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festiemum · 19/03/2012 10:59

Right, I bit the bullet and started the new thread. Hope it's OK. Here's to mucho more laughter, tears, support, tea and biscuits! xxx

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Purpledragon · 16/04/2012 19:31

Lilliana on the wobbles, indeed normal. I'm always fussing over my son being an only child and how he needs a partner in crime, particularly because he will grow up moving around different countries. A couple of months ago I was with him in a playground and was convinced I was pg. I was super happy but at the same time going 'oh no, but its so cool that he is just one and I can give him my attention, look at all my friends with newborns they can't hang with their toddlers,..blah blah....' Just to say, I hear you, very normal.

Rusulka · 16/04/2012 20:59

20 week scan tomorrow.

Shitting some serious bricks. Think they might be breeze blocks...

Will let you know how it goes, and hopefully what we're expecting!

chipsandmushypeas · 16/04/2012 21:08

Hope it goes well, Rus! How exciting! X

Lilliana · 17/04/2012 07:13

Hope all goes well today Rusulka, will be thinking of you. I'm sure all will be fine but pop back soon and let us know if it is a she-bean or he-bean. Leave some stumps behind, you might need them for more diy-ing!

Thanks for the reassurance Purple I'm sure it's normal but after soo much 'work' I feel I should be over the moon (and I am) not worrying if I have done the right thing.

Chips how are you feeling? When is af due?

Any news this morning moo? When are you off (or have you already gone?)

Yesteday wasn't as bad as anticipated although got into class and had to find the sick bucket! Luckily didn't need it. Still no children today so that is helping and then off to see mw tomorrow morning :)

chipsandmushypeas · 17/04/2012 08:36

Hi Lilliana AF was due yesterday! No sign, just strong cramps since sunday. Temps still up this morning and frer test line is as dark as control line! Definitely feeling more positive now, seeing dr on Monday at 5 weeks.

Glad you weren't sick! Hooey it passes soon x

MooleyWooleyShamaLamaDingDong · 17/04/2012 08:58

Hi ladies, just a really quick one. In Bruges and having a great time but we forgot to bring any plug converters so all electronic equipment is starting to fail.

Rusulka good luck with the scan today. I'm sure everything will be fine. It's very exciting. Can't wait to hear the news!

Chips yey for absent AF!!! And for stronger lines on pee sticks.

AF due due here today and not even a hint. Boobs are extremely sore and temps still way above coverline. Not sure what to think can't test now until Thursday when I'm back!

Hope everyone has a good day!!

festiemum · 17/04/2012 09:01

Good luck today rusulka - it's so nerve wracking, but the 20 week scan is lovely and detailed. I can't remember whether you're finding out the flavour, have a feeling you are! Hope it's lovely! xx

lil - I suppose it's something anyone could do. The man who drained the tank was very nice, and told me that Devon and Cornwall Police are their best customers, which made me feel a bit better. Still had to stand on the forecourt for the best part of an hour all coned off, while a van marked Dr Fuel sucked all the wrong fuel out. Might as well have had an "I'm a twat" beacon on my head!! Glad the sickness is manageable at the moment. How many weeks are you now?! I'm eternally grateful that my sickness wasn't too bad with dd1 when I was still teaching - hats off to you!

Glad af has stayed away chips - hopefully makes it seem more real!

purple - you're definitely right on the wobbles. Doesn't matter what decision we make, we'll always wonder if it was the right one!

Right, need to get my arse into gear. Dentist this morning !

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chipsandmushypeas · 17/04/2012 09:02

Eek moo!! Sounds very good! Glad you're having a good time.

When you get back, get a frer or digi - no ics! My ics are still sooo faint! Good luck darling xx

festiemum · 17/04/2012 09:02

X-posted with you moo. Glad you're having a good time. All still sounds pretty positive for you, doesn't it?!

