The rat smacketeers are brooking no argument!! All for one BFP and one BFP for all!

[Imps7]

Smacket on, ladies...

Oh thanks Imps - egg = peak, ov time - probably tonight/early am given my cycles are so short efficient. I usually start AF on cd26. Though not this month of course.

I reckon tonight then Bean - if it pops tonight and you can't fit in an early shag then that particular ship will have sailed. However, if you shag tonight and pop tomorrow, you'll be right on that ship (IYSWIM).

Of course, there's nothing stopping you trying tomorrow morning and evening too!

Hi all

Ooh, meeting a MNetter stasi, that's exciting. I presume you met on here, rather than already new her in rl?

pop dp & I had similar conversations about the benefits of an early scan. The way I see it, you don't have one so you can rush out and tell everyone the news early. I just think that the early days of pg can be as much of an emotional minefield as ttc is, so if you can do something to ease the pressure a bit, it can't be a bad thing.

Very interesting research about the early scan too far. All the more reason I'll be having one next time!

duke enjoy the 1yr check. No need to be nervous

whims well done for a very productive morning

green sorry your appointment was upsetting and disappointing, but I really hope the outcome of the tests will reassure you, or arm you with knowledge to make sure next time is successful.

The bleeding /spotting I'm having is still here today, no more or less. I'm pretty sure it is a feeble excuse for a period and I was right to start the CBFM countdown! Looking forward to peeing on the sticks now. We'll be at Centre Parcs next week when I'll be doing it though, so I hope I remember in a different bathroom.

bean, sorry xposted. FWIW, I'd probably give it a go tonight and in the morning too for good measure

Thanks Imps - I'll do my best. Poor DP would rather play his guitar I sometimes think, though last night was nice. (And he got up to play his guitar afterwards anyway; must be my pulling power .)

duke am impressed you are getting a 1yr check/visit. I saw a health visitor the sum total of once - she asked me a) are you being beaten up by your husband? (We're not married, and would I tell her if I was?! She said she had to ask because of all the Polish people living in this area ). And b) we need to talk about contraception. When I pointed out that I was 38yo and had just had my first so may not need to talk about contr after all... she giggled.

Quick post from me, my DH linked this to me in work.

"A doctor's manual from 16th Century France even advised couples that the best time to conceive was not at the end of a long day's labour but "after the first sleep", when "they have more enjoyment" and "do it better""

Little it's a MNetter I didn't know I knew, she found me on a thread and got in touch. I've not been hiding my identity at all, so it's not that surprising, except I had no idea I knew anyone trying for/with a baby! She's a friend of a friend I met at a party once, with obviously an amazing memory for people.

:o bean
I'd give it a go today too, especially if there are motility issues?

Cheers little DH is an annoyingly centred individual who rarely worries about anything git so he doesn't really 'get it', worry-wise. It would certainly make me calmer, though.

Thanks everyone - I'll have to see whether I can the old feller cranked up tonight. He did spend last night with a toddler on his chest, neck, arms, head... The gro-clock has yet to take effect.

I think the motility issues mean we should have slightly less TTC. I think the fact that we had SWI last night is quite hopeful anyway.

Pop - spend the money. DH will have forgotten all about it in a few sleep deprived years. Do as someone else here said and flog some bits and pieces on ebay to pay for it. x

Thanks for all your thoughts ladies, its very nice to have :)

bean defo get SWI tonight, in my experience the 2nd day of peak is too late but I am an early popper like you!

P.S. I am reading TCOYF and its freaking me out, she is basically saying anything over 4 months and there is a problem, eeeek

Thanks Far. Tonight it is then.

Yes, TCOYF does make it sound like you should just be able to get diffed straight away once you've stuck a thermo up your fanjo a couple of months. Of course, she's assuming a different reader than the long-term TTCers. I've just read a fred about someone who had IVF/ICSI after ages of TTC, then got spontaneously pg with DC2 while breastfeeding (aged 34). So - Teri can't explain everything even if she's making out she can. Inexplained infertility does what it says on the can and affects quite a lot of people from what I can tell.

Arggg, don't tell me that Far!! Although I think that must be wrong based on my detail medical knowledge of these things look at all the lovely brooking (and other) babies arriving after 4 months of TTC. And besides, something being wrong definitely doesn't equate to no BFP at the end of it - it just means that we're lucky enough to enjoy this TTC ride for a bit longer

Yes I totally agree and it flies in the face of everything else I have read which says 12-18 months is totally totally normal. It was freaking me out!

Quite like the rest of it, bit disappointed that the section on luteal phase is really short and not many suggestions of helpful things to try and change it. Hmmmm. Have added it to my stash of half read fertility manuals hidden in a box away from DH along with the CBFM, 50 preggo tests and all over evidence of menkul

My CBFM is also secret shhhh

You're totally right bean I will offer to trade in my swanky birthday meal out for a scan (coz I'd totally rather have the scan) when I speak to him tonight - not that I expect it to come to that.

Anything over 4 months and there's a problem? Complete tosh, has to be
Seriously though, how unhelpful is that? "Ladies, if you make it to 5 months you're subfertile .... what's more, your GP won't speak to you for 18-24 months!"

