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IVF/ICSI/FET - any more for any more?

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jumpingjackhash · 05/01/2012 10:05

Hi all, we're about to start FET following an unsuccessful round of ICSI last year (well, we got the bfp, but then I miscarried shortly after Sad). But... time to get back on the bike and go again...

Anyone else going through this?

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jumpingjackhash · 02/04/2012 12:02

Duggs you still have 4 little embies cracking on with things and off to be tested. Try not to think that they'll come back abnormal - you need to be positive and try to be relaxed for tomorrow

Disclaimer: I know it's easy to say all that about being positive. But if you don't, you'll go mad.

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jumpingjackhash · 02/04/2012 12:04

Whoop zeebee, roll on next Tuesday! I think they gave up waiting for my womb (my tx was a week after the scan measuring 6.7mm) but it looked all thick and juicy when we went for tx, so hoping it's done the bizzo and frosty is still there, just a wee bit bigger now.

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duggs1976 · 02/04/2012 14:12

Thanks jumping! I know POSITIVE thoughts x

zeebee1 · 02/04/2012 15:37

jumping I have everything crossed for your test tomorrow - the 2WW is the WORST bit isn't it - it's like torture (not in a 'Homeland' kind of a way tho!) I think the good weather is really helping me stay positive...
josie so glad the IUI went well last week.. fingers crossed for you too
Just spoke to my friend who had IVF twins last year and she was saying that the 2 embryos they put back in her were of a low quality - and she still got PG AND has now got 2 beautiful LOs... postive thoughts for allll of us there!
ZB

Karbea · 02/04/2012 15:39

Zeebee I will still do the blood test at the clinic. But i'll know the result. I'm actually happier I found out this way.

jumpingjackhash · 02/04/2012 18:17

It's the pits zeebee, I almost feel like I just need to get through it, rather than look forward to it - it's reminding me of getting exam results when I was at school, that always felt worse than doing the exams in the first place.

Half of me is hoping against hope that it's positive, mentally visualising being pg and having a baby, the other half is already setting me up for it to be neg and looking on to when I could start the icsi all over again. Not that that makes it any easier though.

Karbea hope the blood test is OK.

zeebee - how many rounds did your friend do to get her DTs?

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CareBear1 · 02/04/2012 19:06

Hi all

Karbea I'm going to send you massive hugs and huge commiserations, and tell you I know how you feel, because the last person I did that too right after I'd failed turned out to be positive so hoping the same happens again for you. Don't forget the level needs to be at least 25 before you get a poas.

Jumping, huge amounts of good luck, and nerves of steel, for tomorrow. Really hope it goes your way and the twinges are a good sign. I think anything other than full on AF can only be a good sign.

Duggs 4 is still plenty and gives you choice etc, must have been a bit of a shock to drop from so many, but if you would normally only produce 1 spot on ready egg, then i think logically even 4 that were perfectly ready is still a lot. Fingers crossed the testing comes back ok.

Zeebee, Raspberry, Josie, thinking of you all. Wow such a lot of you in the dreaded 2WW, and not many mentalling posts too far, I am very impressed.

Am sure i've missed people out so sorry if I have, have had full on day at work and my mind is all over the place, so waves and hugs everyone else.

AFM am not doing too badly, mostly on account of having 'a plan' for the next little while, which is that I've got an appointment with 'Mr S' - Zeebee this is Mr Shehata at the Miscarriage Clinic who can organise and advise on the controversial so called 'immune tests' to see if your bodies blood clotting or immune system response is somehow overreacting to the presence of an embryo. If the tests come back positive then i think he usually advises a few months of drugs with usual SWI, then if that doesn't work IVF with drugs alongside. We're very lucky to have 2 rounds of IVF left on the NHS (1 fresh, 1 frozen) and would probably pay for maybe 1 or 2 more if we had reason to believe they might work, so all this treatment is going to take up at least the rest of the year I think, so am just going to plod through that and not even think about what might be after that until it is all over. Oh and i ordered a load of ridiculously expensive chinese herbs, just to throw the book at this thing so to speak! AFM on the subject of adoption, my plan is to go through all the treatment first, get to the end and if it still didn't work then take some time out to grieve and get used to not having a biological child first. Then think about how i would feel about adopting. I think it could be great, but i would need to be in the right place to be ready for it if that makes sense.

Anyway. Happy mondays! x

jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 06:32

It didn't work. Beyond gutted, lying in bed now feeling crap. Will call the clinic this morning to let them know and see when we can start over with more icsi.

I think I was clinging to the fact we got a bfp last time so kind of expected it today too. Shit.

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CareBear1 · 03/04/2012 07:06

Aw Jumping sending you a massive hug. Are you sure?

You will get there in the end, don't give up. X

jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 07:46

Certain. Did the clinic's test and a First Response, to be sure. I was so scared about testing I guess deep down some part of me knew it wouldn't be good news, DH had to look at the tests after I poas because I couldn't [wimp]. At least on the 2ww and before then you have hope, right now I feel as though we have nothing - after all we've been through we're right back where we started. Sad [frustrated]

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zeebee1 · 03/04/2012 08:26

Jumping - I am so SadSadSad for you... I can't believe it didn't happen for you this time - how shit. Life is so unfair. Thinking of you and your DH. Can u take the day off to just be at home? Zx

jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 09:47

Thanks zeebee but I really can't take today off (big meeting this afternoon), plus tbh it's helping me having something else to think about.

