Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Yay tits!

manda, how many weeks are you, could this be labour? Keep an eye on it.

martha keeping all crossed for your BFP!!!

Great news tits

Hope things are resolved soon manda

Wonderful news Tits. I am so pleased for you and your little 'bottoms up'.

Manda, I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. How far in are you now? And does this affect any of your birth plans?

Martha, i hope that this is your month. You deserve it.

Well panic over for now. Heartbeatingt baby found! And internal exam showed everything to be ok. They think the bit of blood might be either because of speculum exam yesterday, or a little clot from the cvs working its way out. But they are not worried, and I have to believe them.

I hope in a few days, the metalling will die down a bit. Today, I am 13 weeks and 5 days, with a healthy girl with a heart beat. Bye bye first trimester, you tormentor, you will not be missed. I have got a tiny bit of hope again.

Thank you for all your support. It really really helped. I wish I could give you all real life hugs. X

Oh and good luck to marbles too. I hope you get through the next few days and then get lovely news!

thanks jaffa excellent news re: heart-beat-y baby girl!! excellent!!

i have been feeling very teary and hormonal today so i reckon AF is 'round the corner...we will see. DD was off school ill today and we watched tangled and i welled up at the end i have watched that film ALOT of times and this is the first time i have reacted that way... i have had low crampy pains and needing a wee more often though...(pee off bloody non-symptoms)

good luck martha we can be POAS buddies if you want...im aiming for saturday as im out for BILs birthday saturday night so need to know if i can get sloshed or just pretend to how about yourself?

Yaaaaaay jaffa.

Blimey so much to catch up on and doing so from my stupid iPhone app.

jaffa huge sigh of relief for you on all fronts. Here's hoping for some metal free weeks or even months for you. You must feel exhausted.

manda hope you are getting plenty of rest. How many weeks are you now?

marbles and Martha, I admire your POAS patience. Got everything crossed for you both for the results you so deserve.

tits yippee for bums in the air scans. Bugger off sickness and go and get on someone else's tits.

Well I was at the hospital for nearly 3 hours. No real answers but feeling more positive. Actually like a comedy appointment. Very young SHO at first who basically had to tell me that I had an appointment with a 'special' midwife to discuss my positive syphilis test. cue embarrassment, shifty looks at DH. Anyway long and short of it seems to be a false positive in a rather dodgy test but it diffused the tension of the appointment as I was too busy making bad jokes about getting a divorce and asking if you can get it off a toilet seat. The pure indignity of it all. They were very lively. Did a swab and another urine, blood test and swab to make double sure no infection and listened to the HB (Dr very pleased as this was the earliest he had found one - bless). They are going to scan me every 4 weeks, offered ELC if I want one (don't think I do thank you but DH does?!). They seemed relaxed about miscarriage and don't think this bleed is anything to worry about. So for now, I must believe them. Still not stopped and weird kind of colour. Hope by tomorrow it's gone for a few metal free days.

let's hope the ladies on this thread are in for a spate of good luck, and we add in a couple of new BFP's this week x

Ohhhh good news all round jaffa tits midge! Real life hugs for all of you

Fantastic news jaffa

I'm actually starting to believe in this pregnancy, my symptoms are getting stronger whereas last time they stayed low, and I just feel content. That's good right?

That is good state. Allow yourself to not metal just for a week or so and see how it goes. becasue I am so good at that myself

Hope your doing ok midge

I'm slowly metaling less, doesn't stop me running to the toilet as soon as I wake up in the morning to check for blood, but for the besy part of the day I'm getting there

I have crazy insomnia, but feeling a lot better. Wish this stupid discharge would go, but I am partially suppressing the panic!

I am off tomorrow on a big trip. Actually feeling happy about it now. I have been commanded by my MIL to do very little other than sleep and eat. I think I am going to do that. I feel physically and mentally rung out.

Manda, I have re read your post again. I hope so much that you feel better soon. It has been a long old pregnancy, but you are on the last lap. You are past 37 weeks now? And they have their eye on you.

Hi ladies ive been lurking on and off fir the last 2 weeks trying to keep up but failing so instead i will say for now congrats for the good news for Jaffa tits midge and state it's really inspiring hearing all the good news

martha I have everything crossed for your bfp this month ( and anyone else to of course!)

