Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

[WhyAlwaysBoris]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

I had chicken pox a few weeks before I was 5, so I've rang the midwife and left a message about maybe getting a blood test. Dp is dealing with ds to limit my contact for now.

for midge, I have nothing usefull to add but your bean seems to be a toughie :) stay strong and rest x

state I think the midwife cheeks for chickenpox immunity when you first have your bloods done. Or I could have made that up. I think around 98% of us are immune. Which if course will never stop a metal in its tracks.

I haven't had chicken pox - it's one of the many thongs I am metalling about.

tits with my last pregnancy I had anti-sick meeds from 8-18 weeks none stop, so I'm not sure what your GP means - maybe try someone else?

midge glad you're calming down a bit - roll on wednesday.

Midwife rang back, no need to worry apparently as I've had the pox, still metalling a bit!

Thing is though - if they test you for immunity and you're not immune, is there anything they can do anyway? I think I must have some immunity from somewhere as I've come into contact with it several times and never caught it - including when my sister and cousin had it and I was with them 24/7 - but if I haven't then I'd almost rather not know?!

midge, glad you got some reassurance and hope there are no more alarms.

I discovered when I had my bloods done for pg #1 that I was immune to chicken pox without ever having had it, or at least having had a dose so mild that I didn't notice it. Result.

Filthy cold continues to be filthy. Getting paranoid that it is going to be like my last unsuccessful pregnancy where I had a chest infection for two months (which had nothing to do with the miscarriage, just made everything even more crap). Really want Exputex or other snot-thinner but they're not safe in pregnancy so making do with steam, apple cider vinegar, nose-snorking, honey and lemon with garlic and ginger, Lemsip, and complaining. Mostly complaining. Hope I get a decent night's sleep tonight, last night was coughy and snotty and terrible.

kirrin if you're not immune they can give you an immunoglobulin shot. If you are not pregnant and not immune they can vaccinate against it. In some countries chicken pox vaccine is part of the normal childhood immunisations schedule.

:( leedy hope you get some sleep tonight.

And thanks bonzo I'll have to ring the midwife and see what I need to do - she hasn't mentioned chicken pox so I don't know if my blood's been checked for it already.

Tits having just not been able to keep things down for a few days and managing to get rather ill, I so feel for you. It Makes you feel so wretched, if it works and it is safe then take it. hope you get some more.

leedy we know our associations aren't always rational but we can't help having them. Especially when dealing with illness on top of pregnancy. It's like some kind of metalling magnifier. Hope the cold buggers off soon.

Starting to feel more rational here. Poor Dd still vomiting. DH had a shit birthday but all calmer. Cramps still there but so difficult to know what they are that trying to ignore them. More like a tightness than anything else. Here's hoping the bleeding buggers off. Thanks for all your hand holding over the last few days. jaffa thinking of you this week.

Morning everyone. :)

I will head back to the GP if sickness is no better, sadly today I have a 9hr Salon session and no doubt a client list as long as my arm.
I also have an attractive runny nose constantly so am very snotty. Pregnancy is so glamorous!

I am holding both Jaffa and Midge close in my thoughts, I hope some this week is good.

and of course the rest of you. May your week be peaceful and metal free. :)

I need to force down some cornflakes and then start on the Everest of washing up from yesterday

Good luck Tits try and take it easy when you can.

Dear Bleeding Please sod off. I am trying to be positive and you are quite frankly bringing me down. Thank you for remaining old blood and freaking me out a bit less but I still don't trust you. You so often take me to a bad place and I don't want to go there. This one is different.

Dear Cramps thank you for passing - you at least have behaved as I requested.

Dear Time Please hurry up to be tomorrow afternoon so I can see my consultant and find out what the feck is going on.

Dear Google You are NOT my friend. Stop making me google depressing things - it is not helping.

Dear Norovirus Thank you for leaving our house - please never come back.

Jaffa still holding you in my thoughts (inbetween googling myself into insanity)

midge so pleased that the results came back ok, really hoping the cramps and bleeding stop completely so you can relax!

jaffa still thinking of you, you had your CVS done in the best place, their rate of miscarriage is well below the average. My collegue went recently and her odds worsened too, I think its just the machines they use are that much more detailed. I think its also positive there are no soft markers. Keeping all crossed for you, do you find out the results today?

I had a mini metal on Friday as had been having AF like cramps for 3 days, managed to find a Baby Bond 3 doors down from my office who could see me at lunch time and so had an extra scan at 14 weeks! All still well with the bean so obviously just stretching pains. As soon as I had seen the bean the cramps stopped so perhaps in my head! Its going to be very tempting to just pop in there all the time I must admit but I will have to control that particular urge! Seems like forever until the 20 week scan now.

