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Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

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Curlylox · 26/02/2012 17:45

Over here everyone Smile

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twirlyagogo · 01/04/2012 09:57

Gum - really? Not much was explained to be honest, she just said they were all fine (she was nice though!). I guess you always think that high numbers are better! Thank you so much for clearing that up.

Elena67 · 02/04/2012 20:08

Thanks, Hippy that doesn't sound negative at all - I think that's pretty much where I am up to now... Take the coil out and see what happens.. At least I will know I tried and if it doesn't happen in a reasonably short time (I don't want there to be a huge gap, plus I am knocking on...) then it doesn't happen. Thanks again and I will keep lurking until there's something to tell!

lolfactor · 02/04/2012 22:09

twirlyagogo Gum's right. All your results are spot on - not perimenopausal. Sorry if the doctor didn't make it clear. FSH over 10 or 11 is not so great (but not impossible - mine was 13.5 and I'm pregnant). The trouble is, we all know it's easier to find something wrong and rectify it rather than hear that all's ok but nothing's happening. It's so frustrating Angry!

Italian this is so exciting - and you have Spring Harvest to take your mind off things. Yay!!!

Diege bet you get it! Grin. Will buy virtual cocktails to celebrate!

Gum and Hippy ((())) xxx

Fireflies how goes it? 28 weeks and growing, here. Cleared out the shed today so dp could bring over the contents of his loft. Boy, what a load of complete crap. I couldn't believe it. Who stores their kid's old colouring books? Or pieces of cut foam, just in case the sofa needs extra stuffing? 3-D noughts and crosses? Yuck! Now wondering how quickly I can empty the shed AGAIN by relocating stuff to the tip in instalments. I know, I know, I'm being mean, but...

To all those who remember me whinging on about my ds (19 now), I'm hoping to build a garden studio rather than ask him to leave when the baby comes (we need his room). This should suit everyone, but will leave us £20k lighter. Most people agree, though, that 19 is quite young to ask someone to leave home forever, so it is going to be worth it. Hoping the mortgage man agrees.

hopefulgum · 02/04/2012 23:40

Lol, I know what you mean. I think it also depends on the 19 year old IYKWIM. I have an 18 year old son who left just after his birthday,and is coping really well. He is able to manage his money,get himself to work on time,feed himself etc. Then there's my eldest son, who since leaving school has left home about three times, but always ends up back here, having lost his job for whatever reason,broke and unable to wake up from an alarm! I am not suggesting your son is like that,at all, just whinging about mine! I wish mine would grow up and sort himself out, but I reckon he will come and go for a few more years.He's 21 now, but a very immature 21. I'd like his room for Charlie, that was the plan, but instead,Charlie has taken over our spare room/study. Which is fine for the time being.

I think a garden studio is a brilliant idea. I'd love to do something like that, but alas, the bank would never agree to give us more. I hope it works out for you,and that you can get it sorted before bubs arrives.

28 weeks, WOW!How are you feeling? I hope everything is going really well.

Lol, what do you think about the DHEA? Should I continue?I haven't taken it yet this cycle.Still thinking about it.

AngelGeorgie · 03/04/2012 08:46

Lol wow 28 weeks??? Xx funny how people have said 19 is young to leave home I left at 16 with no regrets & never moved back. Wonder if it's a boy thing??? My brother who's 31 has moved back regularly , even though he's married. He's just stayed at my parents for 6 months after him & his wife returned from 8 months of travelling & had sold their house before leaving.she stayed at her sisters!!
When we eventually move to the Midlands if we ve not sold our house we ll be renting & my folks have offered us to stay then. But I just wouldn t like my own house too much & we get on fine. Does seem to be a difference between men & women ; men return to mum & dad women are more independent!!!!
Hope you get it sorted!!!!
Love to all.
Countdown to work!!!1 week today !!! That ll be 6 months of mat leave done!!!! Hmm

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 03/04/2012 08:47

ok ladies, big news from me... BFP today!!! I have been staying off the thread as I have been quietly hoping - not sure if that makes sense, but it does in my head somehow Confused.

And I feel so strongly that Mia made this happen. I had been really down as my cycle was becoming shorter and shorter, and then I had high FSH of 13.5, so all the indications were that I was peri-menopausal, and we are booked to have our first IVF appointment in mid-April. This month, I didn't even ovulate on my normal day, so I was terrified it wasn't happening at all... but then I ovulated on my birthday, 8 days late. And it sounds silly, but I am convinced that the hope stemming from that was my birthday present from Mia. And if nothing else, she has shown me that my body can do it.