As for me well I've been desperately trying to get through the last 2 weeks after my last scan and well tomorrow is the day I'm also not feeling very positive my household too was struck with Norovirus and I have been very poorly only just last night being able to keep down water after 2 days and other than vomitting which I totally wish was 1st trimester sickness but realistically know it was the virus I have lost all symptoms dj could fondle breasts forever more as they ate just not sore no matter how much I prod them I know realistically that until tomorrow I should be thinking positive I've had no pains no cramps no spotting or bleeding but I have this gut feeling I've had a mmc I guess tomorrow at 11 I will find out

Dj???? Who's he ?!? Meant of course dh silly I phone!!!

marbles i POAS (IC) last night and it was a BFN but then again it was only CD24! I will happily be your POAS buddy on Saturday, that will be CD27 for me and i should have had AF by then.

I am crazy hormonal at the moment too, i literally bit DH's head off last night on more than one occasion, he sent me up to bed with my book and a cup of tea and told me to keep out of his way as i was nagging him too much

jaffa woo hoo for healthy heartbeating MissJaffa!

midget is it wrong that i chuckled at the SHO eyeing your DH suspiciously!

sorry x posts mumtum ok so whatever i say cannot reassure you so i suggest you take a seat in the VIP area sit yourself down with manda soothe eachothers brows and help yourselves to some delightful danish pastries.

the-rest of you can slum it in the cattle class cafe with sausage butties and milky tea

I am out with DS tomorrow for his hosp appointment (routine, for his cataract) but i will check on MN later in the day. I will also be thinking of you at 11 and secretly hoping that all is well, but if not - here we all are for support xxx

Well, everyone (seems you've all asked!) I'm 39 weeks today. So, very much 'term'. But I'm pretty sure all this grumbling my uterus has been doing isn't labour/pre-labour. Which suits me FINE (you will all recall my spectacular denial and how very much I'm not prepared practically?). Called for my blood results yesterday which are 'normal'. So I'm still something of an enigma!

Consultant appointment today to agree an induction date for next week - so you can fret on a specific day, marff - can't have you all panicky for an indefinite period now, can we? The consultant midwife I saw t'other day has already spoken to him about me so I'm hoping it'll be an in-and-out appointment that literally gives me a date and time to turn up next week. I've ordered a tens machine too on the midwifes recommendation as the thought of another rapid labour with no pain relief (other than a few half hearted puffs on gas and air - I felt silly on it, and bit the mouthpiece more than I did suck on it! - which didn't do much other than induce a slight woozy feeling I didn't particularly enjoy) is something else putting me in a bit of a tailspin.

And, how is it the universe seems to conspire against us every now and then? As I said, highly emotional the evening of my day at the hospital. Then I see an email from Boots baby club 'Your Baby is 8 Months' that was, like, Ooooooft! (that's me getting kicked ) and Huh?! ( because I'd cancelled all the notifications when I lost Teddy and have not had one from them at any other stage...) Weirdness. It's almost like I'm getting 'signs' I have to face up to stuff.

Innyhoo, enough rambling about me.

tits Great news! Now all we need to do is sort out your duff gp, get you back on the sickness meds and things are going swimmingly for you!

marff don't threaten to shag the life outta DH - you know he'd love it

jaffa SO glad you've been ordered by the crap MiL who has finally come good to do exactly as I have said! Insomnia is par for the course, I think, in pregnancy - even when utterly exhausted beyond words. It's one of lifes little cruelties! Here's hoping the trip is a good one and, hey, you're totally gonna need that bigger house now

just a quick one - got loads of work to do eekkk!

went to raj rai yesterday. he was really nice and did a couple of blood tests for me which i hadn't already had on nhs. he is writing a letter to my consultant to recommend my dh is tested for blood clotting disorders and for me to be recommended to liverpool for a hysteroscopy.

hopefully it won't take too long to get the appointment at liverpool but looks like i will have to put ttc on hold for a few months until it's all sorted.

he said if dh has blood clotting disorders it could affect my placenta as the placenta has the same genetic makeup as the baby (which is 50%) dh.

i will ring my local consultant next week to get the referral process started.

raj rai was really nice and positive - i might see him again in future if i need a bit of advice or support.

he said i could be referred to london but to be honest it was a pain in the ass to get there so i couldn't cope with that all the time esp. in early pg.

sorry forgot to say:

phew for jaffa - hope this discharge is nothing to worry about.

good luck to manda if you go into labour!!

hello to everyone else - i need to work now as i have been off all week and got loads of work on now.

shit manda you are having your baby NEXT WEEK!!!

i am really excited - no really, i am soooooo excited

Excellent news tits I am so pleased for you.

