The BESH Eurovision Song Contest eva

[eurochick]

Asseyez-vous mes amies and ready yourselves for the BESH Eurovision contest ever. Get ready with your Central European fashion, transvestites and inability to sing anything in tune. Get ready to rip your skirts off and leave your other halves no option but to make their mind up (do you see what I did there?) to get down to some swi and do your best not to think of Terry Wogan at any point in the proceedings. Finally, get ready to yell ?nul points? at the evil Droid should it dare to make an appearance.

Newbies, approach in high euro-camp mode, find and complete the BESHtionnaire to let us judge whether you are cynical and menkul enough to join us.

Thanks all [sniff] I just have to ride out the storm. It is, of course, mostly TTC related though a few other things have not helped.

I'm on the sofa with HWHNN, who is asleep, watching the Grand National coverage.

My in-laws are in Macc sinky, I joke it always starts raining as we come over the Cat and Fiddle! Good effort on the run. Your trainers will be fine, just bung em in th easing machine!
Hmm I've found some lush jammies in Tesco, shall I buy them? I have some in purple but these are pink and the style is sooooo soft. Want, want, want! this is one top option, it has a choice of this vest or grey and bottoms in the pattern or grey. It also has a t-shirt style top. I'm very tempted to buy two tops and one bottoms. I have a Next gift card for £22 but can't find anything I really like in there.

Yes. Every convalescent needs pyjamas. Get them.

Hope you feel better soon, cavey. What have you planned for the rest of the day?

My best friend is coming over later for a cuppa and a chat. She's struggling with TTC too, so she'll be sympathetic to how I'm feeling.

I just wish I'd bloody ovulate!

Well best friend has been and gone and guess what, she's pregnant

She's 14 weeks and said she's been so scared of telling me. We both cried, of course, butbim so happy for her.

Aw Cavey that's so hard for you though. ((hugs))

I think it must be horrible being on either side of the situation.

:( how nice for her but how tough for you. Hope you're ok-ish.
Well I've been out MSB practically booted me out the door I walked to the shops quietly crying. Got over myself then burst into tears in Poundstretcher oh the shame when I realised how much we've still got to replace. I really need to snap out of this. Can't even blame pms since I'm mid cycle.

Thanks, yes there have been some tears but I am very happy for her. She's been trying almost as long as we have, though she's 5 years older than me. She also lost her mum to cancer last year too

She said they'd stopped "trying" because she was waiting for a referral to the infertility clinic to come through and hey presto!

I know I'm putting a lot of pressure in myself and I can be my own worst enemy at times, but I guess it is that old cliche again of "relax"

Oh God, cavey, I'm so sorry. What awful timing as well, with you already feeling low.

That's certainly an FUFC baybee cavey but don't blame yourself for feeli stressed whilst ttc. It's a vicious cycle for us all. I really want to be encouraging but feel like everything I put could make it worse But we all luff you cavey. That much is true
On a lighter note, has anyone else seen bugs profile pic in t'other place? She's looking super foxy!

That is a tough thing to deal with, Cavey. This ttc lark is fecking awful sometimes, isn't it? And I've had nothing like the travails you all have.

I periodically cheer myself by thinking of all the things I can do while I'm not diffed. Want to join me? First one is: eat all the blue cheese I like.

Wine, wine, more wine and then some more.

Not have to stress about finding a dress for the impending wedding season to accommodate my baby gut.

Not having to spend any time in mothercare or mamas and papas.

I can taken the stairs and don't have to wait for s-l-o-w lifts (more of a baybee thing, but still..)

Pâté, sea food and steak tartar.

The ability to be fun on nights out. (bitchy, but just a liiiitle true)

I'm on a roll..

Ooooh ooooh,

Knowing that, for a least the next 9-10months, my undercarriage will remain intact.

(several friends have lost in fights with forceps)

Yes yes to undercarriage remaining intact. I have a total mental block about the realities of giving birth. Surely I'll just go from being all glowing and rounded to having an adorable baybee in my arms, yes?