Don't have sore boobs or any symptoms, so it all feels very unreal. And alongside the elation, so much fear too, from both DH and me. Sorry, this all is probably TMI, but figured you all were the right people to understand the complex set of emotions I am on!!

blackcatsdancing · 03/04/2012 10:05

MiaAlexandrasmummy that's really brilliant news! Congratulations :)

I can totally understand the fear and have no wise words on how to deal with that. Hopefully someone will come along soon who knows more. :)

hopefulgum · 03/04/2012 11:43

Yay,Miasmummy, that's such good news.Congratulations.

I do understand how it is a range of mixed emotions, especially after you've been through such heartbreak.

I know I didn't go through the same heartbreak, but I did feel some anxiety and fear when I was pregnant after a miscarriage. Mostly I repeated the mantra,"for today I am pregnant", and found acupuncture helped me relax.

I love that you feel Mia is helping you,I certainly believe it is possible.

I know it is really hard, but try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible. You deserve to be happy.

knickyknocks · 03/04/2012 11:51

Hi all

So sorry I've been gone so long. First of all - FABULOUS news for miaalexandrasmummy. Oh wow, your on your way. Am hoping so much that you have a smooth time of it. It'd be lovely to hear how things are going for you. It's made my day seeing your news.

I'm fine - now officially 40. Had a lovely weekend away with DH and am now in the 2WW. Trying to ignore every little twinge that I think I feel. I'm 5DPO but am not feeling particularly hopeful, though we DTD when we saw the smiley face - and (sorry TMI...) far more than usual. Am really hoping this may be my month. Love to all, sorry this is short, but ridiculously busy at work (one of the reasons for being quiet for so long).xxxx

10000fireflies · 03/04/2012 14:20

Just a quickie, as couldn't see MAM's news without dropping in to say a quick ''Woohooo'' Miaalexandrasmummy. Huge congratulations on your BFP. Thanks Thanks Thanks

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 03/04/2012 16:28

thanks so much for your lovely responses, blackcats, hopeful, knicky and fireflies. It feels very unreal. I keep checking the CB test... and right now, nine months seems like forever!

10000fireflies · 03/04/2012 23:14

Hello my lovelies

Grumpy here! Feeling a bit stroppy as DH has decided to organise a major social event two weeks before due date. Oh, did I say two weeks before due date??!! Plus t**t of a neighbour has continued to be deeply unpleasant. To date their idiocy has culminated in £3K of various charges. The only amusing bit of that saga is they have inflicted £1.5K of charges on themselves. And, if he continues to shout abuse at me in the street he will have to explain that to the fuzz. Freaking idiots.

Still, moving on, counting blessings, deep breath etc and putting on happy, jolly face?

Tina how are you doing on your 2WW? Keeping everything crossed for you. (BTW, just a tip, you need to be careful with eating liver when TTC as too much vit A allegedly not good.) Have you packed for your holiday yet? Great timing now the weather has turned. When do you fly?

Hey Shandy 33 weeks and counting!!! Yay!!

Hippy what?s the book you are writing? Hope you made the most of the lovely weather and countryside on the IOW. Gave you another wave from Tanners Lane at the weekend.

Hi Elena. Welcome to the snug. Hope you will be joining the Friday bistro? Tricky dilemma you are in. If you can have a go at some nonchalant TTCing then, why not? It?s whether you can get the mental balance right that could be the key, IYSWIM? Have you come to any conclusions on the matter yourself?

Twirly - is this link any good for interpreting your test results? Seems to be ok. www.fertilityplus.org/faq/hormonelevels.html#female

Gum so sorry to hear about you BFN. Not fair.

Diege /Lol /Italian - thanks for asking. Am doing pretty good. Everyone says I look really well. (or does that mean just plain chubby?) Saw consultant and discussed induction. Feeling better about it (and find Angels experiences/advice especially persuasive) and will read NICE guidelines. Anyone got any positive sweep experiences to share??!! Limited movement from LO so consultant sent me for a scan. Amazing to see baby?s face. All good apparently too. Also, passed GTT. Just need to carve out a nursery somewhere!! Going through a similar process as you Lol of dejunking. As DH threw out my table without asking, I now have free reign!!