Keeping everything crossed! xxx

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Countmyblessings · 17/04/2012 12:42

Hi all and thanks so much to u all!
Moo- I'm sending totally positive thoughts to you as you have been such a mountain of support to many of us here and on the previous threads we have been on together!
Enjoy your time away and AF stay away!!!
Rusulka- hope u get loads of lovely clear pictures!
Blue- huge Congrats to you that's fab news!
Hi to everyone else! Fingers and everything else for more BFP!
I'm beginning to think I'm only fertile in March!
It's taken me nearly a full year to get my BFP and I had given up TTC as it was making me so stressed!
Not sure when due could be anything from 9th -19th dec as I deleted all apps keeping tracks of my AFS!
Still don't feel real apart from sore nipples and tired!
Will hang around here as I'm fearful of joining any threads right now!
Will lurk and post to update! If u guys don't mind!

chipsandmushypeas · 17/04/2012 15:08

Yy agree with count, moo deserve the biggest fattest positive ever! :)

chipsandmushypeas · 17/04/2012 15:13

Seems the hormones are already flying, had a big argument with DP last night.

I went to sleep early with really bad cramps, woke up a couple of hours later to the smell of cigarette smoke Angry which made me feel more ill and also made my craving reawaken as I've quit Angry

I'm really upset at his selfish attitude, doesn't think about second hand smoke. I told him I've done so much for this pregnancy already and in preparation i.e quit smoking, eat healthier etc and he bloody well goes and smokes around me!

He's so stubborn he's now giving me the silent treatment Hmm

coveredinflour · 17/04/2012 16:53

Hello Ladies!

Quick one from me as am on hold in Portugal this week.

Thank you all so much for the congratulations! It's all very surreal and feels very fragile. Still not much in the way of symptoms but am shattered and feeling a bit woozy most of the time. Did a digi test last night and it said "pregnant 1-2". Honestly cannot believe it! Trying (unsuccessfully) not to get too excited though in case of miscarriage etc. (my mum had 3 miscarriages and has always warned me not to get too excited early on). Last night we went out for dinner to celebrate and my chicken was bloody! Was petrified. Thought, I've only known for 12 hours and am already endangering the pregnancy. I sent it back and seems to be ok but was worried last night. Feel like its been days already but I only got the BFP yesterday!

Moo - that sounds very positive! Fingers crossed you'll have wonderful news on Thursday when you test and AF doesn't get in the way!!!

Chips - that must be really hard. Perhaps wait until you're both in a relatively good mood and then talk to your DP about smoking outside etc. come to an arrangement. After all, you won't want him lighting up around your tiny baby when he / she arrives so best to get the talking done now. I think it is harder for them (men) to understand. It doesn't feel real to them at all. Perhaps look up what's happening to ur baby now and tell him ie even at 4 weeks the neural tube for brain and spine is being formed. Might help give him some perspective.

Lil, I agree with Festie and Purple. It's natural to have a wobble, but I'm sure ou won't regret this. It's such a huge, life changing Thing, it would be weirder to just take it all in your stride. Personally, I feel slightly freaked out as reality hits home, even though this is all I've wanted for the last 7 years (and always in fact).

Rusulka - hope all is going well with the scan! It must be very nerve wracking. Let us know when you're back!

Hello to everyone else!!
X

Lilliana · 17/04/2012 16:57

Count we are all sticking around whatever state we're in. The november thread had hundreds of people on and I can't keep up with it let alone get to 'know' people on it :(So glad to have you guys to talk to Grin

Chips my dh is still smoking but promises to give up completely when he gets back from the TT - I hated it and nagged but he is stubbon and decided to give up himself when I stopped nagging! Hope things calm down for you soon, maybe once it has sunk in your DP will want to change things xx

Moo sounds good, just have fun and if no af when you return it is def time for the big guns (aka CBdigi). FX for you x

festie I'm 9 weeks today and off to see mw for the first time tomorrow. How far along are you now? We Devonians are a dippy bunch I'm not surprised!!

Rusulka how did it go? Hope all is ok.

festiemum · 17/04/2012 18:48

Ha ha lil - I'm a Devonian too! Crossed the tamar 2 years ago when I met dh, so a traitor to boot! :o

I am 16 weeks now. Off to the midwife myself tomorrow and waiting for my 20 week scan to come through...

chips I feel your pain. My dh is smoking at the moment despite having a heart attack and major heart surgery last year and youngest dd having asthma.... Grr.... He goes off outside to do it, but I can smell it on him dammit!

flour - it's so easy to panic about all these guidelines about food. I am absolutely gagging for pâté at the moment! I think they're hardy little critters on the whole though, you know!

Hey rusulka - hope you had a good scan today! :)

Glad you're hanging around count!

Hi everyone else!

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Purpledragon · 17/04/2012 18:56

Hi all,

Moo sounds like good news, and kind of great that you are away without the tests (as hard as that might be).

