Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

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Over here everyone

Hi all - thanks for your support and kind words. Very wise Italian. I read your post to dp, who totally agreed. This past 7 days has been a real rollercoaster. We had the man from the garden studio round and found the money to finance it - only to discover that we are in a conservation area and not only would we need planning permission for a wendy house, we can't take down the two very ugly conifers at the back without planning permission (or risk a £40k fine)! It will take months to go through. The neighbours said they were fine with it but would really prefer it if we didn't take them down as they block their view of the house behind.

Then I went to pick the car up and the garage said £1600 of work needed doing. And the car is worth £1200. Dilemma. Explained to ds2 (19) all of the above and said I was not sure what to do. He understood. I asked him on a scale of 1-10 how scared he was of moving out. He said - not scared, it was just expensive. So, after reading your post, we've agreed to help him financially to get somewhere instead if it is just about the £. All's well that ends well (famous last words). Thank you! FX for good news either re test or re adoption plans. SH sounds like just what you needed!

Well done to all the newly preggers mums! May the days until your scans race by without you blinking. Keep posting so we can all give you support and distraction.

Hippy yayyyyyy! Great news about Mr Hippy!! So pleased for you.

Angel all the best back at work. Try not to get too tired. Thanks to you and MiasM for all the feedback to FF about sweeps. I am determined never to have one - it's a c-sec at week 40 or I sue. Seriously. I'm not taking any extra risks. The consultant has put me down for induction at 41 weeks, so I'm taking dp along to 'be firm' about it. I tend to get bulldozed into submission over these things.

FF not long now...how are you feeling? x

ps Gum Happy Easter!!! You weren't alone. We were sitting in the snug with you - I was the one who passed you the Lindt bunny...? Big hug (())xx

Thanks Lol xx with regards to your plan I don t blame you 1 bit. If I have any further pregnancies I ll be demanding a section at 37 weeks again. Not worth the risk, particularly going over your date. Good luck xxx

thanks for thinking of me Italian unfortunately af arrived last week so I am out this time. I've decided definitely not to try any more IUI's as I'm convinced they aren't going to work for me. Just told Care this morning it had failed and feel really gutted at the moment :-( just awaiting a call back from them now with an appointment for a review with the consultant but I think we might leave it a few weeks then try one IVF as a last resort, after that it will be time to let go although at this moment in time I'm not sure mentally how I'm ever going to manage that!

we're off to Cooorado for two weeks this saturday and I feel really bad as dh is really excited about it and i can't be bothered lol!

oops colorado

Oh Tina I am so sorry.

Please try and enjoy your holiday. Lots of S E X because you never know what will happen, all those extra drugs swishing around in your body may have an effect, I do know people who got pregnant while not having treatment. I am so sorry for you and wish you all the best for the next step.

Hugs to all, I am feeling mega emotional today and sore eyes now after a long hard cry. Just waiting. 30 hours to go!

Tina - I'm sorry.This is so bloody hard isn't it? All we want is the simplest of things - to have a baby.For some it is just so easy.I wish I could wave a magic wand...I hope your holiday is good - that you are super relaxed and as a result fall pregnant next cycle.

Italian, I'm praying for you.I hope these 30 hours pass quickly.((hugs))

Thanks Gum.

Italian hope you have plans to keep you physically and mentally busy. I am sending so many positive baby thoughts your way!!!

tina sending you lots of hugs. This whole TTC business is crap isn't it? The highs and extreme lows is very tiring. I understand how you're feeling, I'm not going through IUI but I know how it feels not to conceive month after month. AF due this Friday, and although we gave it our best shot this month, I know already it's not to be (absolutely no symptoms). Try and enjoy your holiday. At the very least, a change of scene may help and hopefully take your mind off things from time to time (though know it's always there in the back of your mind). Thankfully in this life, wonderful things happen when you least expect it to. I very much hope that this is the case for you too.

italian, thinking of you in your wait. Sending you lots of hugs and hoping that little bean has stuck. Willing it on to do so.

Hope all the BFP ladies are doing well. It's been lovely to see your wonderful news. Gives me hope that I might be able to do the same aswell.

angel hope your first week at work is going well and that Phoebe is settling well into her nursery.