Thanks for all the kind wishes. I will probably get my results tomorrow afternoon. I also got to the bottom of what the difference in the two results are. Nhs gives results on odds of Downs at birth, FmC gives results on odds of Downs now. Sadly I think a lot of the difference is due to the number Downs babies miscarrying. The lady I spoke to at FMC was slightly positive, my bloods improved from Weds to Friday, so that is good, and the physical markers were good. I still feel very gloomy. Also very conflicted. My DH is leaning towards termination. After all the mc, he has made himself detached from this pregnancy. I have been thinking about them every day for 10 weeks, so it is s bit different for me.
Currently sitting in a car park whilst he is in the solicitors. We had an offer accepted on a house last week before all this came to light. but the results tomorrow could make a mockery of it all. If we have a Downs baby and keep it, we can't afford it any more. If we terminate, there will be 3 of us rattling round a big 5 bedroom house.

midge, I hope you get lots of good news at the consultants. and that the plague of cramps, bleeding and puke buggers off for good.

far, sorry about your scare. V handy but too tempting by far having a scan machine 3 doors down!

Waves to those I have missed.

Hi Jaffa - hope all is well tomorrow. Whatever you and your husband decide we are all there for hand holding.

Hi Midge - hope the bleeding and cramps stop soon. So glad the noravirus has left home.

Hi Far a scanning machine that close would be too tempting for me!

Tits hope the sickness calms again soon; if not second opinion?

Hello to everyone else and good luck to the person who has the doctors appointment; brain a bit fuzzy today.

Anyway i took a deep breath and rung the doctors today for an appointment and i bottled it. Poor receptionist. Actually she was very nice and says i should try again soon, very soon as the appointments for scans are "backed up." I will try again tomorrow and be brave and see the doctor and say "i am pregnant" It will not jink it will it? I will be still be pregnant just on the system.

Oh Jaffa I so feel for you. I think none of us know what we would do until we are in your shoes. And any fear of loss makes you feel in limbo about decisions that affect family life. I can't even decide if I should move furniture and buy a wardrobe - let alone a bloody house. Heres hoping tomorrow brings positive news for you.

Far I just googled the place you had your scan - bad having them on the doorstep. I was tempted and I was last scanned on Friday FFS. Glad the cramps have passed.

I am driving myself demented trying to find exactly how late miscarriages start so I can prepare myself for one, if that is what is coming. Of coure, I know preparing myself won't make any bloody difference so why I am torturing myself I do not know. I am actually shouting at myself to stop as it is not helpful but my fingers are possessed. I am moving away from google before I end in the loony bin. Typing this is helping as I know it is all a bit mental. hangs head in shame at my mentalism. Focusing on the positive from now on:

Brown not red
Spotting not bleeding
No cramps
HB still there
Movement still there

Arrh, slightly less mental. Will it ever stop? The metalling I mean? I thought it would stop at 12 weeks but it is worse, the more there is at stake, the worse it gets. I had experienced multiple losses aready by the time I had DD and I was not this mental. Perhaps it is nearly approaching double figures that has sent me into metalling overdrive. Someone please virtually slap me or even better drive to my house and actually slap me

midget step away from Dr Google, he will never help you - stick with us instead.

Jaffa got my fingers crossed for you xx

far I have been fighting the urge to book a 14 week scan, even though I have a 16 week one coming up - I just can't seem to help myself :(

Scan today, featuring a heartbeat, appropriate size for dates, and some foetal disco dancing. Huge relief.

Annoyingly though my blood pressure was up so I am parked in an observation ward for the afternoon. It does seem to be going down so hopefully will be home later. And at least am having a lie down...

Great news about the scan leedy. Boo hiss to the BP.

Oh dear, I had a full scale sobbing, snooty, metal at college. I am convinced for some reason that I will get to my 12 week scan tomorrow to be told, sorry, no heartbeat.
I can't get it out my head, I have no logical reason to think this but my brain is screaming it to me, I even told DP not to bother coming in case he will be dissapointed, then got cross with him when he said he is coming regardless and to try and stop worrying.
I think 6 more months of this will drive me well and truly crackers.

tits I'm feeling the exact same, 3wks to wait for me though :(

Tits I know exactly how you feel. I even had a HB at 12 weeks and u am still convinced that on thursday they will just say "sorry but..."

Sending positive thoughts your way.

We all understand that feeling tits (feeling tits...snigger) and state
and tiago It's so unfair :( I think it every time about scans, and every day when the baby hasn't moved for an hour, and every time in between.

My current confession is I'm scared to poo in case I break my waters by straining I'm trying to cheer you up by sharing this insanity

Glad things seem to be improving midge fingers crossed. How's DD the friendly ghost?

Jaffa I have faith and I will be thinking of you tomorrow, will try and pop on to see how you're doing. Hang in there, whatever happens, tomorrow you will know and knowledge is power. You will make the right decisions for you.

Good scan news leedy have they set you free yet?

tits I know how you feel. I've had a scan pretty much every 2 weeks and the reassurance only lasts a day and then the doom starts again.

Congrats on the scan leedy - hope the bp is lowering rapidly and you can escape soon.

Jaffa thinking of you for tomorrow xx

Yes! I am out! Though I have to go back in to be checked up again next week. Bah grumble. Also now have rich new field of metalling re explodey blood pressure and the dangers thereof.

miss I've thought the same but not waters breaking as I'm 8+4 convinced ill cause a mc, so were crazy together!

Thinking of you tomorrow jaffa xx