The rat smacketeers are brooking no argument!! All for one BFP and one BFP for all!

[Imps7]

Smacket on, ladies...

Sorry I've not been around much recently. I am supposed to be on CD15 today and had been using OPKs but no positive results yet, but AF has arrived this morning. I suppose it just takes time for everything to settle down after DD, but it is getting me down a bit. I just want to be pregnant again - I really miss being pregnant and find it hard as I am supposed to be very close to having a little baby in my arms.

Cups - that doesn't sound great. Hope they can find something nice and easily treatable so it doesn't happen again.

Am brooking for Far too. Let us know how the scan goes.

Popcorn, why does your work make you tell them early? I'm not sure that is legal. The government guidance is here if that helps at all: www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Moneyandworkentitlements/WorkAndFamilies/Pregnancyandmaternityrights/DG_10039631

Oh Bartlet it's still early days for you. Bodies take a while to settle down, and I imagine minds and hearts take even longer. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Your body is just getting her act together to make a super duper sticky bean. The hormones just don't help do they!

Imps - what about pavlova for the gluten free pudding?

Cupcakes oh my gosh, you poor thing. That really is adding insult to injury - I do hope you're okay and not too shaken up about things. Look after yourself - or even better, get DH to look after you!

Bartlet I'm sorry you're feeling so blue even if it is so understandable. Sometimes it's so hard to focus on the fact that this is a journey rather than a race, particularly when you're right at the start of it. Take one day at a time and remember that we're all right behind you and brooking for your next little bean to appear.

I did think about a pavlova Shiny but I have a crappy old oven which I'm worried would massacre the meringue. Oh, I can't wait until I can once again be the proud owner of a Neff.

Somewhat predictably I've done fuck all in the office other than plan which veg I'm going to sow in April. Needed here, my arse. Still if that's how they want to feel powerful and important, then far be it for me to stop them. 17.5 days, Imps, 17.5 days.

Thanks for the encouragement. It's not so much not being pregnant, but I just want my body to be back to normal.

The pavlova should work, Imps, even if you don't have a great oven, says the owner of a lovely Neff oven . Just put it in a low oven and then after 45-60 minutes, switch the oven off.

Cups - am v worried about you, that sounds traumatic. You really need to see a consultant. Hope the worst is over now. Sending you big hugs.

Bartlet - I hope everything settles down soon. Very hard on you knowing your due date is soon. We're all brooking for you and I hope that a BFP is coming soon to make things a little more positive.

Whims - dogs need walking and are obsessed with mice (which means pattering/snuffling around Victorian houses NON-STOP), so you are v sensible to avoid one, with or without your American plans. Your DH can borrow mine if he wants though.

Imps and Maybe - you have both given me a kick up the bum re' seeds. We missed the allotment this weekend due to a small flood at the back of our house (c heating - too much pressure). Must get out there.

I'm at cd7, POAS each morning, and preparing for the bonking. Feels more of a chore than ever I'm afraid DP still convinced that we'll be fine, so I will take his lead. It's his birthday Friday so maybe there'll be an extra special present from him to me. Oh, that's wrong isn't it...?

Oooh I bought OH some zinc and selenium supplements today, just in case his wrigglers need some extra oomph. I think he'll be up for taking them - he's really getting into this baby thing now (he's only 14 months behind me...). I was banging on at him We were talking at the weekend about the various tests we might need if not diffed by August and he seems perfectly okay with the prospect of jizzing in a cup which does surprise me - he's not exactly a prude but he's a pretty private person. He joked that if he has to do it at the hospital he's going to go to shake the hand of the person he gives his pot to and say "don't worry - I'm left-handed"

How are your American plans Whims? Given that you'll be getting your BFP shortly, will you be okay to fly over there?

Thanks for asking imps. Still not much going on. I was a bit worried in Jan that a bfp would make me too pg to fly. Now it's reasonably near I'd only be 4 or 5 months (assuming a bfp this month) so easily done, if not ideal. We have, however, found someone to rent our house, which is a great relief.

I have completely frittered today away. If anyone sees me here tomorrow, slap me and send me away please.

Hooray, another Brooking Baby! Purple had her sun at 3am on Sunday! Whoop!