Here's another: lie ins.

All very good points. I had some lovely unpasturised cheese for lunch from our local farmers' market.

Also, I have spent most of today reading the second book in the Huger Games trilogy (bought late last night and I'm currently 3/4 of the way through). I wouldn't be able to do that with some demanding sprog hanging off me.

I'll add another one: holidaying how you want. We just headed into the jungles of Belize. We wouldn't have been able to do that with a baby in tow!

Being able to go to bed for the sechs whenever you fancy. Actually, just going to bed when you fancy. MSB and I still revel in that.

Norfy we were similar. After we moved in together 4 years ago, we gradually became more and more casual about contraception. Hormonal contraception never agreed with me, so we were using condoms. And then only using them at what we thought were the most dodgy times, then abandoning them completely and using a rough and ready rhythm method (avoiding what I expected to be midcycle but with slightly irregular periods and now knowing that I have a shortish luteal phase and so ovulate after midcycle we must have been in the danger zone many times). It was during this time that I think we had a near win - I had a few days of pink watery blood and feeling a bit lightheaded before I started to think it might be pg-related. I bought a test the next day but by then had started bleeding and it was negative. At the time I wasn't too bothered because I had just ordered my slim fitting wedding dress and we hadn't taken the decision to start trying as we had decided to wait until after the wedding. But it was a much happier time. It would have been great to have a baybee win back then without all this stress. Apparently, it is often a miscarriage that triggers NK cell issues, so that could have actually marked the start of our woes. Meh.

That is :( euro.
We were a bit paranoid I'd fall pregnant when it wasn't convenient ha When we got married we were in a small flat, .1st floor, no lifts. We could have had a baybee there but it would have been a nightmare. We were cramped anyway. So i religiously took the POP, only missed two in two years. Had a couple of times when I thought I might be diffed, feeling queasy and light headed but obviously not. I didn't have proper droids on the POP just a touch of spotting so I tested about once a month to be sure. In retrospect, I think MSB had the ishoos from before we got married, we just didn't realise. In some ways, I think we should just have never used contraception but we had no idea we'd have ttc ishoos and we didn't want a baybee straight after we got wed, especially since we hadn't had the sechs before we got we'd. Having dnephew around gave MSB confidence that he'd be a good Dad :)

POP?

Ah, think I've got it - progesterone-only pill?

Progesterone only pill. I think.

I just wish I'd counted all the previous years of contraceptionless sex as actual trying and therefore evidence of a problem. I could have gone to the doctor years earlier and even if nothing had worked out of the same list of treatment at least I would be in the same position as now but with more youth on my side.

If that sounds incomprehensible it is because I am channelling a foreign eurovision contestant. Not because I actually am incomprehensible.

Yes progesterone only pill. Combined wasn't an option because I get migraines.
I get what you mean northey. If you'd officially been ttc, you'd have recognised and raised the problem sooner yes? Whereas while I came off the pill to try for a baybee, not all the cycles really count since some were so fraught we didn't actually dtd much at all. Lack of frequency was a cause of rows. I did when our GP asked how long we'd been actively ttc and explained people are vague. He'd had one couple who said they been ttc for 2 years but the DH had been posted abroad for 18 months of that period in total!

God morgen BESH.

My pill usage in the 12-18 months pre 'TTC' was pitiful. Take a week. Miss a few. I'd often have a pill free month rather than week. Can't imagine any effective contraception other than my shitty ovaries happening around then. But that would have me at 4 yrs TTC. And that's not something I can deal with..

Bit tired this morning after staying up to watch rocky IV. which i have on DVD

Quiet in here today!
I've had a super lazy morning. Somehow we ended up staying up quite late watching Transformers which I didn't think was good the first time! and I woke today feeling like crap with a bad head. I'm fed up of feeling ill. I'm sure you're fed up of hearing about it!
MSB has gone off on a cycle ride, despite the variable weather, which is good cos it'll blow off some steam.

Phew. Thought I'd broken fred

V quiet.