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Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

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MarthasHarbour · 19/03/2012 10:50

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie! Wink

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

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MarthasHarbour · 26/03/2012 13:42

tiago yayyyy for 163bpm!!!!! xx

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NoMoreMarbles · 26/03/2012 14:23

hi everyone!Smile

tiagoGrin congrats on the munchkin!!Smile brilliant newsSmile

pebs wow that was fast for the clinic! i waited 3 months for our NHS referral and we just couldnt afford to go private and by all accounts the wait times not much less...i would go for it! get the ball rolling and get the tests goingSmile

nothing new here to report...we went away for the night and took DD to the south lakes zoo at the weekendSmile 'twas a nice time had by allSmile

hope everyone else is okSmile

i do tech support as a job BTW but i finish friday...i want something different like a nice easy admin job or summat...got an interview on wednesday for an executive customer services job (sounds fancy but most likely its not)...

mrsnesbit · 26/03/2012 15:04

Yeah, as i say we have had every test known to man and all came back perfectly normal.

Because nothing shows up in a blighted ovum mc, they always send us away for 10-14 days before they will scan again.

What confuses me is that it is 6 weeks since my last period BUT we didnt concieve then did we?
It was 2 weeks after (I know when i ovulate because i get pain)
So for absolute accuracy, i am actually 4 weeks pregnant surely?
Can any one clarify this confusion for me?

Tiago · 26/03/2012 15:11

They count from the first day of your period (so by the time you ovulate, you are 'already' 2 weeks). V odd I know.

WhyAlwaysBoris · 26/03/2012 15:26

Hello everyone, lovely day here,

Chuckle welcome, sorry you find yourself here.

Manda A model in our midst and here's me too fat for all my summer clothes how very exciting. I hope you have a lovely day and they make a real fuss of you. I've been on a photoshoot before (not in it, i hasten to add)and there was a lot of sitting around with cups of tea involved, from what i remember, so hopefully won't be too bad on your painful bits

Pebs wow r r will see you the same week- i guess this means you can go full steam ahead or allow yourself some time off and still know you can get in to see him immediately when you are ready- but apprecaite the choice means more metalling possibilities. Offers of a stay on sofa bed in pokey flat in the depths of london always available.

tiago :) 163!

leedy · 26/03/2012 15:27

Yes, I think it's because in general people are more likely to know when their last period was than when they ovulated, but it still strikes me as a bit silly. And, of course, it's frequently inaccurate because it's based on a 28 day cycle. I had pretty short cycles after my m/c, so I was 2 weeks post-ovulation before I was "4 weeks pregnant".

TitsalinaBumSquash · 26/03/2012 15:46

Afternoon ladies.

The sun is shining and every bastard is merrily posting about quaffing wine in hot tubs in the chuffing sun, as a result of this I am feeling crap, really, really crap.
I am indoors, feeling frumpy, nauseas and jealous of the bloody lot of them, knowing it will be like this for (hopefully) 8 months more. Yes I know, the world can't win with me!
I'm sure it will go and I'll be fine but atm I am all tears and bitter words.

I did however find out one of my very good friends is pregnant today which is lovely, she too is feeling crappy so we have been bleating on together.

I am wondering what I can do to make me feel like I can still have fun this summer like all the normal people, and what I can wear that will make me look like a blooming, attractive pregnant lady and not a beached whale? Any ideas?

wrigle · 26/03/2012 16:53

Just marking my place here if I may, MC started on the 16th. I've just returned from comfort shopping and am planning the fake tan/massage/nail varnish session Friday so I don't return to work Monday looking like death. This seems to be my response to getting to grips with the idea that I have to wait an unknown amount of time before we can try again. I may go into some serious debt financially as I shop my way to that date!

JaffaSnaffle · 26/03/2012 17:21

Hello wrigle and chuckle,welcome to the thread.

tits, I think this is the wretched first trimester talking. Feeling very weary myself. I keep telling myself I will be back to my lively self when it is really summer time, (not this sneak preview). Yep we will be sober all year, but we won't reach whale proportions until autumn. Maybe plan a little holiday? And definitely find a lovely maternity dress that you can swish about in through the summer! Ask Model Manda if she comes across anything pretty this week!

Manda that is fab news. What a fun thing to do! Hope you have a lovely day!

leedy · 26/03/2012 17:23

Tits, I loved stuff from Boob Design (yes, comedy name) last time round, particularly their jeans, which were the only mat jeans I found that didn't constantly fall down. Not cheap but the quality is fantastic and they look great. They also do great breastfeeding clothes if you need 'em (and a lot of their maternity tops/dresses work for that too). No, I am not on commission!

shop.boobdesign.com/

Topshop and Gap usually have some non-frump-o-matic maternity stuff as well.