Rusulka waiting to hear, hope you are ok.

flour must be crazy. I mostly feel like it will never happen, and I'm sure there is fear there. I think it's unlikely that pink chicken will get in the way, but I can understand there are are a whole world of concerns.

chips hang in there. Smoke-free households are rare in my world. Tough I know.

wine great news.

I'm missing people but have to run. Nothing to report here, CD 3 with wine. I try and get in a no wine place in general with my 'new' TTC plan but it's a weak point. I feel a bit less guilty during AF even though booze free perhaps is best. I'm rubbish but trying to make this work. Making some failed lifestyle changes but basically working on the idea that, hopefully, my issue is not enough sex at the right time (?) this has to be the most important element...right? We are basically good friends that shag occassionally (married a long time) so hopefully making those times count (?)

Purpledragon · 17/04/2012 19:06

wine different place. Must be the wine. But then again, wine free I'm the one that posted on here about pant snot on the wrong thread. Still Swiss though!

chipsandmushypeas · 17/04/2012 19:10

Hehe I was wondering who wine was!

Purpledragon · 17/04/2012 19:19

Hey I'm the thread fool, but still Swiss!

Rusulka · 18/04/2012 09:33

Hey ladies, scan went ok, apart from the sonographer being a total fucking arse of a woman.

Peanut spent the entire scan with their arms crossed over their face, kind of like they were praying for the sonographer to go away, can't say I blame them. The fucking idiot decided at one point that the easiest way to get Peanut to move would be to start thumping the shit out of me with the ultrasound thingy, no warning or anything, scared the life out of me! Didn't work, and I told her this, but she wouldn't listen and did it another 5 or so times. It hurt, I was worried about poor Peanut, and I'm angry. It was like being scanned by Data from Star Trek. No emotion, no compassion- so different from last scan. Also she only printed off one picture and didn't let us choose any others. Bitch.
I wanted the pic of Peanut facing us with their arms over their face, fending off the sonographer- really summed up the whole session for me.

Drumroll...

Peanut is......... a.......

She-nut!

We are having a little girl. Grin

So pleased, as it was what I've thought all along, nice to have your suspicions confirmed. I would have been equally happy with a boy. I kind of feel like boys are harder to get, since my parents had two girls, and I'd really like one of each, but it does mean that we have the names all picked out already, and we know exactly what she'll be called (whereas there's still some dissent over the boy names we've got- not quite got the first and middle names mix right).
We're superstitious though (well, I am) and I'm sure there's a lady on the September thread who had a baby that died an hour after it was born, so I'm not taking any chances. We both bloody love this combination of names, and to lose it would be gutting. So. Once Peanut is born, had a feed, been apgar scored, and been around a little while, THEN we'll say it out loud. Some people don't make a decision and have a name straight away anyway, so that will just have to do.

SiL didn't come in for the scan in the end, so we decided not to tell anyone yet- she's so pissed off! So are my family, and my dad has now decided that he doesn't care anyway, since it's boring (liar!).
DH actually wanted to tell her, but I thought if we told everyone while MiL's away... well, doesn't bear thinking about.
We're going to wait til MiL has come back, then gone to Brazil, and then we'll tell everyone face to face (2 and a half weeks)- well, close family anyway. Don't want any barbie sleepsuits, and that will totally happen if the news spreads! That way we can tell MiL once she's back from Brazil as lets face it, she'll be the prime culprit and needs careful observation (along with vague relations and friends of family on DH's side). She'll be back with us for 2 weeks after, so we can go shopping together then.

Going to lay the clothes out that I've got so I can see if it's honestly unisex- have a feeling I might have overcompensated and gone a little too far the other way, lots of dark colours and stripes- but at least now we know for sure I can even it out with some dark pinks.
Also haven't bought any proper 'clothes' apart from 2 red fleeces with hoods and a white and red hippo t-shirt from Next, as I was waiting to see what we got, so will task MiL with buying whatever I pick out, lol!

Looking forward to a long fortnight of conversations on the phone with people all trying to wriggle it out of me- my dad asked on the phone whether he had a big wang on the scan (tut).

Lil haven't forgotten you, will try and figure out how to send you the document I've got, and then you can have a good laugh at how over the top I've gone.