Gaaah, son, not sun

It's probably not entirely kosher generic but it is a small company and it will make it easier for them to arrange cover or not, as the case often is - but tbh the company's not doing so well, so the sooner I tell them the sooner I'll be protected by the preggo women's legislation in regards to redundancy, iyswim

I did think of that cupcakes but apparently maternity leave automatically starts the day you give birth, so if I gave birth early I'd forfeit any holiday I had left to take and I'm too stingy to risk wasting it :o

shiny bit late now, start again next cycle once AF has gone (not that you'll need to of course!) :)

I'm on your behalf Imps - how petty is that?!

I hope everything settles down soon Bartlett :(

Actually I'm probably already covered, thinking about it - but I like the idea of them knowing I'm covered, iyswim

popcorn you don't lose your holiday entitlement though, they would have to give you it at the the end of your ML

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Evening all

cupcakes hope your feeling better and DH is looking after you. Have you got to go back so that can investigate or is it just the case of you're feeling a bit better so they think its all over Sorry about the chem pregnancy too, hoping you get a nice sticky one this month.

shiny sorry about your chemical pregnacies too, hoping you find a sticky bean soon too.

imps glad you managed to get something productive done this afternoon - planning your vegetables is very important

bartlet sorry about AF arriving so early and making you feeling so low, I'm brooking hard that you'll get a BFP again soon ((hug))

sparkle I also wondered if you sleep with your mouth open, (didn't get the fish reference either!!)

maybe hoping you're feeling better after your duvet day

Nothing much to report here hoping for some rat smacking in the next few days

Sparks!!! I love the fact that he's kept that secret from you for all these years!!

Apparently my OH always wobbles my bottom when he gets up in the night to go for a wee - I've never ever noticed before!

imps - I second that re the pavlova and oven. I was a chalet girl in my year out ( - I promise I am not a pseudo Kate Middleton!) I had the world's crappest oven and made pavlova successfully every single week. I have a nice cooker now and I find the non fan assisted oven is better than the fan assisted. If all goes wrong you could make it in to eton mess. I also have another flour less chocolate recipe if you wanted? Sure you have tons though

[wonders if it's wrong that I'm laughing about Imps and Secrets oh's night time habits!]

cups what a nightmare, you are having a such a rough time you poor thing. Make sure you get the appointment to make sure everything's ok.

and shiny, really sorry to hear you've had a bad few months too. Hope that now you're back with us brookers, the next one sticks x

far great to hear from you. Glad you had a great holiday & brooking hard that your scan eases your mentalling.

imps can't believe they called you in to the office! and boo to af if I haven't already said so x

maybe glad to hear you're at home resting. Get well soon lovely.

I hoping I'm post ovulatin now too generic, so we can be cycle buddies. I'm on CD18 and have had highs on the CBFM since CD13 (I think), but no peak. I'm hoping it's just because it's the first month of using it, and that I have actually ovulated. Have managed a fair bit of swi, but not for a couple of nights now, so will definitely be in action tonight just in case!

Hi everyone,

I'm glad to see I didn't break the thread with my bottom story
I'm still feeling a bit tender but am loads better. My DH was fantastic, I think I would have put off seeing anyone if he hadn't insisted as I was really embarrassed. He held my hand the entire time. I was treated very well, I'm a bit ashamed to say I made sure they knew that I work for the same trust as I wanted to be seen by a senior doctor.

Little I had 10 days of highs before getting a peak on my first month with CBFM. It takes 2 months I think to get to know your cycle, I would imagine you have ovulated though as iirc you have relatively short cycles. So you can keep Generic company for the next two weeks

Sparkle at MrSparkle
I'm afraid your right that you won't be able to fit in that lovely dress now. A ironic BFP is winging it's way to you.

Imps 17 days to go

Bartlet am sorry your feeling so upset. I can't imagine what you've been going through. I know it's so frustrating when you feel like you are not even in with a chance. The first thing I thought when they said I might need an op was how long would it be before I could ttc again? I feel like it dictates my whole life.

I can't remember what everyone else said Hello to Beedle and Bean

Cupcakes, can't remember what your job (if you've ever revealed it here), but when I work (am a 'senior doctor'), I would make sure that colleagues were seen by someone senior to avoid being examined etc twice. Hope it all settles down though.

