TTC for 10+ months, part 5

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Filled up our old one, I'll put our updated list on a separate post so that it's not a huge chunk of text at the top of every page.

Old thread here. Newbies always welcome, much as we'd like to hope nobody ever gets to this stage of TTC!

Hi ladies! Blimey, I've missed a lot but have been enjoying catching up! On my phone so not able to do a proper catch up, but thought I'd pop in to say hi and happy Friday!

I totally understand The Sadness. I'm feeling ok at the moment, but know it can pop up at any time, particularly when confronted with pregnant ladies, cute babies & when the pmt beast is upon me! nelly I found 18 months v hard too, but feeling a bit better now.

Someone was talking about adoption? We would definitely do it (if they let us!), if it was our only way of having kids. I told a lovely friend of mine about our problems last night and she was saying how her friend with a step daughter feels exactly the same about her as he does his own daughter. Also I think about how much we love our furry baby, who is kind of adopted! Although ours hasn't come with a history of abuse and neglect...

Lol re the turkey baster! Have been thinking recently about how much easier it would be to buy some sperm on the Internet and have a go with a baster Did anyone see the thread about using basters to overcome performance issues?!

Good luck to those of you starting ivf. Hope it's all going well. Hope everyone has good Fridays

Sorry about the BFN whatmess though the only thing is that digitals aren't that sensitive. Sorry, that just adds to the head-fuck-ness doesn't it?

Hooray for Friday! And hooray for 37 being the average age at your hospital joycep . I started. Googling last night. Our NHS fertility clinic seems to have a good rep. May have found someone for acupuncture but it's a logistical nightmare getting there.

Wanted to ask advice. Haven't heard about referral yet (obviously as its only been 3 days!) but am now impatient. Is it worth any private tests in the meantime? Or should I wait until I get the letter telling me how long the NHS wait will be till first appointment? Also am I allowed to ask for a written copy of my bloods so far?

karbea I am glad your immunes came back ok and you can now start on the IVF!

Has your husband had SAs already? It does seem a bit daft to be drinking in the run up to IVF when you will have to go through so much and his swimmers need to be at their best!

joycep your mother sounds "unhelpful".

The average age thing is interesting. I saw the mention of 37 being average too and I find that difficult to believe, but it is encouraging if true!

kitty sorry you have been feeling negative. It's difficult being around cheerful pregnant people nursing their bumps!

mrsd I am glad you are "feeling better" now!

nelly I was about to say the same. Digitests are known for not being very sensitive. Sorry whatmess, we are not helping, are we?

I got a printout of my bloods and hubby's SA from the GP reception desk with no problem at all. It was a good job I did because the SA results hadn't found their way to the fertility clinic, so the gynae had to look at the copy I had luckily taken along to the appointment. I now go to all my appointments with a folder of test results and letters, so I have everything with me they could want to see!

Hi everyone. Havent posted in a few days and now there is loads to catch up on!!

Mrsden we are on cd5 today and have to take 50mg clomid for days 2-6. Ive had no side effects but ive been taking it at night to hopefully sleep through them if there are any. I have just to go get cd21 bloods done but i dont normally ov til late on in cycle so i'm hoping clomid will move ov forward. Ive started tracking my BBT in the hope that it will show a clear thermal shift for ov.

We are having a weekend away this weekend. A lovely 4*spa hotel and we both have treatments booked. Will be nice to escape our DD for a wee while!

Hello bumchums (cringe reference to our collective problems in that department - sorry)

Wine You really are on a rollercoaster at the moment- poor you. I really don't know what to say. Even if you went to your GP all they would do would be tell you to wait & see I'm guessing. Is it possible that your last AF was breakthrough bleeding? I wonder because you do read about women who say that they had several "periods" even though they were upduffed. Is it possible your fibroid is causing bleeding even though you are pregnant...musing out loud really. Alternatively maybe it was a false positive? I had a pink line many, many moons ago on a cheapo Savers stick but negatives on all the others. I second trying a Superdrug test. I suppose it could be possible that it is residual hormones from last cycle. Oh gosh I really don't know and am sending you hugs.

stasi it's nice that you are taking things more in your stride than some of us! I think that the sadness is probably cyclical and triggered by milestones and other peoples announcements.

mrsd Hooray for movement. euro any movement on the western front for you? I had really bad constipation as a kid (ended up in hospital with a tear in my bowel) and I had to take a cocktail of laxatives for months. I do however remember that bran sprinkled over cereal was really good for keeping things moving.

lemons it is an interesting question about whether the bitterness about TTC will ever go away. I always kind of assumed that if we got a BFP that all the angst would be forgotten and seem quite irrelevant.