NoMoreMarbles · 26/03/2012 19:58

tits try LaRedoute for their mat clothesSmile i am coveting some in my add to basket list for if i ever get a chance to stock up on mat clothesSmile they are lov-er-leeeee!!Wink

bonzo77 · 26/03/2012 20:14

tits sorry you are feeling grim, I agree that this is probably first trimester woes, coupled with background worry. I find maternity clothes really depressing, I hate baggy stuff anyway, and some of the stuff around made me look like a marquee, which was not fair because I was / am fairly small. So I stuck to my normal clothes as much as possible, and where not opted for black lycra with accessories if I could be bothered. Though it was winter, I think that would work for summer too. I'm thinking stretchy clingy vest tops, possibly layered with other colours, and skirts made of stretchy stuff. I had these in my normal size. They are super stretchy and soft and fairly high waisted, so you can pull them up, or as I did, fold them down under the bump. They are a bit warm, so I would probably get a jersey skirt for warmer days.

mrsnesbit I was also confused by the dating. It's all just a tool to mark the progress of the pregnancy. Full term is anything from 37 to 42 weeks from first day of last period, but actually they will date you more accurately from the 12 week scan, because at this point bean is big enough to measure accurately, and after this point there is quite a lot of variation in size. moomin's baby was 11lb2 and mine was 5lb11, both at opposite ends of the range, once virtually half the weight of the other.

tiago, I bet bean's HB made yours flutter too. lovely.

manda sorry about the SPD. Is physio / chiropracter / acupucnture feasible?

Minor dramas here. Had a terrible cold and woke up after an nap yesterday with the most horrendous pain in my ear. Ended up at a&e at 2.30 am this morning (I know, not really appropriate). Turns out to just be an ear infection, but I was ready to slit my wrists the pain was so bad. As not taking ibuprofen for it as in 2ww. Better today though with antibiotics. I was in such a state though that I didn't put my hand brake on properly. I parked on the wrong side of the road on the steep steep hill outside a&e at the Whittington. Security came to as if anyone had a silver golf as it had been seen rolling down the hill! Blush. Anyway, luckily there were not other cars involved, and it was wedged between a wall and a lamp post, with a dent in the wing and a slightly dislodged bumper. Won't be fixing that in a hurry: too much expense!

As for pg related stuff, god knows here...9 DPO. FF puts AF as due tomorrow, test day wednesday. Seem to have had a 2nd thermal shift with sustained increased temp but that could well be due to my ear infection, though it did start before the ear ache. I did POAS today at lunch time and BFN, but I actually think its too early and I was silly to test. LP all over the place since mc, and I think B6 might be lengthening it.

chelliebellie · 26/03/2012 20:50

Hi all. It's lovely to come on and read all the positives going on!

Bonzo77 thank you for making me really smile - that's just the sort of thing that I would do! Glad no other cars involved, at least you can repair when you want.

Manda how far along are you? I had a friend who swore by reflexology for her spd, but you can't do that till the 2nd trimester and make sure you use a recommended therapist.

tits depending on money either funmum (sorry can't remember website) or isabella Oliver. I did also buy a couple of lovely summer dresses from eBay (but nderstand that not everyone is happy to have second hand).

Well I've had a pretty rubbish day at work and I seem to be comfort eating for England, started spotting today, AF (I have no idea what this actually stands for!) due Wednesday so another month bits the dust I guess.

Anyone know anything about taking agnus castus? I was thinking of taking it because I think I must have some kind of hormone drop 2 wks into my cycle as I always spot then, but I've read conflicting information about it.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 26/03/2012 21:00

hi all, hi to wrigle and chuckle and chellibellie, sorry you're with us.

To those with SPD, my sympathies, acupuncuture helped a lot for me. And doing the ladylike keeping your legs together.

manda get you! New Look Model!!!

bonzo sorry to hear you've been poorly, but I did laugh thinking of your car rolling down the hill by the Whittington, had a vision of your car ending up in Archway!!!

tiago brilliant news! Smile

I have a question for those who have had a child, but have gone for tests. Can you have 'something wrong' even if you've had a successful pregnancy? I'm assuming I can't have natural killer cells or APS as I've got a 3 yr old DD.

NoMoreMarbles · 26/03/2012 21:19

tas i have APS and have DD... your levels have peaks and troughs so you can have like remission periods from the condition.Smile

MandaHugNKiss · 26/03/2012 21:38

Well, after sleeping with a pillow between my legs last night and trying to stay on my arse move as little as possible today, it's feeling much easier if not entirely better. So, I reckon I'll be ok with just... y'know, slowing down a bit. Well I am 32+5 today, have a very active two year old, a bad habit of constantly picking up after him instead of leaving it until a time when he won't immediately pull it out again (what IS that? He doesn't even play with it - it just MUST be on th efloor, out of the drawer/toy box/cupboard. Pain the arse pubic bone child) and this is my third pregnancy in two years aged 38 so lots of relaxin running around my creaky old system. I suppose, thinking about it, it was to be expected.

bonzo So sorry that pain led to befuddlement which led to an accident (albeit no one else involved). It did kinda make me smile, mind, and I could imagine it too as I have spent many days/nights at the Whittington (in a work capacity - following on from leedys question, I worked as a prison officer at Holloway in my last but one job and often accompanied women on bed watches - including a birth! I literally only left the room as she went into transition and was straight back in after the birth. THat was the woman's choice, too - I could/would have been outside the whole time but she wanted me there, bless her (young, had noone else). She moved onto the baby and mother unit which isn't the grim place you'd imagine - also did many a shift there. To do something UTTERLY different, my last job was in production with a film festival! But not worked at all bar being a mother for four years.)

twolittlemonkeys · 26/03/2012 21:50

Lovely to read a bunch of good news on here :)

Congratulations IQ and welcome mini-IQ. Hope she is out of SCBU and with you soon.