Lol love your idea of building a studio for your DS in garden. Is really lovely thing to do. I hope I am going to be a similarly lovely Mum. I was so miserable as a teenager at home that I ran away to Uni at 18 and played in Brighton, barely returning home for two years!! Oh, those were the days. But really, would have benefitted from a couple of years at home rather than wasting time on an unbelievably crap degree, which has been diddly use in the long-run.

Diege did you hear about the award yet, Oh Superwoman?! I fully expect to hear you?ve won!! Can I have some of your panache please?

Jolls great news about your nuchal/bloods. Hope you are doing well still.

Angel cherish your last week!! Spoil yourself. Spoil your gorgeous little girl.

MiaAlexandrasmummy Lots more Thanks Thanks Thanks for you on your BFP. Isn?t it funny how things work out?! What a lovely birthday present!! Clever Mia! I bet you have checked that test over and over. And done a few more just to be on the safe side?! What will you do with your appt? We kept ours as a fall-back and only changed it the week before as I was 10 weeks by then. It sounds like you and DH are doing brilliantly generally. Keeping everything crossed for you. Keep being kind and gentle to yourself.

knickyknocks congrats on being a true and fully paid up fabulous fortysomething! Sticky vibes, and, lay off the work a little? not good for you to be overdoing it!!

Am interested in all your experiences on DHEA. I?d heard it can mess with your hormones, but maybe will give it a go for #2. Had no idea it could be part of IVF protocol.

I am done for now, so off to bed for me. Pooped, but DH has just thanked me for help with party organising and dealing with stupid house issues, so not half as grumpy as I was earlier!!

Hugs to all. One day I will be as good at name-checking as Italian. Sweet dreams and sticky vibes. xx

Diege · 04/04/2012 08:53

Morning! Many congratualtions MiaAexandrasMummy!! I had a strong feeling that you had got a bfp before even putting my computer on this morning, very odd. And you have Grin Please try to relax - very excited for you; you truly deserve this xxx
knicky no such thing as tmi here Grin. Fingers crossed for you.
fireflies ah no super woman I can assure you - feel I'm just barley coping if I'm honest, and ds1's 2 hr tantrum last night confirmed that... I'd say 5 dcs is definititely my limit, though if I were 10 years younger I might give it a shot when dc5 was at school. But I'm not so I won't Grin Award result not in until the summer, and given out during graduation ceremony Igniore you horrible neighbours - I have a picture of a Victor Meldrew type man in mind - am I right? Must be very unpleasanty and stressful Sad Scan sounds great - how cute to see baby's face Smile.
Angel are you back at work immediately after easter? I am more tired now I'm back, but it is nice to get back into the whole work routine etc and I am enjoying it mostly.
Italian how are you feeling? Think you are on your spring break now?
Gum HOw are you feeling? Did you decide on the DHEA ? (is that right?)
Better go - dc2 at nursery so tantrum (yes, started again this morning) is out of hearing at least...dc 5 up for nap now I think.

bestbesomeoneelse · 04/04/2012 10:23

MiaAlexandrasMummy - that is wonderful news! I haven't been on this thread for long, but everyone seems so supportive and it is lovely to see such genuine care and happiness for you. I really do wish it all goes smoothly for you, from what I've read, you deserve it so much.

10000 fireflies (great name!) - thank you for that link. I think I have worked out why my progesterone was so high though . . . a completely unexpected BFP here (from probably the oldest old codger on the thread!). Confused but Smile

bestbesomeoneelse · 04/04/2012 10:30

Sorry - I'm twirly* sometimes! That last post must have looked odd!

bestbesomeoneelse · 04/04/2012 10:31

twirly - so old I can't deal with this new fangled technology . . .

Diege · 04/04/2012 10:39

Shock wow Twirly many congrats Grin. You must be very excited. How are you feeling? xxx

lolfactor · 04/04/2012 10:59

Miasmummy oh, that's fantastic!!!! ThanksThanksThanks So pleased. One day at a time. Or one hour. That's probably more like it.

Gum I'd carry on taking it personally because you are not have any side-effects except boosting your levels. I'm wondering if I should take DHEA after this one is born. Just a very low dose. It does seem to boost the system - although I know all the arguments for/against.