nelly always happy to throw up more worry I was wondering about accupuncture recently too. I think that pixie inspired me

joycep I'm so sorry that you are upset and that AF has come for you. "Mind of matter" is a new one
I think that stat about the average age of mothers in your area just means that you live in a posh postcode and

karbea Good news about your test results.

kitty How dare those arsewipes diss your kitty and powerpoint presentation on said kitty
Sorry that you are feeling crappy too. I am having a jealous phase as well and have decided to deactivate Facebook as a result. Last login I found that my uni friend is about to give birth to her second bubs (they were "thinking about having another child "at some point next year" when we had already been trying about 12 months), my ex work colleague had put up her scan photo (her third child under three years), another ex colleague wittering on about cuddling up to her newborn and then newly preggo person generally being irritating by constantly posting about laying on the couch eating chocolate and chips - grrrrr.
BTW am loving the turkey baster idea. DP does all the "work" and I just lay on my back & give it a bit of a squirt. Fab. How can I sell this idea to DP?

Well my grape is still mahoosive and so it looks like I will definitely be a "blushing" bride but for all the wrong reasons. I actually reckon that God has granted me my own testicle for the purposes of self insemination Unfortunately I am ovulating but can't possibly contemplate SWI with my bobble bum. No chance now to SWI again until mid of next week but I reckon that'll be too late because obviously this month my body is deciding to ovulate early Silver lining is that at least DP and I can have a decent shag after we get married rather than a tail end, unenthusiastic shag at the end of the ovualtion shagathon IYSWIM

Well, not sure when I might be able to post again as I am off (weather permitting) up North to get hitched....yay!!!! Next we speak I will be Mrs Trout

pout Can't believe your wedding is here! So excited for you, maybe you'll have just a sprinkling of snow to make a white wedding? Not too much though! Have a wonderful time. Look forward to hearing all about it and congratulating the new Mrs Trout x

Sorry about the various bottom problems ? hope they all clear up or out soon!

mrsd And I would have to hold my tongue with your DH?s cousin, esp at the moment. I?m blaming it on the drugs but my tolerance levels are very low and my judgey-pants are hoiked up as high as they?ll go!

joycep I think, hope, that we?ll just enjoy and be grateful for everything that little bit more than people who conceive quickly when we all get our little bundles. Sorry about AF ? and your mum?s comments too.

wine I?ve been thinking about what you said re just having one child ? it really struck a chord. DH and I have said similar things ? we want to devote ourselves fully to the little one that we will have, eventually.

fatima Not long ?til you start now! Sounds like your work have been really good about it, which is great. I?ve been downregging for a week now, have my scan next Fri to check they?ve done the trick and will hopefully start stimming that day.

nelly Have I read that you've found an acupuncturist now? If not, I did a search on Zita West?s website for ones that specialised in fertility and found one fairly close to me.

karbea I'm really pleased that all your test results were ok and you can start down the IVF road! Sorry about dh drinking though.

whatmess sorry about the strange HPT results, any news today?

euro I hope the effects of the steroids ease up and you start sleeping better

Sorry I've missed loads in just a couple of days - hello and big waves to everyone else.

The sadness you?ve all described is so so accurate ? there?s not much I can add really. There is a bit gaping hole in what I thought life would be like by now and nothing but a baby, mine and DH?s baby, is going to make that go away.

It makes me angry that IVF gets lumped in as a lifestyle choice and echo what people have said regarding the NHS funding other things with no qualms (tattoo removal being one!) but for some reason everyone seem to have an opinion on assisted conception.

I seem to have had a ridiculous string of pregnancy announcements from friends of friends rather than close family/friends this week, topped by a friend?s teenage cousin uploading 12 week scan pics on Face Brag book. FFS - no more FB for me until well after IVF now.

Thanks for all your kind words re the work thing. Wish I hadn?t been so naïve and open with them in the first place now, lesson learned for the future.

Aside from all that, and the down-reg induced hot-flushes, I?m feeling strangely upbeat about the coming weeks and am so very ready for the weekend.

Hope you all have lovely weekends

Pout Hope you have a lovely wedding. Its yours and Mr Trouts big day, relax and enjoy :)

Hope everyone is feeling ok today esp. those that have started IVF drugs.

I think unless I was seeing things this morning after 16 months I finally got my BFP. Going to double check with a CBD tomorrow :o

Cakes!!!!

Did you really just slip that in. Holy shit, we're on FIRE .

wooooo hooooo cakes . I can't believe we've got another one so soon, this must be a good sign for us all. So come on, spill all. What symptoms have you got? What made you test?