I'm OK (ish), life has been a bit stressful of late, potty training DD over Easter, work being ridiculously busy and stressful and knowing that another month rolls by with no BFP. Have booked myself a large glass of wine for Friday (AF day) as think I will need it! After 14 months of TTC #2 am getting to the stage of giving up on the whole process and accepting DD as an only. Feel a bit teary about it all but feel I have to let it go for a month or two for my own sanity. Sorry ladies to sound so down. DH is at home this weekend, so hoping to have a couple of days of proper family time with DD. It's been ages since he's been home of a weekend, and hopefully that'll brighten things up a bit and put things into perspective.

Much love to all xxx

Morning - thinking of you Italian and willing the bean to be a sticky one! Keep strong, and be as positive as you can - we are all rooting for you; you really deserve this x

Tina sorry for af Agree with knicky that the whole ttc-business is extremely draining. I remember the highs/lows/false hopes etc etc very well.

I am a bit stressed, having had my call from the hospital yesterday regarding my smear results. I have mild changes, and need to go in for a colposcopy next week as they only saw part of my (elusive) cervix so need to be sure that they see all of it before simply repeating smear in 6mths, plus biopsy. I know CIN 1 isn't that bad (have had CIN 3 in the past) but I think the thought of starting the whole testing/wating for results/the uncertainties again, and possible surgery is worrying me a bit. Anyway, it could be a lot worse, I am being looked after, and at least I am not ttc-ing!!! I am extremely glad that I have had my last dc, although now of course I'm thinking if I did decide to go for number 6 at some point, then how would this affect future ttc plans . But I'm not of course! Sorry for me rant - it does help to splurge it all out though!

Lou hope work is going ok -I have Samuel in nursery today in preparation for his full-days next week - am resisting ringing just yet. Off to a pottery cafe with 2 of my dds this afternoon - nice to do something with the older ones without the unpredictability that being out with a young baby brings.
Love to all - lots of prayers for italian xxx

thanks all for the lovely comments, I'm sure the issue is a mental one (my dh keeps telling me I'm a nutcase) and if I just stop thinking about it, it will probably happen!

Italian, good luck and am crossing everything for you, really really hope it's a bfp for you

Diege that sounds like news you didn't need to hear - especially as you seem to have heard it before, which is both reassuring (you were fine afterwards) and depressing (you know what you may be in for). I'm not sure what CIN3 is (sounds like a PS3 game but a lot less fun). Let's hope this is just a difficult post-natal smear, which is, after all, very likely. At least they found your cervix... x

Deige, I'd be a bit stressed too.I've also had CIN3,had laser surgery and colposcopy (not nice -particularly the image on the tv screen they use-eww!). Since that surgery I've had three babies. I'm glad my last smear was alright as it'd do my head in to throw that into the mix while I'm ttc and the odds aren't much in my favour already. I do hope it(your cin1) is all easily dealt with.

I've had a doozy of a day.Not good.Very tearful and feeling hopeless. I'm blaming hormones - I felt ovulation pain today - which means I'm not going to be in with a chance this month unless immaculate conception is an option. DH is away for a few more days yet.I was hoping for a late O, but no chance of that now. I should be pleased,as it does mean my cycle is pretty well clock-work,and that has to be good,right?

And it's still bloody hot here.I know I live in Australia,but this is starting to get ridiculous. It's never been this warm in April before - 35 degrees (C) yesterday and 32 today. I know I shouldn't complain, but that cheerful weather is just making fun of me when I'm feeling so low! Quite frankly I need some grey wet weather to mirror my mood.

And to top it off - I'm going to the dentist tomorrow.I really don't like the dentist.It's not his fault, I just don't like it.Hopefully I won't need too many fillings.

Right, off to bed to read the Hunger Games - that should cheer me up

Thanks guys! I feel ok about it all really but of course would rather have had a normal result. Dreading the colposcopy, but at least I know what to expect, and would far rather they be overly cautious than miss something.
How are things Lol? How many weeks are you now?
Gum regular ovulation is a VERY good thing, but no real consolation for this month with dh away I'm sure. Do you do temping at all? Just thinking that if you're anything like me I get ov pain a few dyas before temp rise, and then ovulate usually day of temp rise or shortly after. I'm sure you know your body by now though! I know what you mean about sunny weather when you're feeling out of sorts - when does your colder weather start?
Off out tonight for a rare meal out with dh, though now it's imminent I'd far rather stay in and watch The Apprentice

Hello again my lovelies

Tina your DH is right, stressing about TTC can be self defeating, but isn?t he still smoking?.?? Now, if he could give that up then your chances really would improve significantly, even if investigations have shown his sperm is ok? Naughty tinker. Have you worked up any enthusiasm for your holiday yet? Done any packing?