Fireflies Flippin' 'eck, your partner's brave to organise that. I think the spode would be flying round here if dp decided to do that. What on earth is the problem with Victor Meldrew? He sounds thoroughly nasty. No-one should be shouting at anyone in the street. It's just not done! I grew up near Brighton (probably saw you hanging around on the beach!?) and you just DON'T DO that sort of thing. It sounds like you're being dignified about it and haven't got to the doggy do through the letterbox stage!

Italian hope you're having a lovely time at spring harvest! In the sun!!!!

Angel I'm with you! I left at 18 and never looked back - and so did DS1. This one, however, is quite immature. Sounds much like yours, Gum. Feel reassured I'm not the only one!

Fireflies I really wish I could have a scan and see his face. Might have to go in and say he's not moving Wink.

lolfactor · 04/04/2012 11:02

all just reread that and realised it could sound insensitive. Sorry - totally unintentional. Just meant it would be lovely to see little one's face. Blush

twirlyagogo · 04/04/2012 11:05

Diege - I'm not sure how I feel actually. It seems so unlikely. I was saying to my partner that when I call for an appointment and give them my date of birth they'll probably take ten years off, thinking they've misheard it, and still think I'm old!

I'm letting myself be a bit happy, but in the back of my mind, I know that it's really unlikely to work. I think the stats are 75% miscarriage at my age. I don't think I'll go to a clinic until I'm 8 weeks, if I get that far - which seems a lifetime away and not something I'll manage.

10000fireflies · 04/04/2012 12:12

OMFG! Another BFP! Go Twirly, go twirly/ bestbesomeoneelse. Thanks Thanks Thanks for you too!! What a result!! Two in one week!! BTW? how old???? ThanksThanks

Hmm Victor Meldrew? he?s younger than us?. Have nicknamed him Mr Angry, so hum the Mr Men theme when he?s around and causing trouble. He will make a twat of self in front of other neighbours. Only a matter of time now. Hadn?t considered the dog poo through letter box. Could be worth a try!!

Yeah Lol - see if you can wrangle another scan. I don?t feel like there?s anything to worry about with this LO. Is just lazy. Like father!! So, might take parents along for next scan as a treat. Much better than photos.

Diege good luck with the tantrum management!!

TinaO99 · 04/04/2012 12:29

congratulations to Mialexandrasmummy and bestbesomeoneelse great news!!

Italian how is your 2ww going? Any signs yet? I've given up now, not started period but all symptoms have gone, also had a crash from coming down from the hormone drugs yesterday and spent the day alternately raging and crying my eyes out.

I've decided to take a little break from treatments and speak to my consultant again as I don't think IUI is going to work for me. Am seriously considering one go at IVF before the bank breaks, can't really afford it but it's either one go at this or two more goes at IUI so I reckon the odds are probably pretty similar. I'm really mystified as to why I've not had any kind of pregnancy whatsoever - may be a coincidence but I wondered if there was something the clinic hasn't covered (egg shell too hard or dh sperm wrong on the inside as he smokes) at least with ivf the tow will be made to meet and we'll see what happens!

hopefulgum · 04/04/2012 12:44

Congratulations bestbe. Wonderful news. And exactly how old are? Need all the good news I can get over here.

It's my last day tomorrow, then two weeks easter break.Hurray! Really need it. Sadly my DH is off for 8 days (on Saturday) and so I think I'll probably ovulate while he's away. I suppose that means,at least,I'll have a two week wait where I'm not wondering...Sad

Lol, I'm not too sure about the DHEA. I'm still not taking it because I do worry it might be screwing with my hormones, though I've not really had side effects. I don't know - need to meditate on this one...

Tina, I do see what you mean, and perhaps IVF will give you some clues. Hopefully your consultant can shed some light.

I hope this run of bfp's can keep going until each and everyone of us becomes pregnant and gives birth to a lovely healthy baby or babies. Count me in - still want one, despite the finances, hard work and tiredness.Smile

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 04/04/2012 13:32

twirly/ best hooray for you!! Wow, that is great news. Think positive, use angel's mantra - For today, I am pregnant.

diege your feeling is very spooky, especially as I hadn't been on for a while. Can I bestow your pregnancy predictor powers to all the others here also waiting for a BFP? Quite like the idea of this talent floating around the thread.

Thank you for the good wishes, lol. yes, very much an hour by hour process here.

I just rang my brother, whose daughter is a little older than Mia, and told him the news. He cried.

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 04/04/2012 13:39

And thank you to Tina too!! Sorry, on my phone... fWIW, I have had no symptoms at all, so don't lose heart just yet.