So we have pixie and cakes and maybe whatmess. Ok my new plan is to keep chatting to speed this thread up, as surely that's way above the thread average.

Yay!!! I created a fertile thread. Hope it works on me too

Oh my goodness cakes!! That's amazing! Brilliant, brilliant news

Echo mrsd's call for more details...

Apart from the missing af and the peculiar spotting about 10 days ago. So far no other symptoms. I tested on sun BFN then I was looking on internet and worked out based on suspected ov that I may have tested too early so set today as 'D-Day' This was my first ov after my HSG.

My dh is in shock I think and won't believe my messed up body until I do a second test.

Right, I'm off for an HSG as soon as I can. I have phoned my GP surgery to try to get my test results sent. They responded as if I'd asked them to show me tests for all their patients and publish them int'internet . Anyway I think they might do it now.

Oh my goodness,cakes! I cannot believe we now have 2 BFPs around the 15/16 month stage on here! I had all but given up hope that it would happen naturally at this point!

Congratulations Cakes great news!

Didn't know the digitals were less sensitive. I think I will just leave it for a week and then test again, but I'm more or less convinced it was a BFN.

cakes woo hoo! Congratulations!

Congratulations Cakes That's fantastic!

I'm hopeful for you too Whatmess - fingers crossed.

Still not quite sure the news has sunk in with me, I veer from excitement to anxiety to (on the very odd occasion) even completely forgetting about it!

Have a fabulous wedding Pout. How exciting!

Happy weekends all.

Away for the weekend but love to cakes yay!!!! nelly well done for a lucky thread and happy wedding pout! Proper catch up on Sunday. Happy weekend people

Congrats cakes! That's ace news Go frame that pee stick!

And pout have a wonderful wedding! Hope everything goes really well and you have a great time.

Hope everyone else is having good Fridays. Wohoo, it's le weekend!

I've been itching to get on tonight (PiL are here) as heard some lovely news a few hours ago - my sister is pregnant . To put it in perspective, as I know we generally hate these announcements:

She tried for 3 or 4 years to get pregnant, including clomid, IUI etc. Eventually went for IVF, got pregnant but MC at about 7 weeks. Tried IVF again, had my nephew (yay!). He is 21 months. They tried IVF again last year but it failed (no BFP this time). So they had completely reconciled to only having the one. And now, she's had a totally surprise BFP, naturally. And she turned 40 last year! She is now nearly 12 weeks, had a scan (NT, would she have said? She is in the US so might be a bit different) but all looks fine and no further tests needed other than normal monitoring.

I am so so happy for her! And the weird thing is, she is due around the same time as my SiL, which actually makes it so much better. I know I was depressed about SiL being due around my birthday, as that's always a horrible milestone. But having my Sister's baby also due will just change the dynamic so much.

So even though it's not one of "us", I hope you will all be excited about a long term TTC-er from afar :) And the loveliest thing is what my OH said. He said, well that's great news, and surely it reassures you to know that there's not something genetic? I think we'd touched on that on here before, and it was worrying me a bit that she hadn't managed to conceive without help; that there might be a family link. But now she has .

Hope everyone has had a nice Friday, and I hope the peesticks say the right thing tomorrow!

That is brilliant news for your sister nelly Well done your OH too for lovely thinking.

CBD agreed with BFP,DH slighlty less shocked now and more happy :)

fx whatmess

Hope everyone has a good weekend!!

Oh nelly that is just wonderful news, you must be so pleased for her, how lovely. Sometimes babies just seem to come along when they're ready don't they?

pout I hope you have a wonderful day on your wedding and looking forward to welcoming back Mrs Pout.

cakes excellent news, and glad to hear it has sunk in for mr cakes.

pout I hope you are having a wonderful day.

nelly it is always encouraging to hear of success from a long term ttcer! How wonderful for your sister.

cakes it must be great to see it in words on a digi test!

Wishing you a fabulous wedding day pout, can't wait to hear all about it.

What lovely news nelly, massive congratulations to your sister. It does go to show that nature can be kind sometimes.

And massive congrats to you to cake, do keep us updated. How did it feel to see it on the digital test?

Any news today whatmess?

I'm out for another month, temp drop this morning so waiting for AF now. Not surprised but still feel fed up with it all. Think today might be one of those days when everything makes me cry, darn PMT.

Oh no mrsden sorry you think AF is on it's way. There's never a good way for it to arrive, is there. I hope you haven't felt too tearful.

Pout hope you have had a nice day. Sorry the weather is a bit awful though :(