Fab news leedy - Congratulations!

tiago that's great news!

tits sorry you're feeling crappy. Hope the nausea eases up.

Midgetm · 27/03/2012 07:27

morning all, just snooping for news of baby IQ.

Also had a chuckle about the car rolling incident, ther by the grace of god go I, so many visits to the Whittington, the EPU there virtually has a private room with a name plaque on it. Thank god it was just a little debt, that is quite some hill, it keeps the common people out of highgate.

Tits misery loves company and I am grim too. Moody, lazy, sick, lacking any fizz. I yearn to be pregnant and the remember how vile the first trimester is. The added spectre of being fearful of loss also hangs over us. It's tough sometimes.

better fly, work today so need to hit the road. I'm in marketing. Dead dull. Sorry no time to catch up properly but Manda happy that I have licked an actual model, I have good taste. Take Care metallers. I am 9+4 and still believing this may work... The happy woman is back but the old me keeps whispering in her ear she is a dumb arse x

TitsalinaBumSquash · 27/03/2012 07:43

Good morning.

I have a 9 hour shift in the salon at college ahead of me today. here's hoping it will be easy clients or reception duty.

I feel a bit better today, although this clock changing thing has put two sleepy little boys in awful moods each morning.

I am going to attempt breakfast see if it settles my stomach, I quite fancy porridge today I think. :)

madaboutmadmen · 27/03/2012 08:00

Hi all, hope you're all doing ok and baby IQ is coming along nicely.

Tas been thinking of you and hope you're starting to feel more positive about things.

I had my dating scan yesterday, put me at 13+2 but could only measure the head rather than head to bum as baby was wriggling too much Grin. I was so relieved when i (a) saw there was actually something in there and (b) saw the heart beat.

i've got this thread bookmarked so will keep dipping in to see how you're doing. Wishing you all the best, and here's looking forward to 29 Sept (or 2 weeks after that if my first one is anything to go on).

Take care ladies xxxxx

madaboutmadmen · 27/03/2012 08:02

PS still metalling and knicker checking big time, doesn't get any better Sad

MarthasHarbour · 27/03/2012 09:11

morning all

No news here, just enjoying the sunshine. Me and DH started as we mean to go on this month and DTD on Sunday CD5 Shock, it is CD7 today so we are having another go tonight then a couple more over the weekend (i have scheduled thursday friday sunday and monday but i am knackered just typing that!).

Yep we are on it this month, it would mean a xmas baby but how lovely would that be?! my-new regime of relaxing and forgetting about it is clearly out the window

madaboutmadmen are you big fan of mad men then? i have just bought the box set of series 1-4. I have acually never seen it Shock but i loved Pan Am and am a big fan of 60s retro vintage type things so i used some amazon vouchers i had.

How is MissIQ this morning? Smile DS was a June 09 baby so was born in the fucking-stifling heat sunshine, it is a lovely time! xx

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MarthasHarbour · 27/03/2012 09:16

manda how are you feeling today? Seriously though how is the SPD? Do you want some pampering to take your mind off it?

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mrsnesbit · 27/03/2012 09:40

OH NO!
Ive just been told about a friend who is very early pregnant. (she had a mc about 6 weeks ago)
That means (in my crazy warped head) that if one more person announces their pregnancy thats mine down the spout.
1:3 pregnancies end in mc....im always the 3rd, always.

6weeks & 3 days today.

I cancelled the scan for tomorrow, re booked for in 2 weeks time. IF i make it to then, i will be nearly 9 weeks since LMP, but nearly 7 weeks since conception. That way, i know absolutely that there should be something there.
I can make a sound decision based on sound information.
Sad

BlueCrane · 27/03/2012 09:53

Just checking in quickly!

hope all's well with miniIQ and she's safely with you now

martha your pampering 'treats' for manda made me giggle out loud sat at my desk Grin Hope you're both doing ok! Glad to hear there's some good SWI going on in martha-land and that the pillow trick is working manda, I've taken to wedgin one end of a U/V shaped pillow between my legs and the other bit sort of under my bump which is workign fairly well!

mad, leedy tiago great to hear your news Smile

tits hope your day goes ok and it's not too hot at the salon/college!

Big hello to everyone else I've missed...must dash and get back on with my work...last big deadline tomorrow and then I can properly wind down/take it easy for the remaining 19 working days do my filing, sort my desk out, prep handover notes etc Shock can't believe I've made it to that stage Shock 31 weeks today Shock