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The all new rat smacketers thread, this way for a 2012 BFP we are BROOKING NO ARGUMENT

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farfallarocks · 18/01/2012 16:30

Just wrote a blardy long message before getting the 'thread full' message so here we go.................

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PopcornMouse · 07/02/2012 16:18

Ohohoh we have POASers tomorrow, don't we? Was it imps and cupcakes?

Imps7 · 07/02/2012 16:26

Oh Far your poor poor DH. Men are just too prone to bottle things up aren't they? You so want to help them but they won't let you in.

It sounds like his job may be the root cause of all this - it does not sound good for him at all. Has he tried career counselling? There's a company in London that I had an initial consultation with a few years ago who may be able to help - here. It seems to me that crap time at work = crap time at home (or that's my experience with OH in his last job and me (to a lesser extent) with my current one) so if your DH can find a professional direction that he's happier with, then the rest should follow (the problems that OH and I had with TTC seemed to miraculously resolve themselves once he was in his notice period for his stressy last job and have not come back - it can't be a coincidence).

farfallarocks · 07/02/2012 16:29

Ooohhh marking my place with the POAS crowd!!
maybe that sounds very very promising, totally updiffed!

I have suggested that, he is not keen. I don't really know what to suggest anymore and I think part of the problem is me trying to 'fix' him. I think he is feeling pretty emasculated at the moment for various reasons although I really don't care about money/success and all that stuff so its not coming from me. I just want him to be happy. He says he thinks he is mediocre and why don't I go off with some high flyer and yada yada yada. All very upsetting and distressing. I think he is depressed and perhaps has been for a while but he has to want to get help, I can't force him can I? Anyway, maybe a post in Relationships is in order!

cakes another HSG BFP, there really is something in it isn't there.........

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farfallarocks · 07/02/2012 16:32

imps that is very very interesting indeed and I think you are right. I wish he would leave and I would support him fully to do so. I think part of the problem is he worked so hard to get there and then he got there and realised he hates it and is probably not that good at it. Its a job where no one cares about anything other than if you make money (he is a trader) and its not very 'him' to be honest. I will suggest that, thank you!

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farfallarocks · 07/02/2012 16:33

p.s. any news from SIL?

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 07/02/2012 17:04

Imps that sounds like a brilliant service

Far I know how your DH feels a bit with the work thing. For years I have worked to be an academic research, and now I realise how much I dislike it. I think when we start out with early career aspirations, we don't always see the full picture. But I am more than sure that the two of you will find a better career path for DH. It is amazing how a bad work like can affect your home life.

Your DH wouldn't like to buy into a baking business would he? [Grin]

CupcakesAndCocktails · 07/02/2012 17:12

Hello Far lovely to see you. Sorry to hear your DH is a bit down at the moment. I think you are doing all the right things (unfortunately sometimes nothing we do really helps in these situations). My DH has been very depressed over work in the past and things have then been difficult at home. All you can do is keep reassuring him how important he is to you and supporting him to make any changes. Fingers crossed he will start feeling better soon.

I'm going to confess I don't like steak and hope you don't kick me out of the smacketeers!

It's not me confirming tomorrow, I'm still impatiently waiting for ovulation.

I have had a lovely 3 hour lunch with people from work and had cuddles with 2 lovely babies. I want my baby and mat leave now!!!!

Stasi · 07/02/2012 17:28

I've been reading this thread on the bus this morning, and to and from my counselling appointment. So though I've read it all, I've forgotten lots, or everything has already been commented on. So I'm afraid I'm just going to write the things I remember having something to say about..

Far it's only recently I've realised how much disliking my job is affecting every other aspect of my life. I thought I was just bored in work, but looking at things in more depth with a counsellor I've realised this dissatisfaction with work is stopping me from enjoying time at home. I keep feeling like everything I do at home is a waste of time I should have spent doing something more productive or useful or something. For me this is all just down to literally wasting 10 hours a day in work, so feeling like I have to make 'use' of my time at home. This has nothing to do with your DH of course, but is just proof that work stress and dissatisfaction can affect every other part of your life too.

Imps lots of brooking for your SIL, do let us know when you hear anything.

Maybe there's a little independent cupcake shop by us, and though their cakes are nice, it's all just presentation. They're basically plain sponge with different flavoured icing and names and sold for £3.50 each. I'm sure your cakes would be better!