Wow Twirly - a BFP at 45! That really is impressive. How are you doing?

MAsMummy? How is/was the rest of your holiday? Hope it was restful and fun. How about the bean?

Angel/Lou hope your first couple of days back at work weren?t toooooo traumatic?

Hippy - yay for Mr Hippy getting a job!!

Italian Your spring break sounds great. Am tempted to go myself some time!! Liking the sound of the fostering/adoption session. You are sounding in a good place at the moment. Big day tomorrow! (Like you need reminding!!) I can?t imagine how you must be feeling. I never got as far as that with the IVF cycles. Did you chill in front of The Apprentice? Shooting up some prayer arrows for you. Will be looking out for your next post.

Knicky Tough combo you are dealing with - TTC, stressful job and potty training? Must be difficult if your DH is away so much- you have so much to deal with on your own. Hope you have a good cleaner at the very least. Do you get any ?you?time? You really need it.

Lol glad you have sorted out a plan for your son. Am feeling ok. Thanks for asking. The tiredness has been creeping up on me again. I hope it doesn?t last. I could do with the energy to sort some more stuff out before conking out again. How about you? How are you doing? Not long for you either!

Diege sorry to hear about the C1N/colposcopy. Not good. How was the big night out? Or did you bail and watch The Apprentice instead?

Gum sorry things aren't going your way at the moment. Maybe you have got your cycle wrong and DH will be back in time for a bit of SWI?

No more news on the social event yet MAM. Fingers crossed it will just fizzle out!!

Thanks Angel, Italian, MAsMummy and Knicky for your sweep stories. All useful info and give me lots to think about esp Angel and MAM?s stories. I need to do some serious research on the whole subject. DH anti sweeps. Not quite yet feeling brave enough for an ELCS, but you never know!! Italian. I will certainly be giving the raspberry leaf tea and walking a go nearer the time. I hear you have to eat about 20 pineapples for them to have an effect, though I do really like them, so you never know!!
Thanks for all your support re twat of a neighbour/s. They were away over Easter so we had a wonderfully peaceful and relaxing four days. I am sure he knows full well how unpleasant he is being but is probably unaware that it is also devaluing both our properties. Best if I don?t go into any more detail ? if nothing else it would take too long!! If I can just enjoy being in our garden this summer with the baby and feel safe and not be harassed that will be a good step forward.

Bed time for me. Have to make the bed first. Yet again. Cat puked on yesterday?s clean linen. Again.!! Is probably good training for a new baby though?

Sweet dreams and hugs to all. FF xx

Diege I am thinking of you and your elusive cervix. I sincerely hope all is fine and normal. Sending up a quick arrow prayer for all to be well.

Fireflies you should go to Spring Harvest it is fab, but I think you are thinking of Spring Break too, which is where teenage Americans go wild!

Thanks one and all for your kind comments. Only a few hours to go. I am feeling stoical. I kind of feel it has not worked but only time will tell. Maybe there are other child/ren to adopt or to nurture, maybe there are books to write, who knows what is around the next corner if a big pregnant belly is not. Thank you for being part of my journey.

Hugs.

just popped by to give Italian a hug. xx

Huge hugs of hope for you, italian.

Ditto on the huge hugs italian. I'm thinking of you this morning and sending lots of positive vibes.

fireflies, thank you for your lovely post (as always). I do feel as things have been a bit tough for me as of late, though, am always conscious to say that I also know that I'm incredibly lucky for what I have. I've just felt quite down and stressed. A little me time would be amazing. A wonderful friend gave me a spa voucher for my birthday along with an offer to babysit DD whilst I pampered myself. A truly thoughtful gift - she told me to pick a weekend when DH was at work (which unfortunately are many) so I could have a break. I'll make one of my priorities this weekend to figure out some dates.