Secret, you have made me laugh with all this talk of wide open mouths! Hope you ovulate soon.

Hello to everyone else!

Morning ladies!
Have tried to catch up on the last couple of days. Sorry to hear about AF for Imps and Bartlet Really hope that's the last you see of her for a very long time!
Also sorry about the poorly brookers, get well soon Maybe and glad you're feeling better after your traumatic weekend Cups
Imps I love the OH's comment about handshake post jizzing in a pot made me a lot, great that he is on board with it all.
Sparkle a tight dress is a surefire guarantee of a BFP!
Pops I worked until 36 weeks with DS and was still doing 12.5 hour days As others have said though it entirely depends on the individual and the pregnancy. I was blooming at the end it was the constant throwing up at the start that was harder to deal with at work So I would give your employers a rough idea of your intentions but make them aware that it could change.
Can't remember anything else so waves to all the other brookers

In my news I went to London yesterday for my results - turns out I do have high NK cells. I have started the steroids today as I am 2/3 dpo so just got to keep everything crossed! I'm a bit nervous about the steroid treatment as there are lots of side effects. He said the most common are difficulty sleeping/early waking/vivid dreams Am hoping I don't suffer too much of that - time will tell! Am also worried as in animal studies the use of steroids has resulted in increased risk of cleft lip/palate in the off-spring. He hasn't had it happen with any of the ladies he's treated but obviously he has to tell me the risks. I have very mixed feelings about it all, I'm glad there is something wrong which can be treated but I am scared/nervous about the treatment! Never happy am I! Now all I've got to do is get pregnant and see if the treatment works!

Hi gals, I just wrote the longest message and mumsnet deleted it, gah!!!
Right, startnig again........

sparkle hello and I love the story about your DH sticking his fingers in his mouth, tee hee!!

generic and little I am awaiting your confirmation in a week or so! Little its totally normal for the CBFM not to pick up the peaks first cycle and actually I found the most useful thing about it was the highs, i.e. identifying the days before ovulation to get cracking!

cups you poor lambkin, are they doing some more tests?

beedle good luck with the rat smacketeering!! DH is now ruing the day he moaned about DTD as I am too scared to have sex with him now

imps I am sure you must have loads of personal admin, holiday research and internet shopping you need to get done in the next 17 days :)

bartlett still thinking of you lots and lots, it must be so very tough with your due date approaching and I am giving you a big squidgy hug. I hope you are pregnant again very soon, not that that can diminish the pain you feel for the loss of your DD but I am sure it will help give you hope for the future.

bean I am sorry to hear you have been having a tough time recently. Its great that your DH is making these lifestyle changes, are you having a repeat analysis done in a few months? I agree with the others that you can take a middle ground between giving it your all and just seeing what happens if you feel like it might help? Last month I was so fed up I stopped acupuncture and all the supplements I was taking and just took folic acid. I did give up as such but I was taking so much stuff I wondered if in the end it was doing more harm than good? Having said that perhaps they had built up nicely in my system!!

shiny I am really sorry about your chemicals, I know how grim it is to go from elation to despair in such a short period of time. I have read that up to 80% of cycles result in conception but that most never implant properly and we are just detecting them very early. Having said that, I did identify a problem which could have caused probs later on in pregnancy so I am trying to think of thoses chemicals as a blessing in disguise, perhaps saving me worse heartache like a late loss for example. I will never know if those chemicals might have ended up differently on treatment or if they were just bad luck. I hope you get pregnant again soon with a sticky bean.

any news from Stasi?

waves top whim, how are the plans for the move coming along?

pop how are you feeling? Any symptoms? I feel quite dizzy and boobs are sore but no nausea yet. Wibbling a bit about scan tomorrow, mostly because I will be 6 weeks exactly and therefore probably won;t see a heartbeat (Esp with my retroverted womb which apparently makes things harder to see!). I know I will wibble like mad until I do. DH is being amazing, so supportive, wonlt let me lift a finger at home and super positive but also putting up with all my mentalling without losing his patience :)

hi green, sorry to hear about the NK cells but at least you have a reason now? There seem to be loads of success stories on the board of the Pred ladies and its great that you have a supportive consultant on the NHS. I really hope this ends up being your solution.