We're all in this together - Mool and the Gang's magic flying mattress ride to Switzerland!

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Right, I bit the bullet and started the new thread. Hope it's OK. Here's to mucho more laughter, tears, support, tea and biscuits! xxx

been away from MN and trying to move on after the Ectopic but thought i'd pop in and say hi.

Moo - what a shit thing to happen to you. I am so so gutted for you and I can certainly empathise with having your hopes raised and dashed. it totally sucks and there is no other way to describe it. The only positive thing if you can see it is that you know you can fall. Take heart in that honey. And your body seems to be 'working' now so there will come a pregnancy to hold onto. There will. You have to believe it.

count - HELLO! Congrats to you

blue congrats to you too - i remember your story, delighted for you. well done.

chips - congrats as well. very pleased for you all.

I'm feeling shit today. 5 weeks since surgery. No AF to report of and just feeling very down about it. The 5 ladies i am close to from having our DC1s together have all now had DC2 / due in the next month or so and i am so happy for them all but it's a constant reminder for me that their body's work and mine didn't. Should have had scan this week but instead am googling madly to find out where the fuck my period is - who knew i'd be desperate for it to arrive. I am so worried about the future. Anyway - i really feel I am bringing this thread down but i wanted to pop in and pass on congrats to count,blue&chips and give moo a big virtual hug. HANG IN THERE MOO. It will happen for you xxxxx

So sorry, hang in there Moo.

Moo - sending you lots of love and virtual hugs!! Hang in there! As Berries said, at the very least you know that you can fall pg. It will definitely happen for you!! xx

Berries - Hope AF comes soon....I know the irony of actually wanting it to turn up, so at the very least everything can return to "normal" and at least you then have a fighting chance of starting a fresh new cycle. Sending love and virtual hugs to you too!! xx

Oh moo, I'm so sorry love. chips said it best I think - lots of positives this month for you, and lots and lots of women have a chemical the first time they fall as the womb hasn't done it before, and then go on to have healthy pregnancies very soon after.

I know it doesn't feel like that now, I really do.

berries - good to see you too, and hope your body gets back to normal really soon.

Lots of love to everyone today.

Festie x

Sorry things have been tough berries :( hope AF comes soon and you can get back on the saddle xx

So sorry moo it will happen and lots of positives have happened this month. Hang on to them and don't give up. Sending lots of love and hugs xx

Berries sorry you are having such a rough time. I hope that all returns to normal soon. Your body does work, it just wasn't right and although it's tough to see it now, it will all work out. Take lots of time and look after yourself, we're always here and don't think you are bringing down the thead, we've all had support from each other and used this as a safe place to vent xx

moo big hugs xxx

chips your 13dpo looks like my 12dpo test!

berries hugs for you too!x

Oh no!!! Moo. Words fail me. I can't imagine how you feel. As the others have said, remember it means it is possible!

Berries, you too! Sorry you're feeling so low, but don't be too hard on yourself. 5 weeks is not very long, either emotionally or physically (my normal cycles are only about that). I can understand how frustrating it must be for no AF but try to be kind to yourself. Perhaps allocate time to worry so you can do it but it means you don't end up thinking about it all the time. I really feel for you. And don't worry about bringing the thread down. We're all here for support. To talk to one another through the highs and lows - goes with the territory.

Hope everyone's OK!

And congrats blue and count! Good things do happen!

I agree with lilliana, your body does indeed work berries it must be so hard to see your other friends but you will have your rainbow baby soon xx

you guys are so kind. thank you :)

sitting in the kitchen having put DS to bed 20mins ago and listening to him sing himself to sleep :) So grateful to have him and my DH.

Thanks xxxx

Morning everyone, how's things this morning?

I'm back to school today, really don't want to go :( Luckily no kids till Wednesday (and I have my booking in appointment wed am so not seeing them till wed pm ) Just can't face my 'sparky' class with sickness and a new TA all at once. Must stop wallowing as I'm sure it won't be that bad when I get on with it.

Moo and Berries how are you today?

Waves at everyone else and hopes everyone has a good day x

Morning! Was in two minds whether to post this as I know its been a tough weekend.

However, really wanted to share. Poas this morning and got my first EVER BFP! DH is underwhelmed and am trying not to get too excited in case its chemical but it was a distinct line, bit fainter than control but not massively. Off on hols tomorrow but will do digital before we go. Fingers crossed it sticks. But at least it means its possible!

Think I can feel cramps as I type. Could be my imagination. Or could be womb expanding. Or could be af.

Anyway, hope everyone's ok and has a good day.! Lil, good luck with the first day back!

And moo, hope you can relax and enjoy your hols. How are you today?

Berries, you too?

Been thinking of you both a lot.

CONGRATS COVERED!! Amazing news!! Well done

Very surreal isn't it, your first? I was dazed as was dp. I'm sure your dh will come to terms with it xxx

Hi all, congrats flour woo this thread has been crazy. Moo and berries thinking of you. Moo I hope you are getting a much needed change of scene on holiday.