Morning all.

manda next week wow, good luck

pebspop good luck with your follow up apts Raj rai sounds a brilliant help x

morning!!

manda one week left??!! wow exciting stuff!!

hope everyone is having an excellent thursday

i finally had my appointment for my shoulder pain this morning...possibly surgical but need to see a consultant and have physio first. also tendonitis and lupus related so i should be getting somewhere to have it fixed soon

DD has her referral to neuro paeds on my birthday! it was on 15th june but i didnt feel it was very good to have to wait 5 weeks so asked for an earier appt and the earliest was 28th may...happy 30th to me but it was either that or the 13th june and DD comes first (obviously) so my birthday it is then she has had a few more episodes, one big one in the bath and another in the middle of the road so it needs investigating... she fell down the stairs about 2 weeks ago too and it has made me think maybe that is what caused it as if she was stepping down the step and went absent...she may have missed the step without knowing as she rolled down the stairs and had no idea how it happened. its weird seeing it happen.

feel sick this morning and heartburn-y too...

martha im going to buy some HPTs today (CD27) in preparation for testfest saturday AMas i have none in at the mo...not like me AF is most likely going to rock up on time but its good to be prepared...sprry about your BFN but as you said its likely too early so fingers crossed...

Looks like I x-posted with mumtum before I left... AND I had you in my thoughts as I typed my original post - was going to say 'Isn't mumtum due her follow up scan today? - but ti somehow escaped my sieve of a brain.

Sickness bugs really don't pose a risk to a pregnancy directly. The risk ramps up if you become severely dehydrated or if for some reason your temp sky rockets. But, duh, any little sniffle let alone full-on norovirus hell is enough to make us metal so I totally understand why it's made you feel so glum. Especially if your boobies aren't sore any more... but, y'know, that can come and go and mean nada (my boobs suddenly got extremely sore at 15 weeks after not being sore at all until that point... then it wore off again after a few weeks to return in the early 30-ish weeks... Gone again now!)

I'm really hoping you get some good news tomorrow but we're here whatever the outcome - to cheer with you, or cry with you.

So. I saw my consultant. Can I get a 'For!', a 'Fucks!', a 'Sake!' whaddia we got? FOR FUCKS SAKE!

I understand his rationale, I do. But, seriously... he wants me to go back to clinic next week to check 'how low' baby is (currently 4/5 although two days ago midwife seemed to think 3/5 engaged so he's either popping in and out (expected in subsequent pregnancies) or it's one of those subjective measurements that just doesn't marry) because if the baby isn't very low then induction probably won't work and 'we don't want to end up with a ceasarian'. No shit. Although why didn't I think to say 'but subsequent babies often don't engage at all until labour'? Why, when I'm usually so quick witted did I just sit there nodding like a mute dolt? He even trotted out 'even if you get the two doses of IV antibiotics, it's no guarantee the baby won't need them anyway...' and I just nodded. Instead of saying 'well, what would be the clinical point of administering them to the mother in that case?' I feel an impotent rage building! Although I got a bit teary on the way home...

So I have no date. Saying that was a false alarm. Sorry But on the other hand I went into spontaneous labour with DS2 at 40+2 so I may well have a baby next week yet. Just not in the more 'controlled' manner that I feel is important for my mental health

Ah, and I've been meaning to say, marbles how worrying for you re: DD.

When I was a teen, my friend had her first epiletic fit when she was with me. It happened whilst we were crossing a road (luckily, a quiet one!). She stood stock still in the middle of the road, looked skywards, and started spinning around. I was obviously and kept asking her what she was playing at until she went to the floor and was unresponsive. These were the days pre-mobiles, so I panicked dragged her to the curb (no one around) and ran my arse off to the nearest telephone box to call an ambulance. She eventually grew out of her 'episodes' and I really hope that as DD's are presenting so early that it will also be the case for her too.

Given how it must be consuming much of your thoughts (and time - bet you're watching her like a hawk?) I can't really think there's any better birthday present than starting to get to the bottom of things and hopefully manage the condition in a way that means life can start to return to normality. Perhaps not exactly as before, but as we like to say here: knowledge is power.

for you (and DD!)