Chips I would have been super pissed off too. You need to get him in good habits now, and while nagging him to stop won't work (boys are stubborn!), he could at least get used to doing it outside.
I can recommend the babycentre website, they have a slideshow of baby development from conception through to birth, so you can look together every week and see how the baby is developing, which should make it more real for him. The scans will help too.
DH is desperate to feel Peanut moving, but so far I've only had vague movements, the odd somersaulty movement and last night (after THAT scan session) 2 well aimed kicks to my poor vagina, lol! I'm sure that's what she was aiming at. Expressing displeasure by hitting me where it hurts the most- in the slats!

Cor, I've written an essay again. Thinking of you in Bruges Moo, hope to hear good news when you get back.

chipsandmushypeas · 18/04/2012 09:45

Hey Rus congratulations on a little girl!! How wonderful :) I would love a daughter but even now I have a feeling this is a boy -weird!

I've heard most sonographers are rude, what's the deals with that? Worse jobs out there! She hit you?! To be honest I would complain about that.

Well DP and i had a chat and i said i would like him to quit before baby comes and told him how dangerous it is, what has already started forming etc etc. He then out for a ciggie last night and when he came back in he said he's only going to smoke one roll up after work and will eventually quit :)

How's everyone else?

Purpledragon · 18/04/2012 09:54

Rus congrats, little girl, lovely. Sorry bout the experience though that's a shame. My family is full of girls, mother only has sisters, I only have a sister and my sister has a daughter. My mother told me she didnt even pick out boys names, she was so sure. When our boy come alone it was freaky, a whole different kind of animal. Of course now any weirdness or crazy -making behaviour always draws the same conclusion "well...he is a boy".

festiemum · 18/04/2012 11:32

Yay! Congrats rusulka, a little girl, how lovely! Our 12 week sonographer was like that. Kept shoving Cleetus about and no joy in the proceedings at all : weird!

Glad you've chatted to dp chips. I too have told dh in no uncertain terms that he has to give up before Cleetus arrives, otherwise he'll have to sleep in another bed and won't be allowed to hold him!

Hope everyone else is ok today! :)

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Lilliana · 19/04/2012 07:22

So glad all is ok Rusulka and congratulations on your she-bean. I'd be rubbish at keeping it quiet, would always be refering to her as she. WRT sending me your doc, if it's easier I can pm you an email address to send it to.

Not sure what qualifications sonographers need but clearly it didn't involve charm school - I have heard of lots of people who had issues. My friends midwife couldn't find a heartbeat at around 25 weeks and had her rushed to hospital for a scan. Panic obviously set in and when she was finally in there he spent ages looking around and not saying anything. She eventually asked if he had found the heartbeat 'oh ages ago, I'm just checking everything else' he couldn't understand why she was upset!

festie how did the mw go? Mine was really nice, despite sticking me with a needle! Now waiting for my 12 week scan and hoping it comes before bank holiday so I can show my sister when she is home. Dad is cornish so I guess I'm half traitor Grin

Purple was wondering who wine was, actually went back through the thread feeling awful that I had been ignoring someone for ages!!

Flour hope you are managing to relax and have fun. Don't panic, think of the number of people who don't know they are pg for weeks and weeks and carry on as normal and have perfect babies. Enjoy your holiday x

Chips glad you had a chat with Dh and he has started by taking it outside. I bet when he sees the scan it will give him a further boot up the ass!

Moo hoping you are enjoying the break and that AF has stayed away.

I always wanted a girl, but as soon as I found out I was pg I thought it was a boy and realised I actually would quite like boy. No idea why. Trying to decide if I want to find out, part of me wants to keep it a surprise but I also want to get organised and it would be much easier to know ... hmm

Have a good day all

iloveberries · 19/04/2012 09:18

hi everyone, i am the only person on this thread ever, to be happy that AF arrived which means in theory i WORK again :) Phew.

So after next Af we are going to start the rollercoaster of TTC again! (medical advice says wait 2 periods to lower risk of subsequent ectopic which is already increased as i've had one. oh ffs)

So pleased that all the early pregnancies are going well. It is a worrying time.

Well done on the 20 week scan being all ok Rusulka. It's another milestone to know that baby is developing well.

I understand the desire for a certain sex (I wanted one of each originally but now would gladly take a harem of little men!!) but just focus on the important bit, it's YOUR baby, and who gives a monkeys what sex it is. It will be this amazing little person who will change your life forever in amazing (and knackering) ways!

Good luck to all those TTC, I will be joining you soon :)

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