Well now flour your symptom free 2ww worked, amazing. Of course my body did not comply. I'm CD2 now. Its a bummer of course but a large part of me is unsurprised. I'm a lot older than most (all?) of us here and I've never been pg in years off the pill. Most of me thinks- if it didn't happen before why would it happen now? But on the other hand I'm trying to pay cycles and timing and all that some attention, just in case I can tip the balance. I feel that way even if it doesn't work I can look back without regret. flour super happy for you.

Flour huge congrats. It will be a hat trick of BFPs after all

Thanks for all your kind words and support. I'm more confused today though. PO 2 remaining sticks, both faint positives. Not sure what to think and off to Bruge now. Plus boobs are still sore, temp shot up, am feeling constipated and a little nauseous. AF due tomorrow or Wednesday!

Mmm Moo, looks like you are not out yet then, try to relax in Bruges (I know easier said than done), you can't influence the outcome but we are all rooting for you. Hugs.

Sorry af got you purple onto a shiny new cycle x

moo hopefully the hag won't get you, enjoy hols x

Massive congrats to Blue, Flour and Count, it really is turning out to be a lucky thread.

Moo hang in there. FX that it turns out everything is ok, but do remember that if it isn't, at least your body tried- that's what I kept telling myself after July. I try to look back at all the times I've attempted something for the first time and fucked it up- cooking, driving, DIY (lol)- but with practice it gets better. You all think I'm a DIY superstar somehow, and my in laws all think I'm some sort of bloody Nigella, when my family knows me as the one who couldn't make toast without setting a teatowel on fire.
We didn't quite manage to make a baby in July, but after that my body sat down, did some thinking and practising, figured it out, and here I am, nearly 5 months gone. IT WILL HAPPEN. If not now, then sooner rather than later. But FX anyway!

Berries glad to see you back. Have you tried doing a period dance? I assume it would be a bit like a rain dance. Invocation of spirits, only with miming the crampings, maybe wave around some AF paraphernalia, you know, swing some tampons round your head, that sort of thing. Can't hurt?!

Purple don't give up hope. The monitoring really helped me, so keep at it!

Just wanted to say thanks Rusulka, sweet of you to comment. My situation is ridiculously dull, chart looks good, very pridictable month to month so I can anticipate ov day before temp rise...but without one very important factor so far! Not much to comment on really, so thanks. Onwards.....

Moo - I was thinking about you all day yesterday and part of me was hoping (and praying!) that you might test again this morning and see a positive.
Fx it stays positive and that we have 4 BFP's this month. I like Rusulka's advice though..... it will happen for you!! Hope you enjoy your break in Bruges xx

Purple - I think I might be the second eldest behind you. So I think we'll keep each other company there. I believe I'm a walking cliche..... never interested in babies/kids when i was younger, and now it's all I can think (and obssess about). I'm generally very positive and upbeat, but sometimes it does get me down and I'm forever kicking myself, but I remain very hopeful, and for all of us!

Rusulka - loved your your suggestion about the AF dance - now why didn't I think of that in February when I needed it?

Hope everyone has a good day, and this lucky thread rubs off on us all!! x

Hey alex, walking cliche hey? Well what is done is done and just to reassure you my interest in having kids is long standing, but doesn't mean things work out the way they should, nothing is sure no matter what. We managed the crazy adoption journey (completely different of course but very demanding), surely TTC is doable without going completely mental?

Flour - I've just realised, I completely forgot to say congratulations!!! What wonderful news. I guess it's what I get for trying to type on half a screen (I minimise the screen to try and reduce the ability of people walking by me at work seeing the website I'm looking at ).

Purple - I'm really hoping that ttc is doable without going completely mental, however much I'm given to obsess!! I think I'm my own worst enemy though and potentially creating my own stress.......age firstly to consider, then I'm fretting about my work situation (we are in a company that will be wound down over the next 18 months which would have been perfect for maternity leave on the basis that I got pg around now(!!) and then I'm fretting over DH who is on medication which might reduce sperm count, etc etc. Still, as they say, what will be, will be I guess.

Hey purple, I think I'm nearly as old as you!

Woo hoo flour, congratulations!

moo - you know as well as we do that all you can do is wait and see, which sucks big time. I really hope you have a lovely holiday anyway, and it helps take your mind off things.

I officially made a big fat cock up today, and I am blaming pregnancy brain, even though I think it's tenuous at best. Basically, I managed to fill our diesel van with petrol. Virtually filled it up - over 80 quid's worth. Then had to wait an hour for a bloke to come and charge me a small fortune to drain the fuel tank so I could refill it with diesel! D'OH doesn't really cover it - what a plum!

Xxx

Wow congratulations Flour so pleased for you and of course you should have told us, we share lows and highs here Has it sunk in yet?!

Moo try to relax during your holiday and see what happens, sadly we can't rush any answers. Have everything crossed for you, you so deserve your BFP.

purple sorry AF got you, hope she's not being too nasty to you.

Alex I was never interested in having kids either (and worringly now I'm pg am wondering what I'm letting myself in for and whether we have done the right thing. Hope it's only normal wobbles.) I did better at ttc when I stopped going mental about it - easier said than done though :)

Whoops Festie that sounds like something I would do - bit of an expensive moment though, sorry for you x