Hello all
Lizzie I agree with ellan that the eSET policy is mainly applicable to day 5 blast transfers at most clinics. As yours was a day 2 transfer, I'd try not to worry (much easier said than done though)! Fingers crossed you get a bfp. If the worst happens, and you don't, it's great that you get 2 NHS cycles.
Ellan 11 eggs is really good. It's higher than the average they get at the clinic I'm with. And it is quality, not quantity that counts. 7 fertilisations is really good too. That's over 60%, which is great for ICSI.
Jumping There is a really good chance yours will successfully thaw. I was really unlucky, but like you say, the variability in thaw rates does make you think. At least we're all asking the question of our clinics now.
ZB completely with you there about the trauma of buying new baby cards. It's so tough isn't it.
Well DH and I got reviewed by doctor at our clinic today after failed thaw on Monday. He was absolutely lovely and said he would feed it back to the embryologists that we hadn't been told the significant risk of a failed thaw. He said that although we consented to eSET before the cycle, the clinic should have reviewed the decision with us prior to ET. He did say that we'd still have been advised to go for an eSET. However, he was also quite critical of the HFEA and said there is a target on all clinics to reach a 10% multiple birth rate this year, and he implied that clinics get fined if they don't meet it. 
He also said that the PCT wouldn't necessarily fund DET, so it was unlikely we'd get very far if we did complain as we were on a funded cycle.
We discussed the risks involved with a multiple pregnancy and twins. I pointed out that the absolute risks are still quite low and that only talking about relative risks can be misleading. DH told him that he found the language that had been used very emotive and not appropriate for allowing informed decision making. For example, before our first cycle of IVF we were told, "the perinatal mortality rate in twins is double that of singletons". DH said that perinatal mortality is actually quite low, and then pointed out that double is still pretty small! Doctor agreed and said a lot of the statistics and language used are misleading because basically the cost of caring for those twins who do have problems has been linked to the increased rate in twins due to IVF. He also said that lots of twins are perfectly healthy.
Once we demonstrated that we understood and accepted the implications of having twins, he said he fully supported our decision to have a DET! So plan is now in place for next round; DET if 3 or fewer top quality blasts and eSET plus frosties if 4 or more.
And then we got incredibly lucky and got a cancellation slot for a fresh IVF cycle. We start on what would have been test day! So - never thought I'd hear myself say this - roll on AF, which is due a week today!
Gosh - sorry for mega post but feeling much, much better about things now.