Just Shagging - the lazy way to make a baby! Part, um, 8?

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Over the last year or two we've had a thread for those who are Just Shagging. Confused by OPKs, too lazy to temp, can't read a chart to save your life? Not quite ready to forgo the Wine? Well stick with us!

Of course it's been SO successful that we're down to a tiny handful of regular posters, as everyone else has graduated and we'll ignore the fact that those of us that are left are probably way beyond Just Shagging. But it's an ethos rather than a strict rule. Come and join the fun .

No rules here, other than EWCM is hereafter known as Pant Snot. AF is known as the Evil Red Tide of Doom (ERTD). Viroids is our name of choice, the reason is long since lost in the annals of time. If you really feel the need to take a test, Gu Ramekins are what all the classy birds are using. And of course, drinking is essential. Sometimes, we even remember to have sex

So don your shag capes and throw your legs in the air caution to the wind :)

Old thread here if you want proof it works!

I don't think you should stop posting Josie! As a regular lurker of this thread, I'll admit the main reason I'd been checking back lately is to find out how you're getting on!

And welcome to all the new thread people :) Great job on the recruitment Nelly! Could only have done better if you'd done what we planned to do a while ago, sneak into other irrelevant threads and try to convince people to JS, even if they don't want any(more) kids ;)

Ooh this is thread for me! We're TTC by mumsnetting and watching tv when we should be in bed just shagging.

Just one month in so far.

Oh dear, just shagging with the in laws here?? Doesn't bode well. It's holidays for us next week, Rome in fact! What's everyone else up to?

I don't think I could do that with my in-laws in the house, not without barricading the door first - especially as I live in a poky flat. The thought of it makes me shudder.

Hello Three and welcome. Will this be DC1 for you?

I watched the US version of OBEM last night, I actually think that was the highlight of my day I was surprised at the way they pushed everyone to have epidurals and discouraged any drug-free births, it makes me think we're not so bad on this side of the pond.

Some people say they like the whole parents in the next room thing, makes them feel like naughty teens again!

I hate the idea of women being discouraged from pain relief during labour. I didn't give them chance to discourage me! After two days in labour if I wanted an epidural I was having one.

Coo-eee!! Room for a little one? I have .
This place looks more comfortable than the other ttc threads with all their plans & OPKs, whatever that is.

TTC#2; DS is 3 months old, had 2 ERTD (currently on now, go away ERTD) since birth, JS whenever we get the chance/are not too tired.

Look forward to getting to know you all!!

Loads of room horse especially as you brought wine. Hello to three as well, lovely to see so many of us still trying to fight the science!

Hello babylann very glad you are still lurking, and occasional posting. I agree, really hope josie keeps us up to date otherwise I'll have to stalk her on other threads . Are you any closer to joining us officially again? Hope things still going well, either way!

Had a nice weekend, fairly busy but productive. Just had roast chicken for tea, yum. Oh and there may have been some shagging this weekend as well .

ooh horse just noticed your little one is only 3 months -you are a brave lady .

Hello everyone

So, I have had spotting last few days. Thinking this is a sign that the ERTD is on the way (due Thursday). I don't get spotting every month but it's not unknown. There is a chance that it could be implantation, I guess but didn't have that with ds1. In fact, at that time, I regularly had spotting and the fact I didn't was what made me wonder if I was preggers.

I have decided that this month would be most inconvenient, anyway. I had an X-ray a few days post ov so that would stress me out if I got a bfp. Also, dp and ds have their birthday in December. What with xmas as well, it would be better to spread the family celebrations about a bit.

So screw you ERTD!...

that said, I can't shake the hope that there might be a little bean, just maybe!?!

Also, seconding Nelly's admiration for Horse. I took a sharp intake of breath when I read your post. Good on you, lady

Hmm. To go to sleep or to wait up for DH (he's downstairs ironing)? I think it'd be good timing for DTD going off pant snot, plus we're going for every other day, but I really don't want TTC to become a chore! What a dilemma.
Talking of doing it when in-laws are staying, I'm 99% sure we conceived DD when staying at ILs!

Nelly, thanks! Yes, I'm quite sure I'll be returning as an official member soon. And I'm quite sure it's OV week so who knows! We've been talking very seriously about it all, but there's still this weird fear there that means even though we've basically decided "yes, soon" that whenever we get to that point of whether to condom or not to condom, we freak out and, er, wrap it up. Just taking it easy - I think we'd be happy to get pregnant now, we're just a bit intimidated by the final hurdle! I have to admit I'm glad to feel "fertile" again though, which I didn't for a long time, as I had no sign of ovulating and 3 month cycles!

Welcome horse. I also agree with the above sentiments, you're a brave mama!

Way to go QT! Here's hoping ERTD doesn't come this week so you can have an excited/secret whispering/"shall we tell them?!"/BFP photo uploading week!

Vizzini, don't stress yourself too much about it. Like you said it's best not to let it become a chore. Although you don't want to be pessimistic about it, there are some who have been or were on the JSing thread previously for a long time before getting their BFPs, so it's best to try and keep it as laid back and chore-free as possible in case you aren't one of the lucky "in the first few months" women :)

Speaking of conceiving, DP and I conceived DD in a hotel we stayed in for a few nights (she wasn't planned and we were using condoms). We literally JSed 90% of the time we weren't out and about that week. Since she was born, we've booked rooms in hotels a good 5 or 6 times... Only had sex in one of them, once. We are always so shattered we fall asleep at 10pm if we get a night away... A couple of those times were when we were previously TTC too...