Sounds like your cat is definitely getting you in good training for the new arrival (though think that's the sort of training you could do without......!)

A little news from me. AF greeted me this morning. I didn't have to wait to Friday 13th after all. Combined with DD refusing to go to the loo and then peeing over the bathroom floor, today hasn't got off to a good start. Explains a bit whilst I was feeling so crazy yesterday - PMT, marvellous stuff. I'm feeling very nonchalent today. Unfortunately, getting used to the whole cycle of it now. Glass of wine tonight methinks. Not to be this time round. Time for DH to get his sperm analysed (we have the pot from the doctor, he just ahem....needs to do the business so to speak.....) Then I'll be going back to the doctors again soon to see if there is anything else that can be done on the NHS.

fireflies not done any packing at all, dh has been remarkably organised and has already done his! Still not excited yet but hopefully will be tomorrow! Yes I've told him he needs to give up smoking , I have to tread carefully so I don't sound like I'm nagging as this will have the effect of making him dig his heels in, but will keep gently prodding, an all out assault will not work i know hope your neighbour stops harrassing you, what an awful thing to have to undergo especially when you're pregnant.

I had an issue a few years back with a female neighbour and her horrid brood of brats, she upset everyone on our estate and I had a huge slanging match with her after I dared to criticise her eldest child, I ended up moving which was unfortunate as a short while after i did she decided to go too!

knicky bad luck with af arriving, and good luck with dh's sample!

Knicky sorry about AF. Xxx enjoy your wine. Works's been fine , thanks very much. Xx
Diege hope Samuel got on ok today? Was Pheb's first full day also. She was dropped of at 07:45 & we collected her about 16:45 so that's 9 hours... Poor baby .. However, shes totally fine , knackered but fine!!! She's had a bottle & passed out for the last hour!!! Still not very interested in food & we ve tried jars of food , potatoes, sweet potatoes, carrots , banana yogurts!!! Don t know what else to do??
Hope you hear from the hospital very soon ? Xxx
Italian a million good wishes for you xxx
FF glad you re well. You don t have to be brave for an ELCS there's nothing to it!!!!
HimLol hope u re well?
Love to all. We re fine developing a routine & having to be super organised!!!!Phebs seems to be settling in at nursery & work's like I ve never been away!!!!
Very busy now though no time to do anything!!!
Love to all xxxx

Hi! Sorry for af knicky I too think that the wine is well-deserved xx
Angel I think you're trying all the right foods with Phoebs, and it's just a case of waiting it out I'd say. Samuel is much the same, though ate all his sweet potato and baby rice at nursery . He also loves hipp organic banana custard after his 6pm bottle He's not keen on veggie purees etc, nor fruit (I think he was most repulsed with banana..) Great that nursery went so well - the whole routoine will feel second nature after a week or so I promise. S also doing well there (did 8am - 4.30, in prep for next week's 8-6, poor bugger) and also seemed very happy though very tired too, poor thing. Looking forward to having him all to myself tomorrow. He is so lovely, and really does make all the ups and downs of ttc-ing worth it.
Italian keeping my fingers crossed for you xxx thanks for thinking of my cervix, I was touched
Have blown the diet today - finally gave in and scoffed a few easter eggs...who was I kidding by being so restained on easter sunday . Anyway, back to the usual SW tomorrow..
Love to all xxx

Just popped by to see if Italian had been in. Thinking of you.

And I know I'm a bit of a stranger on here these days, but just wanted to post to Knicky, I know where you're at with the conflicting yearn for trying to give your DD a sibling. I can't recall how old you are (or any pertinent special circumstances), but maybe my example might give you hope to carry on for a bit more?

Started trying to give DS a sibling when I was 41 in June 09. 3MMCs and 2 CPs later, I had pretty much thrown in the towel in December 11. Had been tested for Recurrent MC issues and all clear, and in a bit of a desperate move started taking DHEA last year (took for about 8 months). Then in Jan I got a BFP, and am 15 weeks tomorrow, having had 2 low risk nuchal scans. Of course I won't relax until he/she is in my arms but at 44 I feel very lucky to be where I am.

So I know you'll feel 14 months is a feckin' eternity but it really isn't very long for anyone TTC really. That said, I know how demoralising the monthly struggle is, so just a friendly arm punch in solidarity really.

Waves to all x