I'm sure that by the end of the day (well, maybe in a few days) I'll be all 'yeah well, it just wasn't meant to be... onwards and upwards... when can we try again?' and all that. For now though I just want to wallow in self pity and avoid people who are gushing over their babies

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JosieSmith1 · 03/04/2012 10:16

So sorry to Karbea and Jumping Please both look after yourselves ((hugs))

Duggs 4 is still a really good number, best of luck

Zeebee fab news that your lining is finally thick enough, best of luck to you too.

Care I completely agree with your philosophy on adoption. I too think I would consider it, but only after I?ve exhausted all other options.

AFM, not a lot going on here. Using the progesterone pessaries (lush) and I keep asking ?Fred and Ginger? what they?re up to, but they won?t tell me Grin It?s not very nice not knowing if they?ve fertilised, or if they?re on their way to implanting, but I figure implantation should take place sometime between Thu and Mon, so I?ve still got ages to wait, I?m sick of this 2ww already! I can usually survive the first week, but come next week I?m going to be manic! I keep talking to them though, and saying morning and goodnight, just in case. I know I?m getting a bit too attached, but I think it?s comforting for the moment, even if it?s only temporary

jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 11:29

Thanks Josie, fingers crossed Fred & Ginger are settling in nicely and will burrow away. Talking to them is nice - give them all the encouragement you can!

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AngelFairy · 03/04/2012 12:22

Morning all,

I don't think I should be reading the thread today... I'm so sorry for you Jumping and Karbea, it really sucks that you haven't had the response you so deserve. It shouldn't be this hard.
However, I am not going to give my thoughts any energy by writing them down on here.
But I can liken them to, you know when you're waiting to have a go on a roller coaster and you see all the people before you take their turn. You're stood their watching them, hoping that they'll curb your anxiety by demonstrating how great it is, and although you know not everyone will love the ride, you still breathe deep in hope that it'll be ok for you Blush

((waves)) at everyone!

Finger's crossed for your 4 emby's tests Duggs x

Zeebee your lining heard our vibes demands! Here's to a happy transfer next week! Exciting....

I think it's cute that you're talking to your embryos Josie, I am keeping everything crossed for your 2ww!

AFM, I am on day 6 of stimming and I'm starting to feel some twinges in my lower abdomen... So, ((whispers)) I think it's working x

JosieSmith1 · 03/04/2012 13:08

That's good news Angel I was on stims for a week before I started responding and I didn't feel anything, but once I started responding I could definitely feel it, I hope you're responding well.

zeebee1 · 03/04/2012 13:21

Aww jumping I really hope today goes OK - just take some time out for you and your DH over Easter - good that you are already thinking of the next step - it's the only way to keep sane and - argh - that word: POSITIVE! Will you stick with Guys do you think, or go elsewhere? sending you HUGS and brave vibes and a few of these too Wine
x

zeebee1 · 03/04/2012 13:39

Josie I like that you are talking to your embies - how sweet - good to embrace I think - very healthy and positive approach...
care thanks for the info on Mr S - sounds like a good plan to visit him and then plan your next treatment following his analysis. Can I ask - was this your first IVF round?
Angel yes it sounds like your twinges are a good sign - i remember feeling that on my first time around
karbea how are you doing today?
duggs any news from the clinic yet - fingers crossed for those chromosomes Wink
Hi to everyone else...
xx

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bugsylugs · 03/04/2012 19:16

jumping life is so cruel am so sorry for your bfn. Hugs. Hope the meeting distracted you and that you and dh can have some you time.

jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 19:25

OK, so I've been thinking (a lot) today, there has been far too many blue faces on here lately, too many of us are having crappy things happen to us which are beyond our control. Life is certainly not playing fair and I for one am NOT HAVING IT! I AM going to get pg, and I WILL stick 2 fingers up at whoever decided DH and I wouldn't get the correct, working-parts to make that happen on our own!

So I've decided I'm not going to wallow any more, I'm going to pick myself up, find that silver lining and look forward to seeing the consultant (4th May!) about giving it another bloody good go.

I'm not going down without a fight. Who's with me?!

Disclaimer: I'm not drunk, but have just spent an hour in a hot bubble bath so think the steam may have gone to my head! Blush

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AngelFairy · 03/04/2012 19:50

Grin I'm loving that attitude Jumping and I'm with you all the blooming way!

DH and I did not ask for this either and we'd make bloody good parents! Far better than those on Jeremy Kyle, for goodness sake! So I too am not going down without a fight Wink
I shall keep knocking down these hurdles until the universe hears and recognises that DH and I deserve our little angel x

CareBear1 · 03/04/2012 20:26

HELL YEAH JUMPING!!!!!

Ooh that's made me feel all private Benjamin! X

jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 20:29
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jumpingjackhash · 03/04/2012 20:30

Blush in my excitement I've managed to 'hide' this thread from my watch list. Anyone know how to unhide?! Oops!

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