So there was no ttc last night as dear mil actually waited up for us to get in! We got in from a night out with friends pleasantly tipsy and considering a quickie in the bathroom to find mil still up waiting to hear about our evening at 12.45! Eek. So on with the every other day theory then instead.

Can I join? We've been waiting to TTC #1 (forever) but I am getting my coil out today! So really are JSing as have no idea what my cycle is going to do.

We've also had parents visiting so had a very quiet, final time with contraception shag yesterday (although I'm hoping it just means there are some swimmers ready and waiting - didn't tell DH that though!)

Hi everyone, can I join? I had a look through some of the other TTC threads and they made very little sense to me!

We decided to TTC DC3 a couple of weeks ago. So far we have told nobody about this decision - we were pretty sure we were stopping with 2DCs but have now changed our minds, it would seem.

Both DDs were conceived JS so hopefully we will get lucky again, although we are both perhaps nearly our best-before-dates.

Happy coil removal day Persuasion!
Hello Dysgu, if it's not too personal, can I ask how did you 'know' you were done with DD2 & how long before you changed your mind? DH wants to stop at 2 (so wants the snip after DC2 gets here), but I want more, obv. I won't 'make' him have more than he wants, but we're wondering if we should give it six months or so incase he changes his mind.

Thanks everyone! Will let you know when I'm feeling more stupid than brave .

lolly, I'm with you on trying to avoid a late Dec baby if possible..but still wanting one.

Sending lots of positive shag vibes your way QT!

Vizzini, hope you don't get too stressed about it, it took 10months to get a BFP with DS and we were JS everyday back then.....

Every day? Blimey there's no way we could do that. Every other day is pretty typical anyway, it just seems different once the condoms come off!
Anyway, I decided sleep was more important last night and had a lovely lie-in too, so I feel much refreshed! Also came down to a much diminished ironing pile so it's win-win!

Hello horse we always thought we would stop at two as everything seems to designed around families of 4! The car, holidays, tables in restaurants etc! Also, it always seemed to make sense that with 2 DCs there is a parent each!

Anyway, DD2 is now 3.3yo and we have decided that we will try fro another! We are both on of three children and my mum, in particular, always says that 3 is an awkward number - but, as one of three, I like having two siblings!

Also, we often eat in restaurants and know they have larger tables! We will probably end up changing the car and getting a -people carrier- and we have never taken a package holiday as we tend to either book a caravan, a cottage or house swap; so all arguments seemed irrelevant for us.

Still, it may not happen as we both getting on a bit now!

I think 3 is a good number :) Apparently 4 is when it starts getting awkward according to DP's dad who, between him and DP's step mum, had 4 children, so he speaks from experience. Not sure it matters though, I think when you know you want another baby you can't really fight it, and those awkward things can be solved with a bit of forward planning etc.

Right now it's a bit awkward for us because we've recently moved into a house we love but there's only 2 bedrooms. If we have another baby, we have to think we'd probably need to find something a little bigger. If future DC2 is anything like DD, it would be unfair on her to put the new baby in her bedroom at nights (after the 6 months in our room ofc). She still occasionally wakes up in the night now but it was quite hellish for the first 18 months (2-3 times per night), and she's almost 2 (and a light sleeper). But we'll make it work somehow as we don't feel like our family is finished yet.

can i join please? have no idea of cycle as only had on ERTD since the birth of DS. working on a "normal" 28 day cycle im around 4 DPO.

however i have a feeling i ovulated earlier as had some brownish pant snot around CD15. could be ovulation spotting though :/

however the last two nights at exactly the same time i was feeling very sicky and even threw up this morning. probably just a bug or all in my head

Sounds quite positive! I think some people are gonna be on this thread for all of a week before they're off to the JSing graduates thread! And we'll all be hear calling out, "Nooooo but I barely knew ye!"

Can you believe I posted this in the wrong thread...mental.

Can I join? I've already been posting 'bout my lack of pant snot so I think I should qualify on that alone. I admit to temping once in a while...this is my defense:

• no god damn pant snot
• I'm nearing my sell-by-date and what with the (associated?) lack of pant snot I figure I need to shag as near to ov as possible.
• there is no way on this earth I'm going around shagging on any old day just in case. Madness.

I'm CD 9 now, a women of short cycles, so due 17th- ish.

Super. So now I've written this problem solved right, I mean like I'm going to have a baby? Yes, thought so.

Vizzini, hurrah for sleep & a smaller ironing pile!

Thanks for answering Dysgu & babylann, sorry you had such a rough 18 months of sleep baby!
I'm one of 4 and it was madness growing up, always a baby to trip over somewhere We live in a large 2 bed flat, so 2 is our limit until we move (not on the cards for 5 or so years), we had to upgrade to a bigger car when DS came along...I see a people carrier in our future!

Hellooo somethingwitty, all sounding good! I had horrible ERTD symptoms the first 4 wks of pg!
Hey Purple! I trust you originally posted in a highly inappropriate place?

am hoping its positive but scared to get my hopes up! xx