost some of my plug whilst in there.

Please, please, please don't let today be the day! I need more time to make sure the lurgy hasn't spread around the rest of my offspring and... just NO! I haven't even packed my hospital bag! I don't even know if I've got everything I need!

Morning all.

Good luck today Backward I returned to work on Tuesday. Everyone was so understanding. I'm doing shortened hours this week as I've been exhausted by the end of the day. Is this something you can do too? I tested yesterday and got a negative too, I know what you mean about it being odd to be happy about it. I thought I'd misread the test and got so cross that it said positive.

Well the sex strike is still in force. I'm only allowed to cross the picket line for hugs. I'm expecting placards in our room tonight! "what don't we want? Sex" "when don't we want it? When you are ovulating!"

Anyway, I think my fertility friend iPhone app is wrong. It has set my cycle length to 31 days by calculating the time I was pg as one v long cycle. So by my calculations (with no scientific basis whatsoever as I haven't had a period yet) DH and I did manage to DTD when I think I was ovulating (although I may have totally invented symptoms etc). So, I am consider the TWW to begin and am officially metalling. Yikes!