Cupcakes I don't like steak either, though I will eat it if it's thoroughly cooked. DH loves his bleeding, but I can't even watch him eat it like that! I'm glad you met up with lovely babies. I've got an invitation to go meet up with a MN poster and her baby, must make a plan to do that soon, before the baby grows out of the newborn stage. I am however proof that if you hide nothing on your profile/posts, someone you know may find you on here!

I technically should be confirming tomorrow, but had a bit of a temp dip this morning, and cramps today (though no AF yet), so not feeling too hopeful. Still, with my HSG booked for next week, it's not all bad news.

NoMaybeAboutIt · 07/02/2012 18:02

Cupcakes we will let you off the steak, but you like cake right?! Grin Glad you had a lovely lunch did you have anything yummy to eat? Being around babies means a BFP for you this month!

Stasi seeing a counsellor sounds like it is helping. That is exactly how I feel. And DH has noticed that lately i also feel like nothing I do is right, and I am constantly apologising for everything. Funny isn't it.

£3.50 a cupcake Shock I wouldn't charge that much. For me, it is more about flavour than OTT decorating. I love experimenting with flavours!

I am really hoping AF is not on her way. When isn't she due?

beangrower · 07/02/2012 18:08

HSG club is growing. Can't wait for your upcoming BFP Stasi. Do you think it's easier for the swimmers with nice clean tubes, even if swimmers are a bit dawdly?

Saw a friend in the supermarket, who had a DS around same time as me. Expecting another DS in May. She was so sweetly not talking about her pg (she knows I've been TTC) but I asked + questions and wish her the best. She says she knackered but it must be so lovely waiting for the extra bean in her life, although I can see that it must be v diff to expecting first.

Cupcakes - lunch sounds so nice. And how are the spots Wink? (I bet only you can see them - sign of lots of good hormones anyway!)

TTFN.

ps DS has beautifully lined up all his cars on the sofa in the kitchen. He's getting very organised/meticulous in his old age (2 weeks until he is 2yo)...

SweetieDoesIt · 07/02/2012 19:18

Evening All, Have ad a quick skim through the posts from today.

Poor Far I am so sorry things haven't improved for you and Mr Far. I would also suggest getting some professional help, even a trip to see your GP together to see if that can improve thing.

Well done bean for the positive asttitude when seeing you updiffed friend. Very difficult when you come across people are where you want to be, especially if unexpected.

Cupcakes your lunch sounds very nice.

Maybe am loving the lemon cupcakes too. We had cupcakes for our wedding instead of a layered cake. We had a small fruit cake on the top to cut and then cupcakes on the lower levels. Although they were nice, they didn't look half as nice as yours. I will post a photo.

So that is Imps and Stasi confirming tomorrow, then Beedle at the weekend. I will slip another test in somewhere between in AF hasn't shown up and there is no sign today. My temps actually rose this morning Confused and boobs still sore but they might be more to do with me prodding them to see if still sore Blush

beangrower · 07/02/2012 19:37

Sweetie sounds v v promising. Fx for you.

Far - poor you and Mr Far. You must be worried. I hope something improves for him. For you both. Men aren't keen on professional help... Time to learn a new trick together? Jiving? Sounds annoying, but maybe something totally diff' from everything else in your lives?

xxx

GreenOlives · 07/02/2012 21:02

Evening all!

Mmmm I lurve steak! And I always have it rare and I really want to have some right now! (despite the fact that I have already had sausages & mash for my dinner) [greedypig emoticon]

Have read through todays news but no time to post as I need to cuddle up on the sofa with DH prior to a bit of SWI! Grin

TTFN

Imps7 · 07/02/2012 21:50

Sweetie my temp is really weird today as well - it went up and my boobs are a little sore still - both unheard of the day before AF starts! She's definitely on her way though - the spotting has ramped up a notch - really weird that my temp hasn't dropped at all though. Will see what happens tomorrow I guess - my money's on a massive temp drop and normal boobs!

No word from SIL - I guess we won't hear either way for a while - if it hasn't worked I wouldn't expect her to want to call people to tell them, and if it has worked I imagine she'll want to leave it a little while just to be sure. Ohhh I hope it's worked.

Olives I hope that work was okay today - cuddles with DH and SWI sounds like an excellent plan for the evening!

Right, am sleepy, will be off to bed shortly I think.

Imps7 · 07/02/2012 21:52

Oh - OH just got off phone to SIL - not good news. Sad Sad Sad

NoMaybeAboutIt · 07/02/2012 22:44

Oh Imps I am so sorry to hear that. Your poor SIL. Will they try for another round?