Hello all
bean I would also give it a go tonight too if possible. It is all adding up to your normal cycle pattern on the CBFM? Have you found it useful?

pop if you can afford to trade off the scan and it gives you piece of mind it is worth it. Very interesting research far talks about having a positive impact.

far some of the books talk total tosh, fancy everyone only trying for only 4months. I am genuinely shocked anyone gets pregnant now I know what is involved and the short window of opportunity. DH doesn't believe me when I tell him and I can see why.

little good luck with the CBFM, hope it has the results.

I got cross hair on FF this morning, only CD10 . might try SFF tonight trying the every 2day through cycle rule, can not hurt

Went to see Sarah Millican last night, very funny, bit rude, lots of swearing. Two older ladies sat behind us who just didn't get any of the jokes and kept repeating everything to each other. DH was getting really annoyed, I thought it was like watching anything with my Mum

Lösning the crazy names - though I did read an article in the paper this morning about a little boy called Anakin, which i thought was quite a cool name -though everyone would think we were star wars freaks bet DP would vote for that name

generic before etc i never had sore boobs, then they used to be sore from about 5dpo to 9dpo dpo, now they changed again and are sore from about 9dpo to 12dpo. Hope that helps

bean could you set an alarm for 5 30 mins before DS usually wakes so you have time to seduce your man but if not I'm sure yesterday was good enough

That bit in TCOYF about trying for 4 months, I thought she suggests sending the bloke for a sperm analysis, as its easy to do. Well that would have gone done like a ton of bricks in our house plus she doesn't take into account men that get scared and stressed by the whole etc idea.

Oh and I reckon I ov'd yesterday as I got a bit of a rise this morning

Argh first word should read loving, autocorrect was in the wrong language , and etc means ttc

Hello Beedle

Thinking about sperm analyses (as I often do...) - to those whose OH's have done them, is it easy to get a referral for those in UK? Is there a you-must-having-been-trying-for-12-months-or-more requirement to get one done? And (idiot alert) - presumably OH would need to go to GP himself to get a referral - I couldn't arrange it on his behalf??

I meant to post about my boobs earlier Generic but forgot - mine really hurt in about 3 out of every 4 cycles. Out of those, sometimes they start to hurt on 1 DPO, sometimes not until about 7 DPO. Sometimes the pain starts in the nips, sometimes it starts at the sides. Sometimes they tingle, sometimes they have shooting pains in them.

HTH...

So imps I reckon we've really helped Generic with the issue of sore boobs

Imps my DH wasn't there when my GP sent him for SA. I don't think he even belonged to the same practice but was in the process of changing over. I was sent for my bloods and I just took the container and bag home for him to "do" his bit and then take to the hospital in under an hour from time of production. He had to make an appointment to drop it off too but he didn't see anyone.

So yes, if your GP anything like mine, you can get it arranged for him. I think my GP practice is quite good after hearing other Mners experiences though.

Forgot to say they wouldn't give me his results though. I can understand that really. DH has rung up and they said "no further action required" but to get a detailed print out he needs to make an appointment. Seems a bit of a waste of an appointment to me, I did ask if they could post him the print out, but no. So next time he is poorly he has to remember to ask for the print out as if that is going to happen

Problems after 4 months I don't like the sound of that book at all! That just isn't right surely?

And boob pain is very variable for me too, this month didn't get any until 7-8dpo and now they are killing! But some months they hurt straight after ovulation. I'm pretty sure it's nature's way of additional torture in the 2ww so we can over analyse every twinge/lack of twinge. I don't know about anyone else but I spend most of the 2ww prodding mine so that doesn't help with the pain either Talking of which I am on CD30 today with sore boobs and I'm 14dpo BUT I have the familiar cramps starting so I feel AF may be on her way which will totally ruin any SFF on our anniversary night away on Friday Oh well, at least we can have a lay in And DH may be making suggestions as to alternative fun for him which I believe was recommended by one of your DH's as a sore throat cure the other day

Imps not sure about SA, my GP didn't do any tests at all when we went to her after trying for a year, she just referred me straight to gynae and SA was one of the first things he tested along with my FSH and LH (day 2). I would guess that he could just ask the GP for the test if you can persuade him

Good luck for all the SWI tonight ladies

Right, I've analysed the boobwatch data and they are inconclusive. I keep prodding mine though as I'm not sure if I've ov'd yet - keep forgetting to use the OPKs and I don't temp. Was hoping my bosoms would tell me, but not yet.

Green I am brooking for you that the cramps will herald a BFP rather than AF. What a wonderful anniversary treat that would be (and it means you don't need to buy DH a present, you can just give him the pee stick!)

Any news from you this morning Far?

Remember the Law of Boobs Generic - Inconclusive Boobs = preggo (even if you haven't ovulated yet)

Morning! Hope the boob data proves more conclusive today Generic

No need for further analysis here, CD1 has arrived again and hideous AF cramps have kept me up since 4am - I am officially grumpy today! Now come on ladies I'm looking for some good news on this thread very soon! xx

green I am really sorry, I thought cramps might be a positive sign!

Well girls, its not B or F but its definitely P. DH can see it so its not in my head. Its quite faint though but I am hoping its because its early. Have had a mad dash to Boots and first cyclogest is inserted (up the bum as its seemed better for some reason).

I have been having cramps for a few days though so am really trying not to get my hopes up this time.

Have emailed the consultant basically saying help and teach me how to use the clexane.

wibble wibble wibble, please let it be third time lucky