I am hoping that AF is staying away for you.

Olives look at you and your schmoozing Grin Mmmm, sausages and mash. I mad a really yummy spag bol with loads of veg in and then instead of pasta I had it on a pile of spinach. Strange I know, I just fancied it Grin

Sweetie I am keeping everything crossed for you too. My temps rose today as well!!! Your cupcakes sound lovely Sweetie, we ha a 3 teir cake for ours, 2 fruit and one sponge. Nom

BeedleTheBard · 08/02/2012 05:28

imps so sorry to hear about your SIL, that must be so hard.

far hope your DH can find some solutions he's happier with

Can't remember what anyone else has written and its still a bit early, so I'll line up the ramekins and pee-sticks so that they're ready for stasi and imps as soon as they wake up, and put another two aside for me and sweetie for tomorrow whenever we feel like testing. I didn't temp this morning but my boobs are reducing in soreness - but I'm not going to read anything into that at all Grin

SweetieDoesIt · 08/02/2012 07:38

Aw Imps so sorry about SIL, that is really tough on them.Sad Hope they take some time and get support in RL. Fx your spotting may be implantation, especially with your other symptoms. Cakes had spotting before her BFP recently. BROOKING for you my dear.

Maybe what day are you on? All sounding good for you too craving for spinach = defo preggers, what has temp done this morning?

Stasi any news? have to go to work shortly, the suspense is killing me already!!!

Thanks Beedle for doing the prep for all the BFP that are waiting to be confirmed this week. Grin

My temp has dropped slightly this morning (general downward trend now) and boob soreness has also reduced but no telltale spotting yet. Am out for pizza with friends tonight so maybe AF won't be able to find me works like Santa, yes? Hmm

SweetieDoesIt · 08/02/2012 07:41

my chart here if anyone wants to have a look!!

Imps7 · 08/02/2012 08:13

Morning all!

Sweetie our AFs are clearly in cahoots - I had a temp drop this morning, but nowhere near as low as usual. It's deffo CD1 for me though - a fair bit of blood already and boob soreness has reduced. I am ready for the rat this cycle though and there's no stopping me. Brooking no argument for your BFP though and for Stasi of course - any news Stasi??

Not sure whether SIL will try another round yet - I suppose it's a bit too soon for them to decide. Luckily for them, BIL is loaded so funds aren't an issue, it's really just emotional. I know I shouldn't be selfish and think of me all the time but part of me thinks "fuck, if that happened to OH and I there is no way on earth we could afford to try as many times that they have - there'd be no hope of us having a baby." However, I'm brooking no argument that that's not going to happen, so it won't.

Anyone got any nice plans today or is it all work work work?

beangrower · 08/02/2012 08:14

Imps - that is so crap for you and your SIL and all the family. TTC is bad enough but so much harder with invasive treatment, cost and so on. I hope they get through things ok. You must be v disappointed too.

Nice charting Sweetie.

Everyone else - I feel like there's a pile of BFPs in the wings. Can't wait. We need some + news.

Olives - hope you got that SWI in. We watched the last of Borgen. Gutted re' Nyborg's sexy husband turning out to be so selfish.

Nothing much to report from Bean Towers for once. I think I'll be having a v short cycle this month for some reason.

NoMaybeAboutIt · 08/02/2012 08:15

Morning all!!

Sweetie I don't know what our charts are doing but hereis mine for comparison!! Temp down a wee bit today, but then it was -11 last night Shock FF is saying I'm 11 dpo, though I could be 10 dpo. I have also woken up with a sore throat

beangrower · 08/02/2012 08:16

X-post - Imps boo to AF but hurray to day 1 of your pregnancy. Onwards and SWI-upwards.

NoMaybeAboutIt · 08/02/2012 08:21

A million cross posts from me!

So sorry about CD1 Imps but sounds like you're going to smack that rat up good and proper this cycle!

It must be so tough for your in laws, I can only imagine all the ups and downs. I hope she feels stronger soon so that they can carry on

What makes you think it will be a short cycle Bean?

Stasi · 08/02/2012 08:52

Quick phone post this morning to say BFN. I was expecting that though, as I'm almost certain FF had my ov day wrong. I've discarded the temp now and it's changed my test date. Got a big temp rise this morning though so there's still a chance.
My cat is demanding a fuss NOW and has made me drop my phone twice, so got to go..